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[–]Gagassiz42 points 11 years ago [recovered] (26 children) | Copy Link
What's your age and age of your dates?
[–]Death_proofer 29 points30 points31 points 11 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
I'm 26 and the age of the dates usually range from 22-29. I did date a 36 and 49 year old tho.
[–][deleted] 31 points32 points33 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Cougars are great, I'm 19 and if I match with one I always open with be honest are you just on here to have sex opener. It worked for me the first time I tried it and I ended up fucking a 40 year old amateur bodybuilder that night. My 14 year old self would have been very proud
[–][deleted] 81 points82 points83 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How much did he bench?
[–]ObsidianOne 28 points29 points30 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
#rekt
[+][deleted] -9 points-8 points-7 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your mom
[–]lespaul210 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
26 year old me is very proud, both of and for you.
[–]MacFatty 14 points15 points16 points 11 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
I'd also think physical apperance would play part in this. With an app like tinder, it's the first impression that is the most important. It's a shallow dating app that enforces judging on first sight, so being physically fit is a huge bonus here.
[–]nicholt 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
It's almost the same as hitting on girls at the club. You have to first pass the binary yes or no test to have a shot.
I'm bitter about this because I'm not a hottie.
[–]MacFatty 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
Remember, the majority are normal people, and you yourself can do SO MUCH to your image with a couple hours effort every week.
[–]nicholt 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
,,,already doing it mate, faces don't change much, acne doesn't go away
[–]TheCityLight 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just go to the face gym man. /s
[–]KoneBone 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
but personality can grow :)
[–]nicholt 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Doesn't work on tinder :(
[–]polyfeux 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
acne
/r/acne
/r/SkincareAddiction
[–]nicholt 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Nothing I've ever tried totally 100% deleted my acne.
[–]dednian 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I once read there was a medicine that you could take that would dry out your skin extremely well and that it prevents acne but comes at the cost of having dry skin and apparently your lips become extremely dry too.
[–]woodman26 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah accutane. That shit works but it's hella expensive and there's lots of other drawbacks (no drinking, no pre/post workout, monthly blood draws) and you have to do it for six months.
Source: high school teenage me
[–][deleted] 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]veedurb 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I used accutane. Changed my life for the better.
[–]nicholt 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's accutane. I used it in my teens.
[–]RedBeltShaub 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Like what?
[–]MacFatty 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Workout, check your clothes and read up on fashion advices, get a hairstyle that suites you well, display 'fun' pictures showing you being active and not just staring into the camera of a phone.
Tinder, much like facebook is about showing the parts of your life that are exciting to hoard attention from your peers.
[–]Death_proofer 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree. A good first impression definitely doesn't hurt.
[–]CauseImBatman 24 points25 points26 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
My problem lately, is that girls open on me - we talk, everything is nice and fun, but let's meet up? "MmmNah.." (avoid topic)
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not enough sexual tension, youre not being flirty enough. Don't just have a comfortable friendly conversation where they get bored.
[–]Gravyness 14 points15 points16 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You're probably great at speaking in messages, I have to be careful to avoid that as well, basically try to text less and meet more, so if you want to talk to someone, arrange a meeting with them.
Become busy with girls that you already speak with, answer only one message each hour or two, this will give them reason to go out with you. If a girl has decided that she will not meet you (you have to notice when), become EXTREMELY busy, because she is literally not worth your time, she just wants someone to make her feel good, and that someone is you.
[+]mistressiris -12 points-11 points-10 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
omg she rejected you so you must think of her as not worth your time and further degrade her by saying ONLY to make her feel good?! you dont even know why she isn't meeting your expectations (nice"game" with the text. i just assume you're busy because you have a life; this isnt 1995 and we're waiting by the phone for it to ring).. you and her are not a good match and that is neither of your faults. you young guys need to stop being so afraid of rejection and quit it with the Projection as well.
[–]Death_proofer 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I think once the conversation on a certain topic is over you should ask them if they want to get a drink. Get to know them a little and they're more likely to meet you. If not they'll ask to talk a bit more first. I find the faster I go for the date or number the better the chances of a date are so I ask them what they're passionate about or personal questions.
[–]Gareth321 13 points14 points15 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Never post a shirtless gym pic.
OKCupid actually found you should be doing this - if you have the body to show off
[–]madhaxor 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
one, not 3, and if you arent wearing tap out or looking generally douchey, and show a genuine interest in being fit and healthy it will come off in a positive manner
[–]dancing_narwhal 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Huh. How interesting. This whole time I got the feeling Tinder is turning into a joke place where people are messing with their matches via the chat feature.
[–]Death_proofer 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sometimes I try messing with the girl if they keep responding but don't give me much. I told a girl our sex romp was going to have to wait fully thinking she'd unmatch me. She told me I was cheeky and we ended up going on a date. If you treat it like fun and don't give a fuck it turns out to be a lot of fun.
[–]gocougs11 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It is fun! It should be viewed as a game for sure.
[–]OtterAutisticBadger 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
you're also probably way more attractive than the average joe. I did all of these things as you said here, more or less... and could barely score 5 matches in 3months or so.
not even a date though.
[–]Death_proofer 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Way more? I don't think so. Do you say yes to everyone?
[–]OtterAutisticBadger 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
almost everyone, yes.
[–]Death_proofer 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't know mate. I just think putting out a positive vibe helps.
[–]FatManManFat 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why only 4 pics?
[–]gocougs11 24 points25 points26 points 11 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
Pretty much the only opener I ever use on tinder anymore is "💯👌🏻"
Pretty much every time get a response. It's either an emoji back which makes things easy to have fun with, or its "hahah thanks, how are you?", which then almost makes it seem like they are opening me.
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
What does the alien actually mean? I keep seeing it
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Recently, they updated emojis to have various skin tones. The alien represents whichever skin tone that the user selected.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ohhh I was starting to think everyone had became a Scientology follower or something ahah jk
[–]Shwecky26 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
that's what you see instead of an emoji. he's not really sending aliens. You might have to be on mobile to see it.
[–]EmptierVoid8 points 11 years ago [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link
I'm on iPhone yet I still see an alien
[–]Shwecky261 points 11 years ago [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link
depending on which iphone you have you might have to download emojis off appstore
[–]Mad102190 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don't download emoji support from the app store.
[–]FuckItAndRecord-8 points 11 years ago* [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
this is false, their software is just out of date. emojis come with iOS.
[–]Shwecky261 points 11 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
"Depending on which iPhone you have"
[–]FuckItAndRecord-11 points 11 years ago* [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
you still don't need to download emojis from the App Store you twat. not for any iPhone.
[–]Shwecky26 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
relax
[–]sraperez 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
what does the pink square mean?
[–]gocougs11 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yeah probably have to be on an iPhone, MacBook, or other emoji-enabled device to see it
[–]Aredreddit 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm on my Mac as we speak (well, type) and I see the pink square as well :/
I get the point though :)
Funny openers and avoiding the generic "hello" or "sup" usually get positive responses.
[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 11 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
This may also depend on the area too. Northern Virginia is pretty difficult. New York was easier. Around Arizona was easier too.
[–]Death_proofer 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My home town has 2million people.
Mine had 200,000, but I don't think it's so much of a population issue.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Haha well this makes sense. New Hampshire is a little harder for this
[–]kekspernikai2 points 11 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I'm in Northern VA, I do alright.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There are other factors that go into it too such as race. I noticed it's easier for white guys to get dates on Tinder than people of other ethnic backgrounds, but it's not like that's a reason for me to not try anyway.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
the further west you go, the easier it gets (Starting with the east coast, ending in Russia.)
[–]RobinKennedy23 -5 points-4 points-3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Tokyo is the hardest place I have encountered. I think they're all xenophobes in Japan.
[–]Wecanbefriendsnow 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tinder is not as popular here. Pairs is the most popular but all in Japanese.
[–]sunday_silence 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"about 8." What is that like 8 1/2 or 9 1/4??
[–]Death_proofer 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I can't remember if certain ones were from tinder or randoms from parties.
[–]sunday_silence 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
fair enuf. good luck.
[–]kuldeep_kap 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Do you mind sharing a few examples of your openers? I think that's one area I am struggling with.
[–]Death_proofer 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
/u/madhaxor
"you're not a Scientologist are you?"
"Hi, I'm unemployed and live with my parents"
"You look like mischief"
Or make a comment about one of their photos. Use your own judgement based on the pictures they provide of their profile on which one would work better.
[–]kuldeep_kap 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes I had a good success when there is something to go by with from their profile like picture or funny tag line, but otherwise it becomes harder, but this helps. Thanks!
[–]Dr_Leo_1964 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Worked for George Costanza
That's where I got it from and it worked for me.
[–]madhaxor 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
can you give a few examples of your openers or at least how you catergorize them
[–]kemar7856 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would also add not to give away to much details texting before meeting up
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Tinder is great if you use it correctly. It is a way to reach a lot of people quickly who you normally wouldn't reach.
I dated a girl for almost two years that I met off Tinder, and I have also had a few hookups from it.
Just don't rely on it as your only source of approaches or as a way to avoid your fear of approaching. That's not how to use Tinder. Just having going on in the background, and try to have normal conversations with the girls even if you have no intentions of seeing them
[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Meeting a girl on Tinder would be the biggest red flag ever -- how could you date someone from there?! (genuinely interested)
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
How is that a red flag? We texted for a bit, realized we clicked, set up a date, and we went from there. It's not much different than meeting someone on an online dating site. Tinder is basically that, but more streamlined and geared towards younger people
Tinder only has a bad rap because it combines the anonymity of the internet with the prospect of actually meeting up and it can have people act in creepy ways. Otherwise, it's just a great way to meet girls you normally wouldn't run in to. And you can do it while in class or traveling.
I don't even send the first messages on Tinder. I just collect matched and usually 2-4 a week send the first message. Of those, maybe 2 will go well enough to trade numbers and meet in person.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Fair question. I consider it red flag because Tinder is a hook-up app, or at least has the reputation of one.
My personal experience backs me up on this: the average girl I met on Tinder has probably met 10+ other guys already. I won't be surprised if she fucked at least 3 of those 10 guys. Personally I consider this a red flag. Given that most of the girls I meet are only 18-21 years old and have already had sex with 5+ guys.
Maybe I'm just being a prude but I can't seem to shake off the notion of labelling every Tinder girl I meet as a potential "slut". And I definitely won't feel comfortable to pursue a relationship with a girl from Tinder -- knowing that she probably always has another guy behind my back (I mean, it's inevitable isn't it).
Hope this explains my viewpoint, I'd love to hear from your perspective though.
[–]spldsz 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
if you stop being weird about sex, you'll have more+better sex. (hint: people who have sex more are typically better at it)
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow, uhh those numbers are definitely made up.
There are definitely some girls on there just are total sluts, which isn't a bad thing. They can do what they want.
Most girls on Tinder, just like in real life, don't instantly jump into bed with someone because: it is real life and it is the same population of women that you see in your area. It's not some magical Tinder population, it is girls who live than 100 miles from you.
I bet most of the girls you ask out in person have a Tinder profile or had a Tinder profile. (I think 600 of my 700 Facebook friends have it)
Tinder is just a very streamlined dating site/app. Some people use it to hook up,some just use it for fun, and others can have actual success with it in terms of relationships.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I completely disagree. Maybe it's cultural difference, but most definitely every tinder girl you meet already had some history (through tinder). Personally I won't be comfortable with a relationship with them beyond FWBs. And I'll definitely wear a condom to prevent STDs.
On the contrary, most girls I meet outside of tinder seem much less experienced and have less of a history. Granted women always lie about their n count but the difference of 10 to something like 2 is huge.
Also, it IS a different demographic were considering. These are girls that downloaded tinder with the intention of meeting guys, dating them, and potentially hooking up with a stranger. These are girls looking for a literal "quick fix". Contrast this with other girls that don't have a tinder, meet guys via social circles, and the majority of which would be more suitable for a LTR (which is what you're looking for).
[–]powerslave118 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Why? Some people just use it like online dating. Probably moreso in less built up areas, but still.
[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]powerslave118 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The last girl i met was super shy and our first date was climbing around the coastal rock face in our local area. Hardly hook up material, and neither am i.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I disagree with not posting a shirtless picture. You attract a different type of woman who wants a guy who goes against the grain. Now mind you my shirtless pic is professionally taken, but if you have it, flaunt it
[–]Death_proofer -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's fair enough but flaunting something is different than having her discover it in person. It's like being able to play guitar. Don't talk endlessly about how you play. When you're alone there's one next to you start playing. Seeing the look on her face is soo much better.
If you never get that far what does it matter. This is tinder not rocket science. Speed and electing some kind of emotion is key
[–]kingofthefall 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Are you white? Where I'm from even if you're 6/10 as long as you're a white dude you're fine.
That's...strange. I'm not white but all my friends say that helps me stand out.
[–]portalsdick2 points 11 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Mind posting your pics?
[–]Death_proofer 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
I do actually. I've been told I look like Vince from entourage only he's a 10 and I'm a 6 or 7. So basically his less handsome retarded cousin.
[–]Revuction 8 points9 points10 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You look like Drama?
[–]Death_proofer 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I said cousin, not brother.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you're a 8-9/10, would you think it'd actually be easy to get laid on Tinder?
[–]Death_proofer -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't.
[–]GoldenSorcerer1 points 11 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Where are you? Like, not specifically but, big city or?
I've been using Tinder for a while now, and while I think my profile could use some work, most of my matches are spambots, and I think its just a case of not really being in a high footfall place. But I could be wrong, maybe my profile DOES need that much work.
[–]Death_proofer 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I live in a place called Brisbane which is in Australia. Population is about 2.4 million. I live right in the city so that helps.
I live in Port Macquarie, which is only about 45,000 people. Lets just say it's not the same experience. I've met 1 girl off Tinder (just one activitiy date - no sex), and about 7 off online dating sites (5 i didn't get past the first date, 2 i had a fling with - one of those is current). That being said though, i've been looking for almost two years now. Pretty poor. It's just so hard to find people you find attractive, and who don't have kids here.
[–]Death_proofer 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Quite a few girls I've matched with have kids. I've only met with one who has kids.
It's about a 1 in 3 chance for me to find one without kids lol. It's tough.
[–]Justgolfdude 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Why no shirtless pics?
It screams insecure and desperate for attention. Insecurity is loud, true confidence isn't.
[–]Reptile00Seven 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Disagree. My main is a shirtless and I have had a new date every week due the past two months.
I think an OKC study confirmed that if you have a good body, it's better to show it
[–]fromdario 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Can I ask what city or state are you in?
[–]The_Child_of_Atom 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the write up, man :)
I've been thinking about trying Tinder and think I will give it a shot at the end of the month when I get some time off so I have time for dating (if it happens). I'll refer to this when making my profile!
[–]Braydawg9 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
play it by ear, lol.
[–]steelnuts 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
So after all these dates you didn't manage to hold on to one of them?
[–]Death_proofer -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I guess I'm just undesirable.
[–]steelnuts -3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you are trying to keep one, maybe you shouldn't be writing guides on how to treat women as cum dumpsters to breeze trough.
Yet here you are browsing a subreddit called seduction. I know better than to call a woman "bitches" and "cum dumpsters" so maybe that's why you're on here because you show no respect towards women. Don't act better than everyone else on here.
[–]SPER1 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
A little background on you. Do you have your own place?
I live with 3 other guys in a house in the city. I have my own room.
[–]acer_Asus 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I'm meeting someone in Melbourne CT off Tinder and I'm quite nervous in suggesting where to meet. I keep suggesting that she could meet at my hotel (I'm currently staying in one in CBD) cos that'd make it easy wouldn't it? But she keeps saying meet at her office at CT, and I don't know what that means. We didn't exchange much messages before asking her out and she kept giving me short answers so I was quite suprised that she agreed to meet. So two questions:
Thanks very much, Your fellow Aussie
[–]Death_proofer -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I'm in meetings all day so I can only leave you this response, sorry. What is she after? If she didn't specifically say she's after a hook up then trying to get her to meet you in your hotel isn't the way to go. Meet somewhere close by your hotel like a coffee shop or bar. Or even the half way point between your hotel and her office.
As for how the date goes just smile, keep the conversation casual, physical contact and have fun. You're probably better off asking other people on here how to have the date go well. Best of luck, mate.
[–]acer_Asus 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks alot, for the specific convo i posted it as a new subreddit here, so maybe you can read it and let me know your thoughts? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3dwvwb/meeting_a_chick_off_tinder_play_it_cool_or_all_in/
[–]Death_proofer -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'll take a look later. At work.
[–]lauraacullen 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
My Tinder bio; I'm a horny devil with no boundaries. If you give me what I want, I'll make your dick my space hopper and bounce on it for hours.
That's how Tinder should be used.
[–]ConradDunkel 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is pretty much everything I have cultivated from tinder. I'm 30 and I'd say I'm a 5 or a 6. Friends say im a 7, so subtract a point or two for the friend-shield. Also learned that the even the the DTF's still feel like they need to be courted. Asking for sex, I'm presuming, doesn't work at all. And I've been with 9's.
[–]Death_proofer 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've been lucky enough to have 4 girls who were only after sex (a miracle, I know). 1 invited me over for sex after about 20 minutes of talking. Another invited me over after a weekend of texting back and forward. 2 of which I still had to dine and wine to get them into bed.
[–]ConradDunkel 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Also, any girl that prefaces her profile with "not looking for sex," isn't necessarily not looking for sex. They just get turned off when it's flat-out asked for. The DTF's will ask for it, but you, the guy, just can't.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I wouldnt say there are any specific hint how to find a partner, if you do want a relationship, just be yourself and write what you feel is important. Dont fake your profile just to get lots of matches, those matches wouldnt fit you anyway.
Best way is to just do it your own way and be 100% truthful, when this chick/dude drops by and it clicks, its gonna last.
I met my gf like that, and im 100% sure it wouldnt have gone this well if i had followed ANY of those "advices".
[–]roostyspun 12 points13 points14 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
what do you find about his "advices" disagreeable?
I don't think he's saying anywhere not to be yourself...he's providing a bit of a template for someone who might have no idea how to "be himself" through an app on his phone.
[+][deleted] -7 points-6 points-5 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Profile: keep it short.. terrible idea. You want to point out the most important sure, but if you write more, they get a bigger picture of you. Not all positive stuff, needs negative aswell, else you will look like a saint which may cause confusion.
First date: sure to start simple, to not start with a movienight is good. But damn, if the girl/guy is up for some paintball och waterskeing just go for it.
Everytime you keep being yourself and get turned down you learn stuff. If you conform to every new date you will end up with a lot of disappointing partners when they really get to know you. If i match with a girl who hates guys wearing pink and id say i never wear pink id have to throw away half of my clothes. I love pink, and im not afraid to say it. And thats exactly what i tell whoever i would date.
If said date wouldnt accept it, its not for me, just move along.
[–]korben_manzarek 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
are half your clothes seriously pink?
Not exactly, but i like pink and got few pieces. Not the babypink though. Has to be the darker pink, called cerise if that means anything to you. :P
Im colorful overall, much yellow, green, blue, red, purple.. everything but white and black.
[–]Diece 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
this is awful advice. Good hearted but bad advice.
[–]Ervin_A8 points 11 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
"Just be yourself" Yeah, best advice you can possibly give. Bravo.
/s
[–]TreChomes 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That is good advice...
[–]mistressiris 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
the real step is know who you are. that's why people find this difficult when heard as dating advice. it's scary to look at yourself and not be certain that you are even secure with what you find. That is what you truly need to do. get rid of your insecurities and know your flaws, accept that you will get rejected for things you cannot control, and bare who you really are in a way that elevates you in your profile
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
never post a shirtless gym pic
You've clearly never been jacked as fuck. Girls make a pass on this if you're ripped enough.
[–]Death_proofer 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Being jacked as fuck only impresses other men. If that's what you want who am I to judge. I'm in good shape but don't have to rely on that to impress girls.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I never said I had to rely on it.
Being jacked as fuck gets all girls wet. It doesn't just "impress other men". It's ridiculous to suggest that and those who do have clearly never seen what it's like to be as ripped as that and the effect it has on women.
[–]Death_proofer -4 points-3 points-2 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
And once they see your testicles resemble peas they turn as dry as the Sahara desert. That's after you remove your tapout shirt that's laced in axe body spray.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Wow, someone is salty as fuck that they're DYEL.
[–]Death_proofer -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I don't speak whatever self loathing meat head language you're speaking so I have no idea what DYEL means.
duel yielding extra leg? is that a lifting term? I don't skip leg day so am I copping shit for that?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
It means Do You Even Lift. Extremely common term, like EXTREMELY. If you lifted with any regularity, you'd have come across it by now...pretty much daily.
Poor attempt at getting offensive by the way.
[–]Death_proofer -3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
I can tell you're a poser who doesn't lift and I don't want you to off yourself. You seem like the type who hates himself over something trivial like only being able to bench 1/4 his body weight. Perspective mate, you're alive, be happy. Go outside, talk to people and get off the meds.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You just made up a bunch of stuff out your head that makes no sense and has no relevance. You've gotten offended over me saying girls like jacked guys, which they do. I can't understand why that would bother you so much.
You lonely, lonely DYEL man.
[–]Death_proofer -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
you lonely, lonely DYEL man.
That makes no sense. You lonely lonely do you even lift man. Poetic. I'll let you have some thing going for you in life so enjoy the last word.
[–]forseti_ -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I really don't get the point of tinder. You can't choose the girl yourself and there is so much competition with good looking chodes. Just approach 10 girls on the street and have an instant date.
[–]txroller 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's not the only way to meet girls and it shouldn't be. To increase you chances of meeting your goal you need several online, phone and in person contact tools. No one should rely on just one method
[–]ScottRikkard -4 points-3 points-2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I hate it and dont use it. But thats the future. Still prefer day game over anything. It's how good stories are born. No stories from ''I got a match on tinder''... that sucks. I have tons of material from my approaches and as a confidence builder its unbeatable. But, it's not for pussies so I almost understand this ''fb/tinder generation.''
You're a god amongst men. I don't have the time for day gaming because I work 9-5. Tinder is good because you can do it while in a taxi, waiting at the airport or on the bus going somewhere. You can talk to 10 girls in one day pretty easy.
[–]ScottRikkard -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That makes sense in your situation. For those having the time I would still recommend day game.
[–]PM_ME_CUTE_SM1LE -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How do you think rules 1 and 2 apply? Can you say that you follow them and they have a significant impact on your success?
[–]Death_proofer 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I think pictures can get a girls initial attention. It's the first impression so I guess it doesn't hurt. Opening differently can make you stand out. The girl I was with last night told me she'd never heard my opener before and loved it.
[–]Okonkwo69 -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My Tinder broke on me and I can't add new photos. :/
[–]CSseduction -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Y'all are aware of r/tinder, no?
[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
40-50 dates to sleep with 8? Fuck me why do we have to invest so much time into these bitches.
[–]spldsz 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i think it's because of the "don't mention sex" thing.
if you want sex, you should mention sex.
[+]DirtyProjector -6 points-5 points-4 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I match with 100-200 girls every few weeks. I meet up with maybe 1 out of all that. We match and either no one messages or I message and they respond once and never again or not at all. It's a waste of time.
[–]remarkedvial 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
On the upside, at least you know exactly where you need to improve, right?
I hear ya though, if I was putting in that amount of work and only getting one date, I would also consider that a waste of time.
[–]DirtyProjector 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Do I? I'm not sure. How can you improve with no feedback.
[–]remarkedvial 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
OK, so I'm a sales manager and you have what we call a "conversion rate" problem, which is considered one of the better problems to have, because it's easy to identify, and the solution is well within your control.
Continuing with the sales analogy, we know (by your number of matches) that there's solid market interest for your product, which is really good news, because that's the hardest problem to solve, most companies that have this problem do not survive. And I'm assuming that you have the ability to close (you do well once you're on a date) given sufficient opportunity, so you just need to work on getting the meeting. And whether selling or seducing, this intermediary step is the same, you just need to better communicate your offering and build interest.
I don't know you so I'll use myself as an example here. What am I offering this girl? Well, I'm fun, witty, affectionate, and a little cocky, and girls like that, so my message should give her a taste of that and make her want more.
So instead of typing "Hi, how are you?" (which does not communicate my offering at all, because my offering is not being polite and boring), I type something like "Hey cutie, love that smile, you look like trouble and I'll be honest, I'm all about that."
If for example you are more of the traditional romantic and an academic, you might type something like, "Where have you been all my life? Reading poetry to you under a tree, yay or nay?".
And the best part about having lots of matches if you can experiment with openers and conversation, see what gets replies, see what you can get away with, see what gets you phone numbers and dates, see what gets you sexting... then develop a style that works for you.
Happy hunting.
[+]Orion053 -15 points-14 points-13 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I feel bad. I tried tinder. Met a girl in real life, through work, we've been together a long while now and we are deeply in love.
Now I feel like tinder is shallow. Huh.
[–]PM_ME_4_COKE_HOOKUP 15 points16 points17 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow dude, you're so superior
[–]Orion053 -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I just feel like internet dating and shut like that is just people trying too hard.
[–]Shwecky26 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A lot of people i know are 'deeply in love' with their SOs they met off tinder. It depends on what you're looking for.
Some guys don't have the luck of meeting an amazing girl in a comfortable place hence why they're on Tinder.
[+]Mr_CritiicaL -27 points-26 points-25 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
40 dates n smashed 8? Get your game up lil man.
[–]Death_proofer 11 points12 points13 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's funny coming from a teenager.
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