Female Field Report

Willow-girl · 2018-01-15T15:34:50+00:00

She's 27 but it's hard to say how much experience she's had with relationships so I'll give her a pass for not realizing this, but ... As you go through life, you'll interact with a lot of handsome strangers. But that's all they are -- strangers -- and that's part of what makes them attractive. You don't know if they're terrible with money, or have a horrid ex-wife who makes their life a living hell, or even if they suffer from bad breath in the morning! You only see the good parts, how they're attractive to you in the moment. If you were to take some time and get to know that stranger, you'd probably find that he contains a mixture of good and bad qualities -- just like the partner you have now.

You can go through life constantly 'trading up' (or down, or across), chasing the buzz that is 'new relationship energy' -- but that's all it is, a buzz. It doesn't last, and there will always be a new Handsome Stranger to turn your head -- if you let it happen.

Littleknownfacts · 2018-01-15T16:14:26+00:00

Q4RP: What did the guy do right? What’s your personal analysis?

I'll give you the analysis from the woman's side. She's about to get married and probably is getting cold feet. This is a completely normal human reaction. I don't know why everyone expects relationships and the people in them to be these perfect examples of virtue, and anything less is a sham. None of this means that their relationship is in trouble, none of this means she is going to cheat. None of this means that she doesn't love or isn't attached to her fiancé. She had an interesting conversation with a rando at a bar who she's never going to see again. She's engaged, not dead.

cuittler · 2018-01-15T14:14:19+00:00

Impossible to say if it's real or not but I believe the same experience could happen to a man, yeah.

I do think it's kind of laughable to say this guy "negged" her, unless you're using the loosest possible definition of "light teasing".

IckyStickyPoo · 2018-01-15T14:54:14+00:00

goatismycopilot · 2018-01-15T14:49:55+00:00

If it is real then her relationship was already in trouble, she described it as "comfortable normal" she did not really say much about her relationship at all before meeting rom com guy. It sounds fake because they met over a spilled drink which happens in rom coms, people are always spilling shit on one another. Then she describes it as it seemed like we were the only people in the brew pub and she went through every spate of emotion. Because of all that I think it is bullshit, the relationship sub has a lot of these morality scenarios.

haunting-you · 2018-01-15T14:14:39+00:00

these often tend to be fake so it wouldn’t surprise me if this was too. the thinking presented as being from a woman seems off to me, so it may even be yet another one written by a guy.

if she’s having doubts over this encounter it’s probably for the best she splits with fiancé, IMO, or just really commits to that relationship and not letting this happen again. seems to me that if it’s not this guy, it’ll be someone else, though.

a_mans_perspective · 2018-01-15T15:16:42+00:00

What would your advice to her be?

Bow out of the engagement, because one of these days she's going to fuck Rick or someone like him, and it's better that happens while not wedded to someone else.

This person still has not "sown her wild oats". Give her 5 years, 15 pounds and a staggering inability to catch the attention of Ricks, or enough experience getting pumped and dumped by Ricks to be able to cope with the tinglez. Then maybe she'll be ready for a stable beta

pinkgoldrose · 2018-01-15T14:44:25+00:00

She's not saying she wants to be with this guy, she's asking "since I felt so good meeting someone new, does it mean I'm not in love with my fiancé?". Solid neg, but she can't go switching boyfriends every time someone negs her.

wtknight · 2018-01-15T15:46:15+00:00

is this FR fake? Would you believe the story if the man wrote it instead?

Probably not. I think that it's a very common experience to have flirty encounters when one is already taken. My logic however is that, if she is having second thoughts, she should probably dump the guy who she is with. If one is going to get married, one shouldn't be having second thoughts at all about the person who one is going to be spending the rest of their lives with. I had a similar experience where a woman approached and flirted with me at a work-related event when I was engaged and, while she was attractive and it was flattering, I didn't have second thoughts about my fiancée because I easily recalled all of the great, romantic times that my fiancée and I had together. If this woman posting doesn't have these types of thoughts when encountering a stranger, then my opinion is that the relationship isn't strong enough to endure the test of time of marriage, and she should probably just break it off.

Doom_and-Gloom · 2018-01-15T14:09:36+00:00

Yup, it's fake. It's also not written by a woman, though that should be self-evident.

MrPerfidy · 2018-01-15T14:12:50+00:00

I dont really understand what is so noteworthy or telling about it- do people expect that their mates never once experience a connection to and desire for anyone ever again? She wasn't sucking his dick in the alley, she had a conversation in public and likes the attention even after online

Hellothere_1 · 2018-01-15T14:17:41+00:00

We had nothing in common which gave us a tremendous amount of things to talk about out.

Obvious parody is obvious. Cmon guys!

Maikowski2 · 2018-01-15T16:24:40+00:00

I wouldn't believe if a man wrote it only if it was posted on TRP, lots of lies there. But other than that, a great story, doesn't matter true or false, because it still gives us some information on woman's psychology.

mgtownigga · 2018-01-16T07:48:11+00:00

dating around and fucking a bunch of retards is never as fun as it sounds tbh. Most women and men that ditched something good for that kind of lifestyle end up regretting it, at least in my experience.

Honestly, the hook up culture that is pushed on us is borderline tragic, because the outcomes are optimal

DebatePony · 2018-01-15T14:18:16+00:00

I think it's fake. Doesn't really "read" like it was written by a woman.

Or she's just a liar, I'm assuming that she has a ring on her finger since she's engaged. Those things are generally eye catching and make it hard for one to "forget" that they are engaged.

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quicklogaccount · 2018-01-15T16:55:11+00:00

Q4RP: What did the guy do right? What’s your personal analysis?

He's handsome and all novelty for her.
High quality committed chicks push away new suitors upon arrival, they are aware that their intention is to get sex. To get a quality chick to cheat, the suitor usually has to be able to fly under this radar or just be incredibly handsome, so she portrays herself just as a shitty chick.
The guy did precisely that. He's attractive, he didn't trigger her defenses upon approach because SHE caused their conversation, and he spiked her interest with novelty.
You can say he did wrong, he could have picked her up by gaming right, or if he wanted to.

Offhisgame · 2018-01-15T19:11:47+00:00

I don't believe most TRP guys lie about everything in their 'field reports' just half of it. They are seeing it through semi retarded eyes after all.

blackedoutfast · 2018-01-15T22:31:58+00:00

Q4RP: What did the guy do right? What’s your personal analysis?

it's hard to say, but the story definitely rings true to me.

instead of just sitting there talking all night, he should have come up with a reason to change venues. talk her into going somewhere that has dancing or something like that. allows you to isolate her from her friends so she won't feel slutty, and gives a pretext for really ramping up kino (hopefully there was already some kino during the conversation but who knows).

in my experience, it's very common for engaged women to cheat in that period of time before the wedding. even more than they do before the engagement. it happens A LOT.

and it's not just low quality sluts, there are women who you would never expect to ever cheat and something happens when they're engaged where they get overwhelmed by all of it. wondering if they really should settle down with their fiance, thinking about how they're not going to have any more chances, FOMO, etc. also, they've just seen their fiance do the most submissive beta thing possible, literally getting down on his knees and begging her if he can completely commit to her for life. so when she happens to cross paths with a sexy alpha guy who knows what he is doing, it's just too hard to resist.

TheBookOfSeil · 2018-01-16T06:04:45+00:00

What exactly do you mean when you ask "What did the guy do right?" If you're talking about him gaining the woman's interest, then he said something that caused a sudden wave of possibly intense emotion to rush over her, which caused her to focus on who exactly it was that she was looking at. Basically he gave her the case of "the feels," and he happened to be attractive to her. Had he looked like Danny DeVito, she probably would've told him off and stormed out of the place. That's about all he "did right."

freejosephk · 2018-01-15T15:27:28+00:00

Is there a distinction between negging and teasing? I always thought there was (correct me if I'm wrong, honestly) and this seemed like good hearted teasing (flirting). Yes, it's charming to tease someone and immediately compliment them in some small barely noticeable way, or immediately deflect from the situation with some quip about life and smile. This is imo BP alpha. Being nice and friendly and outgoing does get you laid.

Anyway, what's more curious to me is my own reaction, my own experiences in similar situations. I've been in this situation plenty of times and have done all things. I've hooked up and not cheated, I've hooked up and cheated, and I've declined and not cheated. And somehow, I'm not sorry about any of it. In fact, there have been times I was sorry I didn't cheat! I still am sorry about it even now! Super salty about one incident.

Why would I fault OP if she did cheat? I know I have. I know any guy who's experienced with women probably has too. I'm not down with the double standard. Experience life. We only have one of them. There's also nothing wrong with experiencing a deep, long term relationship. Maybe that's more right. Idk, nobody is at fault. There are no wrong or right answers.

Princeso_Bubblegum · 2018-01-15T14:28:43+00:00

This comes to mind

notworthmuch20xx · 2018-01-15T17:05:51+00:00

What would your advice to her be?

Stop going out to bars alone

firewelt · 2018-01-15T17:22:10+00:00

At the end of the night he asked if he at least have my Instagram account, if not my number so he could stay in touch. It was at that moment that I finally remembered I was engaged and I politely declined.

Whats going on here is very important for RP students to understand.

He failed the Shit test here by not pushing for the number. See women need to feel that the cheating isnt their fault. So they put up simple obstacles for the man to overcome. If he succeeds, she pass on responsibility to him for the cheating. If he backs off, she can pat herself on the back about what a good girl she is.

This is something girls do all the time, even ones without boyfriends do it so they can feel hes responsible for her sluttyness. He was so close to success and if he were a PUA or a terper he would have fucked her.

Title	Female Field Report
Author	Mr_Smoogs
Upvotes	22
Comments	278
Date	January 15, 2018 2:01 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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