Summary

I believe that the TRP is a very useful and helpful community for men of all walks of life however this community does seem to be slightly more tailored towards the plate-spinning Chad types and there's a dearth of good material for those who choose to be in LTRs (or are too far gone or just fancied 'settling' for a time with a woman they could tolerate a lot more than other women).

I plan to sporadically write stuff from the perspective of a man in a committed LTR. This is the intro and part 1.

Background

Bit of context and background - I've been in an LTR for 4.5 years. Is she a unicorn? Hell no. Does she look great, know how to cook, dress well and look after herself? Very much so.

I'm 27, she's 33 ("OMG she iz teh wall and u r an enabler, cuckold beta!", Thanks for your concern, but I'm happy with my hand despite what this sub tells you how you should feel towards wall-women, LTRs, etc.). In my experience, girls under 24 are fucking immature, lost in their social media cellphone worlds and spending any more than an hour with them becomes like fucking child day care. It's all preference and I'm not attacking anyone who chooses to plate, go with younger or older women, in a LTR/married - your life is yours and I don't have time or care enough to judge you.

So I discovered TRP about 2 years ago and at first I found it hilarious, then scarily true before reading The Rational Male and the sidebar and deciding I'd been blinkered all my life. I was incredibly beta, a fucking wet blanket and my friends used to joke I was under the thumb and boy were they on the money. I'm scrawny, would bend over backwards for her and generally just live my life for her in the hope that maybe she would turn round that day and spread her legs. It wasn't her fault, she's a woman and they're wired to manipulate and get away with as much as possible.

So what's happened in the past 2.5 years? I've been on and off with my self-improvement and implementation of TRP theory but the results are staggering. This particular piece's main central focus is lifting, but it's more an introduction to an LTR, what happens when you flip between confident, decision making alpha male to soft, wet sandwich beta.

Body

Just to share with you THE MOST BASIC piece of advice you will hear on here (and with good reason) and the effects it had on my relationship - lifting.

Ok, so I have the build of a paperweight and I've always been scrawny and ridiculed for my sheer lack of strength. Even 2 years into TRP I still never took it upon myself to lift. I just couldn't be bothered, I would improve myself in other ways. I've always exercised, been relatively fit and could run long distances, but running a 5k ain't gonna give her the tingles. So 6 months ago I decided to join a gym.

This wasn't your regular gym, this gym is an absolute shit hole. Looks like something out of a poor man's Rocky (think about that for a second). The windows are smashed, the paint is flaking and ceiling leaks when it rains. The equipment is probably older than me and it smells. But I fucking love it - it's gritty and the it's the perfect man-space. No woman would dare set foot it in. There's naked calendars and posters of women everywhere, motivationals that the modern day would call misogynistic but I would call tongue-in-cheek.

There's probably only about 8 guys in there who are regulars, this is their lifting and social hub. They probably have a collective IQ of a spare tyre but man are they crushing pussy left, right and centre. It's worth noting that's they're all fucking huge and I'm like a nerdy caricature from a sit-com. Initially I was terrified when I joined, there's all these massive guys and me. But they were nothing but supportive, getting me involved in their chat, helping me out with form, particular exercises I could do to bulk, etc. When you give men a space for them that is completely woman-proof (very much like here) then you just get a really supportive atmosphere you can't find elsewhere. I imagine the camaraderie in there in similar to that of an army platoon or something. It also helps with this that I wasn't an asshole or a pussy about joining the gym, they all said I had major balls and they were happy to have me and because I acted like I belonged there no one treated me any differently from anyone else. Anyway, the take-away from that is to find a REAL man-space. TRP might be your cyber man-space but for the love of god go find a real one.

So how did this initial bulking effect my LTR? Within weeks you could see a difference and she noticed it too. The sex just got 10 times better, she was saying she loved being fucked by someone so broad and everything else you can imagine. However the gains visibly slowed and her tingles died down, the honeymoon period was over. So what do you think happened next? She was content with this new, slightly-bulkier version of her man? Absolutely not. "So when are you going to have a six-pack?", "When do you get that V shape that's so hot?", "When will I see your calf muscles pump out when you walk?"... WOMEN WILL NEVER BE SATISFIED AND YOU WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH.

I just started laughing at her whenever she would say these things, they're essentially shit tests and I'd say that I'd have a six pack when she gets bigger tits or better at sucking dick. She'd act all offended, I wouldn't give her the apology she wanted and boom, tingles.

Lessons

  • The TRP is a vital knowledge base for those in LTRs, not just single men trying to hook up.
  • Fucking lift, for the love of god. If you're sceptical, go join a gym, do a few workouts and tell me you don't feel better for it.
  • LTRs are a viable lifestyle choice for men these days, regardless of this community's popular opinion. You just have to be alpha and on top of your game ALL THE TIME. Slip up and you might not be getting laid for a week or more.
  • Not really a lesson to just in case you think I'm an asshole, I'm lying, or whatever I don't really care. We used to have stretches of a month or so without sex, since I've implemented TRP theory into my life we've not gone longer than 2 weeks at any one point (it's usually a lot more regular but you get the idea), and I'd say that's pretty good going 4.5 years in.

Future Content

Here's some of the other topics I hope to cover with specific tailoring to LTRs:

  1. Decision making on every level - House moves to what's for dinner.
  2. The woman's emotional rollercoaster she has to ride everyday.
  3. Basic replies to LTR shit tests
  4. What emotional support you can expect from your LTR (not a lot but worth writing about)
  5. Getting mad and burdening your LTR - dos and don'ts
  6. Keeping up appearances
  7. The jealousy game
  8. "Hey honey I just got some great news!" - her first thought, "And how does that benefit me?"
  9. Fucking hate feminism and MRA (just victim complexes in any shape or form) but I have a piece to write about how new-wave feminism hurts women just as much as men.

Apologies if this is spewy and rambly, I plan to get better at writing. Please offer feedback, don't bitch and moan basically, I can handle criticism. And please spare me the fucking "She's older", "Don't get married", "She's cheating on you", etc. It's very boring - I'm here to promote good content and discussion for LTRs.

Peace!

EDIT: Just an an added footnote. I'm not Alpha Chad, I'm still scrawny by anyone's measure and I sometimes regress (by choice) back to playing video games and jacking off to porn. Being alpha when it's not hard-wired in you is fucking exhausting and regressing to beta behaviour isn't the biggest crime in the world. I still fail shit tests and can be beta at times, this is completely normal as far as I'm concerned. If that continued to the be case 10 years from now I'd punch myself but it's one hell of a steep learning curve. I've gone from complete beta to adding alpha traits and at the bare minimum, always being aware of TRP and the behaviours it identifies, even if I choose the lazy, half-assed beta option at times. I usually regret it after a week of dry dick but the key is learning, learning, learning.