[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/4/2013 (please upvote - zero karma)

Gentle_G · 2013-01-04T21:49:08+00:00

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N-Gin · 2013-01-04T23:45:09+00:00

My question is with dancing in general.

Some background: I'm a college student and I'm a really good dancer (I do salsa, swing, and hip-hop), and attract a lot of attention when I do so. If I give zero fucks and just let loose, it's a double-edged sword when I'm not with a dancing crowd specifically. Some girls would much rather watch me dance, or sometimes get intimidated when I come up to them and want to dance.

So generally speaking, when at normal clubs, would it more beneficial to keep dancing as an ace in the hole of sorts, or do you think it better to put it out there and really be the center of attention (for better or worse)?

haloll · 2013-01-04T21:13:21+00:00

I'm kinda confused here, as I seem to be getting two conflicting sides here from seddit. The first thing people always say is that you should recognize your passions and pursue them. Mine are definitely programming and video games; my dream job would either be as a game programmer or an information assurance specialist. However, here on seddit technological hobbies such as mine seem to be placed into a lower tier, and people say that I need to get "real hobbies", as though my choice of past-times don't actually count. I'm really confused on how to move forward here and any advice you have would be appreciated.

SentinelOfLight42 · 2013-01-05T07:34:01+00:00

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salem2474 · 2013-01-05T00:03:38+00:00

There's this girl that I like and I know she likes me(but she hasn't explicitly told me). We live 600 miles from each other and I occasionally come to her town to visit my father who lives there. I'm currently a HS senior, and will be going to college in her town. How should I treat this situation? Any advice on how to not screw this up, like so many other things in my short life?

gadelat · 2013-01-05T00:52:15+00:00

I noticed there are some famous PUAs who does NOT use their voice right:

Neil Strauss - talks too fast

Lance Mason -too high pitch when he talks a bit louder

Agree? What do you think?

jerbear88 · 2013-01-05T02:50:02+00:00

Be creative, be silly, be unique.
Geocaching is a great idea, gets you moving and exploring areas. Allows time to talk and problem solve together. Also allows you to be physically close at times so you can break that touching boundary (give her a hand to get the cache, high five or hug when you find one, etc.)

I often proposed the idea of buying 5 or 10 helium balloons and tying positive notes to them and letting them go. This allows you to sit down, grab a drink, coffee/ tea/ pop, talk about things like "what positive thing should I write" which gives a subconscious feeling that this date is already positive while being different. You can let the balloons go.. Say, half an hour before sun set, sit and watch them float off as the sun sets.

You don't want to be to wild and crazy on your first date but you do want it to be memorable.

champagne_nutsack · 2013-01-05T03:00:44+00:00

Is there any good way to get a number from a girl working at a [bar|supermarket|bank|*]? I know how to ask and have the confidence to do it. I've always heard this is a bad idea.

Is there another way to #-close in these situations?

Zmaster018 · 2013-01-05T03:29:44+00:00

Hi everybody, I'm really boring in one on one conversation. Like, shit, I'll have a skype call with a girl and we'll barely say anything to each other until we get a third person in.

My question is, how do I stop being that boring guy? It seems like I can never think of anything to talk about.

Edit: I could also use a quick guide to easing in kino with already established relationships

SwissPUA · 2013-01-05T04:50:16+00:00

I am getting sick of Cold Approaches in my Club Game (note that I am talking about Clubs only, not bars / Night Game in general).

How do your successful Cold Approaches in Clubs look like? Where do you do them (dance floor, at the bar, smoker lounge, outside...)?

I mix a 50% Cold Approach, 50% Hot Approach in my Club Game and I get nearly all of my success out of a Hot Approach. I am never drunk when approaching. I use multiple kinds of openers (most of them are direct - maybe I should go indirect?).

The difference between a Hot Approach and a Cold Approach is that in a Cold Approach, you are not exchanging any signals before the actual approach whereas in a Hot Approach I only approach after exchanging signals like eye contact, raising glasses, smiling, body contact, etc.

Tenmagnet · 2013-01-04T21:09:56+00:00

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EducatedHippy · 2013-01-05T01:48:41+00:00

Once you've been rejected by a woman, should you move on, or is there a possibility of winning her back?

PandaReich · 2013-01-05T07:23:48+00:00

My roommate is bringing over this girl that I find attractive quite a bit and I would like to her ask out. I've talked to him and she says they have a long friendship and has plenty of chances to make a move but didn't because he isn't attracted to her in that way. How would I go about making a move if they're usually together.

Note: I haven't asked if he would care if I dated her, only if they've had any past or possible future relationships.

Bevman00 · 2013-01-05T10:02:48+00:00

A general question about the community: Why arent any sedditors contributing lines and routines and plays to the community? I think a lot of the newbies are pretty sick of hearing "be confident" and "act natural".

Jerfy · 2013-01-05T10:56:42+00:00

How do i go about the age factor? I recently approached a girl who was 21 and mocked me for being 18 saying things that I was a baby and that I was too young for her. I just playfully bantered back but can someone give me some concrete advice as to what to do?

iraqicamel · 2013-01-04T23:34:39+00:00

okay two questions:

Haven't been able to get in touch with a number pull from 4 days ago because I've been sick. How should I start the conversation? I wish to use text.

Also, a friend of mine has a really hot friend. My friend is constantly inviting me out to chill when they go to hangout. I asked for her friends number awhile back and never called because I was in the middle of an intensive semester at school. How do I make things workout in my favor next time we hangout?

champagne_nutsack · 2013-01-05T03:05:08+00:00

Guys who are divorced and have kid[s], how do you disclose your situation? I'm sure I'm not the only one.

I'm late 30's but people always tell me I look younger. Since separating from my wife I've had a # close and some promising encounters. However, I wonder how/when/if I should disclose everything to a HB.

I don't want to limit myself to women who have been divorced or have children.

Obviously, if I were working my game it would be on a night when my child was not staying at my house.

Edit: I added added a word

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SentinelOfLight42 · 2013-01-05T07:44:15+00:00

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tacocatism · 2013-01-05T09:53:36+00:00

There's this girl. I occasionally text her. I'm into her, and am pretty sure she's into me... I don't know how to initiate though and am going back to college in a couple weeks. I'd like to do SOMETHING with her before then. Any advice would be appreciated.

sedditpadawan · 2013-01-05T16:37:30+00:00

Here it is seddit, during NYE on my way out the bar I noticed a really cute bartender was staring at me, I made eye contact and we both smiled. I've talked with her a couple times, usual elevator talk etc., but I kind of regret not talking to her before I left. It's a big college bar, and she gets hit on by dozens of dudes nightly. I just didn't want to go in thinking a "hired gun" being nice was an IOI. Thoughts?

Harlestone · 2013-01-05T17:49:08+00:00

I'm a 20yo uni student, very briefly met an gorgeous girl (for about 2 minutes) through a mutual friend, who then suggested me as a friend on fb and i added her. After a brief talk on fb I got her number and since then we've been casual texting since december 18th or 19th. She's already said it'd "be cool to do something together" after my dissertation deadline (17th Jan).

Send about 4 or 5 texts each a day, occassionally flirty but i'm definitely leading the conversation in terms of questions.

I'm terrified of falling into the friendzone, despite her replying positively to the suggestion of a date. Any tips for maintaining this link another 11 days until I finally get her on a date?

Avacell · 2013-01-05T18:27:52+00:00

Here's my question:

Ok so I'm In high school. And there's this girl at my school who is absolutely beautiful looking! But here's the thing I don't have any classes with her. I caught her staring at me a few times going down the hallway. But most of the time I don't usually see her alone. I see her alone in lunch for the first 5 minutes then she's with her friends. And I really want to make the approach on this girl but I don't want to mess it up. I tried one approaching a girl and miserably failed so I've never tried it again. So all in all, can you guys throw in any knowledge you can that could possibly help? Please and thank you!

Jerfy · 2013-01-05T18:43:35+00:00

I should have wrote this in my other question but when is the best time to text or call them after the #-close? I hear all sorts of mixed things, what's the bare minimum, I think i remember hearing 3-4 days but for club environments you want to text by the end of the night, whereas I've heard even texting something playfully on the spot or calling their number on the spot to make sure it's not fake. What's your take on it?

SentinelOfLight42 · 2013-01-05T18:45:18+00:00

Can I identify which girl at a party/bar is willing to be picked up?

SpiderFan · 2013-01-05T20:04:38+00:00

What's the best way to see if your friends and acquaintances are down to be FWB? So far I just tell them I'm into that, and that I'm comfortable being in that situation with them. But none seem to follow up.

Yui108 · 2013-01-06T04:03:42+00:00

When should I decide to call it quits on a girl? She asked me out to a movie, we went and nothing happened. I brushed it off saying we're young (11th grade) and she might be new to this. We've texted back and forth for a while, and over the past few weeks I've asked her to meet for a date twice. Both times she had an excuse but she keeps on texting me. I'm pretty down about it because I really like this girl, but should I just cut my losses?

im2rad2b4go10 · 2013-01-04T21:05:49+00:00

What's your favorite bar drink? Mine's vodka tonic.. Gentlemen's drink.

somethingreat · 2013-01-05T05:32:04+00:00

this is a doozie ... but how do you get good at game while keeping respect for women? how do you make sure she knows what you expect while still meeting her needs and making sure she's happy?

many men have sex with a woman, throw her to the side like trash, and it's frankly the most disgusting thing that i see in the PUA community

EDIT: i guess i'm having trouble figuring out whether i like her because of her physique, or her personality, or both? i think in order to maintain respect, you need both, and it's tough knowing whether it's one or the other.

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 1/4/2013 (please upvote - zero karma)
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Date	January 4, 2013 8:44 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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