This might be a nice little mindset shift for you: No one owes you anything that you haven't explicitly agreed on.

And this is really good news, because you can finally stop stressing about being disrespected by other people, forever.

For example, your boss shouldn't promote you for your hard work.

That girl you matched with on Tinder shouldn't have a conversation with you.

Your friend shouldn't buy you a birthday present, even though you bought him one.

That girl you bought dinner for absolutely should not have sex with you, or kiss you, or even respond to your next text... or any text, ever.

Because none of those people ever agreed to doing those things. The only place those expectations ever existed is in your mind.

I'm not saying this to be mean... it's actually very practical advice. Because the entitlement that you feel in these situations (whether it's warranted or not) is completely counterproductive.

You'll give off an aura of neediness that will repel people if they sense that you expect something from them, that you haven't made clear.

So if you sometimes feel bitterness or resentment towards people... well, you're the one who's causing it, with your silent expectations.

But you can avoid those negative experiences entirely by simply adopting this mindset: IF you don't have an explicit agreement with someone... they don't owe you anything.

If you regularly do nice things for someone, and they don't do nice things back, and you start to feel like you're being used... well it's kind of your fault, isn't it? Because you're the one who initiated the doing of nice things.

And they never agreed that it was an exchange.

If you're going to end up feeling bitter about it... then just don't do that thing next time.

OR communicate your silent expectations. Make them clear.

Then if that person still lets you down, you can start to think about how much value that person adds to your life, and whether you still want them in it.

And if you do decide to give them the chop... it's not because you're bitter or resentful or upset with them. It's simply because they don't meet the (communicated!) standards that you have for the people that you're close with.

Adopting this mindset will increase your social value. It'll make people WANT to be around you. And it'll prevent you from wasting your energy wishing things were different. Things that are outside of your control.

And please, please... if nothing else, just don't be this guy.

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