If you’re like me. Deep down, you want to find a girl who is PERFECT for you and have an amazing relationship with her.

But let me let you in on a little secret… not only is it INCREDIBLY fun to date multiple women, it actually will dramatically improve your likelihood of finding, attracting and KEEPING the woman of your dreams.

How does one do this honestly and why is it helpful for your dating success?

One of the keys to successfully dating multiple women is to think of it as one would think of planting and caring for a garden.

I call it “Garden Theory”: If you were planting a garden, would you just plant one seed and sit around and hope that that one seed would make all of your dreams come true?

Of course not… that wouldn’t make any sense.

Some of the reasons why you would not grow a garden this way are not as obvious as they seem. For one, if you only have one plant – you will surely smother it. You will over water it, over care for it and basically just smother it. Also, if you are relying on that one single plant for food, you will not only have to wait a long time to get something of value out of it, but you are also putting all of your risk into one place, which is never a good idea.

Conversely, if you plant multiple plants over time and care for each of them when they require it (mature plants require less maintenance than a plant that is germinating and requires moisture every day). Also, while some plants are just starting out, others are producing food that can be eaten.

By not smothering any one individual plant, but instead providing each plant just enough sustenance to survive, grow and thrive – you will have a plentiful harvest.

How does this apply to women and dating?

Instead of focusing all of your energy on one woman, spread your focus across multiple women. Some will be just friends, some will be in the infancy of a relationship with you and others will be established friends with benefits.

You won’t smother any single woman. You won’t be needy as there are other ‘plants’ in your garden to also focus on. You also won’t be pushing women for intimacy too early on as you will have other women who are at that phase of your relationship. To push the metaphor further (and at the risk of sounding crude) – while some relationships are growing, others are ready to be harvested.

This is a great strategy while dating, as it allows you to date more successfully, and will enable you to have very satisfying relationships.

Also, by not being needy and feeling like you have no options, you won’t put up with second class behavior or stick with someone, just because they are the only one available to you. Women actually will appreciate you more, because your overall confidence and ‘masculinity’ will be greater.

Of course once you and one of the women you are now dating decide to become more serious and you both choose to be exclusive, you also will know that you had many options and chose the option that was the best fit for you.

Both you and your partner will benefit from this.

And isn’t that what this is all about? Making your relationships better and finally finding and being with a girl who is perfect for you?

I know for sure that is what got me interested in improving this part of my life.

Until next time,