[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/19/13

Whitesock1 · 2013-08-19T18:58:44+00:00

I built attraction flirting with a chick over the summer, yet when I hung out with her in person, she seemed a bit cold and uneasy. Should I try again or just move on?

tdb2318 · 2013-08-19T23:19:06+00:00

If you call her to get a date set up and she doesn't answer, do you:

a) Text explaining what you called about b) Let her make the next move c) Call the next day

ThrowingLikeNever · 2013-08-20T07:05:34+00:00

Any good place for a date?

Being only 16 years old, I don't feel like bringing girls to restaurant, and going to coffee shop would kind of be stupid since I hate coffee (not a good excuse, I know I know)

Would be nice if cheap.

BrickleBerrySucks · 2013-08-19T21:19:14+00:00

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lyrian · 2013-08-19T22:19:53+00:00

I think my sticking point at the moment is that I struggle after having isolated the girl. In initial conversations where it's just small talk/joking around I do great but after isolating the girl I'm often at a loss as to what to say. I genuinely want to get to know the girl but I think what holds me back is a fear that the questions I ask or the way I talk to her in isolation may place me in the friend zone. I'm not scared to kino and I know when to, but I just struggle with building up the conversation. Are there any real "guidelines" as to what to talk about when trying to build up attraction in isolation, or are there specific topics I should be aiming for?

stoicassistant · 2013-08-19T22:51:36+00:00

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GRAPE_GAN · 2013-08-19T19:53:22+00:00

Is there a sub reddit for seduction for high schoolers?

Edit: thanks for the quick responses and this is pretty late but it seems like highseddit is mostly situational as stated in the replies

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throwmc1 · 2013-08-19T18:47:11+00:00

How do you handle the situation "in the heat of the moment" when you and a friend both find a girl attractive? Pass to him or jump into their convo as soon as she mentions she likes you? We were in a very loud club dancing and having a blast, this girl starts booty bumping against me, my friend thinks she's really cute (as do I) and asks me if we can switch spots (it was his bday so I said go for it). Girl asks him why I wouldn't dance with her, didn't really know how to react so I just let it be and danced with her not that attractive friend for a little. Cute girl loses interest, tells my friend she's too young for her, leaves. What should I have done differently?
Can I pull RSD Tyler-style kino and aggressive/loud openers like them even if it doesn't reflect my personality, or should I find my "own" style? I'm more quiet (and short) than most, so it's hard for me to just go balls out and bear hug a girl.
How would you gain attraction in a situation where you and a friend are meeting a group of girls, and it turns out a couple of the girls went to high school with you and either don't remember you, or remember you as the quiet, shy, nerdy kid? AKA little or no social proof.

PosVibeEmanator · 2013-08-19T20:05:10+00:00

Recently finished Conquer Your Campus by Mark Redman (read here). Was ok, but it seemed pretty heavy on simply being sociable. There wasn't nearly as much outer game stuff. Obviously I need confidence, but what can I do to easily build rapport with the tons of girls I'll be seeing in a week when I return to school? (it should be noted I go to a small-ish school ~5000 students, which Redman himself notes can be a hindrance)
On posture: I've worked on posture a little. Its okay, not great. Every time I'm standing up properly, it takes a concerted effort to keep my chest out, stand shoulder with apart. (learned that from this Art of Maliness article How do I do this naturally? If I stop actively thinking about standing properly I slink down a little to my natural resting position
Any advice for meeting people in suite style dorms? The last couple years I was in a corridor style, and it was easy to meet people in the lounges or passing in the hallways. In suite building, I'm told, people mostly stay inside their own suites.

Edit: formatting and links

bl1y · 2013-08-19T21:54:10+00:00

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Manawah · 2013-08-20T04:04:14+00:00

I'm at a camp type setting for the week. My friend is trying to get with a girl, I can tell all he has to do is make the move to kiss her. How can I convince him that it's that simple? He really likes her and is afraid to fuck up.

airmcnair06 · 2013-08-23T14:13:07+00:00

I got an attractive girls number even after negging her about her looks twice. after a bit of small talk, I ask her name and when tells me, I go to shake her hand and say "wow, I've never met an ugly [her name]....She goes to say thank you but before she can even finish saying it, I interrupt and go "UNTIL NOW!" with a big smile. She loves it enough to interrupt her friend's and my wing's convo to tell them what I had just said, they both laughed too. She was so attractive I decided to try and stand out and not gush over her looks...

anyway, that was Saturday night. I texted her about 9am on Monday and said

Hey _______, it's [myname] from [bar we met at]. I just wanted to let you know I just had a cup of coffee brewed by the hand of God. Hope you're having a good morning too ;)

(line I stole from some pua) now I know I messed up by sending a text that didn't require a response and expecting one anyway. of course, she didn't reply. now, 4 days later, how do I proceed?

I haven't had this happen to me yet. I've usually had outright success with the other girls I am currently talking to. text, small talk, set up meet...pretty straightforward. do I try texting her once again to set up a meet? drop the texting and call now? what's a good time to call? (I almost NEVER call girls btw)

tldr: got number, sent text that didn't require a reply, expected reply, didn't get one, how to proceed?

lainzee · 2013-08-20T11:10:25+00:00

I went out with a friend from work the other night. (I'm female and he's male).

I was pretty drunk and escalated on him the whole night. I kino-ed him pretty significantly, including running my fingers through his hair on the back of his head. And I grabbed his tie and told him that he shouldn't be wearing it because it made me want to grab it and make out with him.

He didn't reject at any point (though I did not actually try to make out with him). And he reinitiated the next day by basically finding an excuse to give me a hug.

However, as far as I know he's completely gay. He has a boyfriend, his facebook lists him as being interested in men.

Do I still continue to escalate until rejection? Or do I take his sexual orientation as pre-emptive rejection and move on?

He paid for like $40 in drinks for me, and when I offered to pay him back he said to just take him to just buy him dinner sometime so I have an easy excuse to go out with him again.

stubble_trouble · 2013-08-19T23:35:56+00:00

Is there any way to re initiate a friends with benefits situation, after a long period of silence?

DeadEndExit · 2013-08-20T00:28:53+00:00

I have a problem acting on IOI's, it's a weird situation, I know that I am good looking but can be shy around girls (I know this sounds a bit stupid but I think you guys will understand) when they are clearly hitting on me I kind of freeze up and dont attempt to get intimate with them or move the conversation on further. What do you do when you know a girl likes you?

Edit: extra question. I have only started going out after leaving the "quiet nerdy kid" me behind, one of the problems I have is that this means I have little to know social proof. Anus ways of dealing/working around this? (I know going out over time will solve this eventually)

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-08-20T01:37:15+00:00

So yesterday my friend came over to chill. We've always seen each other as 'just friends' but we both find each other attractive. When we were cuddling on my bed we gave each other the look and kissed real quick..but she stopped and said that this was weird. What should I do?

k4rlwhat · 2013-08-20T05:53:26+00:00

Girl and I dated seriously for awhile (HB8), then I went to Europe for the summer and ruined everything by being needy and a little bitch while I was away. I got home, we talked. She said she wanted to be single for awhile, that we should be friends and maybe something would happen again between us in the future. She still texts me from time to time and we have mutual friends so I will see her out and around. She asks me to hangout sometimes as well. I would like to get back with her and it's hard suppressing the one-itis instincts.

I'm interested in building passive attraction, how should I be acting around / to her when we talk or see each other in public.

How should I respond to text messages and requests to spend time together?

I think NEGing is a must.

I feel Kino might show that I'm still trying to chase her, should I attempt it or not use it at all. I'm going on dates and meeting other women. Should I invite them out when I am with her or talk about them? Or will that appear as if I'm trying to make her jealous. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

throwmc1 · 2013-08-20T07:31:22+00:00

What are a couple of good example openers to use on my first day back at school once I sit down next to someone? Preferably ones that are situationally independent.

rps215 · 2013-08-20T07:46:08+00:00

First day of sophomore year of college (community college) is next week. Any tips on good openers for the first day? Also how do I build on simple conversations such as "where is this class?" How can I keep the convo going after that?

ZaMoS92 · 2013-08-20T20:24:18+00:00

I'm a 20 year old guy (turning 21 on September) so a year has passed since my last serious relationship and I feel like I have becomes rather boring.. I hang out with a few friends and usually go to the theaters with this girl I like and her sister comes along every time.. Her patents seem to like me enough to trust me with them completely and I get the feeling their parents would like to see me and the oldest daughter together.. She's cute and fun and I'm average but been hitting the gym lately so I get a confidence boost but still I have that feeling of being the boring guy.. We watch the movie and walk and hang out for a bit but only have short conversations since I dont really know what to talk about and also i wouldn't like to make either of them feel left out for talking to the other all the time so I'm left there not knowing what to say to either since they are both very different from eachother and don't share much interests

bl1y · 2013-08-20T21:15:24+00:00

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dubiousjoao · 2013-08-20T23:18:06+00:00

I think i'm falling for a girl. The problem is she is one of my best friends. I not oneiting her. I'm going out this weekend, hit on some girls. But i'd be really happy if something happened between her and me.

Tips??

youngeric86 · 2013-08-21T00:18:24+00:00

Met a girl a few months ago and we clicked then but have both been out of town for different parts of the summer. I found out through a mutual friend that she isn't back in town a few days ago. How long should I wait until I ask her out to drinks?

Any advice for someone going solo to bars or clubs? I don't have many friends that are interested in going out.

mnunes98 · 2013-08-21T00:43:30+00:00

How to get out of friendzone?.I know that i should stop trying,but i really like this girl and i dont want to give up,so is there a way to her see me as something more than a friend?

Captain_Unremarkable · 2013-08-21T05:53:54+00:00

K-closing: Kino is no problem, but what protips do you have for a guy who's not great at locking lips after building attraction?

Manawah · 2013-08-21T11:30:25+00:00

I'm at camp for the week, and I'm trying to get with an HB10 that's here. I've become friends with her, and we flirt a lot. Problem is, she flirts with everyone, and I can't tell if she wants to get with me or not because of it. How can I tell if a girl wants me when she flirts with everyone?

bl1y · 2013-08-21T14:48:49+00:00

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friendinthezone · 2013-08-21T20:07:33+00:00

I don't know if this quite belongs here, but what are a couple of good openers for a girl to use on a guy? I'm great at conversation once I get going, but canned openers help me get over that aa.

Arch_Angel13 · 2013-08-22T05:43:31+00:00

How do I get a girl turned on while texting? I had a thing with this girl(making out and touching a little bit) but I won't see her again for a month or so. I don't want to come off a pervert.

RRthrowawaye · 2013-08-22T06:55:51+00:00

I'm late to the party so I doubt anyone will see this

I'm currently dating/in a vague relationship with a woman and I constantly have this looming uneasy feeling that something bad is going to happen. I am not scared of losing her, I just don't want to be hurt emotionally. I don't know how to deal with these feelings and I'm a bit uncomfortable with them.

In fact, I'm even considering breaking up with her so we can end things on a high note, or so I won't be broken up with. I feel like I'm getting closer to her and more attached and it's making me scared.

What do I do about these feelings and how do I cope with them?

I'm very new to dealing with women so it's all new to me and I don't know how to deal with my feelings.

I tend to be naive, very trusting of people and slightly idealistic. I've dated women who were warm, showing lots of interest but ended up being fake and were just lying/manipulating. I've had bad experiences so I'm a bit wary. I'm always apprehensive about the motives of the women I'm dating.

When I'm dating a woman I'm constantly questioning their motives and how they feel. I feel doubtful, apprehensive, skeptical, a little anxious.

Can anyone related to this?

I constantly feel like, "is she going to screw me over, who's going to screw over first, is she using me, will I be hurt, who likes who more"

DenimDave · 2013-08-22T14:16:32+00:00

I have a few,

Is weird to go to the bar alone? Also how do you find people in your area to go out with?

What's a good hobby to pick up to get me away from fucking video games and Televison?

Heizenbrg · 2013-08-22T16:23:01+00:00

Anyone been to a community college? What do you think is different in terms of socializing and flirting from a Uni with dorms?

2013-08-22T19:00:40+00:00

I'm interested in a person in my school but she's already together with someone who's a dick, should I: A:Hit on her as if she doesn't have a girlfriend and possibly get a few punches by the guy. B: Give up and look for someone else, although it will be hard because I can't randomly talk to girls. C: Secretly flirt with her without giving obvious signs. D: Friendzone her E: Cry in a corner and eat ice cream.
Also, I'm my teeth are really fucking ugly so naturally I don't have any courage to smile,talk and show my teeth to people. Especially girls. EDIT: It's not like my teeth are yellow, there are some teeth missing.
There is a religious girl who I was interested in that friend-zoned me today, what should I do?
Almost every girl I meet friend-zones me, how can I avoid getting friendzoned and step up my game?
What are some ways of flirting/hitting on/with girls without getting a reputation as a player around school.
EDIT: How young is too young to start "the game"?

throwaway29292222 · 2013-08-23T09:37:04+00:00

I've been flirting a ton with a girl. Then when we went partying I tried to make out with her like the 3rd day of knowing her. She refused me saying she didn't know me, I was a bit drunk and all the time with her. The next day I didn't see her at night.

The next day she wanted to go buy something and since I had nothing to do I went with her, I scalated physically putting my hand in her back, her leg, holded her hand and so on and she seemed positive I even said some things like you should really tell me when you gonna shower because I want to see you (in a jokingly way) and she responded well and happy. She negs me a lot and I do to her too really playfully.

Then that night I tried it again and I was really drunk and really annoying (calling her funny names and shit) and she told me she didn't see me that way refusing me again. We went back home and I ignored her the whole way back because honestly I was angry and drunk.

Then the last day I was drunk too and she refused me again.

Okay, tou fucked up being drunk, she refused you three times, then move on. The thing is, even when I am drunk as fuck and annoying as hell she keeps caring for me, she doesn't tell me to fuck off. And when we see each other during daytime she keeps being really flirtry with me and she looks me in a way that really looks like she could like me. I am thinking about leaving a bit of space because I think I could come across as needy. What should I do?

thebeardlessman · 2013-08-23T15:09:29+00:00

How do I deal with texting a girl who generally has a legitimate excuse not to text back? (I don't want to come off as needy, but if she doesn't text me back then I feel that the relationship will sort of peter out)

Also, how do you call out a girl on not texting you back without seeming needy/overbearing/controlling?

wellheresmyopinion · 2013-08-23T17:33:24+00:00

How do I prevent girls flaking on dates?

tdb2318 · 2013-08-23T19:16:41+00:00

I fucked up putting a girls number in my phone. As in I asked her for it after she was coming onto me and she told me but I fucked up putting it into my phone. Followed her on Instagram the next morning, should I comment on one of her instas asking her again? Is this weird at all?

I'm probably over thinking things.

bl1y · 2013-08-19T22:34:30+00:00

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bl1y · 2013-08-19T21:50:44+00:00

I think I have good game, I'm incredibly social, I'm hilarious, and I make my intentions clear but I feel due to lack of initial attraction I get rejected early. Is there a fix to this except be attractive don't be unattractive?

edit: I am by no means ugly.

DontThrowAway2Hard · 2013-08-19T23:29:53+00:00

How do I explain "assume attraction" to someone who has no knowledge on game or seduction and passes it off as being "rapey"?

NuclearDawn · 2013-08-19T23:46:28+00:00

I'm really not the best at making people laugh regardless of whatever kind of comment I make, so I feel somewhat lacking when it comes to building attraction. I know b1ly said that you want to avoid being that needy joke-machine, but I feel like I don't really have what it takes to make anyone, let alone a girl laugh. So I was wondering, is humor really that important when it comes to attraction, or is it possible to successfully pick up girls without saying a single funny thing? For some context, I'm going to be a junior in high school. I do have a positive, confident attitude, I feel it's just a matter of what to say that escapes me.

glordum · 2013-08-20T11:36:13+00:00

What are the factors of developing and having a good conversation? Can anyone recommend me a guide? I didn't find the sidebar information that helpful with it.

For example of such factors:

"Where do you want to travel?"
Ask the person about them rather than you

CanadianBacon999 · 2013-08-20T16:56:35+00:00

So I have come to realize that our bar is ideal for me, but not for the prospective invite I am throwing at the ladies. My roommate and I really enjoy expensive scotch, whiskeys and bourbons. But these seldom work for inviting them back for a drink. One could argue that the ground work should be done by then and no matter what we stock there should be no problem. However, if in fact they are on the fence, what are your top 5 stocked ingredients and top 5 mixed drinks we should know how to make (ignoring wine, that's a given)?

VMikeL · 2013-08-20T08:45:25+00:00

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Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/19/13
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Date	August 19, 2013 6:32 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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