How?

Cat-Dude-1776 · 2022-01-18T02:57:49+00:00

After the 6th date? I think she’s using you for a free dining service atp

coldbrew18 · 2022-01-18T04:31:41+00:00

Talk to her.

Cookies993 · 2022-01-18T06:22:13+00:00

6?? If you’re not even kissing yet, make that top priority on date 7, you need to start making some moves

Pretty sure she feels comfortable with you by now, so 7th date could be a dinner date at one of your places.

If you have made out on previous dates, try to escalate further, she might have rules like “no sex before marriage”.

Talk to her. Conversation is key. Tell her your concerns, hear hers, maybe she’s thinking “Why the fuck has this guy not ripped my clothes of already, am I that ugly??”

Laduk · 2022-01-18T09:22:15+00:00

It took mine 2 months to warm up really. After a while I went all or nothing and grabbed her hands and cuddled. She‘s my girlfriend now so it’s possible to be honest. Depends on context as usual.

Be more assertive is what I would say. Also take Reddit advices with a grain of salt. Usually people say steh like „run“, „red flag“ which is pure BS

Voltz_got_a_potato · 2022-01-18T04:14:12+00:00

Rather than leaving her, show your concerns and tell her that in your dating history it never took someone to still be shy. Be open to know if she is dating someone else or is having a tough time letting you go. Include the conversation with what you feel but don't creep her out, don't put "oh we still haven't had sex" at the forefront but include more about her body language like her distancing you thriughout the date is concerning if you aren't someone she could trust. Have a honest conversation and see if there is any sexual attraction towards you, be open, honest and abundant. This IMO would be a good way to clear out a little fog but if you feel like you're wasting your time then by all means, let her go.

CoffinEluder · 2022-01-18T03:00:38+00:00

I’d move on

MrDownhillRacer · 2022-01-18T04:35:15+00:00

How do you know she hasn't "warmed up to you?"

swampdonkykong · 2022-01-18T05:30:39+00:00

Need to make a move dude. She wants it, you gotta take control... get to a place you can kiss her.. take it slow yet be aggressive.. if denied.. play it cool, keep being a gentleman, try again if she doesn't try first.. denied a second time, call it quits..

Clitlkr694us · 2022-01-18T10:30:52+00:00

You don't need to seduce her, sometimes you don't know the full story about someone's history. If you just want to have sex then bring it up but you're running the risk of chasing her away. If you like her then hold her hand, kiss her cheek and be a gentleman and wait

VorpalPaperclip · 2022-01-18T04:35:55+00:00

Have you kissed this woman?

Matthewzubin7 · 2022-01-18T08:10:20+00:00

Google barnem Statements it's cold reading will open her up

Opposite_Setting_588 · 2022-01-18T11:36:25+00:00

So much more context is needed. If you attempt to hold her hand or touch her, does she pull away? Does she blush when you compliment her? Does she give you eye contact and nonverbal cues when you are speaking? Sometimes it’s not the woman, sometimes it’s the man missing the subtle signs.

MikeAlphaGolf · 2022-01-18T08:04:07+00:00

Be straight and tell her you are looking for an exciting physical relationship and that doesn’t seem to be what she’s after so you don’t want to go out anymore. Break contact. Move on.

britishgent60 · 2022-01-18T10:44:12+00:00

By talking. Tell her how you feel. You might find out that she is nervous because she hasn’t dated for years. Or maybe she has something else going on in her life which is distracting her. If she is making it to date 7, she must like you. Otherwise she would have stopped meeting you already.

Ask her again exactly what she is looking for. Some girls are extremely reserved and this is just their way of showing commitment. (Though it feels unnatural to most guys).

denali_HD2020 · 2022-01-18T04:44:56+00:00

Make her laugh, playful banter and if she doesn't open up then you should move on. I have opened girls up who were shy by doing this and slept with them on the first date.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-18T06:22:48+00:00

6 dates and now sex? Yeah I'm outta here.

byteseed · 2022-01-18T10:25:44+00:00

We need more background. What does it mean: hasn’t warmed up? Give us a full story, if you want an advice.

diabeetusboy · 2022-01-18T16:43:02+00:00

You’ll have a lot of success just being clear and confident in your communication. If you’re interested in taking things farther and want to know where her head is at, just tell her exactly that. She’ll respect the confidence and transparency, and you’ll get your answer one way or the other so you can move forward with her or move on to the next. After 6 dates if you’re not doing that and haven’t progressed to something physical you’re going to lower your attraction by not addressing it.

pikecat · 2022-01-18T17:48:19+00:00

If you do it right, you can get her to open up and talk freely about her real feelings and desires. Are you there yet? There is a way to do it with shy girls.

Then you can dig deeper find more, and get towards your point.

Six dates, it's time to get deeper and probe more. She could be waiting for you to go for it, because she's shy. Shy people have a lot going on inside, but they'll never say it. When you get them talking, always be serious and show that her thoughts are valid and worthwhile. Don't make a joke as you could with non shy people. People are shy because they are afraid people will judge their thoughts and desires. It's unfounded, yes but it's still there. Finding out that it's ok to talk without judgement or ridicule will get them to talk more.

There is a certain way to open the gates. I don't know how to put it into words, I just know because I was once shy. It's so easy for me.

I would hazard to guess that she's waiting for you to make a move. It's conceivable that she's dying to get down to it. If not, she doesn't really like you, or she could be one who wants to take months to get there. But, failing all else, just be direct. You can ask her opinion on how long to wait to have sex. That way it's not directly her, but it is, it's safer to talk that way. Ask what you want to know indirectly.

bls65 · 2022-01-18T18:50:18+00:00

Dude, just invite her back to your place. If she says no after that then you're just a meal ticket.

BoysenberryWooden516 · 2022-01-18T18:58:41+00:00

You should’ve never gone on more than 3 dates with this issue. 2 really. Cut bait. There’s MILLIONS of women.

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-01-18T05:14:21+00:00

Have you kissed her yet?

Crooklar · 2022-01-18T07:11:13+00:00

Walk away.

If you haven’t even slept with her by the third walk away.

If she was into you, she would fuck you - she’s banged guys before on the first date, not you though.

AK1010 · 2022-01-18T04:25:10+00:00

If you don't seal the deal by 2nd or 3rd date, quit wasting your time and move on G.

burncushlikewood · 2022-01-18T06:19:53+00:00

6 dates! You should of banged her in 6 hours. Some girls are easier to sleep with than others, a lot of pick up is finding the right targets

Calamity__Bane · 2022-01-18T05:01:38+00:00

> 6th date

You already know the answer fam.

AutistNerd · 2022-01-18T03:36:52+00:00

Just be aggressive and grab her bro. Shy people they always awkward and dont know what to do.

random_question4123 · 2022-01-18T16:19:43+00:00

You have to figure out if you like her enough to keep trucking along. IMO, If she hasn’t warmed up to you by the second date, then she doesn’t like you and she’s using you. But, then again, she might just be very shy, you didn’t give much information and you need to understand what her personality is like.

If she’s visibly shy, then she’s waiting for you to make a move. Have you made moves yet? If she’s very personable and still hasn’t warmed up to you yet then she’s using you bruh

Try this - go for a Hail Mary and suggest that she plans the next date. See what she says. If she does, go for it (but infer that she’s paying for the both of you). What may likely happen is she’ll ghost you at that point, and you would have gotten your answer of if she’s into you or not.

denali_HD2020 · 2022-01-18T08:04:23+00:00

Joke, be playful, charming.

Me: Hey......what trouble are you up to tonight? (seductive voice with a playful smirk)

Her: Uhm, idk.

Me: Well, I'll be up to no good tonight, join me. (You inviting her)

*If she's short

Her: Ok.

Me: Ah, idk if you're tall enough to get on this ride, but you're cute, so I guess I can make an exception, just don't tell anyone.

Her: giggles

Her: You smell good.

Me: come closer and you can get a better smell. (Playful and charming way with a smile on your face).

Point is to keep things light, playful, funny and charming.

Ask open ended questions. Let her do majority of the talking. You just listen and ask her to elaborate.

theHighChaparral · 2022-01-18T07:29:54+00:00

I would give it 3 dates and split. https://www.premiumtom.com/library/leykis-101

awakened_celestial · 2022-01-18T07:08:39+00:00

Stay committed my friend. It will all work out in the end

2022-01-18T08:25:30+00:00

Ask her if she prefers you order her food or take her out to dinner. Sure you going to get a text about dressing on the side.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-01-18T12:47:47+00:00

Invite her to your place. Kino, if no dice move on. 6 dates and nothing? 3 is reasonable.

shaunde23 · 2022-01-18T12:52:17+00:00

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CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-01-18T13:29:48+00:00

Do you even enjoy the dates with her? Like is it amazing or just ok?

cxmmsy · 2022-01-18T15:29:36+00:00

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Neil1398 · 2022-01-18T18:45:48+00:00

I mean 6 dates is a lot. Questions though, has she been paying or contributed if not, you might be being used. If not though, you need to be pushing things forward as the man.

Have you invited her over to you’re place? Gotten sexual with her? What do you think she sees you as?

Yes there are shy women but I can gamble that she’s definitely been wit someone sexually after only one date depending on her age.

Either way bro, I think you just need to make a move and lead her somewhere. If she rejects that you know you’re answer to whether she was using you or not.

Popular-Rate3182 · 2022-01-18T18:51:35+00:00

I heard about guys not screwing until after a year maybe if they’re lucky but that’s on them for not pushing forward

2022-01-18T22:17:27+00:00

Just ask what's wrong then take a decision

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-01-18T22:20:38+00:00

Keep simpin

And no worries, someone else warming her up when she’s cold w/o you

Title	How?
Author	Mysterious_Tour_8106
Upvotes	72
Comments	76
Date	January 18, 2022 2:56 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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