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Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-01-09T21:59:32+00:00

If you're fucking new people just for the sake of fucking new people, you're right that your dating life probably won't magically become meaningful. You get out of it what you put into it.

I'm sleeping around plenty, but I'm also paying attention for signs of compatibility. When things look promising, I put in progressively more time and emotional investment to see if there's a chance at something deep.

The sex is great, but it's really just a consolation prize while I methodically pursue my long-term goal.

onyxengine · 2022-01-10T01:25:07+00:00

You’re addicted to the game OP

Fit-Kaleidoscope-360 · 2022-01-10T04:35:08+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, what would you say is the biggest contributor to your success with women? Like, what do you do that made it so you could sleep with so many of them over the years?

5_7pickup · 2022-01-10T00:50:00+00:00

Good shit man. Happy to see another asian brother murdering the game.

tylrsprs · 2022-01-10T17:09:33+00:00

When it seems like every post here is either dudes who are too nervous to get within 10 feet of a girl or guys who think you have to remember 30 different things at all times to be successful with a girl, I really fucking respect you.

It took me a long time to realize it begins and ends with being a person.

2022-01-09T21:46:54+00:00

You are literally the definition of that meme: " Suffering from success by DJ Khalid "

MikeAlphaGolf · 2022-01-09T23:43:55+00:00

Fucking multiple people is neither meaningful nor meaningless. It’s amoral. You’ll meet great people along the way, and you’ll meet a few losers. The advantage of doing this on the way to finding some life partner (if that’s the goal), is you’ll have the experience to know who is worth your time rather than latching on to the first girlfriend you have. You’re also more likely to be the chooser, which should be the goal of every man.

CenaSmackDown · 2022-01-10T03:15:41+00:00

Sexual desire can be like hunger. You fix it you fix it for a day and you're thirsty again soon. It's a bottomless pit

honjowolf · 2022-01-10T00:18:37+00:00

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revrev4405 · 2022-01-10T02:52:03+00:00

I’m 22 went on a poon rampage for a bit and got tired of it. Went 6 months without any and focused on myself. Best young self realization I’ve had so far

SIV221 · 2022-01-10T01:11:19+00:00

Probably reached the same point Pook felt where sex and dating is just something on the side, a little spice to a life you are working with.

I can’t really give advice, not because my lack of dating or sexual experience, but there’s clearly a pursuit or enjoyment to meeting women and wanting to have sex with them. I don’t really have this innate desire to see women naked, or men for that matter, so there’s no magnetic pull to make me want to talk to them, flirt or have good feelings with them.

I guess, there’s nothing wrong with what you are doing. You do not stop enjoying and meeting other women if there’s no harm for you or them, and keep putting yourself out there in the hopes you meet the one. Long as you are healthy, not having pregnancy mishaps, keep running through them

focus_flow69 · 2022-01-10T05:12:10+00:00

Sounds like you were living the dream for a long time with your travels and meeting women. It's fun, it's great to know you have the power to attract people and feel desirable. You should be absolutely proud and grateful to have these skills and expeirnece that you worked hard for. But like all things in life, too much of it can be a problem. There are very few things in life that don't follow this rule. Too much money, too much sex, too much women, too much food, too much partying etc. These are all considered perhaps pleasurable but maybe sinful things that make people happy and feel good in the short term. But some people also have too much of other things, that they may not even know about. You can have too much love where you begin to neglect yourself. You can have too much happiness where you become complacent and make no progress. You can have too much confidence that you begin to look down on others. My point is, through my life, I've learned that you must have balance. And from your post, it seems like you've certainly have had your fair share of fun, love, romance and sex with woman, and that's made possible because of the level of effort, focus and time you've put towards it. Again, it is something to be proud of because you have gotten great results and expeirnece from it. But now from your post, it seems like you are aware it is no longer serving you like it once did, when you first decided to get better with womem.In fact it may even be holding you back in life if you don't change. My suggestion is to think about where you are in life and to focus on other things in life instead of women. Explore some hobbies, dedicate yourself to something else. Create balance in your life, do other things. When the time is right or life happens, when you are no longer actively looking, you will meet someone special through just living your balanced life. And now with your confidence and extensice dating expeirnece attained, you've greatly increased the odds of attracting this person. That's my two cents from reading your post, hope it all works out for y'all

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SexyNuggetz · 2022-01-10T06:49:08+00:00

Yea pls teach me

yotepost · 2022-01-10T16:06:55+00:00

Time to trip balls fam

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-01-10T16:54:30+00:00

What is your advice to most of the guys in this sub-reddit who want to improve their dating lives and are just getting started. So, they are ready to start going out, want to improve, take risks, challenge themselves, and generally work on themselves in this area.

What would you advise they do over the next 30 days?

AloofusMaximus · 2022-01-10T19:35:25+00:00

I can't get close to others. And the problem with treating other people as casual sexual partners is that I also treat myself that way, simultaneously. I’m clean (thank god). I’m healthy. I’ve somewhat got my shit together.

You can, you just don't want to. Also you don't HAVE to treat women or yourself that way either.

A part of me thinks, you know what? This will all change when you meet "that someone." But then the cynical part of me can't help but laugh.

It's 4PM now and I've got to get ready for this date tonight..

You've already met "that someone" probably several times over.

So here's the thing I'm a bit older than you (39, almost 40). I have a higher body count than you, and I also have a very different approach mentally, than you.

When I was younger I was definitely hunting for unicorns. I wanted the hot chick that ticked all the boxes. I managed to land hot women, date them, and I was absolutely miserable. I thought it was them that I needed to be happy.

Once I crossed 30 (I think I was around 32) I had a failed engagement and decided to really look at myself. A few of the things i learned then was to be happy by myself, and not to waste time with women that either aggravated me or played games.

I'm 100% content by myself, so any woman I spend time with has to be better than that. My ONLY criteria for meeting women were/are... Have to be attractive, and I have to enjoy the time I spend with them. That's it.

Because I genuinely enjoyed their company, I was cultivating actual relationships (they were sexual too). I'm not ever going to be monogamous, it's not for me.

I do have a long term GF, we just had a baby together, and eventually I'll go back to having FWBs.

It's exciting getting to explore a new person, I get it. That doesn't mean it has to be empty or shallow.

thelambofdeth · 2022-01-09T21:27:25+00:00

What is with all the trolling going on today? Smh

vin9889 · 2022-01-10T00:16:45+00:00

Ayeeeee Asian American getting it. What’s the demographic and what’s your style?

VDKay · 2022-01-10T08:28:59+00:00

The fact that you care to post screenshot proof of chats, screams "Validation".

Something tells me that you don't value yourself a lot. Not many people do anyway. So you choose to get validation from the number of girls you are fucking. Almost all the beautiful girls I know, have this kind of lack of confidence and seek validation by screwing people left and right. People call them whores, but they are scared little girls to me

I'm not saying that it's bad to have many sexual partners. I'm saying that the problem comes from using them as "external" validation.

NovaLachs · 2022-01-10T06:30:33+00:00

People that have actually slept with hundreds of women usually aren’t able to keep count buddy lol

papaheinz · 2022-01-10T08:28:31+00:00

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Waterstick13 · 2022-01-10T08:54:57+00:00

You spend wayy too much time on this sub. Just fucking live your life man

slaybrownbeast · 2022-01-10T09:16:29+00:00

I am 25, never had relationship, never knew what it felt like to have someone who is not a sex worker crave your body. I am also Asian, and will be permanently living in NA. I have attributed my relationship failures to my face up until last year when I fixed it the best I could with oral surgery. And naturally after that, the concept of picking up girls came to mind and haunted me for months of insomnia. Fortunately, I met a 21 years-old mentor and I started my first serious pick up (I did pick up 8 times in Canada from 2018-2020), and for the last 2 months I picked up 100ish women with 12 contacts closed. Have not been able to ask one out yet. I am here to write about my past I guess just because I harbor a bit of resentment or bitterness reading your past, and a lot of regrets. I am not here to lament fate or call myself victim, and I am aspiring to keep picking up, even though I probably did not work hard enough, until I can have my first relationship. After All, i just really wanna experience once, what does it feel like to have sex with someone who wants sex with you?

And I cannot escape the thought that my constant failure had something to do with my face. But I know that is not true. Anyways, I guess I am just a bit bitter and we have very different problems.

Frosty_Connection867 · 2022-01-10T00:33:24+00:00

I don't think I'm qualified to give advice since I've not necessarily been in your shoes but I tend to picture life as endless cycles of addiction, we are addicted to our phone, without it we get bored, we get addicted to drugs, without it we experience withdrawal, I feel for you your addicted to the pleasure of new sex and validation, I noticed as used to be addicted to youtube and validation through messages when I was young, but I went a month just doing a few consistent things, piano and working out (since I find with cutting things out in life) eping some passions gives your life purpose and I hadn't felt more at peace and grateful since then, now I guess I'm stuck in the cycle of seeking validation as well but it's hard to get back to simpler things since the pain of letting go is hard, but I feel you could try to experiment, maybe settle down with someone you find better than the rest or spend time alone for a month and see how you feel,

MagicTsukai · 2022-01-10T05:59:34+00:00

What are the differences you see when dating non-asian and asian women and in fornication?

honjowolf · 2022-01-09T23:36:10+00:00

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WillyM35 · 2022-01-10T00:32:55+00:00

If you get that type of feeling you just gotta up your game.

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undernutbutthut · 2022-01-10T02:17:38+00:00

One of the reasons why I moved to Boston was to start trying to learn how to better talk with women, or anyone for that matter. Do you meet most girls online or in the streets?

somebodyDATEme · 2022-01-10T03:21:53+00:00

Man how do you have time/money to be going out with someone every night? When do you go to the gym and work?

AngeloMacon · 2022-01-10T05:51:05+00:00

You're the only one that can answer this. I mean, if it's more of an OCD thing where you're spending way too much time and effort? Or the validation thing... are you banging anything with a pulse or do you have standards? If you're banging a new cute girl every 3 or 4 weeks just by happenstance of going out and doing what you want, then more power to you.

mimievarts · 2022-01-10T06:26:22+00:00

Not everyone can be as memorable as Naoko~

IamRocksteady · 2022-01-10T09:08:00+00:00

How did you meet most of the women you dated? Bars, clubs, cold approaches during the day, online dating?

taisha2640 · 2022-01-10T10:28:02+00:00

Nice post! Respect for voice clip response. What's your workout routine and body shape like?

Paltenburg · 2022-01-10T11:15:04+00:00

Good write-up, OP

What I never understand (in general, about this community): How come people can't seem to set new and improved goals?

I mean, shortly said, it goes like this:

Goal 1: Have sex with a girl.

For a lot people, this is enough to keep them busy. Some people don't succeed, some succeed sometimes, some struggle, some have moderate succes. Anyway, for these people, it doesn't need to go past "goal 1".

But others, like OP, seem to have abundant succes.

Now what I don't get, is that they also still stay with "goal 1", but then times 1000. And then it burns them out sometimes.

But surely, it isn't hard to raise your ambitions? Just go for threesomes (or orgies or whatever) right? I can imagine it gives you like a "fresh start" from doing the same thing over and over again.

jjboy91 · 2022-01-10T11:49:28+00:00

Well damn...how can you meet so many people and still be searching for

Zyt3chOG2 · 2022-01-10T13:34:21+00:00

How is your typical dating site bio?

dps15 · 2022-01-10T15:55:50+00:00

Are you not scared of STDs OP? I’m scared of STDs

cronasminate · 2022-01-10T21:55:59+00:00

Written like the perfect post to get noobies to message you and be like “how did you do it?”

Of course you’ll be glad to guide them for a price amirite.

I don’t really get why you need to prove it, but more importantly, you think some ambiguous goodbye text prove anything.

Again, this seems so targeted toward impressionable young newbies.

EDIT: Also there seems to be a lot of posts just targeted toward asian Americans who are 5’7-5’8 some reason. I guess that’s where the money in pick up is right now.

honjowolf · 2022-01-11T00:20:01+00:00

Very inspiring story! I’m especially inspired by the fact you dated a model you met on Instagram. Hehe that’s my goal with this IG game stuff

eiipaw · 2022-01-11T18:04:59+00:00

This post seems like a big pile of random thoughts but written down nicely. I like it a lot, it shows a bit of your personality. It is refreshing to read something like this in the sea of "do this, be that" posts(not saying they are bad). It doesnt seem to have a clear point and still I can relate. So yea, thanks.

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