Askreddit: "What would you tell your high school self if you could go back in time" comments are a list of TRP tenets

WardlyHasted · 2015-03-26T19:38:50+00:00

What? This isn't TRP advice. No one said they would tell their younger self to hate women and to abuse and manipulate them. /s

H42 · 2015-03-26T17:13:26+00:00

When I first started hitting on girls in 1971-75 High School, it was too easy. It just seemed like I was taking advantage of them, because it was so easy to make them smile, laugh, and respond by lightheartedly teasing them. It was like shooting fish in a barrel. This made me feel bad.

So I stopped doing and saying "manipulative" things and tried other methods, being nice, smart, caring, supportive, paying for everything. None of that worked to get a GF, even though everything I read said that was what girls wanted a boy to be. I kept on with that plan, because, how could the experts be wrong about something so important? I kept at it so long, I forgot how to do and be my original self, which worked so well.

I would go back and tell my HS self, don't feel bad, you got it right the first time, keep shooting the fish in the barrel.

Drewtothesky · 2015-03-26T18:01:40+00:00

I'm in high school right now. Just swallowed the pill. Good to know I'm already doing some of these things.

HumanSockPuppet · 2015-03-26T20:22:14+00:00

No doubt. Most of us here have similar regrets, even if we happen to be at different ages and different stages in our lives.

The important thing to remember is this:

Everything that happened to you up until this point HAD TO HAPPEN in order for you to arrive at your current perspective.

A lot of guys new to The Red Pill lament their wasted years. "I wish I had done X sooner", or "I wish I had stopped doing Y", then I wouldn't have had to go through all that suffering and horseshit.

The suffering and horseshit were a NECESSARY part of your awakening.

You had to experience conflict, and failure, and shame, and deep-rooted unhappiness, and a creeping suspicion that things were not as they seemed before you could begin questioning the Matrix.

Your failures were not wasted time. They were the necessary threshhold to overcoming your indoctrination.

Don't lament your lost time. There are countless men in the ground - men who died with their eyes still closed - and you are not among them. Celebrate the fact that you are awake NOW, and take every opportunity to take control of your life and prosperity from this point forward.

Danedina · 2015-03-26T16:48:32+00:00

Because when you get right down to it there's nothing that radical taking place here. There are some unpleasant truths, like the fact that women will cheat, and lie about being raped, and flirt with their boyfriend's best friend, and choose the guy with the bigger biceps more often than not, etc.

Society is an artificial construction that needs people to play by the rules to maintain order. Some of these rules contradict our natural instincts. Society's keepers of the peace feed people -- particularly young men -- a set of fictions backed up by threats. We play along in daily life even when there is a bad taste in our mouth.

At the Red Pill we remove our facades and speak frankly. People who aren't ready for these truths, or who are part of the machinery, try to paint as some kind of hate group and dismiss the larger truths we advance, choosing instead to nip at the corners of our arguments or focusing on guys who overreact to the obvious conclusions while in the anger stage.

Glenwalk · 2015-03-26T19:18:16+00:00

Stay away from the terrible group of friends I associated myself with in high school

Remove betas from your life

For many people I think this is in reference to shitty groups of friends who didn't end up amounting to anything, but not neccessarily betas. My high school friends were pretty alpha in high school (frame, girls, DGAF), but they're still mostly doing the same shit they were doing before.

So if I could go back I'd probably hang out with the more beta crowd and focus on doing well in school. In law school now so it's fine, but I limited myself by taking all arts courses in high school so I could slack off and get drunk.

tatrp · 2015-03-26T18:51:22+00:00

Why isn't anyone saying "I should have been more sensitive" or "I wish I had waited 2 months before making a move..." ? I thought Blue Pill was the "right" way of dealing with reality?

Geleemann · 2015-03-26T16:27:02+00:00

To not give a flying fuck what others think about you.

indlife · 2015-03-26T19:38:33+00:00

I went to a smaller suburban high school, very conservative area in a conservative part of the country. While I talked to most of my classmates, I mostly was beta with a bunch of beta friends. We actually all could hold conversations, but when it came to romance, we all were pathetic for the most part. I was too scared of rejection, was never told about relationships/sex/girls at that age, etc..

What I would tell myself and most other young men today:

1: Be active in sports, lift.

2: Rejection is a part of life. So long as a guy is cute enough, there is likely a girl who will want to at least go out on a date or two.

3: Sex is natural, it is something that should be discussed with your guy friends. It is not a mortal sin, that 99% of people who have ever been married likely had sex before they got married. It is also OK to discuss sex with girls, it can definitely lead to something sexual down the road.

4: Losing your virginity to a virgin might sound all good and dreamy, and it is what society tries to push young men and women into doing, but clutching onto that dream could have a negative impact. If a young man has the chance to lose it at a party, or two a frisky neighbor, do it, just make sure it is safe.

5: Take reasonable, moderated risk. Fool around in a car, in a park, in the woods, at school, etc.. Hard core drugs I would advise against, focusing on alcohol and making sure you don't drink and drive.

6: Relationships are good, but given how the world has changed, don't feel the need to be trapped into a relationship. If another girl seems interested, the best course of action might be to break-up and date the new girl.

7: Make sure you go away to college, or if going to a trade school, live in an apartment near a college or where other young people live (those who are moving back from college will be 21, and you could get an alcohol supply this way). Either way, a young man needs to not live at home for years after high school unless his parents are totally OK with him living an adult lifestyle. There are some things that should be respected, but for the most part, anything the guy could do in college he should be allowed to do while living at home. Once in college, unless you know with 100% certainty a current gf is 'the one,' don't be tied down. Be prepared to have some fun, get some experience with the ladies.

8: Consider traveling over the summer, even if it means working. This is especially important if one has to live at home during college. I personally would recommend jobs in awesome national parks.

9: If you aren't going to go to school and instead just work, seriously consider working at a place where there are numerous employees your age, as well as a nice bar area where people are known to drink. One of my biggest mistakes was working at a print shop. The bulk of the employees were a generation ahead of me, and the customer base were mostly professional adults.

John___Rambo · Thu Mar 26 20:10:06 2015 UTC

I really wish I found trp a few years back

crimson-hound · 2015-03-26T22:04:36+00:00

STUDY HARDER

When I was in high school, I really didn't give a fuck about my future. I was pretty cool and had a lot of friends, but I was content with mediocrity when it came to my studies and pursuing things I'm passionate about (music and art).

GET DISCIPLINED

I was lazy as fuck in high school, total slob who never cleaned his room and slightly unhygienic. I would call in sick to my part time job sometimes just cause I didn't "feel like" going to work. It took me way longer than the average person on my level of smarts (not saying I'm a genius, but I was smarter than the "average" kids.. Just never pushed myself) to get my act together.

There is no "One" - I had that disney idea of women in my head when I was in high school.. Or rather, I knew a lot of girls at my school were total sluts.. But I always stayed away from them because I wanted to have sex with "someone I care about" what a load of garbage lol.. I shoulda just banged that older girl who used to give me rides after school and steal booze from her parents to party with on the weekend.

EXERCISE

I was kind of chubby in high school, mainly cause I was a lazy fuck and only drank sugary drinks as my source of liquid. My diet consisted of frozen dinners, fast food, and pizza.

STOP HOLDING YOURSELF BACK FOR OTHERS

When I was in high school, I got accepted my senior year to go to a college in Vermont, as well as one in Boston MA. I didn't go to either because I didn't want to leave my friends and I was scared. Instead I went to some mediocre community college so I could hang around my buds. I gave my parents some piss poor excuse like "I don't know what I want to do with my life and don't want to go into debt if I'm not sure". Truth is, I did know what I wanted to do but didn't want to leave my friends and everyone I knew behind.. A couple of years later and what do you know? Most of them have stabbed me in the back at least once and I wound up weeding a lot of them out.

Most importantly…

STOP LISTENING TO WHAT PEOPLE TELL YOU TO DO.

Now I'm not saying you should be disobedient and go against everyone. Often times teachers will give you constructive criticism, or your parents will tell you to keep your bills and stuff in line..

I'm saying that people who say you shouldn't chase your dream or you shouldn't take risks generally don't actually care about you. Living life safely all the time is boring as fuck, and a lot of people miss out on some great life experiences by "playing it safe".

For example

"Don't buy a motorcycle, they're dangerous!"

"Don't join the military, what if you die?"

"Don't pursue a career in the arts, you'll be poor"

"Don't go to the gym that's for meatheads"

"Don't go backpacking in Europe, you could get kidnapped!"

Generally, most of these people who say stuff like this to you don't actually care about you.. They just want you to be like them so they feel normal. They want you to think the same things they think because it makes them feel comfortable. I'm not saying you need to kick people like this out of your life, just take what they say with a grain of salt and realize you're two different people with two different mindsets. Don't take their distaste for what you may want to TRULY do with your life as advice.

aa223 · 2015-03-26T18:32:40+00:00

Well first I would kick my high school self's ass for being so fucking weak willed. Then I would say lift, go crazy, stop looking at women as your superior, and just be yourself. Improve yourself and keep getting angry at things and use it to further yourself.

trpMilo · 2015-03-26T19:57:09+00:00

Yes, this is Red Pill advice, but it also illustrates a fundamental principle: these people all wished they did things that were hard at the time so that their lives could be easier now. In the past, the things they did were the things that were easy, that felt good.

Your brain will always pick the hard but rewarding option for your future self or your past self. It's your present self that's the problem.

sanglupus · 2015-03-26T16:46:32+00:00

You don't need approval from anyone.

There is no such thing as sexual leagues.

Every girl is a slut.

dennisbergkamp10 · 2015-03-26T17:38:30+00:00

Stop being so nice to girls. Be brave, put yourself first. Believe in yourself more and don't be afraid of the pussy, cause there is lots of it and lots of fish in the sea.

canadianhousecoat · 2015-03-26T19:25:09+00:00

Just fuck up that asshole bully in grade 8 instead of grade 10 and life will get better.

xaphody · 2015-03-26T21:44:05+00:00

Lose that fucking weight! Your life becomes so much easier once you drop below 100kg. People will treat you nicer and they will give you that job because your not a fat fucking mess. Go to university now instead of waiting until your 24 to start. Believe in yourself, no one else will.

Nodeal_reddit · 2015-03-26T22:21:57+00:00

I'd eat a lot more. I used to lift, but I was so worried about getting fat that I never came anywhere near reaching my potential. I'd have had a much more interesting college experience if I'd come in with an extra 20 pounds of muscle.
I'd punch the older guy who bullied me when I was a freshman.
I'd not punch the younger guy who "stole" my girlfriend my jr year.
I'd change the time I told my friend I'd shave my Head if he went first - and then backed out when I saw how dumb he looked.
I'd have asked a LOT more girls for BJs
I'd be less afraid to talk to random girls.

Now, things I'd tell myself I was doing right:

stay away from pot & booze. There's plenty of time for that after HS
keep lifting ( with the caveat to eat more)

Stuperishstoner · 2015-03-26T22:31:11+00:00

Break up with your L8TR and fuck that girl that said she would do "anything". Fuck that was dumb

Reddington12 · 2015-03-26T18:22:22+00:00

I'd say oneitis is the worst thought process most people had when they were younger. Not just with women but in general. "I'll never be happy if I'm not with her," "I'll never be happy if I don't achieve X." Then you get older and realize you've lived without people/things for years that you thought you'd never get through a day without.

Temptationn · 2015-03-27T04:25:38+00:00

I'd tell myself to start lifting and have a proper diet. I'd also tell myself to find a new group to hang with. I had 2 groups of people I hung with, the "xbox nerds" and the "stoners" both lead me to start to fail.

tldr; Start lifting, study more and sell my xbox.

PIGamer86 · 2015-03-26T22:18:45+00:00

Quit being such a bitch. Being nice is fine but quit being such a fucking pushover. Grow a pair and stand up for yourself.

michaelt8 · 2015-03-26T22:39:47+00:00

work-out more and fuck sluts...hmm seems like a pretty high school mentality to me here lads

cascadecombo · 2015-03-27T00:15:08+00:00

I involve myself in every group and extra-curricular I can. I >work out and try to become as fit as possible

Lift

This is more than just lift, this is learning to socialize and networking as well.

sealteamaus · 2015-03-27T00:37:32+00:00

i dont want to touch this one. its a miracle i havent blown my brains out. i'm just super glad i made it this far, even with all the horrendous mistakes i made

creativehippo · 2015-03-27T04:50:31+00:00

I'm halfway done with high school and I just realized how much opportunities I've missed by not joining more activities. I want to get rid of my loser friends but I'm not sure how.

[deleted] · 2015-03-27T08:40:42+00:00

I'm not sure if my younger self would listen to anything I have to say :/

I would tell him how important it is to lift, I think he would get that and it would help him out. I think instead of trying to convince him of TRP, I would recommend which friends to hang out with, and I think he'll figure it out on his own faster.

Also, obligatory buy apple stock and bitcoin-

mickeymouseoutfit · 2015-03-27T14:02:47+00:00

"Go talk to that bitch instead of pining over her from afar. You might get lucky but most likely you'll get blown out. Feels shitty, right? You'll be over it in a day or two but she'll still be a bitch. Now you can take her off the pedestal and get on with your life. Let some other chump pine over her."

EDIT: found her on Facebook decades later and, while she's still got that pretty smile that I liked, she was godawful boring.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-03-27T15:17:34+00:00

Rejection is better than regret.

Watch what they do, not what they say.

Women lie, especially about love and relationships.

Be irrationally self confident and don't even think about letting those bitches pick away at your armor.

Catabisis · 2015-03-28T00:55:02+00:00

Tap those cheerleaders now. Because when you see them at the 20th class reunion they are going to be fat bitches.

drkstrs · 2015-03-27T04:31:53+00:00

I would tell myself to stop believing in the idea of a soul mate or "the one". That crippling delusion plagued me well into my thirties.

soccerplusaviation · 2015-03-27T03:28:49+00:00

It just goes to show that everyone wants to red deep down inside.

angryuser_trp · 2015-03-27T06:27:25+00:00

I'm fairly happy with where I am. But if I could, I'd tell myself to get into forex and start selling the living shit outta that EUR/USD pair...

fckredditt · 2015-03-27T09:04:29+00:00

i hate how this sub gets demonized. they're using it as a scapegoat to point to something that they can say is misogynistic. there really are some bitter guys here but 99% of redpill is just logical. there is no way the shit that is said here can possible be wrong. this place mostly preach self improvement and self value over pandering to women. in the west, women have so many opportunities for advancement and the competition for women is so fierce that both men and women believe that sex is a very valuable thing that a woman gives to a man. that's just not true. men should stop thinking it is a valuable thing.

[deleted] · 2015-03-27T12:40:22+00:00

Fuck all the girls that wanted me to fuck them.

red_gerb · 2015-03-27T12:58:43+00:00

Mother Lied to you regarding women. Forget equality, they want it all. When they're 30, desperate. You? just getting started. Buy Microsoft stock, lots and lots of it. Sell on the 9th split. then Buy GOOG IPO. Dump the religious guilt, you're a good man already.

BlackHeart89 · 2015-03-27T18:09:12+00:00

I was shy little fucker. I didn't have much confidence.

I would tell myself:

Join the football team. If for nothing else, do it for the weights and the discipline.
Sleep more. Goddamnit, sleep more. Like no less than 7 hours a night.
Fats are good for you. Excess calories is what makes you a fat fuck.
Women like loud, out-spoken, obnoxious assholes way more than the quiet, respectful, nice guy who is actually interested in what they have to say and their interests.
Chase success. Women come with it. The smarter you become, the more money you make, etc, the easier it will be to get women. Women are just a distraction and will make your life miserable if it revolves around them. Same with friends. Not just women.
Honestly is NOT ALWAYS the best policy.
When at work, learn to cut corners without being caught. I've worked jobs where if you don't cut corners, the work won't get done as fast as they want it done. BUT, if you're caught, you'll be written up. And just because you do a great job, doesn't mean the slacker won't get that raise before you. He's a better bullshitter than you are a worker.
Do some volunteer work
Get braces
Women lie too
Learn more about cars and take whatever martial arts class you can get. Yes. You will probably get your ass kicked by everyone there. BUT, you'll still be better prepared than you were before. The boost in confidence will be ridiculous. You more than likely won't even need to use the shit.
Use a condom during with LTR 2. Nothing bad happened, but that set me up for performance anxiety when using condoms with future chicks.

Some much shit I would go back and tell myself. Its crazy.

ECoast_Man · 2015-03-28T00:22:18+00:00

Yep.

Man - good habits start early, and the earlier the better.

Incognitro777 · 2015-03-28T16:24:52+00:00

Start reading non-fiction

Focus all your income on your diet and lifting.

Be more reckless with your decisions and reactions.

CheesyWeiner · 2015-03-26T21:56:17+00:00

Fuck

In 10 years I'll look back at now and have a ton of things I wish I would have done differently.

All of these things are about missed opportunities so I'm going to assume that the things I wish I would have done differently in the future will also be about missed opportunities.

It seriously just all clicked.

I need to stop living in the now or tomorrow and live in the future. Minor consequences don't really matter as long as I leave no stone unturned.

Eminiel · 2015-03-27T10:56:30+00:00

Self improvement is not TRP. TRP is self improvement. People would've said this stuff before they watched the matrix, too.

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