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[–]nobody2000 243 points244 points245 points 9 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
A million guys will either do one of the following:
And you found a unique way to pique her interest. Well done.
SEDUCTION IS ABOUT CREATIVITY AND CONFIDENCE. If you're confident, you can open and close. If you're creative, you can take that ability to open and close and increase your level of success.
Thanks for sharing. This is a great story, and I hope it gets some people thinking about opportunities that they can open without sounding like every other guy out there.
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[–]newtothelyte 21 points22 points23 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think people here mostly focus on the "science" of seduction. Things that are proven to lead to more success, these are topics like posture, tone of voice, persistence, etc. The creativity is huge and is the "art" form of seduction. Literally every situation and approach is different and unique; you have to take the current environment combine it with your personality and the techniques you learn here to give off truly great game. We can't account for every variable here in this sub, so we only talk about things we can control.
[–]chuckmeaway01 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
would be hard work too always think of something really unusual and creative to open/approach a girl with though, no? Like ''hot girl walking towards me. Need to do something different to just saying 'hi'...shit, what props have I got on me that I can use!?.....the paper in my back pocket? I could give it too her and tell her that she dropped it?...Or....Shit. she's gone now!''
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
OP's intention is clearly not this. OP was more playful and fun whereas this is contrived. Can't plan what can only be done in the moment.
[–]Noosterdam 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Creativity is what happens naturally when you are comfortable enough around women to see the basic fun aspect of it all. Essentially most of the advice here is about how to be comfortable around women, or how to compensate for not being comfortable around women.
The great thing in this one is he didn't use any words. That really helps circumvent the social autopilot and make her feel something unique is happening.
[–]carBoard 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
At every given junction in a set do the opposite of whatever your instinct says / what a typical response would be. Be the exception to the norm.
[–]-samadhi- 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Costanza esque.
[–]Dr__Reddit 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Brilliant
[–]dudeman1345 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The common thing is so true. I was getting along well with messaging a girl but once I asked what her hobbies were she stopped responding.
[–]Luckyluke23 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
this is really interesting. could you please go into more indepth about this.
SEDUCTION IS ABOUT CREATIVITY AND CONFIDENCE.
this specifically. i only ask because, I feel as my game is quite " bland" not that you mention it
[–]pathe1 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I picked up a girl by pretending to be her blind date once and it worked.
But are you saying that I should always use that sort of open, since it's different from what most guys do? Or maybe create a set of 'weird' openers that I can use in each situation so as too avoid just opening by saying 'Hey. I thought you were cute, wanted to say hi'
[–]skiptomylou1231 256 points257 points258 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That was pretty unintentionally smooth haha.
[–]Noosterdam 55 points56 points57 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. This was accidentally perfect.
[–]StillRedder 19 points20 points21 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Smooth of her.
[–]UndidIridium 92 points93 points94 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good going, dude. Now, get up, pick it up, and run with it. See how far it goes. And just as you did in that encounter, don't "think," let alone "over-think" it. Just go with the flow.
[–]cyan1618 30 points31 points32 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
We need a pic of your face so we could put it on a pedestal.
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[–]cyan1618 33 points34 points35 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Like all handsome guys I've met, they all say the same line: Look doesn't matter that much. So, pic?
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hahahahahha this made me laugh really hard.
[–]mbillion 42 points43 points44 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Women like men who take action and have the balls to talk to them, it's not a mystery
[–]ForgottenPotato 34 points35 points36 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
only when said guy is hot or else it's 'creepy'
[–]dudeman1345 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No when the guy is confident. A hot guy could take action with no confidence and still come off as creepy, Ive seen it happen.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Only when the guy truly doesn't give a fuck, is when it is not creepy
[–][deleted] 30 points31 points32 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Wow, you lucky dog. This doesnt happen everyday, and you were accidentally smooth. Text her, call her, make babies. Simple as that.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah this pull should be relatively easy if he performs well
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[–]Lagaluvin 9 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like you nailed that call too!
[–]Kukie 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This post is awesome! lol. Replying to come back when you give us an update (Which you certainly must!). Have a great time
[–]the_christian_grey 7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Nice! Put yourself out there long enough and you'll have a few fall in your lap with almost no effort.
[–]janowski_d 13 points14 points15 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Or you could spend that time studying to afford prostitutes some time in the future. There's always that.
xd
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[–]UberiDenari 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not trying to be rude, but if it's taken you ten years and you haven't realized what you're doing wrong, I'd just take the second path.
Neither me or my friends are good looking but it still works for us, nor are most of the big names in the pua field. In ten years if you haven't made any progress, you might just have an unsolvable problem with introspection. I'd go the second route even though it's very harsh to say.
[–]sykilik101 7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You ever heard the phrase "If you're trying, you're trying too hard"?
Shoutouts to not trying and just letting things happen.
[–]Leon1892 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Well thats not the solution for everybody. My problem is rather not trying at all instead of trying too hard
[–]sykilik101 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The whole point is that "trying to seduce" someone is usually not the right way to go, as "trying to seduce" implies certain actions or beliefs you feel you need to do or exhibit in order to woo someone. It's not that you should try to seduce someone, but rather, allow them to be seduced by you and who you are. Don't try to be funny/charming/sweet just to court them, but just be funny/charming/sweet and allow them to be seduced by you as a result.
It's much more prudent to tell someone "Set aside $10 a week into a savings account" than to tell them "Start saving money." The latter can be vague and you may not be able to tell yourself that you're accomplishing it, regardless of what tasks you perform to do it. The former is a tangible goal, one you can see that you accomplished and feel good about, something that will in turn lead you to saving money as a result. Same with attraction. Don't focus on "Trying to be seductive". Focus on the tangible goals that will make you feel good about accomplishing them, and will make you more attractive as a result. "Buy a nice new shirt." "Practice a hairstyle I might like." Things like that.
[–]Leon1892 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well there are good points in your text, but this is also really abstract in my opinion.
[–]sykilik101 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh, it's very abstract. The point is just to redefine your goals so that you're acting more productively towards what you want. Like with the money example, it's better to set an observable goal ("Set aside X amount per week") than to work towards an intangible idea ("Save more money"). You get more out of it that way while still accomplishing the original goal you set for yourself.
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[–]skeeter04 9 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
That is actually the best way to flirt with a new girl.
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[–]skeeter04 21 points22 points23 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You were successful because you were casual and friendly and not pushy or creepy. You did something unusual and bold and it worked even if that was not your intent. A friend of mine got a bank tellers number by simply telling her that she knew our names and he didn't know hers and that doesn't seem fair.... You can use this type of flirting anywhere from McDonalds to the Library to the mall, the movie theater, to a bus as you did.
[–]nbom 31 points32 points33 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They have name tag usually.
[–]uhhm 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wait I don't follow.. your friend told her that she knows you guys. I just, wut?
[–]Aydrean 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The bank teller would have access to the customer's details in their system
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yo she made it easy for u
[–]leoyoung1 9 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And that's how it's done. ;) Way to go fellow. :D
[–]basstardfish 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I said fuck it
I can't believe no one has said this, but this is the most important part of this story, and this is why this worked. You didn't make a big deal out of the situation, you were just a person sharing a moment with another person, and it felt real to her. Yeah it would have probably worked as a deliberate play, but it would have been much harder to pull it off in such a smooth, natural fashion if you were actually trying to do it.
That's ultimately what pickup is about. Confidence comes from not caring about the outcome. Sounds like your follow up call went well, I wish you the best!
[–]ryanino 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hell yea dude that put a smile on my face. Good on you my man.
[–]mongo39 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When ever I grab the aux cord at parties, I try to do the same thing, ask different girls to suggest songs. Usually doesn't go very far though, honestly I'm often very disappointed with the song choice, or when they tell me they don't like the red hot chili peppers, one girl told me she didn't know who they were .....
[–]indigonights 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao
[–]Chesza 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude.... Fucking boss... what....
[–]soy_bean 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
But..... What was the song??
[–]tipsy_cockatoo 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love that song. Happy for you, man!
[–]pathe1 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Will you make this your routine now? Like, you will ALWAYS open girls like this on a bus if they have an earphone in?
Cheers
[–]wraith313 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
deleted What is this?
[–]Radicalmattitude1 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Funny how when you "don't try" while simultaneously being clear with your intent, things seem to work out 😊
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Out of curiosity, were you sitting or standing next to each other?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't know what people on public transit are like where you are, but in my city, everyone is on guard.
She probably saw you, was comfortable with the idea of standing next to you and, maybe, bumped into you a little. But that's a big maybe. Either way, the right circumstances were there. And that was a great, casual move.
I love awkward moments like that. I should do a post about them.
[–]TheGameGenie 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I was waiting for a loch ness monster ending
[–]spirates 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
what happened after she have u her number and told u to ask her later? did u say thanks and then u both stood there in awkward silence until one of u exited the buss?
[–]indra2009 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If u did this in India.. poking an unknown girl in a bus. Hope u have a good time in jail.
[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Do you mind if I ask how old you are and how old she looked... For uhhhh science?
[+]lumberjack233 -7 points-6 points-5 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Don't put cute girls on the pedestal, that doesn't sound like a thing normal people do. Not saying you shouldn't pursue, but keep in mind she's weird.
[–]Insanity_-_Wolf 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Lol wut
[–]lumberjack233 -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I know this sub is all about encouraging and supporting, but being here for too long gives you a warped line of sight in social situations. This is not a bad thing but keep in mind that normal people don't go around with that flirting mindset. It's just weird that girl did what she did, unless there are other things going on that OP didn't mention. People who downvote me should work on their critical thinking instead of accepting every story and cheering people on in an undiscriminating way. That is saved for circlejerk.
[–]Insanity_-_Wolf -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How is that not a normal responce though. Sure, most people prefer minding their own business, but a little small talk here and there isn't unusual. This would seem like a common responce, maybe some people would be confused at first.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Actually Kurt_Kobain, those aren't the only two options.
[–]Mild111 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What I want to know is what happened the rest of the bus trip? Did they awkwardly ignore each other and what had just happened? Did they make smiley faces at each other? Did they continue to chat?
Seems odd that they are contained on this bus and the end of the encounter is her punching her number in the phone.
[–]Turlast 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should really stop shit-posting so often. You can't seem to post without being a negative nancy.
[–]xD322x -4 points-3 points-2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
OK wait, so, just how good looking are you though? Like no average dude could pull something like that off. Do you model?
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