Do Some Women Avoid Being Open About Physical Preferences on reddit?

torihimemiyas · 2025-04-14T13:53:08+00:00

This doesn’t entirely account for the discrepancy, I’m just bringing up one facet of this issue.

I would say that there’s a higher amount of women with endometriosis, PCOS, vaginismus, and other reproductive issues on Reddit compared to the general population. There are a lot of communities on here for women with these issues and I’ve noticed that a lot of people will join Reddit for one or two specific communities and then become active elsewhere. A lot of the women who are very vocal about preferring average-small penises are also vocal about their health issues that cause painful sex.

I have reproductive issues myself and I dread PIV with my partner because he’s too large. And whatever number you’re thinking of right now, it’s probably smaller than that.

ETA: Women who dislike large penises are also more likely to comment on your post because they’re personally bothered by the narrative that ALL women want large penises.

justdontsashay · 2025-04-14T12:06:12+00:00

I can’t speak to what other women do. I know that I don’t lie about it, and I’ve all but given up on answering questions along these lines because when I do there are always men who shriek at me that I’m lying and I do actually want a giant porn star dick.

Size queens exists. Women who don’t care about size exist. A lot of us have a vague preference of “big enough that he can get it in and thrust a bit, not big enough to hurt me.”

What reason would we have to lie anonymously on reddit about our preferences? If I wanted a man with a giant dick I would just say so.

spanglesandbambi · 2025-04-14T12:11:29+00:00

Tell you what, why don't you search for posts here and see what is said? It's a pretty simple process, right?

I've been open about not having any interest in dating anyone shorter or fatter than me (I'm 5 ft 5 and 154 lbs) I have even spoken about only being interested in men with good careers.

In terms of penis size, I can't screen for that imagine "Hey, can you send evidence that you are over 7 inches". I've never been with someone and though your oenis size is why I will stop seeing you..

I'm 35. You think I give a shit what people on reddit think absolutely not.

OrganicAd5450 · 2025-04-14T12:10:41+00:00

I don't think anyone on here said that size doesn't matter only that they didn't want one that was too large. They didn't want one that was too small either though. So size does matter but it doesn't mean it's the bigger the better like most men believe.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2025-04-14T12:59:45+00:00

Why ask women when you don't believe them and would choose to believe a man?

Siukslinis_acc · 2025-04-14T15:19:18+00:00

I'm open about my physical preferences. Problem is that people don't believe it and accuse me of lying.

There is also the thing of things being relative. So it is hard to separate a single thing. Do I enjoy X because of Y or because of the combination of Y,Z,Q,R,H?

Traditional_Lab1192 · 2025-04-14T12:23:06+00:00

If this entire post is about penis size then why did you make the title seem that it was about physical preferences in general lmao?

Honestly I don’t have an answer for that specific body part because I’m always honest in my responses. I’ve been accused of lying by men because they genuinely can’t believe that a woman would prefer small to average penises, but I’m telling the truth. That’s what I like. I don’t agree with “the bigger the better” and its pretty much the opposite for me. Now, I would never say “Size doesn’t matter” because I don’t want a micro-dick or anything like that, but I don’t want some giant cock either.

There are more women who can relate to that than ones who can’t. It’s just that pop culture-wise, big dicks are all the rave so when real women answer that they don’t care about that, it can seem fake. It’s akin to how pop culture loves big butts, but yet I, someone with a small butt, have never struggled to find a partner. The media doesn’t represent everyone’s preferences.

For the women who do lie, I’m guessing that it’s because they were dogpiled when they were honest or they don’t want to be mean on camera. For example, I’ve dated men of different heights from 5’5 to 6’6, yet when the men in those short subreddits saw that I dated the latter, they all attacked me and told me to kms.

Icy_Ad_4544 · 2025-04-14T12:54:45+00:00

I feel like young men obsess over their penis size the same way that young women used to obsess over their breast size. It’s so fascinating to see how the role reversals have developed over time. These worries that men have about relationships are the exact same complaints that women were saying when I was growing up. It is literally as if the tables have turned and guys aren’t sure how to handle not being on the superior team anymore. Hmmm…

Regardless, for men concerned about the size of their penis. I have seen way more than I have ever wanted (I’m talking thousands) and I can probably count on one hand the amount of times I have seen an actual “micro penis” or a very large penis on one hand. Most of y’all don’t vary that much in size. If anything from the few talks I’ve had with other women about sex most of us prefer girth over length anyways. 🤷‍♀️

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-04-14T12:55:04+00:00

Women here vehemently deny research based facts

Even if you have "research based facts", if I wasn't in the research study, that study doesn't tell you what I think. It could tell you what I am likely to think, or what the researchers want you to think I think (based on how biased/unclear their questions are or how cherrypicked their data is), but it doesn't tell you what I 100% think.

Regardless, the "size doesn't matter" thing doesn't literally mean "even my dildos are small". It means "There are lots of ways to please a woman without being able to hit certain spots in penetration."

Routine-Present-3676 · 2025-04-14T13:52:47+00:00

Oh look! Another "straight" guy talking about dicks in this sub. It's becoming a real theme.

Women have different preferences dude. It doesn't matter how many different times you ask, that remains the same.

ThatBitchA · 2025-04-14T14:34:43+00:00

Omg. Men are obsessed with dick.

Case and point this whole thread.

"I don't believe what women tell me. They must be lying. Here's all the information ever conducted on dick size."

In real life women also say that dick size doesn't matter.

Redhotangelxxx · 2025-04-14T17:30:18+00:00

I'm pretty open about what I find attractive on here I'd say. I like a tall, muscular man but I've found many short, non muscular men equally attractive. I prefer a 5-6 inch, average cock. 7 is pushing it and 8 hurts. I've been unfortunate in that the person I've clicked the best with on every other plane has a big dick that hurts me, but luckily his other qualities make up for it.

Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2025-04-14T19:01:18+00:00

You’re asking the wrong question! What you should be asking is “Can women be attracted to anything other than what they rank as the most attractive in a survey?”

And the answer is yes, obviously.

Nellylocheadbean · 2025-04-14T12:40:51+00:00

You can easily go on a place like twitter or instagram and see women talking about how much they like a big dick. This is just a case of someone that goes down the rabbit hole searching for something and they find it.

The general consensus is that women like big dicks, that doesn’t mean women who don’t like em or care for them don’t exist.

JustMoreSadGirlShit · 2025-04-14T13:47:27+00:00

like i said yesterday, some people aren’t comfortable being open about stuff like that. and like you clearly noted, there are women for whom size doesn’t matter. i’m not sure why you’re willing to accept it in one form of communication but not this one?

Slipthe · 2025-04-14T14:45:01+00:00

I'd guess the majority of women can physically handle and might prefer slightly above average penis size. And I'll hazard a guess that 4'' is the line where it's too small.

But once you're at 10'' or higher then it's an issue of discomfort.

Axis_Control · 2025-04-14T15:05:58+00:00

Honestly I do like bigger dicks 7-7.5 but willing to compromise on size of dick for other qualities like kinkiness and personality and looks.

hakunaa-matataa · 2025-04-14T16:51:18+00:00

I’m just gonna copy and paste what I said in this thread yesterday.

“Okay well for one, over half your studies you cited were just repeats of the first two studies you cited just on different platforms. So really you only cited 3 studies, not 8.

Penis size influences male attractiveness and is as important as height Brian Mautz et al. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS), 2013 > “Males with a larger penis were rated as being relatively more attractive. This relationship is nonlinear, however, indicating that the proportional increase in attractiveness begins to decrease after a size of ∼7.6 cm” which is about 2.9 inches. Yes, penis size is important, but not “over 7+ inches is ideal”. This just shows that women prefer larger than 3 inches. Also, this study gave smaller penis’s to men with more feminine figures (smaller shoulder to hip ratio, shorter). So they took away sexual dimorphism with smaller penises. “This result might be because of our figures extending too far into the feminine range of body shapes, as those with a low shoulder-to-hip ratio were highly unattractive.”

Women's Preferences for Penis Size: A New Research Method Using Selection among 3D Models Nicole Prause, James Pfaus, Geoffrey Miller PLOS ONE, 2015 > This study suggests girth matters more than length. Also, this was 75 college aged women, so this was a really specific demographic.

Women rank men's penises - revealing what they find most attractive and what tempt them to cheat Bad Girls Bible Survey, 2024 (Reported by The Sun) > This study isn’t peer reviewed, nor does it show anything about statistical significance. Furthermore, there’s probably a huge self selection bias going on here because this is a sex-focused site.

Size does matter: Women find large penises more attractive (Summary of PNAS/Mautz study) Reported by Medical News Today, 2013 > This is just the same study as number 1

Women Find Men With Bigger Penises More Attractive, Study Shows (Based on Mautz et al. study) Nature World News, 2013 > Same study as number 1

Science: Women Prefer Larger Penises Overview and analysis of PNAS and related studies The Atlantic, 2013 > Same study as number 1

Study Reveals the Perfect Penis Size, According to Women (Based on PLOS ONE / Prause et al.) GQ Magazine, 2015 > Same study as number 2

We Now Know Women Prefer This Penis Size, Thanks to 3-D Printers (Based on PLOS ONE / Prause et al.) Glamour Magazine, 2015 > Same study as number 2

Here’s some studies that suggest that women do not care NEARLY as much about penis size as men think they do:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8243978/#:~:text=Furthermore%2C%20a%20survey%20of%20over,parameters%20in%20the%20same%20group.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12429149/

And here’s a study saying that the current literature on the subject is incomplete and often has a lot of flaws in methodology: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41443-022-00636-7

I’m not saying size DOES NOT matter. It does. But not NEARLY to the extent that men think it does.”

RecognitionSoft9973 · 2025-04-14T17:01:23+00:00

Plenty of men on reddit also avoid talking openly about their physical preferences. Like nipple size. If you create a thread about men's preferred breast nipple size as a woman on the AskMen-type subs, you'll see a bunch of men stating they don't care and are happy with anything. Which I doubt. Porn does a lot to influence how men perceive women's bodies sexually, and I'm sure most men prefer the types of nipples they see in mainstream porn. Or at least something "normal" and not super huge or super small.

It's obvious that a lot of men are keeping quiet about this because they're scared of offending women. Similarly women, especially those drawn to male-oriented spaces like reddit, are selectively the type that doesn't place a lot of value on penis size, and secondly, they don't want to hurt men's feelings either. Or the third option: they genuinely don't care and are happy with the average penis size, or even a variety of sizes, just like men are with women's nipple or breast size.

I guess the argument is that penis size affects sex more than nipple size, which is obviously true, but many women don't orgasm from PIV. So what's the point in penis size then? What matters more is technique & foreplay. I wish more men & women would understand this.

When did this penis size debate snowball into "women only want big penises"? After porn becoming widespread? I do think that men's porn habits have had an effect on what women want too. Most men are only looking for porn featuring massive schlongs.

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ComplexAttitude4Lyfe · 2025-04-15T10:07:37+00:00

If your research into penis size and preference includes the almighty porn, then no, you're not looking at real research or women's preferences.

Also, I doubt many women are getting on these dating sites looking for pictures of the package so they can swipe right on Mr Biggie. As far as I know, women aren't arriving to dates with a tape measure in their clutch to make sure he's more than 6 inches.

Porn is a fantasy, and not a very good one for most people. Add this to the fact that most women do not orgasm from penetration, and there is not much reason to equate size with women's pleasure anyway.

Do Some Women Avoid Being Open About Physical Preferences on reddit?

Comments

Study: "Does penis size influence female sexual satisfaction?" (Brody & Costa, 2008)

Study: "Preference for penis size and its relationship to vaginal orgasm" (Prause et al., 2015)

3. The Role of Anatomy & Stimulation

Study: "Clitoral and vaginal orgasms: Anatomical and physiological differences" (Jannini et al., 2012)

Study: "The G-spot is part of the clitoral network" (O’Connell et al., 2008)

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