You guys go to extreme lengths to try and become appealing to women. And I don't mean personality wise here ,obviously it's desirable as a whole to have a good personality so that you become more likable to people in general and have more friends .

I mean the lengths to which you go to in terms of bodybuilding (if you guys actually do that ) , plastic surgeries,making lots of money and what not so that more women will find you appealing.

This level of heteronormativity has been perpetuated by men a lot by looking at other men trying to impress women through various methods and if you as a man don't emulate the same you're ostracised as an outcast .

I can understand the desire for sex and relationships even . Both are incredible if you can find the right person to do it with , but some of you actually dedicate too much of your time pandering to the female gaze .

Once you let go of what women find attractive in men (personality aside here , I'm talking about the physical aspect of it) life becomes much more peaceful and fulfilling .

It hits especially sweeter when you know you're lowkey not women's physical type anyways , so that you can let go of the need to try and be more appealing to women everyday and let go of the constant need of validation from women .