Wow.

guywithaccount · 2014-04-26T23:29:20+00:00

It was easier to lie there and fake orgasms than have the fight that would ensue if I said ‘no’. He was a ‘nice guy’, and probably has no idea that what he did was rape.

TIL: rape is such a minor offense that it's preferable to suffer that than have an argument with your boy/girlfriend.

BlindPelican · 2014-04-26T22:53:42+00:00

What's sad is that rather than acknowledging and moving on, she's internalized being a victim to the point she believes all people who share the gender of those that have hurt her owe her something.

This is the stuff of which bigots and emotionally unhealthy people are made.

When I think of my own path through life...

It was my mother, not all women, who abused and neglected me.

It was an older girl in the neighborhood, not all women, who bullied me, broke my glasses, regularly beat me up, and made me masturbate in front of her as a child.

It was my ex-fiance, not all women, who physically assaulted me and left me with a deep scar on my face.

It was an ex girlfriend, not all women, who abandoned my child at the babysitter and disappeared for 15 years.

It was another ex girlfriend, not all women, who emotionally and physically abused me and stole over $17,000 from me.

It was my ex-wife, not all women, who cheated on me repeatedly during our marriage, sucked me for every dime I made for 12 years, and then tried to extract $3,000 a month in spousal support.

If was the female social worker/volunteer on the DV hotline, not all women, who turned me away from a shelter when I needed to escape and tried to paint me as the perpetrator.

I've got plenty of reason to distrust women, but giving in to that just hurts me in the long run. I would have missed so many great things that the other women in my life have brought me. I wouldn't have the wonderful intimacy I share now with the woman I love if I had succumbed to the victim mentality.

Seeing stuff like this, and seeing it so often, just makes me shake my head ruefully. When I read stories like this, I just want to shake some sense into those people...can't you see what you're doing to yourself??

They obviously don't.

I just wish they would do us all a favor, and keep their shit in their own yard.

Edit: phrasing, words

AndrewLevin · 2014-04-27T02:12:08+00:00

My comment:

Do you have the courage to leave this up?

http://i.imgur.com/i3Lnb.png

Given that women are EXACTLY as likely to perpetrate this crime against men, as men are to perpetrate this crime against women, maybe YOU should apologize to ME, even if you are not personally "like that."

Yes, this DID happen to me, when I was 13 years old, and the perpetrator was a feminist just like you. So, when you remove this post, you can look at yourself in the mirror from now on and know that you silenced a victim because the victim's story threatened your power and control of the victim narrative (like the story of 1.3 million other male victims of female violence).

covmatty1 · 2014-04-27T09:26:13+00:00

Holy fuck, her response to the first comment is even worse.

Someone makes legitimate comments on all of her points, and her response is to say "you think you're one of those guys who isn't like that, but you clearly are".

So everyone who disagrees with any of her views is also a rapist? Yup, logic.

xNOM · 2014-04-27T00:57:20+00:00

Very sad, but what bothers me the most is: who wears pants under a dress?

oiuae · 2014-04-27T08:05:45+00:00

It was easier to lie there and fake orgasms than have the fight that would ensue if I said ‘no’. He was a ‘nice guy’, and probably has no idea that what he did was rape.

Don't feel like sex
Say yes to sex
Pretend to enjoy said sex
"Rape"

HolySchmoly · 2014-04-26T22:27:54+00:00

I'm not going to apologise for anything anybody ever did to that bitch. I haven't touched her. I don't even know her. I have, however, had my mind fucked by bitches like her my life long, despite never having done anything like any of those things to anyone ever. And I'm just about sick of it.

yourotherusername · 2014-04-27T00:59:07+00:00

But society doesn’t teach not to rape, not to grope, not to follow women, to understand ‘no’ as a complete sentence even if you’re in a relationship.

Uh, what country is she living in? I was taught all of that.

TheLiberatedMan · 2014-04-27T17:00:26+00:00

"21 year old BA grad and Women’s Studies MA student. Massive pro-choice feminist with a love for tea, kittens and doodling. Have a vague idea what I’m doing with my life."

Move along.

ralphswanson · 2014-04-27T01:19:09+00:00

So, a self-righteous bigot who views her selfish demands as a fight for female equality, in other words a feminist. All relationship problems are evidence of patriarchal oppression? Giving your lover sex when your not in the mood is rape? Grow up.

Psuedofem · 2014-04-27T18:19:49+00:00

Replace all instances of "men" with "Blacks" in the blog and in these comments.

It's funny how the feminists sound like racist cunts, huh?

ILoveHate · 2014-04-27T00:55:56+00:00

Someone needs to tell her all guys are like that and to fuck off. We're all better off if she just stays away from all men.

Oh and it wasn't rape if you agreed to being fucked just to get it over with. Would it be fair for me to give $1 to a bum and then proceed to find the first LEO and tell him that I was robbed by a bum?

And society doesn't teach not to rape or grope? Really? Sure it doesn't teach her not to do these things, but try being a guy while growing up. Maybe we really need to start pushing all of these "educational" lessons onto girls as well so that when they grow up they won't complain about how society doesn't teach boys not to do x.

Needlecrash · 2014-04-28T05:58:52+00:00

This article made me cringe. Geez...It appears that she has deleted some comments on her page as well. I guess she can't deal with the logic.

kragshot · 2014-04-28T06:30:30+00:00

And once again; I come to present an alternative view.

So, who exactly is this bigoted emotional basket-case? Is she the president of some university? A lauded voice of feminism who travels all over the country giving lectures at women's centers and other bastions of feminist dogma?

No?

Then why do we care and why are we giving this obviously damaged person the page views and attention? In regards to the issues we have to deal with; she is a nobody and her opinion means pigeon shit outside of her own little wordpress circle jerk.

We need to stop giving attention to these little idiots and their deranged ranting.

MaestroLogical · 2014-04-28T08:32:43+00:00

She really loves the term 'dudebro' doesn't she?

This whole thing looks like a thinly veiled attempt to bait 'dudebro's' into her web so she can feel superior by slamming them down. Deluded people always find a way to remain deluded.

throwaway90171 · 2014-04-27T12:41:26+00:00

Irish girl who actively follows this girl here (throwaway).

I actually think this outrage towards her is warranted. Becca is a self proclaimed misandrist. I regard myself as a feminist. I (along with others I know) have actually come close to unfriending her several times but did not do it for the sole reason that we find this extremist level of feminism fascinating. On two particular occasions, a friend of mine (who is not a friend of Becca) linked me statuses Becca put up on Facebook and asked me why I was even friends with somebody this angry. I will not link to her profile for obvious reasons, but here is a transcript;

"This morning I resigned from my voluntary internship with the y factor, effective immediately. I no longer felt comfortable or happy being part of it, for a variety of reasons, most of which have been niggling at me for a good while. My feminism will be angry. I don't give a crap about equality really because people shouldn't strive to be equal with their oppressors. They/we should fight to be liberated. And just 'being nice' does nothing. Ignoring the legit concerns and critiques of women because they weren't 'nice' is bollox. If you think feminism/feminists should be nice to further our aims, just go unfriend me now. If you aren't actively making sexists uncomfortable, you're making me uncomfortable. If your feminism is transphobic or classist or racist, or if it panders to oppressors, then soz - it's not actual feminism. /rant"

Note the hypocrisy. This is the kind of person we are dealing with. She has surrounded herself with people who add fuel to her misandrist fire and largely refuses to accept the bulk of criticism she receives, instead resorting to using profanities against any man who challenges her with the justification that what she is talking about has nothing to do with them- which clearly doesn't make sense. The girl is, quite literally, living in a bubble of extremism. The only reason that I even took the time to write this comment is because she said the following this morning;

"figured out where all the new shitty dudebro comments are from - there's now a thread on reddit's Men's Rights section all about meeeeee like, fuck off forver"

Upon seeing she was not approving any more comments on her blog - including some very valid points that I've seen here - I decided that I had to come here and say something. I would actually compare her views on feminism to those held by religious extremists who resort to terrorism to further their cause; all it really does is hinder progression to the goals of their cause. It should also be noted that her views on men likely stem from childhood, as her father walked out on her when she was a child. I am unsure as to whether or not she has sought counselling on the issue but I feel that such an action could help her.

I will no doubt be misquoted or systematically critiqued by her in a status or blog post about how I am a coward for using a throwaway account to write this comment, for attacking her, for threatening her, or for oppressing her in some way for expressing these views, but I felt the need to share them in the hopes that she reads them. Becca, I respect that you are trying to further the cause of feminism, but the way you are doing it is wrong.

EDIT: So, the response happened. Naturally, I was swarmed upon for my horrible remarks and for being a traitor of feminism. To make things clear:

The first status I quoted in this post is publicly visible.

The second status is visible to friends only and was a clear attack upon those in this thread, which is the reason why I shared it here.

The reference to her father walking out on her was also referenced by her in a publicly visible status. Nothing is an invasion of privacy if it is already public.

deadalnix · 2014-04-27T01:19:17+00:00

She obviously missed the elephant in the room: what all these men have in common is her.

SpanishGuy · 2014-04-27T00:49:19+00:00

She a tumblr feminist too (link on the header).

I guess that explains it all.

AryaBarzan · 2014-04-27T09:17:44+00:00

Isn't it funny how she literally used a "NAFALT" argument (that feminists always dismiss since feminism isn't a "monolith") on men? I wonder why all of the "good" Tumblr feminists on her blog are agreeing with her and not calling her out?

Even more ironic is how she doesn't even debunk the gentlemen which literally broke down each and every single point she made. She simply wrote his entire point-by-point debunking argument off as him "telling a young woman who was brave (yes, posting on the internet is "brave" to the first-world feminist) enough to publicly share her experiences of sexual harassment and assault that actually no, you know more about what I’m talking about than I do".

No debunking. No explanation. No logic. No debate. No convincing of others.

Nope, just emotional pandering, bigotry and shame tactics. "True feminism" at work right here, folks. ;)

MRB2012 · 2014-04-27T07:53:46+00:00

My boyfriend of 2 and a half years called me a liar and untrustworthy because I decided I wasn’t actually in the mood to have sex. It was easier to lie there and fake orgasms than have the fight that would ensue if I said ‘no’. He was a ‘nice guy’, and probably has no idea that what he did was rape.

Probably because it wasn't. You chose to have sex with him. You may not have enjoyed it, but that's not on him.

TracyMorganFreeman · 2014-04-27T06:57:53+00:00

"Not all men are like that, but it's easier if I act like they are"

MRB2012 · 2014-04-27T08:02:26+00:00

Remember this the next time one of them pretends misandry isn't real.

SomeGuy239 · 2014-04-27T07:22:17+00:00

Thingsthathappened

2014-04-27T05:39:16+00:00

Well, it sounds like she was brutally beaten by some guy at some point, so I don't blame her too much for having a colored view of all her experiences that occurred prior to that. Doesn't mean I agree with her take on all of those prior experiences.

However, not all men are not like that.

Wow.

Comments

feminist logic.

Thingsthathappened

Title	Wow.
Author	Raamsh
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Date	April 26, 2014 10:16 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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