Gym girls

SeaninSd · 2022-01-19T18:09:15+00:00

Being a regular at the gym and having a good mix of socializing/training is a good way to attract attention from women at the gym. You do not have to be jacked, although it will help you stand out. Make friends with men and women and joke and have fun. Other women will notice that you’re not a creeper and will be open to conversation. Start small by asking if they’re using equipment and then just say hi when you see them and keep it short. If it’s obvious they are interested then you can advance from there

prfrmnceart · 2022-01-19T17:28:17+00:00

Unless a girl at the gym is giving you clear and opened signals to approach her... Leave her alone. Let her work out in peace without being preyed on

depressedBullsFan3 · 2022-01-19T16:46:38+00:00

I doubt every gym girl wants a really muscular guy. I’ve dated a gym girl but I was also a skinny cross country/track runner with some side boxing. I wasn’t close to being the biggest guy but I had the best endurance.

Approaching girls, I’d say if she’s making eye contact with you multiple times throughout your workout or multiple days, then maybe go approach her when she’s getting water or leaving. Don’t do it in the middle of a set.

ItIsICoachCal · 2022-01-19T18:04:33+00:00

Think about it this way: why does that hot fit girl go to the gym herself? She cares about her health, her body, and her appearance. She likes putting the work and hitting goals, be they performance or aesthetic in nature.

Based on that, what traits do you think she values in a guy? Probably someone that also takes care of their body, looks "good" in a fitness sense, and probably someone who has that same goal->discipline->accomplishment loop. Now here's the kicker: you can be healthy and fit and not look super muscular. Even guys that lift and are in shape may not look "really muscular". It's more about the process rather than the specifics of the end result in terms of pure aesthetics.

u/depressedBullsFan3 provides a really good example. He was presumably in great shape, track and boxing together will do that real efficiently, even though he's not "really muscular". That's the level him and his gym girl ex probably related on initially.

guyinhisroom · 2022-01-19T23:17:32+00:00

Don’t listen to anyone saying that you shouldn’t approach girls at the gym. Just be self-aware of it like “hey i know this is kinda random cause we’re at the gym and all but…” and then give a very non-sexual compliment, like if she has tattoos say “you’ve got cool style/tattoos” (I did this a week ago and it worked out fine) and then have a regular conversation and ask for her number at the end. Also, don’t interrupt her workout or do something weird/fake like ask for a form-check or whatever. Just be honest about why you’re talking to her.

EDIT: oh yeah and another thing, since its a place where you could potentially see her again, make sure you are fairly confident with cold approaching girls before you approach any girls at the gym. You don’t wanna completely bomb at the place you go to multiple times per week lol.

PuzzleheadedNote3 · 2022-01-19T19:49:22+00:00

There are women who want to be approached at the gym and ones that dont you have to determine what category that girl fits into to.

The ones that look fairly new spend a lot of time checking out guys not really focused on lifting fall inti the former. I will say though heavily dependent on the individual as long as you approach the situation correctly you can approach anyone at the gym.

It might help at first to just talk to people in general ay the gym be friendly. Obviously how well this will go depends a bit on age but for the most part ive found that gym people are really nice. The bigger the individual the nicer. The only true assholes ive met tend to be douchbags that go to the gym to hit the punching bag.

rudebwoy100 · 2022-01-19T20:39:37+00:00

Don't approach them mid workout, do it before or after imo. As an avid gym goer i'd hate for anybody to bother me during my workout as it breaks concentration and i need my energy to lift.

Neil1398 · 2022-01-20T00:48:53+00:00

I approached a chick at a gym one time. She was staring at me.

Got her ig, and she unfollowed me lol.

Last time I’ve ever wasted my time talking to girls at the gym. The gym is where I work on me personally. It’s my meditation away from that shit.

Get this, I saw her again few months later, and she was staring at me again. This time I ignored her ass.

I go to bars, or just do some daygame for girls.

Socalledlegs86 · 2022-01-20T12:08:33+00:00

I’m female but I’ll give you my thoughts.

I’m average looking (well to me I am) but quite fit in terms of my body. I don’t date people on their looks/body type but personality. Just like I would hope men would do the same with me.
If someone were to come try and chat me up in the gym I would probably be peeved off as I am there ultimately to work out. But if you came up to me and discussed something gym related first I would more likely be open to chatting further.

BagEmpty6931 · 2022-01-19T16:53:09+00:00

2) I feel like approaching girls at the gym is not the best. I feel like at the gym most people want to just focus on themselves.

Not true. Sometimes it looks like everybody's doing their own business but sometimes girls give you signals. And want to be approached.

itsthechamp2022 · 2022-01-20T10:45:24+00:00

Don’t approach women in the gym cause their working out, don’t approach in the Super Market cause their shopping, don’t approach in the laundromat cause their washing clothes, don’t approach in the the library cause their studying. So where is a man supposed to approach females ? You people make up all these rules that make no sense. I say if you like her go for it.

MrDownhillRacer · 2022-01-20T06:03:38+00:00

I've never approached a girl at the gym, but I approach girls who are clearly gym girls all the time.

I mean, yeah, more attractive people have more options, and are therefore harder to get. So what? Gym girl says no, and you have no fewer dates than if you hadn't approached her. I aim high, knowing full well I'm aiming above my league, because I'm only going to hit on girls I'm actually attracted to, and even if only 2% go out with me, asking out enough means that I get to date fit girls.

Last person I had a thing with was a yoga instructor. Current one teaches martial arts. You just shoot your shot, and sometimes you'll get it in. If you don't, try again with somebody else.

Blackmetalpenguin90 · 2022-01-19T21:08:26+00:00

I don't think 1 is true, though it may be reasonable to assume that very gym-focused women have a preference for the template buff gym guy.

As for 2, well I would only approach a girl in the gym if she gave me clear IOIs. I think in general places where you display your body (gym, yoga, etc.) can easily be creepy. Though maybe if you can chat her up AFTER that's better.

coindad007 · 2022-01-20T05:10:01+00:00

Unless she’s giving u the look don’t approach her unless you really need 2

Tremaparagon · 2022-01-20T01:02:02+00:00

Yeah I feel like it's totally situational, as with most things in life. The comments you see online from girls complaining about being approached at the gym are probably from people experiencing random dudes pointlessly getting in their space while they are deep in the zone and offering unsolicited advice. Oof.

But other times when there's like little event-related things going on at the gym it is a fantastic place to start developing rapport with people, or say I'm trying out some new equipment that just got brought in I'll make some comment about it to start a convo with a lady who is going by, maybe I'll see a poster about a cool group class and find a good opportunity to ask someone if they've ever attended one, etc.

As always, play it by ear. Be very attentive to your point 2) as it is sometimes true - and as long as you do well to read people and avoid bothering them in that scenario, you won't end up being the creep - and just remember that there will always be people and situations at the gym that are very different from point 2) and those are perfectly fine places to approach.

Starshine-moonlight · 2022-01-19T20:43:30+00:00

Jim from the office is a good body type

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-01-20T01:01:56+00:00

Don't approach girls at the gym. Gym pics are a huge turn off. Can tell they work off they don't have to show it. This coming from a f boy. Gross af.

godlesowned · 2022-01-20T09:39:59+00:00

I started going to gym 3 months ago. My results:

Friend with benefits with receptionist girl (she have a boyfriend). Chick chat > phone number > send meme > voice messages > meet > sex (after reading sex god methods she love me more).
All receptionist love me including one man.
Direct aproach to few girls and it was terrible :P
Fit body! But my weight is 67kg my height is 170cm so im shorter than a lot girls, FWB is higher than me.

My Advice: - GO TO THE GYM AND TALK TO EVERYONE INCLUDING MAN!

-NO DIRECTS!

cormacru999 · 2022-01-20T02:13:07+00:00

The majority of modern women want men to ask them out in APPROPRIATE places. Not where you both work, though sometimes that's ok. Not where they work & you're a customer. Not on the street, not at the gym, women get bombarded by the attention from men, & if you ask most women when did they first realize men looked at them in a sexual way, the ages tend to be between 5 years old & 12 years old. Everything they wear, do, enjoy, etc, is subject to the male gaze. The more you understand that, & stick to the spaces where dating in on the menu, like a dating site, a dating event, a club or bar is normal, the better your luck will be.

I see a lot of these seduction 'experts' suggesting that men go practice asking women out on the street, some even record them harassing women. Don't do that shit. Women at the gym KNOW men are checking them out, they want to just work out, they don't want men to approach them. Leave them be.

ChurchofCaboose1 · 2022-01-19T21:05:50+00:00

I would say that if you wait for them to be in between a set or moving to a different exercise, it's ok to to up to them to say hi. Also, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Go for it dude!

djflowerpower · 2022-01-20T01:08:32+00:00

Try when she’s leaving. It puts a limit on the time, if she rejects or accepts, and you can walk away after without it being awkward in the middle of your gym session. Plus, after a workout, endorphins are flowing, so you’ll both in a better mood either way. :)

faithinstrangers92 · 2022-01-20T05:39:46+00:00

In my experience they're usually fairly conceited and more insecure than more 'out of shape' women but perhaps I just got unlucky with the few I've known.

Some will only be wanting to date fellow gym guys so they can upload stories of them working out together like those insufferable power couples, but I'm sure some of them are interested in less built guys.

Gyms are a bit tricky to approach sometimes - I'd try to catch them on their way to the car or chilling in the lobby area or something.

I did ask a girl once who I couldn't resist, and she seemed quite flattered but she had a boyfriend (who was also working out...and I mean I'm 6'5 and over 100kg but of course he was even bigger than me lol)

kilik2049 · 2022-01-20T09:11:14+00:00

I currently date a crossfit coach. I'm far from being the over the top muscular guy (more of a musician type), and I didn't met her through gym. But I think she is one of the few exception by not caring about muscles all that much. All her coworker seems to be into that body type

Syadon · 2022-01-20T17:48:37+00:00

So at one point in time I was working a brand ambassador job where I get university students on campus (I was a university student too) to sign up for air miles reward card which was free, just a points card. Was really into brand ambassador jobs because it forced me to meet lots of strangers which worked well for my extrovert high energy personality and figured it was a good way to practice my cold approaches and just better develop my social skills.

I was working out like usual at my local gym (far away from my university) with my buddy and I noticed a girl that was pretty cute. Told my buddy a few times and he tried to push me to try talking to her but I gave him an excuse "no bro she's gonna find it creepy if I just approach her in the gym". Then I realized I still had my air miles cards and application forms in my locker cuz I just finished work. She looked like a university student too and I wasn't actually restricted to only pitch to students at my campus. So I said fuck it I should just give it a shot. Did my typical air miles pitch to her and got her to sign up for the card ezpz, though my buddy was standing next to me the whole time and didn't say anything but did also introduce himself which in hindsight made it seem a lil more awkward. The conversation didn't extend much beyond the card pitch Itself but at least we were introduced to each other and exchanged names. I had access to her phone number through the application form but I never contacted her through her number because that would be creepy if I didn't ask for her number directly. From then on we would just say hi to each other whenever we bumped into each other at the gym and have brief 1 min convo's here and there.

A year passes by and she one day says she's about to leave to go do her masters of social work at a university 3 hours drive away and I just blurted out "oh we should workout together before you go!". She was down but I didn't set a time and date which was my fuck up. She ended up msging me on fb a week or two later anyways asking if I was still down to do the workout which was the clear signal to me that she was actually interested in me the whole time but I just couldn't tell. We did the workout and had a good time together, said our goodbyes since I figured I wouldn't probably see her ever again. Fast forward a few months and she comes back for reading week and we go on our first date. Fast forward to now, she's my girlfriend of 4 years and im confident I'm going to marry her.

Though I do think that my muscular physical progress helped build her attraction towards me (6 years into fitness at that point) but none of this would've happened if I didn't go do my air miles reward card pitch to break the ice. It's definitely worth shooting your shot, I wasn't good enough at detecting whether or not she was interested but she surprisingly ended up shooting her shot too by actually msging me and arranging the workout together.

itsthechamp2022 · 2022-01-20T10:32:51+00:00

Approaching girls at the gym is no big deal I do it all time. I don’t have huge success but at least I can say I tried and there’s no feeling of regret.

No-Department6252 · 2022-01-19T19:12:47+00:00

stop cold approaching women like this is 2009 or something. if a woman is not actively trying to seduce you are not attractive in her eyes. women know who they want to fuck and who is going to fuck after .5 seconds of seeing a guy. no point in cold approaching if she fundamentally doesn't find you attractive. women will literally approach you if she finds you attractive but it's subtle. only focus on the women that want you and if the women you want are not attractive become better looking. it all starts with understanding women

Gerald00 · 2022-01-19T20:38:50+00:00

1 no, fit girls don't require a fit guy (funny but true)

2 gym is a shitty place to aproach, people are really self absorved

jamstarl · 2022-01-23T22:16:41+00:00

1) im an extremly fit girl. i have people asking me what show im getting ready for sometimes. (im not i just love working out). i dont care about body type, its between the ears i car about the most. just take care of yourself. exercising is good. btw i work out at a gym that has a bunch of powerlifters and strognmen in semi dad bods and id totally go out with alot of them at least on a first date. but every girl is different.

2) its not generally. ive never bene approached but i am quite focused on my workout and id proably ignore. i do notice the looks though. i also have never seen any girl get approached at my gym (its a private gym, you have to be there for a reason) so its possible they say something to the guys when they join.

Title	Gym girls
Author	Yeyinbank
Upvotes	109
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Date	January 19, 2022 4:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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