Got the let's be friends text...

AngeloMacon · 2022-02-23T04:15:19+00:00

No shits given type of response. Just something that shows you aren't butthurt. Short and polite. She waited a week to respond so there is a small chance it is some kind of game. Most likely you were second choice and she waited until first choice made a play for her though.

BreakinLiberty · 2022-02-23T05:38:42+00:00

“Sounds cool”

UnPoquitoSuerte · 2022-02-23T05:39:10+00:00

I’m good with that.

Then let it go a bit and keep rolling in the rotation. She’s doing a little gamesmanship and wants to see if you will dance a little bit. She will respect you more in the end, but this isn’t someone you would want anything serious with-so keep for what it’s worth in the capacity that suits you.

Flyguylycan25 · 2022-02-23T04:35:33+00:00

With hookup culture Girls fuck their guy friends all the time just be there lmaoooo

Westjet13 · 2022-02-23T07:39:16+00:00

been there too.

i was like thank you for coming straight. take it easy

ApollosSin · 2022-02-23T06:37:15+00:00

"Yeah, for sure"

Go back to your rotation

eeggrroojj · 2022-02-23T06:07:46+00:00

Patrice O'Neal said it best. "Take your ball, and go home."

You let her know you want to fuck, you don't want to be friends. If she's not interested then you're out. Ain't gotta sugarcoat it.

SnooPets1514 · 2022-02-23T10:40:38+00:00

Weird innit. This was actually really refreshing to read because it Just goes to show you that you can do everything 'right', have an 'abundance mindset' and still not really get the outcome you want. No one likes getting that text. Massive bruise to the ego even if you have a solid rotation because you're a bit like: 'bitch, you friend-zoned me!?'

Could be that she:

Decided she doesn't fancy you (this could be your mannerisms, beliefs, the way you think, words you use, the way you carry yourself, physical appearance, the way you dress; literally could be anything).
Wasn't feeling the sex.
Felt slutty after the sex, that you 'used' her and this is a knee-jerk response to try and gain control over the situation.
Does find you attractive but not attractive enough; there is someone else in her orbit that she has stronger feelings for.

But other girls do find you attractive, so go figure. All of these things are out of your control.

What would definitely be interesting is if this girl was more attractive than your rotation? Really attractive girls really do have their pick of the litter. Would be surprised if she wasn't a looker.

I tend to find the ones I'm really interested in aren't susceptible to my charms or the ones I'm forcing to make work have tended to given me these texts. The girls I'm 'meh' about, I can literally chat to like shit and they will still be so on it.

SunDevilElite42 · 2022-02-23T07:17:41+00:00

It seems like you’re not really into this girl… I would text her back the thumbs up emoji then focus my attention on the girls Im not ok being friend zoned by

snappop69 · 2022-02-23T10:11:10+00:00

How was the sex? Perhaps she wasn’t impressed?

Bobd_n_Weaved_it · 2022-02-23T16:20:06+00:00

Often women go back and forth so go "be friends" and hang out again. You might get laid again. If that doesn't happen, female friends are valuable and often can introduce other women into your social circle.

Whooomans · 2022-02-23T08:42:48+00:00

I usually just say "yeah thats fine" then go back to my regular scheduled programming.

theseoulplayer · 2022-02-23T06:01:54+00:00

Her: "let's just be friends"

You: "lol ok"

Mriconicdev · 2022-02-23T06:49:02+00:00

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Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-02-23T04:42:29+00:00

"No worries, feel free to hit me up if you're ever in the mood again."

throwaway9991p · 2022-02-23T03:47:41+00:00

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DrouinWasOnsides · 2022-02-23T13:50:12+00:00

“k”

tcn446 · 2022-02-23T21:24:01+00:00

You're lucky you got to at least sleep with her on the first date. I'd say it's alright for you to be friends and not take things seriously. I've also gotten a "let's be friends text" but it was until a week later we had the first date and she hadn't responded to me after that day only to say she wasn't into me romantically at the end. We didn't do any action like in your scenario, so I just let her go immediately.

canofcanasta · 2022-02-23T21:17:52+00:00

You clearly care. Say “cool. that’s not what I want, but let me know if you ever change your mind. “

FiftyNereids · 2022-02-23T09:48:38+00:00

No response is the best response. You could be the better person and say something short and quick but you’re not obligated to.

Nixu123 · 2022-02-23T07:49:54+00:00

Just say okay

zerobones · 2022-02-23T09:53:37+00:00

If your only down for the hook up then just give something non comital or just ghost it, take your ball, and go home is the name of the game on that.

Otherwise, congratulations on making a new friend.

j_tothemoon · 2022-02-23T10:22:01+00:00

"Yeah, sure" and walk away like a king

if she wants it again, say no

superphotonerd · 2022-02-23T10:37:18+00:00

just don't reply

_tantan · 2022-02-23T13:01:52+00:00

“Its cool, I enjoyed what we had :)”

Sah-Bum-Nim · 2022-02-23T13:35:33+00:00

The person with the least interest has the most power…!!

Mriconicdev · 2022-02-23T14:18:26+00:00

Just say cool and move on. She’s def got someone else, she wants to stay “friends” if things don’t work out.

FruitCreamSicle · 2022-02-23T15:28:14+00:00

“No problem lemme know if you change your mind have a good one” walk away.

BonsaiDiver · 2022-02-23T16:25:00+00:00

"OK, well maybe some other time then"

Is all you need to say. Then don't contact her again unless she reaches out to you first.

2022-02-23T16:25:31+00:00

"I haven't asked you to be my girlfriend"

DonnyBomeneddy · 2022-02-23T16:26:36+00:00

It was fun, but I have plenty of friends. Got me up if you want to f... again.

gangweedsavedme · 2022-02-23T16:46:47+00:00

“Lol”

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-02-23T17:35:24+00:00

Probably just down to her cycle, in all honesty. You can do everything right for one portion of her cycle. But that same thing will be wrong for the other portion of her cycle.

Women like different things on their fertile phase than they do on their infertile phase.

jenkinsonfire · 2022-02-23T18:00:55+00:00

Just be gracious and tell her no worries, and thank her for the times you had.

Do this even if you don’t intend to stay friends. It’s not like you’ll be texting/hanging out regularly from now on

shidurbaba · 2022-02-23T18:11:23+00:00

May be you did not flirted enough.

AnthonyAValera · 2022-02-23T18:19:34+00:00

just keep hitting her up until she’s available again. if u fucked her once, u can fuck her again. even if she’s more interested in another guy at the moment, and even if the first time y’all had sex was mediocre. she’ll just be a little harder to retain if first sex was bad and she’s more emotionally invested in another guy

Joker_RH · 2022-02-23T19:02:20+00:00

Sounds like there was sex, whether good or bad, but no real emotional connection. Some women will stay around just for the sex or free dinners but it seems this one is just honest that it's not 100 % there

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-02-23T19:13:33+00:00

In this case best response is no response

Robofrogg1 · 2022-02-23T20:46:49+00:00

‘Hey I’m not really interested in being just friends, but if you ever change your mind you know where to find me.’

ShadowFoxxx15 · 2022-02-23T21:37:49+00:00

Dont respond. Just let her live her life. Pretend Thanos snapped her out of existence.

mado0801 · 2022-02-23T21:52:59+00:00

Call me if you change you mind - leave it at that.

Title	Got the let's be friends text...
Author	throwaway9991p
Upvotes	105
Comments	100
Date	February 23, 2022 3:45 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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