I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?

pierre_WaP · 2022-09-18T12:59:53+00:00

Hi mate, At least you are getting matches. I think you should continue with apps, and also do approach (like what all the others on here have said). Don’t ditch the apps all together. It’s still an opportunity to meet women

omega05 · 2022-09-18T14:12:35+00:00

I'm a slim due 6'0 dark skin and yes it's usually bbw who are bold enough to message me first. It is what it is

EducationalMeeting95 · 2022-09-18T08:29:16+00:00

Ditch apps

Go real world cold approaching.

notaproblem333 · 2022-09-18T12:54:28+00:00

You have some odds stacked against you. You’re ethnic, short, and your face is probably average. I’m not saying you should ditch dating apps, but bear in mind you’re not their target public, especially in the country you’re probably living in ( the United States ).

That said, there’s no short-term solution to your problem. You could start making 6 figures and subtly flex it through travel pics. You could also get a 6 pack and flex that too, while being careful to not come across as too try-hard. These are some possible solutions, but getting any of these things is gonna take you 2 years at best.

So for now you’ll be better off approaching women offline, where having game can actually make a difference. Online dating is all about how much money and looks you can flex while pretending not to be flexing.

greenlight144000 · 2022-09-18T11:53:57+00:00

You’re lucky you’re even getting matches

cormacru999 · 2022-09-18T22:04:44+00:00

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2022-09-18T13:00:08+00:00

Post your profile for me to review. I can usually spot the mistakes guys make, but you need to keep something in mind. It takes some effort to have your photos convey that you are a high status, powerful male. While we men only care about a woman's appearance, she cares about our lifestyle. That's why apps are so tough on men. They think they can get away with a couple of selfies like women do, but women can't tell from those photos of you are confident and if you live your life to the fullest. Sometimes they can. They read between the lines of your photos and bio and figure out - low status male.

5_7pickup · 2022-09-18T08:50:31+00:00

Same here bro. Dating apps were trash for me and I only matched with ugly or fat girls. So i said fuck that and started cold approach. Ive fucked dozens of girls in the last year from cold approach. All the girls are way hotter than girls i get matched with via OLD. From a pornstar to an actress to college girls. Cold approach is the way.

HumanChess111 · 2022-09-18T15:21:45+00:00

Working on your confidence and your “game” is your primary goal . Everything else is second. Second, yes obviously be lean , fit , masculine. Get a good haircut, classic or trendy . Get great skincare and hygiene. Get clothes that fit you and are “trendy” or cool for your age . And practice. . If you are using the apps make sure you have damn good pics showing yourself , lifestyle , and a few wholesome pics in proper lighting accentuating your best features

theKnightWatchman44 · 2022-09-18T16:36:45+00:00

Don't lose weight, gain muscle.

I'm your height at 5'7 and I'm 76kg with about 17%bf.

At our height, to make height not an issue, my size is almost enough. When I was about 20%bf and about 82kg I looked more jacked and got better reactions from women (with clothes on).

Hit the gym and eaaaaaat. Also approach in person, you'll he surprised how you can level the playing field IRL.

Btw: deadlift 190kg, bench 115kg, squat 150kg rn. Have been stronger when I was smaller before covid.

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-09-18T17:55:59+00:00

OLD should not be your primary source of pussy. Social networking is a safer bet. Invest in yourself.

You are dealing with better looks. Do not forgot to deal with work and social standings.

rdgarce · 2022-09-18T19:06:08+00:00

I am 183cm and have a pretty good phisique and overall everyone say I am good looking. I could tell stories of girls I met and laid with by cold approacing them on the street for an entire day but when I use dating apps I get 0 matches. What I learned Is that there Is nothing more important than using all the 5 senses while having an interaction (with a girl).

Dont let you down and just aim at beaufitul girls when you want to talk to someone. Dating apps should only be a plus and not what determines your "level".

P.s. if you dont like girls that matches with you on the apps, Just dont meet them. You will higher your standards and so your inner game and this Will help reach the girls you like more.

Orca108 · 2022-09-18T23:41:56+00:00

It’s simple. Don’t swipe on the BBWs.

I love BBWs, skinny girls, in between girls. As long as they are a good little spoon can hold convo and have that GAWK GAWK 9000, it’s on like donkey Kong.

herendzer · 2022-09-19T00:10:11+00:00

I apologize in advance for putting a number of ranking on the ladies but that’s how society ranks beautify 1 - 10. From my experience online dating heavily favors women. I am paraphrasing but I have read this statement again and again that a woman who is a 2 gets hit by a lot of guys who are 10s. So it’s going to be overwhelming for her. Imagine if 20 hot ladies that are 10 each, show an interest in you and then a lady who is a 6 shows up. Who you gonna respond to. You are most likely to get an action offline. I know it can be difficult for some. I am the type of person who hardly make an eye contact let alone approach a woman offline. But that’s what you have to do.

P.S. I am older than you and I started this online this just about when I was your age. It was one hella frustration for me. It made me feel I am not fit to be dating and made me put the p***y on a pedestal- extremely dangerous thing for overall your well-being. If I were back at your age, I would delete all dating apps from my phone and engage in a more outside social activities and keep meeting women there.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2022-09-19T01:53:51+00:00

You are not attractive enough yet. Lose fat, build muscle, dress cool, groom yourself better. Also, cold approach. Every guy gets better results cold approaching than online.

2022-09-18T19:15:31+00:00

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putcoolusernamehere · 2022-09-18T15:42:01+00:00

The answer to improving your dating life is always the same: looksmax and meet women irl

Bingo_is_the_man · 2022-09-18T19:53:44+00:00

Online only works if you literally have all of your ducks in a row. Have a sick job, be facially attractive, jacked, and have cool hobbies you can show off. I honestly have all of that, and even then it’s a bit of a swamp. The only things I have against me are that I’m only 5’11”, and im half Indian and half white. The most attractive women online will go for white guys above 6ft only. I use a mix of real life interactions and online as well and can usually get 1-2 dates per week that I’m interested in, but it’s an absurd and unsustainable amount of effort.

Kidcouger · 2022-09-18T22:25:35+00:00

Well buddy you're in the right place!

I hit the gym 4 days a week,

it's very obvious I'm into fitness but on the apps I would match with bigger girls I'm not that into. Or if I do match with a cutie sometimes we'll talk and it won't go anywhere but if I get them out on a date it's the same short lived romance

But once taking "seduction" more seriously and approaching women at bars or day game you'll find that it's the best and most effective way to meet higher quality women,

Dont waste your money on Tinder gold yet and keep hitting the gym, but you may want to work on your game as these two hand in hand will get you the smokeshow's

assemmmm · 2022-09-18T14:59:33+00:00

You cant apgrade a spon

Cscottbowser · 2022-09-18T17:53:27+00:00

Pay a hooker

recyclablebanthas · 2022-09-19T02:31:26+00:00

I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?

Dating apps often go through boom and bust. In a given region.

Sometimes it's important to realize that online dating methods should always be supplementary at best compared to a social life that exposes you to new people on a regular basis.

Long story short: you upgrade by giving yourself better options in real life. There are too many factors out of your control when it comes to apps.

UglyFromBirfff91 · 2022-09-20T00:23:46+00:00

You too ugly….. that’s all you’ll ever get. Sorry bruh

Feisty_Stuyiiyy · 2022-09-19T00:38:40+00:00

Lose weight (W0men hate fat men)
Get rich (W0men love money)
Get plastic surgery (W0men love superficial things) That’s what you gotta do.

kate_b87 · 2022-09-18T11:55:06+00:00

This is laughable. Let me match your energy for a second so you know how this sounds to women.

Do you think it’s fair to want to “upgrade” when most women will consider you a downgrade? No offense to short kings online!

Most women, even the upgrades mostly go for personality. Contrary to stereotypes, “upgrades” don’t like to be dated just for their looks and you’re giving a shallow vibe.

SolidPuzzleheaded984 · 2022-09-18T16:57:31+00:00

All right first of all, the hot girls you want on apps are going for top 10% dudes.

You are 5’6, why would a hot girl go for that when they can get a 6’2 dude in a second?

So how do you upgrade ?

Well you need to be either rly good looking or rich/clouted.

And you are in a weird area (average) where the fat and ugly girls want you.

But the pretty fit girls don’t.

Swoltergeist · 2022-09-18T21:54:38+00:00

Hop on testosterone to get more women, hop on test and tren to get all the women.

Hister333 · 2022-09-18T22:16:24+00:00

Felonies and face tattoos.

Think_History_5682 · 2022-09-18T23:04:15+00:00

Become more fit work out all the time...

2022-09-18T08:39:38+00:00

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zapadz · 2022-09-18T18:49:15+00:00

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puremaddafty · 2022-09-18T19:03:58+00:00

To be fair the majority of Americans are fat these days

Jadiv · 2022-09-18T21:42:54+00:00

Not many people talk to big girls... So when they talk to someone they try to establish a real connection... Some might say we're desperate

BrotatoJ · 2022-09-18T22:27:32+00:00

If Tinder, delete and recreate every month instead of paying. Your score starts high and goes lower because 1) ugly women are more valuable online than anywhere else 2) appa don't work to get you married.

Global-Bridge-6787 · 2022-09-18T22:34:55+00:00

Same height as you, man but I prefer bbw’s a new chubbier women. I could stand to lose about 30 lbs since I’m looking for a lean six pack ab look rather than a bulky look.

Ron_Armweak1995 · 2022-09-19T02:19:20+00:00

Go offline

Alextryingforgrate · 2022-09-19T02:31:13+00:00

Day game bud, get out on the street and go talk to everyone until you are able to chose the ones you want.

Daygamesimplified · 2022-09-19T03:12:18+00:00

Daygame

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-09-19T03:22:11+00:00

If you want thinner women (which every guy wants) then you’ll have to approach them in real life. Here’s a tactic to get in front of more babes, get a job as a bar tender, it works like magic.

RastaPilot737 · 2022-09-19T04:49:17+00:00

Apps aré just so superficial, so use them to compliment your dating life. You re better off showing confidence and attracting fit women irl than trying for the same type of chick at a dating app.

Dependent_Pattern_83 · 2022-09-19T11:42:12+00:00

You HAVE to go outside. I tell my luttle brother this all the time. He's 5'11", benches 275, with dreads, and still gets bbws online. I stopped wasting my time online years ago. I only approach in person.

However, if you got a big IG following that's a different story. If you are relying a on a literal dating app don't bother unless you have model-like photos or high quality photos that portrays a high quality lifestyle. Also bitches really read everything on your profile so you have to be a bit of a wordsmith and you'll STILL get matched with BBWs.

The reason why in person you get more choices is because you are giving women to experience you through other senses besides just looks. Your smell, voice, touch, can heighten her attraction towards you. Its STILL not easy, but it will help you break those barriers down.

I see indian dudes fucking kill it in NY once they get pass any limiting beliefs.

SalamanderNo3872 · 2022-09-19T21:37:32+00:00

I tried it one time... never again.. the level of insecurity was off the chart and I found that if you are not physically attracted to someone then its never going to work.

Title	I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?
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Date	September 18, 2022 8:18 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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