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[–][deleted] 184 points185 points186 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I’d try it out but read lightly my friend
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[–]Peesittindown 31 points32 points33 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Light as a shit after you eat a salad, not a steak.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Light as a shit after you eat aerogel.
[–]JXphile4 132 points133 points134 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You can try, but until she proves to you otherwise that for these future experiences she’s not an escort…you must continue to view her as an escort.
As the other commenter said…tread lightly. Or you could be down lots of money really quick
[–]splusm4 51 points52 points53 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Let us know how that turns out.. I'm genuinely curious
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
[–]adagiosa 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why not try it out though? I fell for people when I was a sugar baby.
[–]cutanddried 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Put a rock on it?
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Interesting! We have a similar idiom here, you "put a pin in it", instead.
[–]cutanddried 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Put a pin in it means book mark this to be done later. Opposite of forget it
Sweep it under the rug would be an equivalent
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[–]cutanddried 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Where are you from?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I just assumed he'd come back to this specific topic later and equated it as such.
I'd say sweeping under the rug would take more effort? For example, if you're trying to sweep an issue under the rug, you're actively trying to make sure no else finds that issue as well.
I just want to point out that we're literally just arguing semantics.
[–]cutanddried 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Interesting perspective
I like your take on it
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your take also makes a lot of sense as well, I'll probably start using OP's idiom irl too.
Never heard of it
Interesting
[–]ItIsICoachCal 82 points83 points84 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Escorts make money on repeat customers: they pay in full, are lesser risk, tip well, and are somewhat predictable as to when and how often they book. If an escort could block out all her appointments into known quantities in a nice regular schedule, they would in a heartbeat. As such, stuff like
even during “downtime” she would always laugh at my jokes while touching me and likes to cuddle after sex, to the point of ask to spoon
Is most likely simply part of the business, keeping regulars happy, as is the insta thing or sushi thing. It is possible she wants to see you outside of business? Stranger things have happened I guess, but dollars-against-rubies here, I would bet on her just being good at her job.
[–]obviouslybait 31 points32 points33 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She wants to maintain that relationship and get you coming back. It's part of her job. It's very likely she's expecting you to pay for it. Escorts aren't just for sex, they usually give emotional comfort, someone to talk to, build a relationship etc. It's all for $$$$ though, don't imagine that any of that is real.
[–]ChurchofCaboose1 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've watched interviews of escorts and some have mentioned they have plenty of clients who don't want sex, they just want a friend. Sad really. Some people are so cut off or feel they have to hide who they are to everyone they know, to the point that paying for a companion is the way to go for them.
[–]SonyHDSmartTV 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Probably better to just pay for a therapist at that point
[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Being an escort would kinda suck tho, having to fuck guys that have to pay for it, they probably aren't that hot. I knew an older ho, and she fucked some of the fattest, ugliest dudes imaginable, and they probably had like 4 inches.
[–]ItIsICoachCal 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ok thanks for sharing?
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Was just curious if that was just her, or most escorts? I'd be willing to do it occasionally if I didn't have to worry about getting shot or a swat team smashing down my door. I've met a few escorts in my life when I worked at a gas station in a city, and they were cool as hell. I knew, but never asked them for business, we just had a smoke and talked.
I wish this shit was legal everywhere, I'd probably do it regularly, a professional would be able to handle a really thick cock better than some of the women I've been with.
[–]ItIsICoachCal 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That was sarcastic. Idk what this has to do with anything I wrote, but you don't have to send me more. I do not care.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Whatever.
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[–]Cplpunishment03 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
Serious question. Why? Why does he have to move at her pace?
Is his desire somehow less valid? It’s okay only when she wants to?
Just being honest that doesnt make sense to me….. even given the Escort dynamic.
Happy to have my mind changed but thats how i see it.
FWIW i have no problem with Escorts and no i wouldnt purchase one….. mostly lol
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[–]fewbar2021 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
InstantSlut knows whats up.
Dated someone in that biz, here’s my take:
Look at it this way, dude. You’d hire her again right? Go to sushi. If it turns out she’s just trying to keep a regular excited/happy, then nothing about your relationship actually changes.
At that point, just see what she does. If all you say is true, she’ll let you know. If you haven’t picked up on any signs or spoken directly about the intent, you can ask her what her intent was.
And even then, if she’s truly just trying to secure a paid visit, you’re more than entitled to say “Hey, if this is a business relationship then I don’t like the vagueness that gives me mixed signals. If you want to see if i’d be available for an appointment, just ask me since we’re kinda already doing this, and I’m not gonna be an asshole about it because I totally understand trying to prioritize spending your time with clients who are generous/not a pain in the ass to hang out with/make you feel safe.”
Imo its an obvious part of the game to try to get a client hyped as fuck. They’ll get excited and tip well, hope for more, and it is… yes, an aggressive tactic. But like any aggressive tactic, its not an unpredictable one. Maintain your cool and assess the situation. She’s just trying to do her job, and you just dont want mixed signals. Fair as fuck to ask for that in a business relationship moving forward. You can both do you and feel respected or walk without flipping the table. Its never not an option, no matter how bad people wanna forget that.
So go to goddamn sushi and feel it out. Don’t feel bad if you werent reading her right, too. That’s the entire point of saying stuff like that. And since it sounds like you’d probably hire her again, don’t think of it as taking an L. Valuable experience that skyrockets in value if you handle it in a collected way.
TLDR: You have nothing to lose. If she’s just after $ and you dont like the mixed signals, you can let them know! That’s perfectly fair. And if not, don’t hate the player OR the game.
[–]Cplpunishment03 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I see your point, not sure if you see mine tho.
Im simply saying if she’s being friendly and offering a Girlfriend Experience and expecting money that’s absolutely acceptable.
If she’s actually wanting to pursue a romantic relationship with him thats also okay, but thats a two way street….. its okay for him to do it as well, or at least to try i mean.
I just don’t understand why he should have to “follow her pace”. Thats not how relationships should or do work
[–]fewbar2021 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Ohhh yeah missed your point. This was kind of my own tangent anyways, I dunno if I wrote it with anything you said mind. I thought i was replying to instantslut lol
Idk how 2 reddit tbh
[–]Cplpunishment03 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That makes 2 of us
[–]fewbar2021 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
In response to you anyways, something tells me you think “going at her pace” means letting her be in control at all times and disregard any of your best interest or wishes. To me, it just means take it easy, don’t pry right away and give that person time to initiate on their own terms if they have something to say. Like its a state to adopt for the situation, at the time. Thats my interp anyhow
[–]Cplpunishment03 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yep pretty much. That and dont make a move without her making one first.
I get your vibe but theres some stuff there idk just seems one sided.
Initiate on their terms? Ok…. But why? Why should he? Serious question entirely.
[–]fewbar2021 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Honestly the way you describe the situation makes it seem like you have control issues lmao.
Like, to answer your question “seriously”: sometimes people need a sec. Let her reveal her intentions. If she doesn’t, ask. If you don’t understand why, thats fine, you dont have to. You dont have to agree, either? Sounds like you just wanna disagree, but you arent really providing much of a reason why besides “why does she get a moment of space and autonomy before I launch into interview-mode, i dont like that”. If you can’t handle that, it was probably a bad idea to even imagine that you’d be interested in a relationship (assuming thats the goal) with a sexworker lol.
If you ask first, and depending how you do, you run the risk of rushing her or making her uncomfortable because you’re obviously just dying to know whats going on, and this person could be attracted to you but they don’t know what they want with you. They’re taking (possibly, remember) you out of a “visit” context (again, PERHAPS) FOR THE FIRST TIME, if it was indeed a real invitation and not just a sly “yo can we do this again when im back because youre a good regular and this is how i earn my bag”.
What about it is one sided? You’re still in control of yourself, and nothing horrible is gonna happen one way or another. If you’ve weighed your options and you’re already down to fuck around and find out…You dont have anything to lose.
Honest answer? Sounds like you’re just uncomfortable with uncertainty or are emotionally fragile. If you seek to control every situation, you’ll find a whole hell of a lot of pain. You’ll also fail! More pain!!!
AGAIN… This doesn’t mean “roll over and die and let her use/abuse you from this point forward until you fucking croak”. Like, give her a chance to make a move or explain. Makes sense?
If you wanna just come out swingin with questions, that’s not WRONG exactly, you just might throw someone off. You dunno what she’s thinking or how she may feel. No one’s telling you its illegal to ask right away. It would seem appropriate to me (and others, apparently) in this situation to give her a chance to figure her shit out.
Also, yes. People giving each other space, trust, autonomy, as long as no one is suffering for it…. That is exactly how relationships should work.
[–]Cplpunishment03 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Jesus. It wasnt that intricate.
I just think making the first move isn’t exclusive to just her.
No i dont have issues with control….. youre waaayyy projecting. Hence the novel
[–]fewbar2021 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
You literally asked for my explanation, and the simple one wasn’t enough for you lmao.
Hence the novel, dumbass.
Hopefully this was short enough for you! I know reading is very hard.
“Then she’ll let him know”
Nah.
He’s not in the wrong for shooting his shot and neither is she. Doesnt work that way.
But i do agree they would need to have a discussion no matter how they proceeded.
[–]DrixlRey -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Because as a guy our limit to reproduce is based on our access to girls, while a girl's limit to reproduce is access to resources, so there is already a clear dynamic of difference that most people subconsciously accept.
[–]Cplpunishment03 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If this were a long time ago i would agree….. but now we have equality
[–]PuempelsPurpose 59 points60 points61 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Tell her "I know we both enjoy spending time with one another, so this time, sushi's on you."
When you're out for sushi, take her out for a drink or two afterwards. Flirt, touch, etc., and then say "I want you to come home with me... I'm not going to pay you, though. I want you to come home with me because you want to."
Either she will or she won't. I don't have any experience with escorts, but if I was in your shoes, I would either fuck her for free like you want (assuming she is in) or I would fuck off and bang other escorts (if she isn't in).
Good luck.
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I mean at the end of the day, escorts have feelings and desires for relationships too if they meet the right one. Most of them are still human.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 35 points36 points37 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You are looking at this the wrong way. If you want to have truly seamless success wjth women and have all the power in a relationship, you need to internalize the attitude that you are doing them a favor by being with them.
Guys always look at beautiful women and think "gosh, I'm lucky I can breathe the same air as her, if I could just smell her pussy, I'd die happy or I will eat a foot of her shit just to see the hole it came out of". That attitude is extremely off putting to women because the last thing they want is a weak guy who sees himself as beneath her and is ready to sacrifice himself.
You need to reframe this relationship and tell her "I'm not really interested in having a transactional relationship with you. I actually find you quite interesting and easy to get along with. I want to take you out for a drink and spend time with you". This way you turn from a man who has to pay to a a man who approves of her not just for her body, but because of other personality and all the daddy issues that she has will instantly turn to "daddy approves of me and I get to fuck this one".
[–]Baron_Semedi_ 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think this is good advise if he is fully prepared to lose her services in case it doesn't work. She sounds like she gives fantastic service. For me personally her character, looks, or even her legit interest in me wouldn't be enough for me to sacrifice such excellent service. Plus in my book he's deluding himself to think that it's ever gonna be really free. If anything he'll be spending much more money if she is his girlfriend.
[–]Marcoscondit 39 points40 points41 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Why would she fuck you forvfree when she can get paid lol
[–]VerySlump 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is true, but not with someone who’s a customer... she will think that you expect sex for free from now on then. She’d rather keep you as a regular. Her personal preferences will be with someone who’s never paid her
[–]danindfw 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would imagine that you are one of the John’s that she trusts as a friend but would expect to be paid for sex.
Definitely tread lightly, don’t expect free sex as it could impair your attitude and working relationship with the girl, but if you get it we’ll, free sex!
He might be hot, have a big cock, or treat her with respect. Most dudes that pay for it do so because they can't get any.
[–]mchief101 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Dont get attached, it’s the worse feeling ever knowing that ur going about ur day but in ur mind u know shes slamming other men. It sucks….
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[–]cutanddried 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
With that attitude there is nothing standing in the way
Why not just see what happens?
That's cool
I just don't agree. If you can manage to not get attached or too hung up on the idea, what's the risk? Maybe loose an escort... Not really a large risk, so what if it fails.
If it does fail you may become better at recognizing what is genuine attraction vs professionalism.
I think the others are wrong
[–]mchief101 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Iv been through this experience and as my feelings and attachment got stronger, i could not stand her doing intimate things with many random men. It was absolutely destroying me mentally and financially like really bad. I couldnt focus on my own life at that point so in my opinion its not worth it and i am glad i went no contact to get over her. Put energy into finding a real girl :)
[–]indrid_cold 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Prolly trippin but go for it anyways. Be aware she can be a totally nice person but still view everything as a transaction, that's just survival skills in her world.
That's the sign of a sociopath though, so I'd be careful. They see people as objects, and everything is transactional.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re a customer not a love interest. Keep that context in perspective while assessing her actions.
[–]PondScum420 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It happens man, I know a lot of sex workers. One is dating a long time client now, and I’ve known sex workers to eventually fuck clients for free. Not saying it’s the norm, but it definitely happens
[–]wooshoofoo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You probably don’t want to hear this, but this sub is full of men trying to seduce women. Why not go into /r/sexworkers and actually ask real sex workers?
Answer: because you already know the truth. She’s really good at her job. Once you’ve entered into a client relationship, it’s work. She’s not gonna do it and you’ll ruin what good relationship you DO have so far.
Don’t do it man!
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bro you catching feelings for a hoe? Smh, you could do better. If she’s an escort than she’s going to be nice and be fake that’s all apart of the job. Be safe tho
[–]orionshat 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No bro, there’s nothing there. You’re trippin, she wants money.
[–]StraightBait30 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she initiated the sushi hangout then it’s probably not a work related activity. As everybody is saying though, be wary of it. I don’t see a problem with asking her during the meal and just asking “oh man I’m surprised you wanted to hangout with me outside of work” to kind of see how she reacts. That might tell you if she views it as another res pet duty or if she genuinely likes hanging out with you
[–]spicy_simba 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It doesn't hurt to be open and transparent and just ask if there is something more there or if its just some loyal customer perks.
That will quickly stop all wondering and to know what's what.
[–]coldbrew18 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Her job is to arouse you enough that you push your wallet out of your pocket. She’ll probably ghost you if you ask for a freebie.
[–]kuavi 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Have you spent money on her?
If yes, you are her client. She may like spending time with you but you are her client. Do not get that confused.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why are so many r/seduction posts about trying to find out if you can be in a relationship with someone you pay for sexual services? What is there to seduce? You already pay her for sex. Are you trying to get sex for free? Convince her to quit her job to see you exclusively and lose her income? What do you even want out of this?
[–]mralpha98 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Joe mom.
[–]SpookyKG 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This ain't dating advice.
You're haggling.
Just pay the girl what she's asking for.
[–]emperatrizyuiza 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly
[–]skinisblackmetallic 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wouldn’t be sure until she paid for the sushi.
[–]iamthatguyiam 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If I were regularly sleeping with a woman I liked and she was banging 5-10 guys a day, I would not be down. Everyone is different but do you think you won’t develop a disdain for her sleeping with all these men?
[–]Skydiver860 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why not just find a girl who wants to fuck for free? No judgement about seeing an escort but she’s being paid to pretend to like you. Chances are she’s just being friendly so she can get more business from you. I could be wrong but I think you’re better off finding a woman that you haven’t had a transactional relationship with who is just looking to fuck.
[–]comacove 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
lol
[–]creamyturtle 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
totally possible. I've converted a couple strippers into housewives and it's just like you say: when you feel the vibe forming, just start inviting them to regular people stuff. you will see they are hella regular degular just like everybody else and proceed from there
[–]All4upvoting 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like she wants you to be one of her regulars. Nothing more.
[–]BostonConnor11 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m sorry man but the most successful escorts are the ones who are most manipulative. Tread lightly. You wouldn’t have to pay her if she genuinely liked you.
[–]MrNaturalInstinct 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It can be done.
As others have said, tread lightly.
Don't go T-Pain and "fall in love with a stripper/escort". Let her fall in love with you. Keep doing what you've been doing. Let the cards fall where they may.
I'd be direct.
Ask her intentions for going out for sushi. What does she want going forward? "Is this still a business transaction to you or something more?"
You're asking us our interpretation of a dynamic we're not privy to. Man up and make her get to the point so YOU aren't mislead into thinking it's anything more than her securing a solid 'John'.
I learned the hard way, LAST thing you want is to get emotionally invested in an escort who 'knows us men inside and out', and will use that knowledge to their benefit.
She deals with many, many men and has fine tuned her ability to know what makes us "tick", and it's "working" on "you". If it's genuine, you can relax a bit, but still, not to much because she's still "sleeping with other men as her job besides you", and that can get tricky if you both fall for each other and she's not willing to quit.
Hired Hands are the toughest nuts to crack sometimes, but when they like you, they REALLY like you, because you're not like the other guys they do business with.
[–]Baron_Semedi_ 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro, don't fuck this up by getting involved with her. She is a great provider, leave it that way. Everything you see from her is what she wants you to see. You really don't know her.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good luck, I used to be a male model and my cock is 3 inches wide, and zero hos have offered it for free. I knew a couple. Didn't pay for it though, I didn't have an issue getting it for free from women.
[–]Skizznitt 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Here's the other thing that no one mentioned. So say she really is cool with dating you, are you okay with dating a chick that fucks other dudes for a living? If you're expecting she changes professions for you, don't, you'll be setting yourself up for disappointment.
[–]changthaiman 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Just went through this myself actually. Overall, she’ll never respect you because you paid her the first time. Don’t catch feelings. Please don’t.
[–]changthaiman 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eh she stopped working for me and it was great for a year, but eventually went back to her ex boyfriend. I wouldn’t say she scammed me but she was definitely a pathological liar
But we had some good times. Just don’t catch feelings, that’s all. Girls that go in to that line of work usually have some mental issues
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmaoooo bro come tf on 😭😭
[–]Ivabighairy1 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Every guy out there is trying that. She’s making her living off of them. Same with you. You’re no different than any of those others. She’s going to play you like a Stradivarius.
[–]Renshato 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]TiNyUzi -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nah bro see thru the bs. If y'all already smashed a good 4 times I feel like she's just tryna keep you hooked. Doing things that u wouldn't expect (spooning, sushi, following on IG) all ultimately driven by money. Even if she was "interested", she knows u paid her 4 times already and presumably has what she wants in a man. Personally, I would want someone who truly wants me for myself but u do u.
[–]vandaalen -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why? There are billions of women, why do you want to go through the fuzz of dealing with a damaged woman?
[–]shinymusic 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would run. This sounds like terrible heartache and alot of BS.
[–]Ok_Independent_487 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I always ask them if they want to go out hand out with me after work :D
[–]Purplegetraenk 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a friend that managed to have a rich escort 10/10 insta model type fall in love with him. He’s a good looking guy and we happened to live in a luxury villa…
[–]ChurchofCaboose1 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean I guess if you're ok with knowing your potentional partner is sleeping with who knows how many guys, go for it. If you can't be cool and accepting of it, steer clear. Don't go out with her hoping to talk her out of having sex for money. You should never date someone in hopes of changing them. It would be one thing if ya'll were dating then she decided she wants to be a escort.
[–]Nullroute127 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your situation isn't something I can identify with personally; I've never used an escort.
However, thinking about your problem and your goal my strategy would be to disappear for a bit. When/if she inquires just say you've had a great time but you're investing your time into genuine relationships. If she's actually into you she'll pursue you. She'll be somewhat indignant if she feels your relationship was genuine. "You mean we don't have a connection?" To which you might respond, "Things are murky when my bank account is involved." How she responds after that will be your sign.
She's probably used to dudes falling over themselves to her, so you need to do what the clientele doesn't.
If not, she'll be probably give you the soft, professional disappointment, "Ah well let me know if you ever want my company again."
I've met quite a few sex industry workers. If you ever talk to them many of them are Hollywood level actresses. I had a dancer tell me, "I've got a regular coming in 5 minutes, guy is such a creepy douche bag but he's got loads of money." The when the client shows up she's all smiles, hugs, laughing at his jokes, etc. Even though she just told me what she really thinks. Even KNOWING it's an act I was hard pressed to be able TELL it was as I was seeing it in front of me.
They'll stroke their hair, point their feet towards you, constantly touch, get in close, etc. they'll toss all the signals at you, but they're spoofed.
Women understand us more than we do them. The clever ones are able to weaponize that for their own ends with near pathological precision.
[–]TheRiverOfDyx 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
From what I hear from Vice - it’s vice, take it with some salt - is that an escort is a little different from a prostitute. An escort is basically a girlfriend without the title, actually it’s more like a date. You’re on a date, this girl has her career picked out for the moment, being an escort. Doesn’t need you to recommend a career change, that’s her decision, and besides it will be WAY more work for you trying to be captain save a hoe if she does switch jobs anyways. That’s her stuff to work out, not yours, so for a better night just don’t come near that conversation.
If she offered sushi, you could have questioned if it was for an actual friendly dinner date or for the next time that she comes over, if you understand what I mean.
[–]peewee369 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go light, try a couple of times not to pay her and let her make the first step showing you that you are not just a safe, regular customer. Be a leader like hard to get and try to make her wanting you.
[–]whiplash81 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you've already paid, then you're a John and that's not going to change.
[–]Ectoplasmic1984 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
so you have paid for sex more than once already? any regrets about it or was it an overall good experience?
[–]Casanova-Quinn 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
even during “downtime” she would always laugh at my jokes while touching me and likes to cuddle after sex, to the point of ask to spoon.
She's just giving you the "girlfriend experience", that's normal for good quality escorts.
said we should go out to eat sushi
And she's probably expecting you to pay for it.
Honestly, none of her behavior you mentioned is "special", she's just a good escort. That said, you can still try it, there's nothing to lose. I'd bet she'd give you free sex once in a while if you continue to be a good customer, but not regularly.
[–]mhairabi 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
>We genuinely get along and we vibe together.
you'll be amazed by how many people are good at faking this, escort or not...
Do it
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