So what are you fellas doing for first dates these days?

nycthrow99999 · 2022-10-27T19:31:30+00:00

I exclusively do drinks. Pick a very cool/trendy bar. And use a location close to other bars so you can bounce around if you hit it off.

Dinners are too formal, uneconomic, and require too much of a time commitment.

Activities are kind of lame imo. I’m the star of the show; I’m showing myself off. I’m also getting to know her. Activities are a distraction at worse and a crutch at best. Not a bad idea for a second or third date, but I think the only moves for date one is drinks.

lifeintraining · 2022-10-27T23:46:35+00:00

Usually eat ass.

bigplaneboeing737 · 2022-10-27T20:35:39+00:00

Ice cream or coffee dates have escalated well for me.

KingOnixTheThird · 2022-10-28T13:23:13+00:00

I take them out to mcdonalds and buy them a happy meal. Then afterwards we go play on the Play Place.

denali_HD2020 · 2022-10-28T00:59:53+00:00

Depending on time and season. Golf driving range, shooting range, walk in the park, ice cream, putting golf, bowling. The key is if she has a high interest in you, it won't matter what you do, you'll have fun doing anything.

buckeyetree · 2022-10-28T09:51:28+00:00

As a woman: I prefer first dates that I can exit quickly if things go sideways. Dinks, walks, coffee. Activities can wait.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-10-27T19:48:03+00:00

One drink at a bar and then I invite her over for some wine. Never invest more than like $30 for a first date, meaning save dinner for another date. Anything more complex I save for 2nd & 3rd dates.

Icy_Rub1839 · 2022-10-27T19:49:44+00:00

Quick drinks/coffee or even juice. That's it.

ChampionshipStock870 · 2022-10-28T01:02:37+00:00

I don’t like to over commit to an activity on a first date in case the vibe isn’t there so I go for something you can get out quickly like drinks or a lunch.

Bmike2521 · 2022-10-28T06:17:33+00:00

Taking these bitches to Applebee's

808BlueDeviL · 2022-10-27T23:20:43+00:00

Depends on the situation, if its like a tinder date and no common interests were expressed regarding activities or events then i think a quick meetup for drinks is good. If its a girl you're strongly interested in dating then i'd set it up based on making her comfortable around you. If shes a shy girl then a busy trendy bar might not be the best solution, maybe try just meeting at a park and bring a board game that helps spark conversation.

I make it a rule if im going on a date with someone i have long term interests into, i go with no intention of trying to take her home or making moves on her. I just try to keep good conversation flowing by asking about her or her thoughts on random stuff that runs through your mind. Get her comfortable, do your part to make it a good time and if it doesnt work out then its all good we all have different tastes and you gotta respect that. If you cant make laugh or feel safe then you really wont find success with her.

My current gf likes to explore and have cocktails so i took her to Area 51 in vegas and just explored with her. A date that was supposed to be a couple hours (picked her up at 7) and it lasted until like 3am. She had a great time at that spot that she asked if i wanted to go to another bar. Then she called the next day, and the next to see me. If she doesnt have that kind of interest in you, dont even put pressure on yourself like this.

Sorry its long i hope this helps, i too have came here for answers in the past and so far that "no moves on the first date" mindset works along with focusing the conversation on stuff like interests keeping the conversation light and fun has been pretty successful. A few times the girls actually made the moves on me once they felt secure and i got them relaxed and laughing. Also being clean and well groomed, and being present will *almost* always make up for bad date ideas

HektorFromTroy · 2022-10-28T16:08:17+00:00

Pull up to an alley and eat some ass 🤷🏻‍♂️

99.99% they always want

FIVE_6_MAFIA · 2022-10-28T03:04:56+00:00

I usually invite them to go dance at a Latin spot. I dance well and it's a great way to break the ice and break the touch barrier. Find a table away from the speakers and you can have conversation without yelling. There's always drinks and most places serve food

EXandRR · 2022-10-28T15:28:58+00:00

Coffee
Drinks.
Dinner.

Should keep you going.

Milksteaknow · 2022-10-27T23:37:09+00:00

Drinks only, the same bar. Within two hours of talking at some point during that time I’ll escalate for a kiss, then shortly after will transition to get drinks at my place. Conveniently I live two minutes driving distance away, so I had walked to the bar. I tell her I walked here and if she can drive. She always says yes. I talk on the drive, then we enter my apartment. I pour a drink and segueway into having a look at this really unique book I’ve got. We sit next to each other and look at the book, and laugh. I then glide my hand over her hair, then her neck, then escalate…..slowly. Then we go to the bedroom. Out of the last 6 dates I’ve had 5 were first night lays, and the other was a second night lay (this girl was a very high quality woman and she made me work my ass off for it, tested the absolute shit out of me….I respected her for it and ended up in an almost year long relationship with her.) <——reason I say this last part fellas is sometimes girls who make you wait you respect a hell of a lot more, because if you’re game is top 5% like I know mine is and it was hard as fuck for me to bed her, I know very few other men have since they would have failed her minefield of shit tests, though keep in mind that only applies if you’re game is ironclad….if your game is weak as fuck then even women that sleep around a ton will reject you

Rastaman143 · 2022-10-27T19:33:55+00:00

Coffee bruh that’s it, second date is back to the crib. I wouldn’t go for fast lays if I were you

hey_jin · 2022-10-28T07:26:24+00:00

I’m a big proponent of a coffee or brunch / dinner first date, for a first date I’m just sussing out how they behave who they are and what they’re about, checking our chemistry in person. The activities and all that can happen on the consequent dates

recyclablebanthas · 2022-10-30T15:35:03+00:00

I’ve been doing the whole dinner/drink thing and then going for a nice walk so we can chat/flirt a little more.

The important thing to keep in mind is that you don't know the person you're meeting up with.

So it can be helpful to have something casual and open-ended to start off with. Something that could be short if it's not going well but could be extended if everyone's happy with it.

That's why something like meeting for coffee or drinks/cocktails works pretty well. Everybody can hit the escape hatch once they finish the first drink. Or they can keep going or even change venues.

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But recently reread Models and Mark talks about doing more activity based dates. It makes sense but other than walks, bowling, and minigolf nothing comes to mind. I know you can dance classes, sip and paint, etc.. but those are a little too elaborate for a first date imho.

Again, a lot of these can be good ideas but it really depends on how locked in you want to be, for how many hours, with someone you haven't even met yet.

It's off in a better strategy to go for something that could be short and casual if you needed to be and have the activity or second stage of the date ready just in case. Those parts can be something like what you listed off here. Bowling, minigolf, etc.

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And if you actually start to learn how to dance, taking girls on a first date to your dance scene is generally a bad idea. Like bringing sand to the beach.

If you've never met her before. Once you've actually gotten into a particular dance, taking new people to those scenes is going to be a bad idea.

Jason_Hardon · 2022-10-27T19:29:47+00:00

Back to my place and

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FlatDistance5 · 2022-10-28T02:55:29+00:00

1st date, I invite them over to my place to split a bottle of wine.

If they declined I suggest go for a walk on the riverfront. Or go to what I call, The most chill bar in the world…. It’s a shitty restaurant/bar up the street from my place.

If summertime, same thing, only if they decline first option bar near mine, or ice cream on the riverfront.

The first date for me is to test how sexually attracted she is to me. Even if she wants to decline and go to the riverfront, I’m still escalating while I’m walking and talking with her.

On 2nd date. If we fucked first date, take her to a restaurant or more traditional date… see if she likes women, see how open she is to 3somes, see if she qualifies as a girl I put as part of my rotation

If we didn’t fuck……. It would depend on how close I got.

If there was no sexual escalation during walk or wine/movie meaning she wasn’t really responsive to touch, or wasn’t talking much 7/10 she won’t come on a 2nd date. I have been surprised before when they asked me out again.

If sexual escalated invite back over to the house, or if riverfront invite over to the house. If she declines a 2nd time to come over and depending on how attractive I find her. (I take as mental note she may not be interested/time waister). Take her on more of a date that displays my personality, basically something CHEAP AND NOT SIT DOWN RESTAURANT OR MOVIE THEATER. So, go cart/ miniature golf, a rock climbing place or shooting range….. cheap and fun or if I don’t feel up to it… just go shoot pool. I always invite them back to “watch a movie” or “show them my favorite painting at my place” or …… usually watch a movie, or I want to keep you a little longer let’s go back to my place talk walk and share some wine or water is enough.

If she doesn’t come back, usually it’s not a 3rd date. But if it is, I say distinctly, we’re ordering take out for the 3rd date. Never a 4th date…… unless she’s absolutely my version of a 9+ or we heavily escalated on the 3rd.

Own-Emphasis2065 · 2022-10-28T11:04:54+00:00

No disrespect ny any means, but I'm laughing so hard rn at how methodical you men are with these initial dates. Like, I had no idea you guys put so much thought into it. Is it typical for men to create their own dating process/guidelines or did I just stumble upon a feed full of entertaining people I'd definitely shoot the shit with irl? 😂 Cause man, I tend to just wing it or im too busy making sure I don't look like trash to even begin to concoct a strategy 😅 I think the only thing I worry about is how weird they'll be (and I use weird in a positive way). Cause if I can't be weird & dorky around a guy matching the vibe to some extent, that means I've wasted my time 🚩🚩🚩

SaltLeader3687 · 2022-10-27T21:48:42+00:00

I take them to a cocktail bar 5 min from my apartment

Think_History_5682 · 2022-10-28T03:23:55+00:00

Drinks or coffee lunch during the week, to many misleading photos to go on a real date these days

gornad96 · 2022-10-27T20:53:35+00:00

Drinks, dessert, happy hour

sexonthebeachnow · 2022-10-27T22:22:05+00:00

Drinks, dance, happy hour, rinse repeat if needed.

Lukezoftherapture777 · 2022-10-28T00:34:42+00:00

bar/pool/drink at nights been great.

big_dong_de_jong · 2022-10-28T00:46:51+00:00

Lunch, walks

lildudefromXdastreet · 2022-10-28T02:03:48+00:00

Meet at the train station, grab tacos at a nearby taco spot, get drinks at a bar that’s pretty close to my apartment, then invite them up to my spot and make my move. 8/9 so far(the only one that I didn’t have sex with on the first date let me hit the next date).

It helps that I have excellent logistics due to location

EDIT: and if the girl doesn’t drink, I replace the drinks with a very popular desert spot nearby

vegynvegyn · 2022-10-28T07:30:18+00:00

Drinkkkssssss

Least-Recording-2073 · 2022-10-28T07:32:34+00:00

Anything, but the movies. Doing stuff that involves movement creates the most attraction opportunities.

SylAbys · 2022-10-28T12:31:40+00:00

Chilling getting to know each other and enjoying the time

thirdwallbreak · 2022-10-28T13:34:19+00:00

I take them to run errands with me. Shopping of some sort, maybe a bookstore, new clothes, something like that.

If they join it’s great because you don’t have to do it alone, and it gives you countless things to talk about. Who’s the book for? A friend or family member.

You can also expand this into coffee or lunch depending on how it goes or use the excuse of I have to meet up with them soon if it’s not going well. It gives you the freedoms to extend the date or cut it short. Especially now during the holidays you can take them decoration shopping. Then you can ask all the family/friends and events questions, find out about their hobbies through their favorite gifts they have received.

You get the idea…

IratusHonestus · 2022-10-28T13:43:36+00:00

Took my wife out for coffee and it went well. In my opinion it's the conversation that matters. Not the time or place.

BobMartin77 · 2022-10-28T13:59:39+00:00

Drinks and coffee, always in the evening.

Sometimes she even meets me and my friends, you’ll be amazed how this works. Keep it simple…

And I never use the word date.

69swagman · 2022-10-28T15:16:08+00:00

Don’t love bars. I feel like I get a bit restless. Sometimes it feels like an interview. My favorites are coffee/ ice cream dates where we take a walk though a park or somewhere. Gives us a chance to talk and get to know each other, while still having some activity to keep occupied.

WeonaQueBrutal · 2022-10-28T16:46:52+00:00

I like to smoke weed having a great view so that’s what I aim for.

L0n3W01f_ · 2022-10-28T17:55:26+00:00

Fuck her right in the pussy

TheChestHairComeback · 2022-10-28T18:42:30+00:00

Broadway Shows: if you want a blowjob

IDhl89 · 2022-10-28T22:08:36+00:00

First dates from Old I keep it more simple. Coffee or casual food place. Don’t want to invest hours and $ just in case the vibe isn’t there.

Title	So what are you fellas doing for first dates these days?
Author	yourmamama
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Date	October 27, 2022 7:26 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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