How to be good at sex

Daunt02 · 2021-04-06T05:31:32+00:00

Ask her what she wants.

Eat a lot of pussy.

Find out if she's clitorially stimulated or vaginally.

Foreplay with fingers and your mouth.

Oil her the fuck up.

Make her cum multiple times before you do.

Ask her regularly what she liked or didn't like in detail.

Try multiple positions.

Don't go to fast.

Set the environment (the whole day) for her comfort.

Give hints, but keep it mysterious, on what you're going to do to her.

Eat more pussy.

Try role-playing.

Try ass stuff.

Slow the fuck down.

Get toys that fit her stimulation (clit or vag).

Make your dick the treat that she gets once she's fulfilled.

Make her satisfy you once you have unlocked the Yoni.

SkydivingAstronaut · 2021-04-06T07:23:27+00:00

Regarding spanking and domination, like anything, it isn’t the act but how you do it.

Spanking by itself isn’t what gets me going, it’s the way he looks at me, the way he asks if I’ve been a good girl, and the way he spanks and then rubs gently while I lose my shit wondering when it’s gonna be next and whether it’s going to be soft or hard.

Dom is a mindset first and foremost, so if she wants a dom make sure a) you want that too and b) talk a lot about type of dom stuff gets her going. If communication isn’t forthcoming, or she’s still exploring that side of her, maybe watch porn together or kinky TV (Tru Blood anyone?) and see what she reacts to. You could also send her short BDSM erotica stories (lots on reddit!) and tell her she has to read them and then when you get home ask her what her fave part was.

Take time and be patient with yourself and her, I’m not sure you’re age but sexuality forms over time and first up its best to do a lot of exploring. Enjoy the ride together, you’ll get there!

Edit: all the bloody typos I make cause I rush lol

caja_que_muerde · 2021-04-06T06:29:09+00:00

"lol u suck at sex" isn't communication. "Hey, I would like you to try X" is. Some women have this idea that men are supposed to read their minds. It's a really crappy kind of woman to get stuck with when you're inexperienced.

When you're more experienced and a woman said that yet wasn't communicating what she wanted, you'd just dick her down harder and not worry about it, which is probably what she even wants.

GrindTemperPour · 2021-04-06T04:53:50+00:00

It’s simple the core principle of being good or at least improving is communication you have to ask her what she’s into she might not like being spanked there’s no set formula for every girl all of them are different just communicate take it slowly and do what she likes as I mentioned communication is key

CicadaProfessional76 · 2021-04-06T05:13:06+00:00

Ask her what she wants. But generally they like to be smashed into the new millennium

2021-04-06T13:11:41+00:00

What everyone is saying but here’s my 2 cents:

1) a lot of foreplay and kissing prior to sex. Make sure to kiss all down her body and make her beg for you.

2) eat her out if you’re into that. Spend some time on the clit. Then some time also fingering her and then do both. Pay attention how she reacts to each one and whatever gets her going off the most, then spend more time on that.

3) move on to penetration, take it easy and don’t focus on finishing first. Do a few positions and then some that she likes.

4) if you think you’re gonna finish early, come out and repeat step 2.

5) once you have finished, if you still want to satisfy her then repeat step 2 until she finishes.

This is pretty much what I do atm.. I’m not 100% keen on spanking/choking but others love it

danifearless · 2021-04-06T17:14:44+00:00

Hey man, im really curious how old are you and ur gf? Also how long have you been together?

What I can say for sure is to get out of your head and enjoy the moment! We all think about what we'll do to someone sexually and even say it to them too! Reminding yourself of this and pressuring yourself "I need/want to do this to her, is she enjoying this, etc" is a sure way to ruining a potentially hot moment.

Find out what she likes and be gentle to yourself.

HunkSeven · 2021-04-06T11:59:01+00:00

As my grandad always said to me "you have to try to kill her, but only using your dick"

Honestly speaking I saw a lot of good comments so I won't add more.

Only Pro tip is: if you sense you are coming soon, fuck her mid air and you will last longer

TheBackstreetNet · 2021-04-06T10:50:17+00:00

https://www.xvideos.com/video531677/milf_nina_hartley_teaches_how_to_eat_pussy

You're welcome.

Marilla1957 · 2021-04-06T14:25:30+00:00

As you explore and stimulate every inch of her body from head to toe to discover the erogenous zones that excite and arouse her, pay attention to how she responds..... Don't rush it.....take your time, talk softly to her as you explore and stimulate her body and her mind. You should be able to help her enjoy at least a few orgasms before you fuck her. When you fuck her, don't just start pounding right away.... Vary your speed and depth. Every so often, pull out, and go down on her..... Do whatever you can, so you don't finish too soon. Foreplay is very important, proper intercourse is very important, and afterplay is just as important, and often leads to Round 2, 3, 4..... Far too many men roll off, and ignore their woman afterward. Quickies are nice every so often, but really good sex can last for hours

goldforthehoney · 2021-04-06T23:49:33+00:00

Get some friends that are girls that you can speak openly with and just listen. They will dispute a lot of what you are being told here. All women are different and don’t trust anyone who thinks they have a one size fits all answer.

But if I could offer you one piece of advice. It’s a blanket statement. Be confident but not overly so. Read the room. If it isn’t working, move on. Don’t double down on something that she’s not enjoying just because a Reddit bro presented it as gospel.

Affectionate-Ask6728 · 2021-04-06T10:00:07+00:00

Get out of the mindset of "well im finished now" once your sprinkler goes off. Try to have the mentality of "im not finished until you are satisfied". This will involve a lot of oral, body adoration and teasing. Listen to your girlfriends reactions, so many lads try and mix things up and think its 'spicy' when in actuallity its annoying. If your girl is moaning and grabbing your hair in a fist you accept lockjaw and continue doing what you're doing.

Never be afraid to risk sounding daft with some good old fashioned dirty talk. I can't say this works for all girls but I find the perfect words in the perfect order can lead to some great results.

Big reveal that I've been hinting at, yo dick is not the star of the show. I dont care if you're Danny d with a dick longer than the chicks forearm. You use your wang when you've satisfied her in all other respects, its the most intimate part of sex and most lads just wanna get to it. Its selfish. My advice in the first paragraph becomes a lot easier if you save the penetration to the end.

Toys are your friend, do research. Know how to use them and don't act like a giggling school girl when she whips out a rabbit.

While mixing things up as you're satisfying your girl can get annoying, hinting at things while you tease her is another Kettle of fish. Whisper a desire into her ear, see how her body reacts. You never tried using a blindfold? Handcufs? New position? Teasing is the perfect time to suggest them, see hiw she responds. Once you get a feel for what she likes you can pull all the moves you want, as you won't be experimenting at the expense of her satisfaction, you'll be fulfilling her desires.

Unless your gf is a mistress never be afraid to take charge on some level.

Last bit of advice, don't be afraid of the subject. Discuss it openly and you'll go a long.

Hope this is understandable and that it helps, if you want me to clarify anything just let me know :)

2021-04-06T05:39:34+00:00

Be confident while spanking. My guess is, she wants you to play a dominant role in bed, so don't be anything but dominant. But don't overdo it, if she tells you to stop, stop.

But the most important part, talk. Make sure you know what she wants, what she means if she says you are awkward in bed. Communication is key, and very important if people are into some really kinky stuff which could easily turn bad and hurt others.

BigSnips · 2021-04-06T14:09:03+00:00

Read Sex God Method.

Dominance, Emotion, Variance, Immersion.

Sex, like most other things, is a skill. Meaning you can get better at it with intentional practise and effort.

Eating pussy is always good. Like it’s been mentioned here some girls “don’t like it” but in my experience that is always rooted in self consciousness. As a man it’s your job to make her feel comfortable and confident in the bedroom.

2021-04-06T04:59:17+00:00

She has to take thé responsability of her pleasure.

First preliminary : make her cul with your finger or cuni

Second : penetration. Océan motion when you shagg.

Also let her come on the top of you. So she can control her orgasme.

And sex starts before bedroom. Try to find her 'buttons'

2021-04-06T07:41:40+00:00

The more you overthink it, the worse you will be. You have to dumb yourself down for sex, which. can be hard if you’re naturally a shy person or have anxiety.

My advice for you is when engine in sex is to be as primal as you can. Don’t worry about what she wants. Just do what you wanna do and use her like a sex toy. Throw her around and be rough. Just have zero regard for her. It sounds disrespectful (because it is) but the only this translates well to the bedroom.

Start lifting weights or start doing boxing, it will get your t levels up and overall dominance/confidence.

Alpha-Charlie-Romeo · 2021-04-06T11:35:21+00:00

The most important part is to ask her what she wants and why. If you can understand her, you'll have an easier time satisfying her.

So talk. Talk before sex, talk during sex and talk after sex.

johnweak23 · 2021-04-06T15:36:43+00:00

"she comes first" is a good book to know how to make a girl orgasm using cunnilingus.

Rruneangel · 2021-04-06T05:14:56+00:00

Don t be afraid to add toys. Blindfolds, handcuffs and vibrators. You can try a full body massage as a prelude and build her anticipation.

Birkanx · 2021-04-06T07:26:53+00:00

Here is the tip:

Record yourself, while having sex and watch it afterwards, try to find what is awkward

Substantial-Pay-4879 · 2021-04-06T19:17:12+00:00

I find being masculine throughout the day sets the conditions for a satisfying night too.

mibe6163 · 2021-04-06T07:37:21+00:00

Read she cums first.

SadKnight123 · 2021-04-06T18:57:06+00:00

Read the Sex God Method book by Daniel Rose (you can find the PDF). If this do not help you, probably nothing will. Just know that the book is full of unmainstream and political incorrect advice. But they are realistic and make sense if you truly think about it...

CalicoNever5 · 2021-04-06T10:14:02+00:00

She told me that she is basically questioning my sexuality because she was watching a video if me in a party with one of my friends and when her friends were dancing to a kind of trinibad dancehall music I who doesn't completely understand the music was by my guy friend, and her friends found him a little on the batty man side as they say. So now she is second guessing our relationship along with her sexually frustration, she told me she shouldn't have to explain anything to me, even when i finger her she says its awkward, She also get alot of pelvic pain during sex so fingering her is hard, even when she rides she tends to get pain after a while and wants to come off. I want to flirt with her but I'm not that good at it since she grew up around alot of bad boys basically I not measuring up to what ever expectations she has. Last night she told me she'll just stay with her weed and alcohol, I have a child with her and this is what I feel like everything always comes out wrong.

2021-04-06T13:56:47+00:00

There are a couple book about this.

Sex god method, she comes first are two good ones to start. the PDFs for them are around in the interwebs if you look around.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-04-06T07:47:02+00:00

Honestly sounds like a "lets try being ethically nonmonog" waiting to happen to me. Good sex is something that happens now and then and if the most important part isnt that its with someone you care deeply about, then nothing wlse will ever be enough.

kingzillaF · 2021-04-06T08:19:04+00:00

Man with low masculine energy.., woman want to be smashed like a bitch not a queen and treat her once like a quenn in bed and you are fucked up.

RavenRapunzelle · 2021-04-06T05:28:58+00:00

Find Charles Black on his website or YouTube (his account got banned but there's a few podcasts left) and study what he says.

He understands and can clearly teach you what you're asking for better than even a lady can.

He was in your position and took learning seriously and now he's a true King in bed.

How other handle is Don of Desire. He's worth your time.

AmputatedStumps · 2021-04-06T15:03:16+00:00

Maybe she is using it as an excuse to leave you/break up with you

DueAssociation9644 · 2021-04-06T15:24:28+00:00

Find another bitch lmaooo my girl hates getting fingered likes getting Eaten out but neeeeeeds my dick to come it’s the best! Took me awhile to find this diamond in the rough!

manoftheyear42 · 2021-04-06T16:14:55+00:00

Read a book: No more Mr. Nice guy

diceykoala · 2021-04-06T18:50:37+00:00

Bury nose in small hole. Move tongue fast. Quick quick win win.

2021-04-06T07:38:16+00:00

I never tried this but yes blindfolding a woman and applying ice to various parts can also be stimulating to start with

DatingVX · 2021-04-06T08:03:24+00:00

Stop having sex with her as if you wanna marry her.

SkydivingAstronaut · 2021-04-06T05:09:23+00:00

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2021-04-06T10:41:49+00:00

Practise and experience...

AlphaVictorTango98 · 2021-04-06T11:03:24+00:00

Ask her dude be open and communicate

NateHate1402 · 2021-04-06T11:13:15+00:00

Just Do It. Nike

Hamzeol_Murf · 2021-04-06T12:50:26+00:00

Explain Your Sex Life A Bit, Only Then We Can Recommend Dos And Don'ts....

Ashido_Komaki · 2021-04-06T15:30:45+00:00

sex is a workout, do your best, please her then she will please you.

kyliebearxo · 2021-04-06T16:09:31+00:00

I would say one of the best things to do is set the mood all day, as one poster said. Like flirt throughout the day and say sexy things during the day. And foreplay is so important! I am currently with a man that will kiss me for at most 2 mins then ask “what do u want to do?” Which is code for will I suck his dick first, but he acts like it’s asking what position, but it totally kills the mood for me. If you are going to talk to her about what she likes or what you could do better then do it at a time that ur not 2-5 mins away from having sex, maybe talk about it after dinner, which could get her excited to what you are going to do. And I can say as a women one of the things that turn me on the most is when the guy just takes control, like instead of asking me what I want to do, to just start playing with it, then just say get on top or go down on her etc.. plus almost all girls need clit stimulation during foreplay. I would say a good 10-15 mins of foreplay would be decent. I can never get off with the guy playing w my clit so i let him get on top where I can play with myself while he’s inside me and it’s great, a turn on for him and gets me off

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anberia · 2021-04-06T19:31:14+00:00

It sounds like she wants you to be more dominant. Try that out.

2021-04-06T22:52:35+00:00

Study. Female. Anatomy. When she tells you she likes something, look up how to stimulate that. Womens magazines that talk about sex ARE FOR MEN. Seriously.

Don't do anything without asking and if she tells you she's into a kink or fetish, try 👏🏼that👏🏼shit👏🏼out. Sex is give and take my friend. It's NOT one sided. If you start making an effort to listen to her sexual needs and she can see you working towards getting better, your relationship will get better.

blahblahmhmmm · 2021-04-07T03:45:55+00:00

Kiss her, a lot. All over her body. When you have a breath kiss her face, neck, on the lips. Just lots of kissing.

freemanjkt · 2021-04-08T17:39:17+00:00

Ravage her like an animal then be a normal person after the sex. worked great !

Title	How to be good at sex
Author	CalicoNever5
Upvotes	90
Comments	128
Date	April 6, 2021 4:28 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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