So Basically The Game Comes Down To Preselection…

Jmibbk77 · 2026-03-15T17:11:39+00:00

That’s not the meaning of preselection. Preselection is when women see you being chosen by other attractive women, which in turn makes them more attracted to you.

Your thesis is correct in the sense that if there is 0% intrest there is very little you can do to change that.

But things like preselection can definitely have a huge impact on how attracted a woman is to you, and all these things do stack up to where being conscious of everything you can influence will have a major impact on how much success you can have in dating.

FatherMozgus · 2026-03-15T16:30:55+00:00

I swear bro some of you guys have never seen women as people. I am pretty sure none of the girls I have ever slept with knew they wanted to sleep with me the first moment they saw me.

ApocalypticBroccoli · 2026-03-15T17:21:10+00:00

That is true but that is not what preselection means.

Preselection means that a woman is attracted to men who have already been selected by other women. Like how a wedding ring paradoxically makes you more attractive to cheat with.

Matter_Still · 2026-03-15T20:52:33+00:00

Not always. Sexual attraction can develop over time, sometimes years, and it’s not necessarily locked in from the start.

As the expression goes, “We often don’t fall in love; we march into it.”

Vivid_Discussion2562 · 2026-03-15T17:29:01+00:00

Not true at all lmao a girl you’re currently having sex with can lose interest in continuing sex with you and vice versa.

The game comes down to saying the right things, that matters the most out of anything. Girls are attracted to words the most.

Discopotatoz · 2026-03-15T20:22:46+00:00

Guys love black and white so think of it like a final romance score.. everyone starts at 500. If you get to 1000 she'll sleep with you. Being famous and super handsome puts you at 2000 immediately. Being the ugliest guy in the world puts you at zero immediately. Anything in between is plus or minus to the 500 and all the little aspects of your character and game add or subtract. You can get over 1,000 and then do things to put you back under aka blowing it. Just like you could theoretically lose points initially but still reach 1000 with extremely sharp game and personality and wit, etc etc. Doing multiple stupid shit that quickly subtracts from your score will lower it exponentially with each successive fuck up aka being creepy. Also, her likelihood of demoting the famous handsome guy will be way less compared to the guy starting off with a low score and he'll have to work twice as hard to increase or even maintain his standing. It's not linear. The takeaway there is being very good looking is a force modifier but doesn't guarantee anything.

This has so far been completely independent of the girl herself -- now add in mood swings, hormonal changes, maybe her ex just got married or she broke up with her boyfriend 2 weeks ago.. the entire scoring system shifts. Before where she may have given a plus 200 to the aloof asshole now gets a -100. This is why you can't just show up and do conventionally attractive things and expect it to work on every girl. They are individuals after all with nuances and pitfalls in their selective scoring schemes.. ie. mentioning you support Trump to a liberal girl gets you -5000000 points where a more traditional girl might not care at all (extreme but plausible example to illustrate my point, idgaf about politics in this context)

TreyDoesGains · 2026-03-15T18:40:07+00:00

You can definitely develop attraction. I have had many people that I have been repulsed by, but later found them to be attractive and vice versa.

Immediate attraction is very important, but not required. If you do make a shit first impression, it will likely take a long time to get out of the box they put you in.

What you're saying is similar to "Dying comes down to not breathing" it's part of the system, but it is not the system itself.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2026-03-15T20:26:24+00:00

i had a few women tell me i wasn't their type from my looks or personality yet fuck me so idk man you just have to have other qualities that sweeps her off her normal mind imo... sometimes it comes down your just way different then most guys, sometimes shes just horny and you have a cock she can use

Realwoujo · 2026-03-15T20:36:49+00:00

I completely disagree. Tons of women are turned off by guys at first and later get warmed up to them. In fact, it has happened to me tons of times.

women are different than men. When a man sees a woman, he immediately knows whether he wants to have sex with her. Not women. Women look at a lot of different variables when determining whether they like a guy, and it often takes them time to decide.

That said, it is true that some women just do not like you, and if that is the case you need to move on quicky.

Curia-DD · 2026-03-15T16:16:27+00:00

As a woman I wish this was true, I wish it was that simple

HomelessMilkman · 2026-03-15T21:33:40+00:00

The game comes down to 'confidence'. There's a lot of immediate 'tells' (honest signals) which showcase exactly how confident you are. She generally doesn't need to probe to find out if you're a fun, outgoing confident guy.

If you're visibly, audibly, tense, uncomfortable, reactive, you're out. At a glance, or not even.

The woman doesn't even need to look at you; if you have a stifled, weak, uncompelling voice, you're out.

To be fair, 99% of guys are defined by their initial feedback; the prevailing type of post is 'signs she's interested'. The 1% (still a bit generous) of guys that could become more relaxed, expressive, fun, engaging, over time, in the face of 'middling reactions' are the ones who 'read the manual'.

WebNew9978 · 2026-03-16T19:53:13+00:00

Pretty much. A woman has to have at least neutral (she doesn’t find you ugly but she also doesn’t find you hot) attraction towards you. If every woman you come across finds you ugly, it would be pointless to try and change their minds. Your personality and attitude won’t change their minds.

MrTerno · 2026-03-15T22:08:37+00:00

Am I really reading this bullshit on a SEDUCTION subreddit?! Mods, get this black pilled clown outta here

fireqwer · 2026-03-15T16:29:23+00:00

A woman already knows if she wants to sleep with a guy within the first few minutes of meeting him

seconds

Dandys3107 · 2026-03-15T17:21:50+00:00

If you think about preselection and subconscious process of it, it's surely much more than just your appearance. Subtle body features, tone of your voice, your posture, your scent and many more will give away an information to women about your whole sexual worth and experience.

CibrecaNA · 2026-03-15T17:38:23+00:00

Truth.

ProfitisAlethia · 2026-03-15T21:50:19+00:00

Are you talking about the book, The Game? Because I don't know how that's your only take away from the book. If you're trying to get laid as quickly as possible by as many as possible, then yes, being blatantly famous and successful is the easiest way to do it, but the first half of the book is dedicated towards learning seduction to make people who would not initially be attracted to you, attracted to you. Neil is not conventionally attractive and learned to do well with women before anyone knew who he was.

Research by Dr. Paul Eastwick shows that your premise isn't really true. People form bonds over time that change their level of attraction to each other and it's easy for people who were not initially attracted to find each other more attractive after spending time together.

jackthehat6 · 2026-03-15T23:08:16+00:00

nowdays, even lots of coaches (who used to say 'women aren't visual' etc) admit that she of course needs to like how you look and be physically attracted too a certain extent. I mean, it'sn ridiculous to think otherwise. If a girl would swipe hard left on you on tinder, then none of your pushpull lines and good body language etc are gonna cut any ice lol

ScottNoWhat · 2026-03-15T23:40:39+00:00

Mutual attraction?

LaloC3 · 2026-03-15T23:59:45+00:00

En las relaciones tambien se usa el marketing, si el candidato se ve acto a lo que busca mujer lo selecciona...

Top_String5181 · 2026-03-16T00:34:17+00:00

OP doesn’t know what the fuck he’s talking about lmao

MaximusSSJ2 · 2026-03-16T00:52:08+00:00

Not true. Women aren't like men, attraction doesn't rely only on looks as men. However, if you are highly attractive and women know that you are "high value" before hands, what you say applies. That doesn't mean that if you have the conditions to generare attraction before interaction, it doesn't mean that you can't CREATE attraction by using other things beyond appearences like by using GAME, behaviour, and showing "high status traits".

I never been a good looking person, average. But i improve my appearences, behaviour, game and skills, and i got better results than gifted men with appearences.

Usually the men with appearences are used to get laid easily, they lack the "fire" since it comes easy.

Terrible_Assist_1345 · 2026-03-16T08:43:43+00:00

It's not really like that, But if this belief helps you getting laid who am I to tell you how to think instead?

No_Grapefruit_520 · 2026-03-16T16:18:17+00:00

Preslection means being vetted by other women. Other women responding well to the presence of said man. Said man displaying abundance behaviour.

And attraction isn’t always that black and white. It develops getting to know someone too. With presence, polarity, charisma, etc etc. Otherwise not a single sub-7 man would be in a relationship.

plainentity · 2026-03-16T18:11:09+00:00

I think this is true, girls will know at a subconscious level if they want to have something with you.

The only way to fuck it up, is if you're weird or lose points by being awkward, the less you speak the better.

ArkansasDood · 2026-03-18T14:58:11+00:00

I’m cooked then

fireqwer · 2026-03-18T18:14:57+00:00

cold approach is essentially tinder, but in person

Scared-Button3674 · 2026-03-21T15:17:11+00:00

Yeah preselection is huge because it shortcuts that subconscious attraction filter women have. When she sees or senses other women want you it flips the switch from maybe to yes way faster than any game tactic ever could.

Title	So Basically The Game Comes Down To Preselection…
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Date	March 15, 2026 3:45 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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