Drinks. Get drinks. This is casual and will relieve pressure on the woman. Avoid dinner or anything fancy. Drinks. At a place with nice ambiance.
Meet around 7. Most people work until 5. Meeting at 7 means she likely hasn't eaten yet, which makes extending the date easier (if you want to go for 1st date sex/ONS).
Make sure that bar is close to your place. Like, less than a 10 minute walk. I'm lucky to have 3. They are also close to the liquor and grocery store.
Sit next to her, not across from her. Across from her feels like an interview and kino is tougher. Next to her is more casual and kino is very natural. You'll likely be touching elbows already...yeah, that matters.
Talk to her like you already know her. I can't coach outcome independence but just be confident and comfortable. Banter. Be fun. Laugh plenty. Lead her in conversation and let her do most of the talking.
The clock is ticking. Women give you 2 hours for a 1st date. Give them 1 hour. Unless you're going for the ONS.
Make sure you have some sexual talk in that hour but...if you're not very good with this, you may want to avoid it.
After about an hour, you should wrap things up. Don't kiss her. Pay for the drinks, you probably only had 2, which shouldn't be more than $20. If she ordered beer, the chance of ONS is higher. If she had 2 drinks, ONS and interest in you are higher. In fact, you may want to just go for it if she had 2 within an hour!
If you're going for ONS, around an hour, you should say you're getting hungry. Hopefully you're a decent cook and have mentioned this in conversation. Food is a great topic, by the way. You're going to ask her if she wants to grab a bite. She will probably say sure. If she asks where, say you're going to cook something and need to run by the grocery store first. Say this confidently, like its no big deal.
If there's no grocery store nearby, you should have food at home. Hopefully there's a liquor store on the way. Don't ask her if she wants to stop by the liquor store, just go in there!
Once you get to your place, set up in the kitchen and pour up those drinks. Your kino should've been heavy this whole time, by the way. Have her help you with preparation. While she's helping, you should grab her from behind and give her a few kisses on the neck. This is just a suggestion. As long as you kiss her within the first 10 minutes of being at your place. I'm not going to go into too much detail here.
You will likely deal with some ASD/LMR. Just keep escalating. Do not ask her to go to your room. Just lead her there. Pick her up if you can and carry her to your room. If she gives you a hard no at any point and pushes you away, you should stop. Most of the time though, you will get 'soft' no's.
Example: the other day, I was on a girls porch, and called her over to my lap. We started making out. I tried to put my hands in her pants. She took my hand out, took a deep breath, and started with the excuses. She was very bad at it, as it was clear they were excuses, as she gave me 3 different ones. The last being this is that time of the month. I just agreed. Then, when she was heading back inside, I gently slammed her against the wall and started making out with her again. We ended up having sex. She wasn't on her period.
This is just an overview but I hope it helps!
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