Should you tell a girl you're a virgin before losing it?

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-02-08T15:06:42+00:00

Don’t tell her unless she directly asks you.

If she does, put a POSITIVE spin on it.

Tell her you didn’t put yourself out there that much in the past, but you’re changing that about yourself and you’re glad that you met her

FilthyStylish · 2022-02-08T11:44:31+00:00

Not all girls are the same. Some girls may find it undesirable and eventually lose interest in you but others will be just fine. Regardless there is no need to tell her anything unless she explicitly asks you which she likely won’t.

NNNuka · 2022-02-08T11:24:56+00:00

If they ask, be honest. But if it's not brought up, then I would not say anything

Electronic-Ear11 · 2022-02-08T14:26:44+00:00

If you just want sex with that women, then LIE. If you are looking for a relationship then avoid this subject or be honest, don't LIE

Ordinary_Yam1866 · 2022-02-08T14:15:48+00:00

Treat it like you're in court. Never say anything more than you absolutely have to, everything you say can be used against you, and if specifically asked, you're under oath, so answer truthfully.

joshuatreesss · 2022-02-08T13:41:59+00:00

I mean, you don’t have to but whoever you get with will be able to tell for sure.

From experience being with virgin guys, you probably won’t be able to get it in yourself and will have to work out positions.

Ultimately you do you but most people don’t care if they’re decent.

Nocoxs · 2022-02-08T14:17:57+00:00

There is no reason to tell as long as you are educated on where you are supposed to stick it and all other shebang.

Other than that there is basically no difference if you are a virgin or had sex once or several times, especially when you are with a new girl. A virgin CAN (not necessary will) easily be as good as a guy who had 5 or so one night stands with different women.

Juiceunderthetable · 2022-02-08T14:19:01+00:00

If they’ve had experience they will be able to tell without you saying anything.

SnooSketches6409 · 2022-02-08T18:24:40+00:00

Learning about boundaries can be a life long process. Learning about what to share or not share takes a lot of thought and practice. Opening up about yourself makes you vulnerable. Being vulnerable can open up layers to relationships previously unknown.

almighty_nsa · 2022-02-08T12:14:35+00:00

No. Try to avoid the subject at all costs. Most women dont care about it, but it absolutely ruins it with ones that care about it. So just lie, women would lie about their virginity aswell if they could.

thelambofdeth · 2022-02-08T11:41:12+00:00

MikeAlphaGolf · 2022-02-08T18:38:14+00:00

It’s almost never a good idea to discuss your N-Count with a partner. No good can come if it, and you should be aiming to cultivate an air of mystery about your life. Most men spew too much information about themselves at the first sign of female interest. It’s boring. Being a virgin is no different. If you’re 16 and fooling around with your first girlfriend then maybe you can talk about being a virgin. If you’re 27, there’s nothing to gain telling her you’re a virgin. She can probably tell by your inexperienced fumbling anyway.

reaprofsouls · 2022-02-08T15:34:32+00:00

No don't bring it up. I was in the middle of sex with a soon to doctor (29f). She leans in and was like I'm a virgin.

O.o I was like uhh... Should I continue? (We did) But literally contemplated my life up to that point for the next 5 hours.

theantinaan · 2022-02-08T17:46:54+00:00

It’s up to you. If you know the girl decently well and can anticipate her being supportive, it’s good to tell her. That way, any awkwardness or inexperience on your part can be explained away pretty easily. And if she’s willing, the girl can take the lead and guide, making the experience less stressful for you. If it’s like a one-night stand situation or something, you don’t have to say you’re a virgin. If it comes up, don’t lie, cuz once you have sex she can tell. But bringing up your virginity definitely sparks a conversation and not every girl knows how to handle it, so if you wanna avoid that dynamic, maybe it’s best not to mention it.

I always think honesty is best when it comes to sex, but losing your virginity isn’t as high-stakes as you think it is. It takes practice to be good at sex, so your first time is probably gonna be a little underwhelming, which is normal. Just do what you gotta do to get it in, it doesn’t really make a huge difference in the end.

drgreen987 · 2022-02-09T00:19:41+00:00

Never, fake it till you make it, you’ll thank me later

7heFr3ak · 2022-02-08T12:53:34+00:00

no, most women will think you will become clingy and needy after the act so they prefer if you aren't. Just lie and say you've had 1-2 ons so her expectations wont be high.

MrStallion22 · 2022-02-08T14:01:32+00:00

Absolutely not!

skeletor69420 · 2022-02-08T15:05:33+00:00

I didn’t, you don’t have to even mention it

RomanH101 · 2022-02-08T17:46:25+00:00

NO, I repeat do NOT tell her you’re a virgin.

420villian · 2022-02-08T18:12:43+00:00

No no no

IsaacsApple · 2022-02-08T19:04:12+00:00

I didn't, she knew. Haha good times....

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-02-08T22:32:10+00:00

I told her, I mean she was kinda confused cause I was good at escalating so how would I do better at it than if I had any past experience before. The difference was I was just confident making moves even if they were wrong, then one step back, get the vibe good again and try again without any hesitation. So if you're confident with your moves the girl will probably get along with it better then if you hesitate doing anything. Trust yourself that what you're gonna do will work out and tryna be as outcome independent, cause girls likes it and before my first date that was my starter frame I put myself in. I've never been in a date before, never kissed anyone, never hold anyone's hand so whatever will happen will progress for me, if it's sex, it's sex, if it's just making out in a park then it's still much more progress than nothing. So be confident, enjoy yourself, dare to make the interaction forward and then see where it goes.

Imreallytired2301 · 2022-02-09T00:17:56+00:00

No need to tell anyone, just go in lol

schmidter7 · 2022-02-09T03:15:48+00:00

I probably wouldn't. There are lots of girls out there who won't bang a virgin. They don't want that responsibility Plus you leave her wondering why. You'll lose major attraction points.

DrewDaMannn · 2022-02-09T05:27:37+00:00

My first time I told her I had been with two partners in the past. She was fun and mad attractive, I just didn’t want to make a big deal out of it so I lied. Do I regret it? Not really, but tbh this is the first time I’ve really ever told anyone and it’s a big weight off my chest.

AdApprehensive5945 · 2022-02-09T06:30:22+00:00

I told her I was a virgin and then I put my penis in her.

No_Deal1141 · 2022-02-08T12:12:39+00:00

I would be honest, most likely she will know by the end of it anyways. Atleast she will know what to expect.

chilihummus · 2022-02-08T12:16:29+00:00

No, but IF you’re gonna say it: Wait till you’re in the act.

HarryHoodwenie · 2022-02-08T15:27:23+00:00

Just put it in and stfu

PondScum420 · 2022-02-08T16:28:55+00:00

Depends on the context. I didn’t tell her it was my first time, was slightly embarrassed because I was 20. It was more or less a one night stand, she couldn’t tell I was a virgin. I didn’t even really regret how I lost it even though it’s an unremarkable story. Kinda destroyed the illusion of sex being some life changing experience

Travis_Varga · 2022-02-08T16:29:34+00:00

Depends on what your and her relationship goals are, if you and her are looking for a serious romance for pursuing happiness, then I’d say you probably should, especially since your virginity is mostly likely not going to be a deal breaker in that context.

I can’t really think of a relationship goal where not telling her would be a good idea, unless you were in a situation where you two unexpectedly decided to have sex and saying anything would mean breaking the flow. Though, I don’t know if that sort of situation is even possible when you’re at the age that it’s unlikely that you’re a virgin.

AnonProgress22 · 2022-02-08T16:36:21+00:00

You can even take a mic and announce it to the world like the Andy from The 40 year old Virgin.

IndecisiveHimbo · 2022-02-08T20:00:00+00:00

From personal experience, I told her that I was and she became even more motivated to fuck my brains out. Ymmv

saryiahan · 2022-02-08T21:32:52+00:00

If you’re in a relationship with her she’s not going to care about you status bro.

asd1234red · 2022-02-08T22:26:20+00:00

Not unless they ask. Tell them after. This girl I really wanted to fuck knew I was a virgin and as she was taking off her panties on the second date and kept asking are u sure? Are you sure? And said some shit to convince me otherwise lol but in hindsight maybe it was the good thing

originalgainster · 2022-02-08T22:53:11+00:00

Nope unless you're about to insert.

Raf-98 · 2022-02-08T23:18:05+00:00

I lost my virginity when I was 25!! I didn’t tell her and she did not notice! So, don’t tell her unless she explicitly ask you! It only gonna be awkward if you make it awkward!!!

TexRetroTech · 2022-02-09T01:01:53+00:00

I say that to every girl I have sex with. Just kidding. I think you should tell your sexual partner exactly as much as you feel comfortable sharing. No more and no less

peterpiper9876 · 2022-02-09T01:44:50+00:00

Step up your cunnilingus game at least. That was sort of a joke (posting after a few lol), but in all seriousness remember what Alec Baldwin said in Outside Providence: “Making sex is like a Chinese dinner: it ain’t over until you both get your cookies”

https://youtu.be/VFk4S8JlapQ

CosmicTea6 · 2022-02-09T01:46:42+00:00

No 😂 after, stay mysterious

latinoinheat · 2022-02-09T02:16:29+00:00

it all depends on how serious u r wit the gurl. if u are in a serious relationship she should understand but if it's not serious then I wouldn't mention it.

jewgoodbroo · 2022-02-09T02:50:52+00:00

Honestly, if you aren’t comfortable enough to tell her you are a virgin or she cares enough that you are a virgin that she won’t have sex with you, I say find a more worthy girl to loose it to. Remember your worth always.

WolverineTamer · 2022-02-09T02:58:43+00:00

No! Never!!

d4rthque · 2022-02-09T03:54:57+00:00

Only if she sticks with you. Even then I’d recommend waiting until you propose to her. Imagine how happy she’s be! Good luck 👍

Backheelfields · 2022-02-09T04:05:22+00:00

Just lie please

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-02-09T04:21:42+00:00

If u rlly are, the NOPE

If you’re Chad, then YEP

Godsidious2 · 2022-02-09T05:07:22+00:00

nut and move on

ikeamcbruh · 2022-02-09T05:55:58+00:00

Definitely let her know. If she is an ass about it then it’s not worth sleeping with her anyway

incognito3107 · 2022-02-09T08:32:10+00:00

No reason to tell her straight, just be prepared how to do your things :)

danifearless · 2022-02-09T09:55:27+00:00

Only if you want to. Its really not that big of a deal

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-02-09T10:07:00+00:00

Do want to tell her? Why?

ArjunVermaReddit · 2022-02-09T10:48:30+00:00

Why would you do that? Why would you even ask us that? Virginity is not that big a deal

StandardAd1989 · 2022-02-09T11:53:31+00:00

Only when you're already balls deep, just before you cum for the bants

EvidenceBorn9700 · 2022-02-10T00:53:17+00:00

My second told me thought it was super hot I was a virgin plus one and that she always wanted to be a guys first time. Shes a therapist and a great artist and pretty hot. She sent me an intro on okc.

She gave me bad wine and we came at the same time on our second night in person. She was surprised how good I was with boobs. I had experience with those when I was religous lol. The sexual chemistry was good and we ended up together 4 months and I learned all sorts of kinky things from her.

The women I first had sex with before her was an adjunt english prof with 4 cats I met on okc..

After the second date I asked and she said she only saw me only in a friendly way. ..Well the day before Valentine's I wrote a dirty story 'about a woman you would never expect' and texted it to her. It was half just my imagination and half about a not all the way experience I had. We texted back and forth about how wet we were getting and she told me to bring over dinner and to fuck her so we had our third date.

She knew I was a virgin but it wasn't a big deal to her either way. There wasnt much foreplay, she's the still and silent type during sex and I was nervous as hell. She offers me a pot vape but I had never done that and thought with my luck I wouldn't be able to get it up on drugs lol.

I didn't feel a lot of sensation on my penis because of the nerves but I performed well. I got her off a second time with my fingers . I was happy for the experience.

The next day i sent her a lot of texts and she lost interest in me.

I could write dozens more paragraphs about the second awesome woman but I won't lol.

I had the same thoughts as you about should I tell or not but I ended up talking about it anyways lol. Couldn't help myself.

Title	Should you tell a girl you're a virgin before losing it?
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Date	February 8, 2022 11:20 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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