Sex on first date?

SaltLeader3687 · 2022-08-01T08:27:01+00:00

Impossible to know. It really depends on the girl.

Narudatsu · 2022-08-01T10:45:59+00:00

It depends on the girls. Her body language and the way she talks and looks at you during the date are the best indicators if she’s down. If she’s touching you and really warming up to you, she’s probably down.

Some girls it takes a few dates to get comfortable. Kinda like make sure you’re not a psycho. 2nd or 3rd date sex is considerably more realistic if a girl seems shy and a bit nervous 1st date. Probably best you don’t push it cause it might seem too confronting and she’ll get scared.

Sometimes girls just can’t make up their mind and just don’t want to see you again because it’s easier. I had a girl went out on a date with and by the end of the date we were making out all over my car. Even went on a second date like a week later made out more and even got invited to her apartment. But by the time we got up there she said she was tired and just slept. Never went on a date with her again.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-08-01T15:42:43+00:00

I would never push for sex. I would try to escalate towards sex. Different incentive, one is creepy the other isn’t.

coldbrew18 · 2022-08-01T15:52:54+00:00

If you have to “push for the sex” you’re gonna have a bad time.

Therocksays2020 · 2022-08-01T08:28:53+00:00

Not everyone is going to fuck you the first date. But some are open to it. I usually pitch going to my place. If they put up light resistance or agree we will likely have sex. If you never offer it gives off a sign you’re disinterested or passive

DontTakePeopleSrsly · 2022-08-01T09:43:56+00:00

You always gotta read the situation. Sometimes a woman just wants to get laid, otherwise you wouldn’t have songs like “did I shave my legs for this?” You’ll get better ate reading this the more women you date.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-08-01T08:48:49+00:00

I have it most on my first dates but it depends on a few things. Her sexual past: how open is she to it? Her past relationships. Does she even have time for that like she has to go to work early in the morning the next day or she's with friends and she doesn't wanna leave them alone. Your frame. So if you're a high-value guy or at least she sees you as a high-value guy and sleeping with you is a win for her and it doesn't have any negative consequences she's probably gonna go with you

malegroomingthrow · 2022-08-01T15:48:12+00:00

but i feel she doesnt want to see me again because i didnt invite her back to my house.

Why are you assuming it's because you didn't invite her back and not just because she had low interest? I typically end the first date with a hug and never have problems getting second dates. My last girlfriend got a hug at the end of the first date. For the second, she invited me over for dinner and it was on. I usually make a move once we're in private at one of our places and shoot for that on 2nd or 3rd date. If you're interesting, I feel like the hug keeps them wanting more. Went on 3 bumble dates with different girls recently with the same approach and have 2nd dates with them all.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-08-01T16:53:09+00:00

If she doesn't want to see you again because you invited her over at the end of the first date, then she likely wasn't going to fuck you on the 2nd either.

Justwatchinitallgoby · 2022-08-01T21:51:13+00:00

Push for sex? No. That’s not how it works.

She should be happy to fuck you on the date.

Be funny, be interesting, be easy.

TH3BUDDHA · 2022-08-01T15:44:18+00:00

but i feel she doesnt want to see me again because i didnt invite her back to my house.

Why are you assuming it's because you didn't invite her back and not just because she wasn't that interested in you?

incognito3107 · 2022-08-01T15:49:18+00:00

I guess it depends on your dynamics. If you are both comfortable with each other, tension is off the roof, you both want to push further and you have proper circumstances for that - it's natural to get to some more private place. Sometimes the vibe is just not there yet, but it doesn't depend solely on you. No reason to rush, but all reason to keep it moving.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-08-01T19:27:55+00:00

My rule of thumb is if she fucks you on a first date, no matter what she says, she wasnt looking for a serious relationship in her heart. It’ll be a lot harder for you to make a serious relationship at that point. And if you wanted fuckbuddy casual stuff, you’d have to demonstrate good ass sex or be good looking.

That doesnt mean you shouldnt try to score on a first date, but I’ve never had a LTR when we fucked on a first date.

mjornir · 2022-08-01T20:17:20+00:00

You should never ‘push’ for it. You can flow towards it but that’s a two-person vibe and if she’s not on the same page as you then it won’t happen. Escalate if you both are feeling it

learnbyrepetition · 2022-08-02T05:27:57+00:00

I find it hard to believe that she doesn’t want to see you again because you didn’t escalate, if anything she’ll be more interest and curious. An exception to this would be if she explicitly stated that she wanted to have sex and you refused/didn’t do anything.

Itsthedawg · 2022-08-01T14:21:51+00:00

If a girl fucks you on the first date, she’d probably fuck other guys too. Not really worth in my opinión

Sweaty_Literature_69 · 2022-08-01T16:33:04+00:00

You are asking the wrong question. It is not whether you should, or should not, do anything. It is about what you want to do. Would an alpha consider whether he should express his desire to have sex with her? No, alpha states what he wants confidently unswwayed by what others expect of him.

So, do not ask "should you push for sex on the first date" . Instead ask, how do I build myself into the man girls have sex on the first date with?

Wondering about if you should make the proposal is irrelevant, the answer is always a yes as long as you are attracted to her. What is relevant is how aroused your presence has made her, and if that will be enough for her to let you fuck her on the first date.

Remember, women make rules for betas and break rules for alphas. There are no rules.

atomant88 · 2022-08-01T19:44:15+00:00

always attempt to escalate with consent. as long as youre asking for consent its all good. but always make the attempt

auxmygawd · 2022-08-01T20:22:40+00:00

It depends on the girls. Although you should probably be worried in a way if she’s willing to smack so early on. Girls that are more reserved and not so easy tend to be of more high value and make better partners. If its your goal to just have sex than thats fine.

nuc1earwessels · 2022-08-01T22:17:53+00:00

Push for a kiss. If she wants you, she'll bring up sex.

IamVUSE · 2022-08-01T15:54:04+00:00

i always try to but as i get older they're usually not as down for the first date hookup.

Leo7S · 2022-08-01T16:21:31+00:00

YES! It depends on the girl!

notorious_PIG89 · 2022-08-01T20:59:43+00:00

I would always invite them back and if nothing happens, nothing happens and you look good for the second date. If you get some you get some, you can never predict what a woman's going to do I've learned that over the years. I think the key is to be a gentleman and not force the issue, let It go naturally and she says stop, respect it. If she wants to go for it let it happen.

EARLY20RAG3R · 2022-08-02T00:04:55+00:00

Depends on the girl; I always offer to walk them home and 80% of the time they invite me in.

It all depends on the girl and your own game

burakbenxd · 2022-08-02T00:24:09+00:00

I didn't with my girl, it also depends what you're intentions are. If the attraction is fine, or she finds you cute, a ONS is fine, but the probability for a relationship depends then. For instance, my girl brought it up the second date, but I said, 'if it happens, it happens'. We ended up having sex after like the fourth date. What do you want? Do you want to bang, then move on? Then make out, and see how she's reacting, you can tell. If this is the first date, you need to escalate. If you don't you'll end up being the gay friend.

redditman7777 · 2022-08-02T02:20:36+00:00

I rarely do second dates. 95% of the girls I have had have been on the first date. The remaining 5% were 9HB so I broke my "rule" and invested more time towards the second max 3rd date. Get in get out—surgical strike. Move on.

Absolutely hint towards going back to your place; if it's a yes, then 90% you will get action. Most of the time I feel women themselves have kinda hinted at going back to mine while I was suggesting going to a different venue.

TopOfTheYork · 2022-08-02T02:56:35+00:00

Bro it’s easy even if you didn’t insert the Willy into her she should still be down. If she’s not interested in a second date then she’s just not into you. Sex is rather a normal thing, it’s not a deal breaker. Sex or no sex she should still be down. Throw that number away and keep it pushing mate

Bakerz420_ · 2022-08-02T05:47:29+00:00

I literally try for sex on the first date everytime and always go for the kiss on the date or even before the date. Some will have sex with you on the first date but most won’t at least in my experience, they seem to appreciate that your confident enough to try though. Also keep in mind you can have sex with girl without taking a girl out on a date like just inviting her over ur place at night.

Badass_Babygirl01 · 2022-08-02T07:25:22+00:00

Female here; Hopefully I can help a little??

Did you by chance talk about a second date before going seperate ways? Unfortunately the reality of it is with the culture we live in; sex means, hey, I like you, I think you're attractive. If it didn't happen and there wasn't communication of, "Hey, I would invite you up, but I would like to spend some more time with you first" (not saying this is you, just an example), if you're a tease, "I would love to invite you up, but I need to ensure I get a second date" or you don't have to mention it at all and just give a little verbal reassurance like, "I had a great time with you and would like to see you again. What are you doing this coming week?" (or whatever time period you choose). If she wasn't invited in and you didn't say anything, she probably thinks you aren't interested.

Title	Sex on first date?
Author	tronkan
Upvotes	23
Comments	37
Date	August 1, 2022 8:18 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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