I’ve been lurking and answering questions on this sub for some time now. I can 100% say the ONLY thing holding most of you guys back is your lack of experience. Now, before you say “Duh, why do you think I’m on here” ask yourself this, are you willing to fuck up? Are you willing to be rejected and/or be laughed at? Make the wrong move and be friend zoned?

The truth is - most of us waited too late to become social. Instead of going out in middle/high school and for some of us, college, we stayed in the house. What that means is, instead of making a dumb social mistake at 15, you now have to make those mistakes at (insert your current age) years old.

Any REAL person who claims to be social will tell you. You’re going to fuck up, and it’s going to be as embarrassing as you imagine it. The point is you learn , maybe beat yourself up a bit, and move on.

When I was 16 - I had a girl giving me crazy IOI’s and me being dumb/young/naive I didn’t know, and fucked it up. When I was 17 - I talked big game, pussied out, and lost the girl. When I was 18 - I talked too much an talked my way right into the friendzone.

The whole point is - it’s GOING to happen. You have to decide are you going to go through it now or later? If you keep putting it off, you’re just furthering your relatability gap.

Every year, I’m growing and learning. I’m not doing this for present me. I’m doing this for future me. Can you imagine having a great source of income - looking amazing - but you can’t pull or talk to people for the sole reason you don’t have years of fuck ups under your belt already?

I thank god everyday I fucked up back then, because without that - I wouldn’t be able to pull off things I do today.

Go fuck up - it’s gonna be okay. Your future self will worship you for your sacrifice.