I'm often asked how to tell if a man watches porn.

If you're somewhat good at reading people, most of the time you can tell just from a man's behavior and body language.

In person: if he's giving "creep" vibes, not making eye contact, staring at your cleavage, and has that dead-eyed thousand fap stare, he's probably pornsick.

If you're talking to him or texting him, the pornsick scrote will immediately try to make the conversation sexual. He'll talk to you the same way he chats with his onlyfans girls, begging for nudes, asking you to do (or if you do) certain sex acts. He might frame it as "trying to see if we are sExUaLLy cOmPaTibLe" by asking about your kinks.

Men with the aforementioned traits are irredeemably pornsick. These are the men who watch a lot of porn, men who have been watching porn from a very young age, and/or men who watch the really fucked up fetish stuff. These men are coomers for life and cannot be saved unless they make a serious effort to quit and seek therapy, which most of them will not do because their brains are permanently damaged from porn.

DO NOT pursue a relationship or interact with these men in any way. Some of these men are dangerous: this is the demographic most likely to be sex offenders (rapists, pedophiles, sexual sadists, public masturbators, etc.)

However, some pornsick scrotes are better at hiding it than others. Maybe he didn't start watching porn as a habit until later in life, maybe he doesn't watch porn very often, maybe he's not into the really messed up fetishes and only watches the milder stuff.

In this case, if I'm not seeing any obvious red flags and he's acting relatively "normal", I like to wait until I get to know him a little better and then ask him:

"What kind of porn do you watch?"

NOT "do you watch porn?" because then he will just deny it.

When you ask "what kind of porn do you watch?" you're not giving him the option of saying "no" and you're more likely to get an honest answer.

It's important to wait for the right moment to ask this question, so that he feels comfortable enough giving you a straight answer. Usually, I like to ask this question after he's had a couple drinks to loosen his tongue.

If he waffles a bit, tries to give a non-answer, or only admits to the milder stuff, I'll try to cajole him into telling me more by making seductive eyes, putting my hand on his arm, leaning in close, and whispering something mischievous in his ear to pretend like I'm the freaky one.

If he's kinky, and he thinks you're kinky, he will excitedly spill all of his secrets. Sometimes he will only admit to the milder stuff at first to see how you will react before admitting to the crazier stuff. I like to egg him on by smiling, nodding along, and saying "oh, that's it?" which signals to him that he can tell me more. Once I'm satisfied that he's told me everything, and I don't like what I hear, I call it a night and then block & delete.

If he's kinky and he thinks you're a prude, he will pretend to be whatever he thinks you want him to be, until he thinks he's "got you". He will only reveal his true self once you're in love with him, a captive audience, at which point he will start grooming you into his perfect sex doll, without having to worry you might leave him.

If he's NOT kinky, and he thinks you're kinky, he will probably get uncomfortable and say something like "oh no, I hope you're not one of those girls who asks to be choked out". If he says something like this, you're golden. That's when I reassure him that no, I'm not into the weird kinky stuff.

The BEST relationships I've had were with men in the latter group: wholesome, kink-averse, the sort of man who just doesn't have it in him to be aggressive to a woman even if she specifically asks him to. Usually they're just as confused and turned off by porn culture as I am.

Yes, non-pornsick men do exist, it's just hard to tell the difference between them and the scrote masses. Unless you know what to look for 😎