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Krative_Lifestyle · 2022-01-12T17:45:48+00:00

My worst trait when I started dating, is that I would be way too invested after 1 or 2 dates. I now keep myself realistic, and understand these women are talking to 3-5 other guys. Keep expectations low, and whatever happens, happens.

SaltLeader3687 · 2022-01-12T14:50:48+00:00

Was ghosted last week by a girl who I met in real life at a New Years party. She also showed high interest on the date and she even initiated the kiss at the end. I think it’s probably not anything you’re doing wrong, it’s just that you get lost in an ocean of penis and these women have tons of good options if they’re attractive. They’re probably talking to multiple guys as well and that’s why they ghost

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-01-12T16:03:03+00:00

Yes, it happens. Girls will act one way on a date and then change how they feel about you on a whim afterwards. Best thing to do is to not expect any consistency from them until you've slept with them at least 3 times.

If they fuck you once, it doesn't mean anything. You might be shit at bed and that's why they don't want to see you again.

If they fuck you twice, there's a good chance they like you, but they might also still be testing the waters and decide they're not actually into you so you still shouldn't expect anything after that.

If they fuck you 3 times though, it means they're into you for sure.

KingAJ032304 · 2022-01-12T18:16:12+00:00

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bigwavedream · 2022-01-12T19:03:48+00:00

Texting a few days later is the issue

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-01-12T16:16:20+00:00

Women can be fickle with their emotions. It’s kind of like a tank, they’ll get an emotional high after being around someone and experience a high level of intensity for a short period and it will be depleted. It’s just their nature in early interactions.

You might have acted too eager or were too available after the date. If a guy comes on too strong, their red flags go up and they feel trapped. Sometimes, it’s nothing that you did specifically, they just don’t feel an emotional connection with you to the point where they want to continue on with you.

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-01-12T15:18:34+00:00

Maybe they simply wanted a ONS?

sudokill9 · 2022-01-12T23:51:17+00:00

I got ghosted after a great first date. She even said that I look better in person than the pics, tf what that supposed to mean. But you know the saying, don't disturb the ones who ghost you, respect the dead

PetroBooming · 2022-01-12T18:34:06+00:00

Had sexy time with this one girl and she just ghosted me. Kinda weird experience but okey...(She does live rent free in my head)

Jay-G · 2022-01-12T22:13:50+00:00

Absolutely. It’s not a sign that you did anything wrong, that’s just one of the variables that comes with this game. Sometimes you can do your very best, and make no mistakes and still lose, it’s not fair it’s just life.

Not that it’s important but there’s a few reasons that it could’ve happened. She’s playing the field as well, and there was someone else who ran games just as well as you did, but was just slightly more her type. She’s still not over an ex, and used you as a way to test the waters. She could feel slutty with how she acted with you if that was out of her comfort zone, especially if she had a few drinks to loosen up. Women aren’t known for their amazing communication skills, she could be having some life issues going on and it’s easier to ghost you than explain things to you. Or a million other different reasons that could be your fault, or have nothing to do with you at all.

The main take away from this occurrence is to just get your reps in. It’s an ego hit and it stings, but after it’s happens 100 times it’s no big deal anymore. In the pick up community we always talk about just getting out there and fucking up, this is one of those times. It’s all about letting it happen so you can feel it, and adapt where it no longer bothers you. You’re just getting your numbers up. For every hot girl that you take on a date and ghosts you, that’s one more experience you can learn from, enjoy in the moment, and chalk up in the column. One more date that you got to experience that some loser sitting at home all day would kill for. I’ve had women flake on me hundreds of times, and at first it really hurt and I racked my brain to figure out why it happened. But I realized, it wasn’t me. And my friends that are still 25 and are virgins and don’t do anything with their lives would kill me to go out with some of those chicks and kiss them and grab their ass in the bar and leave them hanging. Just live in the moment and callous yourself to these women. Because for every one that does it to you, there’s another woman doing it to someone else for you.

AdministrativeTap925 · 2022-01-13T02:06:07+00:00

Hi, I’m f(28) on dating apps. If you had such a good time on the date, why are you waiting a few days to text her? You should be following up with her the next day just to say hi and that you had a great time and be making second date plans for within 4-5 days. There are tons of guys in our dating app chats, but many of them are duds. How can you make yourself stand out?

skatinislife446 · 2022-01-12T15:22:52+00:00

Happens to me as well. It could be for whatever reason, though I still find myself curious as to the specific one.

The way I see it now, unless I’m fucking her brains out, making her cum, none of the other emotional connection, touching, attraction signals, chemistry, compatibility, etc. matters. The sex is what seals the deal, and women have all the power in choosing who they sleep with, so it could be for a number of reason that they don’t.

Steel-is-reeal · 2022-01-12T14:52:16+00:00

The thing here is... It was great in your opinion.

We've all had fun with people and then not been attracted romantically.

A great time and attraction are not mutually exclusive. If someone has a great time but they aren't attracted to you and you met on a dating app or the like they aren't going to get back

Ok-Leather3055 · 2022-01-12T22:20:53+00:00

Yes all the time

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-12T16:35:51+00:00

Yes, it means she wasn't turned on, nothing else. Don't delude yourself into thinking it is anything else, such as her not being ready to date, or anything else.

Yuva0 · 2022-01-12T16:53:03+00:00

Never had this experience but I am gonna brace myself if I do face this 😂

Cybralisk · 2022-01-12T22:35:40+00:00

Yea all the time, a lot of first dates I think went good or great never got to a second. Sucks because as a man you might be lucky to pull 1 date a month if you are dating online.

2022-01-12T18:45:32+00:00

Every date for 3 and a half years mfer haha

TheBurningStag13 · 2022-01-12T19:47:29+00:00

Yes. Stressing about it will just ruin the first date, so I learned to leave it to chance.

Fundamental999333 · 2022-01-12T22:34:26+00:00

Yes, and I've done this to girls. Things will be great! Really like her! But either I would like someone more OR I would just not be into dating, either because I'm not over a breakup or I just have too many things in my life OR I just can't be bothered to put effort into getting excited over someone I just met online.

Without that rapport and connection, for some people it's just hard to continue.

Don't over analyze it - humans have their own free will and sets of desires and motivations. All you can do is to keep carrying on and fine someone who aligns.

Socialinception · 2022-01-12T22:38:59+00:00

There are many possible reasons.

One of the most common is that the girl was feeling you but she was consciously thinking of hooking up with you that night and because you didn't make a move she either thought you weren't interested or you weren't confident—both will make her want to move on.

Another reason is that although you were socially charming, there wasn't enough sexual tension. This is something that mostly comes down to eye contact and feeling the emotion of desire when you're around the girl.

Krative_Lifestyle · 2022-01-13T01:23:42+00:00

Yup absolutely. Girls are not logical. It sucks but once you accept that they dont make sense you handle it better.

Its going to sound cliche as fuck. But if an awesome girls ghosts you after an amazing date. She was not the one for you. You left it all on the field. You did your best. It didnt work. You have nothing to be upset about. Thats just life. Shit just doesn't work out sometimes. Live happy knowing you tried. Thats what it means to be a man.

eckzotic · 2022-01-13T10:19:29+00:00

I met up with a girl for the first time a while back, we met up in a parking lot somewhere, she got in my car and we drove to a restaurant about an hour away. We talked and really vibed, she even stated that she never vibed and talked this well with a guy before. We got to the restaurant, ate, had fun. And then on the way back she was really touchy and flirty but i didn’t make anything of it, and when i dropped her off at the meeting spot i didn’t go for a kiss. She blocked me on everything a couple days later

Speedsloth123 · 2022-01-13T14:36:50+00:00

Could be that you’re waiting too long to text? Text her the day after don’t play games

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