Why do I get low effort girls

dbastrid100 · 2024-11-17T00:19:57+00:00

Because of the amount of options. A girls DMs on Instagram and dating apps are endless from thirsty dudes especially if she's attractive. Not to mention they love attention and validation so will pretend to be interested to eat up all the attention. This is a well known issue with online dating these days.

Ok-Cappy · 2024-11-17T00:25:41+00:00

life is a game. You're playing "I want to chat up/meet some cute girls" game. You think they are playing "I want to chat up/meet some cute guys" but many of them are playing "let's see how much attention I can get." Please take into account that by most measures, attractive girls are inundated by guys seeking their attention, especially on dating sites. You are probably just one of the 10s or even 100s that are trying them. they simply don't have the time.

KoleSekor · 2024-11-17T00:44:26+00:00

By flipping the script and being the low-effort one; content with your life to the point you know you truly don't need any woman to be happy and that it's their loss if they miss out on everything you bring to the table because you're a real catch

solomon_arba · 2024-11-17T01:00:37+00:00

Since you're always initiates, then be assertive. If not reciprocated, move on. Remember, you're the buyer and they're the seller. If you're not satisfied with them, look someone else. You can think with your dick but with moderation.

unevendopamine2 · 2024-11-17T02:09:39+00:00

Be good looking, every girl (under a 9) is low effort to someone

You can get girls 2 point below you easy

If you’re an 8, you can get a 6 easy

Most guys are 5’s, so you can get a 3 low effort

Sudden-Conference-65 · 2024-11-17T08:11:00+00:00

Don’t let it get to you, get to the meetup. They’re not interested in penpals

BlockyRumble · 2024-11-17T12:39:05+00:00

Online this is bound to happen like many here have said due to the ridiculous amount of options girls have on their phones. Online, you're just a number, and so should she be to you. Until you meet up irl, keep your expectations super low.

When it comes to real life, just keep her engaged and get her to talk about herself through open ended questions that can't be answered with yes/no. Be masculine and not thirsty, but still be present and show interest in what she has to say

LittleRedShaman · 2024-11-17T12:24:18+00:00

What kind of conversation are you bringing to the table? Things that have surface depth and only require minimal responses, or things that are more thought provoking? Are you funny, playful, witty? Are you trying to chat during the work day and they are just responding in between customers? For me personally, if you aren’t funny and playful and at least somewhat smart and clever, the conversation is not going to catch and maintain my interest.

My advice is to keep looking until you find someone that you find that spark with.

OkResponsibility2470 · 2024-11-17T00:44:18+00:00

They’re not that into you

MilkMaidHil · 2024-11-17T13:51:57+00:00

Be different. You want an engaging conversation.. you should be engaging.. ask questions that draw their attention, or make them think.

Ask them what the best part of their day was..

when getting to know them.. ask what career they could do if they could follow their dreams, or ask something that’s on their bucket list for the year. .

Girls have sooooo many distractions and you’re probably 1 of how many. Those guys probably aren’t engaging them either. But if you stand out.. make them think, make them stop and wonder.. you’ll get farther.

Also.. good luck. Hope you find someone that makes you feel on fire 🔥 🙃🥰

Anhxtaiii · 2024-11-18T02:13:26+00:00

volume. talk to the right girls who are interested. dating apps is really a hit or miss but most of them will be dry and expect you to chase them and they will lead you on. know better and choose better. how you're feeling is valid.

the right person won't waste your time.

PleaseDontBeTakenPlz · 2024-11-17T04:15:08+00:00

Even average girls like me get almost every guy we swipe right on. And most guys say the same things, it’s easy for everyone to want to give up.

devonthed00d · 2024-11-17T02:12:07+00:00

Wait till they run thru the other 17 dudes named Chad or Stone, that are currently in their dms. When those dudes are finished with her, she’ll reach back out to you.

You’ll be in her Number 1 spot in like 4 years when she gets bored and needs some more attention. Just wait, you’ll see lol

WillyDonDilly69 · 2024-11-17T00:47:47+00:00

Because you are "lucky". Tough shit, sometimes probabilities don't work in your favour, sometimes you just go on a shit streak, only thing to do is move forward.

CharmingRejector · 2024-11-17T00:26:52+00:00

Because whatever you're writing isn't reaching into their heart or soul.

I'm not good at that stuff either. That's why I meet women irl.

BJ_Blazcowicz · 2024-11-17T15:35:46+00:00

Because all the apps are made for close dates in real life. Yo don’t know the person by spending hours and days texting. You know them by meeting them in person by talking, touching, seducing, flirting, looking in the eyes.

LovelyRoseBoop · 2024-11-17T21:04:57+00:00

if you’re hot, they think you lack good intentions and conversation skills and they are testing you for effort. Something you wrote or didn’t ask made them feel mad and undesirable.
If you are not hot, they don’t like the way you look and are waiting for you to impress them with your charm, intelligence or organisational skills.

PeterLamb87 · 2024-11-18T07:18:48+00:00

Dating apps are used to set dates, a coffe shop or bar where you can actually meet the person, any attempt to meet girls via text is doomed to fail. Text game is bullshit, why? Women inboxes are filled with dudes, women get hundreds of matches, a lot of women have the attention span of a goldfish, and some women are very busy. If you get her attention, shoot to kill. This is also why I prefer bumble, it forces them to be proactive; you are going to lose plenty of matches for the aforementioned reasons, but the ones you dont tend to be of better quality.

Desperate_Key6142 · 2024-11-17T13:03:57+00:00

You don't know the woman, and you are a stranger. It's often best to meet women in real life before communicating with them. Women are more likely to remember the man who walked up to them and had a conversation over the 1000th dm.
You get low effort girls because texting girls on Instagram is low effort.
Be interesting. A lot of the normal texting is boring small talk. Learn to flip the script, maybe ask a random question, throw in a reference, etc.

redspikedog · 2024-11-17T07:54:37+00:00

They are always on their phone. They also have so many guys trying to message her, from ALL OVER THE FUCKING WORLD. Thats why you see them showing off the airplane window and going to some fake arab land. And you see them posting their large fancy hotels and you see their luggage with bikinis and lingerie spilling out in the reflection of the large hotel tower windows. Sometimes, or a lot of the times, they don't even post it to not show off to other guys. It doesn't have to be overseas. They're just Fing the guy they found most attractive while you're - and others - waiting for her replies.

Yup. Some behind the scenes stuff.

So yeah, they have endless options they can ride to. So up your games - looks, money, assets on your social media. Fake it if you have to. Remember - she's not going to be with you for a long time. Just a good time. She doesn't have to know you're fake.

But if you want to be "first" in line, listen to this: Approach her in person. You will be cutting everyone in line, you'll be ahead. There is nothing like a man to woman interaction. But if she didn't like you in person, she wont like you in the DMS.

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2024-11-17T03:36:26+00:00

You need to be a high value man in order to get effort from women, and you need to only care once a week when they are over giving you what you want. Then not care immediately after.

Otherwise they’ll think your boyfriend material and will treat you as such. And if they think they can get any man they want, until they want one, they won’t try.

haunted_champagne · 2024-11-17T07:03:28+00:00

If the person isn’t putting in effort, there’s some reason on their end as to why. For example, maybe she just got out of a relationship and is feeling emotionally unavailable so she’s subconsciously sabotaging anything that might work out. Maybe she’s just in a selfish phase of her life where she’s working on herself and really she should be single to focus on that but she jumped back into dating too fast and wasn’t ready for it. I don’t know, some kind of psychological issue

TheMedMan123 · 2024-11-17T05:42:13+00:00

because your not faking wanting a relationship with them your acting like you want sex.

madmaxfromshottas · 2024-11-17T08:41:55+00:00

it’s about maxing out all of your attributes first , think of it like a video game in a sense that if you come in the game as one of the best you have the best chances of winning. meaning that if your instagram isn’t looking like your winning in life or you have some sort of lifestyle then you either need to level up in some area or try harder in order to get the woman you want or attention from. Or just cold approach which eventually the woman will want to see your social status it’s all about becoming your best self first after that it’s a numbers game not every one will go for you just keep shooting your shot.

Kooky-Research-1217 · 2024-11-17T11:01:32+00:00

The best thing you can do currently is become 10 times interesting/attractive male than you are currently.

Maximise ur looks, career, hobbies and inner life and game

Silly_Randy · 2024-11-17T22:53:19+00:00

Why would they? Who tf are you?

Artist-in-Residence- · 2024-11-18T02:53:06+00:00

People who are good conversationalists tend to be rare. They're also most likely highly educated. The majority of the population communicates through memes, emoticons and one word replies. If you want to understand your chemistry with women, you have to talk to them on a voice call and not via text so keep texting to a minimum.

Texting on instagram is not the platform for deep philosophical questions and exploring your childhood history. Be funny and helpful, not nosy.

If you're asking all sorts of intrusive questions without knowing someone well, they're going to think you're weird.

pinata_4chan · 2024-11-18T16:54:38+00:00

You don't get low efforts girls , you're a high effort guy

azzyadvice · 2024-11-17T02:08:31+00:00

They just not interested. Go out w girls who see you as a unicorn.

WillyDonDilly69 · 2024-11-17T00:46:47+00:00

Because you are "lucky". Tough shit, sometimes probabilities don't work in your favour.

BetterString9306 · 2024-11-17T06:22:44+00:00

Title	Why do I get low effort girls
Author	Upset_Entertainer_69
Upvotes	214
Comments	94
Date	November 17, 2024 12:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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