Why do you guys keep using Dating Apps?

ItsallLegos · 2025-09-21T15:49:12+00:00

I’m divorced, work long hours (shift work—12 to 14 hrs each) and have my kids when I’m not working. So just going out and socializing whenever I want really isn’t a thing.

Nabbzi · 2025-09-21T15:16:51+00:00

Doing both

TuneSoft7119 · 2025-09-21T16:34:54+00:00

I feel like I have 2 reasons.

They allow me to see girls outside of my social circles.
I feel like they are my only chance since girls in my social circles only ever see me as a friend.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-09-21T15:34:45+00:00

Multitasking is a thing. Dating apps are like passive income, you don’t focus on it but once in a while you hit a jackpot.

jackthehat6 · 2025-09-21T15:10:19+00:00

tbh, i'm in a few telegram PUA groups and it seems that all of the members lays still come from tinder. They make a LOT of cold approaches with nothing to show. I don't even like tinder but it's where everyones results seem to come from

Efficient-Cable-873 · 2025-09-21T15:12:50+00:00

I don't. I get way more attention in person.

LongHairedKraut · 2025-09-21T21:39:03+00:00

Dating apps have always been the only way I have been able to meet women. When people say “Just get off the apps and try real life”, it makes me want to punch someone. Meeting women in real life is NOT a reality in my life at all, so dating apps is all I have and all I will have to be able to meet women. I am 29 years old, and have NEVER dated, hooked up with, or even kissed a woman I have initially met irl, and ALL my previous encounters began with a swipe on an app. Every. Single. One.

It’s genuinely hilarious to me how many times I see guys bitch and moan about how bad they think dating apps are, when in my case if it wasn’t for apps I wouldnt have ever been able to date women at all. That said, apps are far from perfect, but they are all I have, and despite their flaws I am very grateful for them

VelvetSinclair · 2025-09-21T19:31:19+00:00

About 90% of likes from women go to just 10% of guys

Lucky for me, I'm one of those guys

norwegiandoggo · 2025-09-21T16:22:27+00:00

I mostly get my lays from dating apps. Has it's downsides but i think it's more effective than cold approach

Chrisuk209 · 2025-09-21T19:20:16+00:00

Because I live somewhere that has nothing. No clubs. Nothing but the supermarket as how to meet women. It's one of the reasons I'm looking at moving and one of the reasons I've given up on Internet dating cuz I've exhausted every woman I find attractive that I've seen on internet dating in the past 7 years. That's what happens when you live in the middle of nowhere.

Acrobatic-Show3732 · 2025-09-21T20:31:48+00:00

Once you optimize It and beat the algo in your zone, its a great way to meet people.

MoneyPop8800 · 2025-09-21T22:00:25+00:00

You gotta do both.

KpopalypseVoid · 2025-09-22T11:18:37+00:00

kitchen life killed my dating game for years. 70 hour weeks, smelled like garlic, only free time was sunday mornings at farmers market. apps were brutal cause i had zero game and worked every weekend.

turned things around with: farmers market conversations (people there appreciate real food), cooking classes where i actually knew stuff, gleam for daily social practice (like duolingo but for conversations). the text back exercises fixed my dry messaging.

biggest thing was treating social skills like knife skills. needs daily practice not just theory. now i meet people who get passionate about food

superfly_guy81 · 2025-09-21T20:02:25+00:00

When you say join a club what clubs are we talking about outside run clubs

Ok_Ostrich_7847 · 2025-09-21T21:47:57+00:00

I don’t. And this might be a bit extreme but I believe all guys who have self respect must drop using dating apps. Both as a principal and how it is affecting women’s view of men in general.

doubleup___ · 2025-09-21T16:52:40+00:00

I used to work security… 11 hours a day 6 days straight, without apps I would’ve been a lost cause

JimiAce09 · 2025-09-21T21:24:33+00:00

Getting rejected IRL is embarrassing

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-09-21T20:22:20+00:00

I don't use dating apps.

Vox_Dissidens · 2025-09-22T01:03:15+00:00

For guys just looking to casually date or get laid, I’d say cold approach and dating apps both offer value if you know what you’re doing.

For guys looking for long-term relationships and marriage, I 100% advocate for the apps above other methods. They have their share of issues and limitations, but no other medium allows you to filter so many candidates for likeminded goals and values.

Existing-Big-3039 · 2025-09-22T01:22:38+00:00

Either online or offline, your chances are equal.

artbene · 2025-09-22T02:06:10+00:00

It’s practical. I can send messages, wait for the reply and the make the work. I’m a average guy in therms of beauty, but I think it’s easy to know someone via dating app.

Once I build the chemistry, it’s make sure that don’t take to long for the in person date.

Using Inner Circle app for 2 weeks almost. About 60 matches, 10 contacts I’ve trade numbers, 4 I’m really working to meet in person.

And a really average profile, no sports, trips, hobbies photos, no Instagram, opening conversation with “Hey, how it’s going?”, and works. Go without much expectations and try to evolve a good conversation.

TiedHands · 2025-09-22T04:01:00+00:00

I work nights and 12 hr shifts, which really isn't conducive at all to meeting people. And I live in a really small rural town in the South. People that gave never lived in small towns like this dont understand how much in prohibits your social life and ability to meet new people. I see people spout the clichés "join a club, go to a bar, sign up for a sport or class, etc." There are tons of places where those things DO NOT EXIST. Where i live, there are no clubs to join. There are no bars to go. Theres no college or school to sign up for a class. Dating apps, as bad as I hate them, are the only thing that allows me to meet people in a certain radius outside of my town hopefully.

TyrannosaurusFlexed · 2025-09-22T06:18:53+00:00

Because I’m successful on them and consistently link up with numerous girls a week from the apps.

Further, it gives me access to women I wouldn’t normally come into contact with. The rich milf I fucked in her penthouse and the emo girl I hooked up with in the back of my car aren’t exactly in my social circle.

But I still focus on irl approaches because that’s where you’re going to find the 10/10 model tier dimes and casual dating opportunities.

Dating apps are for easy sex with high-mids, they’re not a priority for me. I would never date anyone from there.

Real_Agreeable_Pea · 2025-09-22T07:36:06+00:00

I have uninstalled dating apps last month. Shit experience in my area. Now i go out, commute 2hrs to go to clubs/events of my interest during weekends and i approach women over there. It really feels good. Even if i dont get a date my emotions dont go to i hate my life and i suck but ratheri feel good i talked to the women i wanted and i gave a chance to myself.

Yes women reject me for not being local but i dont mind. I love the interaction more rn than the success of her agreeing for giving number/date. After all i can do is position myself for the future and make myself financially better to live there but until then i’ll keep doing wat i have in my control and keep failing-learning

SensitiveBridge7513 · 2025-09-22T08:06:56+00:00

it works for me. im not fat and i still have all my hair.

connor343434 · 2025-09-22T09:32:17+00:00

Doing at the hobby clubs gym or whatever is a bit risky if it doesn't work out you've got to go back there or find another club

byte_slayer_oni · 2025-09-22T12:51:47+00:00

makes sense to me

Mountain-Link4598 · 2025-09-22T21:27:44+00:00

I've met almost 70 women off dating apps in the last 6months and about 10-15 were ultra hot and great people , I mean. It would be great to have more but it seems like a reasonable amount.

TransitionNormal1387 · 2025-09-22T23:12:53+00:00

If you can get dates with attractive girls with them on a regular basis then they are the ultimate option.

The problem is most men aren’t attractive enough to fulfill the above statement.

Technical-Appeal7768 · 2025-09-23T17:15:42+00:00

I’ve slept with 49 women using dating apps since Feb man. Plus two that I’ve met in real life.

They’re working just fine for me, I guess I’m in the 10% of guys getting 90% of the women.

masterduelistky · 2025-09-23T17:32:43+00:00

I have no social circle to speak of really, and although it's soul crushing sometimes, the hottest girl I've ever went on a date with came from Hinge. I would've never believed I could even get a date with her prior.

Shoddy-Lingonberry-4 · 2025-09-27T16:15:06+00:00

Yes apps are useless for 80% of men. Better to meet people IRL

No-Dot-7661 · 2025-09-28T07:52:46+00:00

Dating apps are the easiest way to meet women in my opinion. Can talk to hundreds of single women while using their profile to pre-select them so you aren't wasting time cold approaching a random woman that you know nothing about.

Being able to message hundreds of women from just using your phone is way more efficient than going to some group and maybe talking to a handful of women who might not even be single.

Title	Why do you guys keep using Dating Apps?
Author	Routine-Sky-5529
Upvotes	121
Comments	48
Date	September 21, 2025 3:08 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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