What is your sexuality?

europoor24 · 2021-11-23T19:39:38+00:00

So many guys ask for a threesome. It's so icky.

Jinxhourglass · 2021-11-24T02:02:58+00:00

I’ve found that in many ways FDS can still apply in WLW relationships. I learned the hard way that men aren’t the only ones that emulate toxic masculinity.

FDS Also made me significantly more cautious. I saw a post from a bi woman here who said she went on a date with another woman. The date kept insisting that they meet at her place but the OP had said no. Later they’re out at the bar and the date just springs her boyfriend on OP and proposes a threesome. I’m way more careful about not going to a woman’s place straightaway now. It would’ve been worse if OP hadn’t insisted on meeting in public.

Platipus6 · 2021-11-23T21:39:45+00:00

I'm unfortunately straight. An ex pressured me to kiss a woman, so at a beach party I kissed one. It was meh. He flew into a rage because he wanted to be the one to pick the woman and control everything 🙄 Like directing his little porn set.

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-11-23T20:19:31+00:00

You tend to either get bisexual erasure or bisexual fetishization from low value/no value partners who can’t imagine your preferences not in relation to their own self.

PuzzleYum · 2021-11-23T21:53:24+00:00

I'm bi. I stopped telling men that I am. I'll only tell women because I want the ladies to know up front since, unfortunately, there are abundant pickmes who will act like they're into a woman just to impress a random dude watching from afar. I know that a lot of lesbians in particular have lost their trust in the words "I'm bi" because of this phenomenon. It sucks for me when dating, but I also understand because I too would hate to be treated that way, only to realize the entire interaction was fake. 😥

AyemHerself · 2021-11-24T02:38:32+00:00

Looking for women is surprisingly more of a hassle than dating men. Your options are basically 1) couples "looking for a third" 2) guys looking for wank material.

Alpha_Aries · 2021-11-23T21:31:36+00:00

Men assume I’m straight. Bringing up my bisexuality in the past has led to them either eventually forgetting I’m bi (maybe they think they “converted” me to straight?) or saying they think it’s hot that I’m bi and being thirsty and gross. I just don’t tell men I’m bi anymore…

Similar-Tart-4848 · 2021-11-23T20:51:58+00:00

Straight men can be so gross in relationships with bi women. They either fetishise or get insanely paranoid that they’re getting cheated on with female friends 😒

Kylie_Fan · 2021-11-24T01:02:26+00:00

Heterosexual, unfortunately.

frostedgemstone · 2021-11-23T23:19:25+00:00

Heterosexual, unfortunately

LR_today · 2021-11-23T23:35:13+00:00

I'm bi but don't bother telling guys that anymore. They get ideas in their pornsick little minds and it derails them from the relationship with me trying to figure out when he can get his threesome fantasy.

I will also not date bi guys, at some point he will 100% push you to have another guy in the bedroom or want to go out on his own to cheat with guys.

Bezzazz · 2021-11-24T21:57:44+00:00

I've never felt pressured to kiss or have sex with other women; I have had men say that they think it's "hot" though, which was automatically off-putting and gross to me even in my full on pickme days.

FDS values very much apply to women. I was in a year and a half long relationship with another woman who treated me like a bangmaid. She wanted to be "the man" in the relationship, while doing none of the men's work. She was also from a very wealthy family, and I was dead broke - she would dangle her dad's money and her apartment that he paid for (and that I cleaned) over my head. A quote from her: "you're like my therapist, you're my emotional support so I'm your financial support". This is laughable, because she sure as fuck didn't pay my tuition, or even for all of our dates. Actually, she encouraged me to be a sugar baby for about two weeks, then got incredibly jealous when I wouldn't text her while I was on "dates" with him.

If ever anyone wants to argue that FDS doesn't apply to lesbian relationships, I'd say it absolutely does. I can't explain it, but a lot of the toxic masculinity from LVM has somehow trickled into the butch lesbian community, and LV behavior can happen amongst femmes too. Unfortunately because of where I live now there aren't a lot of bi or lesbian women available, and those that are, have an OF and cater heavily to the male gaze and male validation; something that I'm not interested in with a romantic partner.

I was on Taimi, but men are also on Taimi. I have given up on OLD to meet other women. I've thought about trying Bumble or Hinge and expanding my location preferences, but truth be told, I would prefer to find a girlfriend that's not hours away.

hensbanex · 2021-11-23T21:00:57+00:00

I haven’t experienced and direct fetishization by partners but I have felt objectified and pressured in social settings like parties or large groups (I am bisexual).

TikiTikiTata-chalala · 2021-11-23T22:32:07+00:00

I'm straight, but pretty fluid and open with my affections- and I have kissed a lot of women. Most of those interactions were heavily pressured on me by my pickmeisha pan friend. Tbh I definitely felt like I had to reign myself in bc she was waiting for any excuse to push up on me and rope me into a threesome with her nasty scrote- but also I know we'll enough that women- beautiful and sensual they may be, do not rev my motor 🤷‍♀️

Erocitnam · 2021-11-24T03:55:52+00:00

I may be bisexual but I don't fucking want to be called "queer", wtf

Quirky_Confusion_235 · 2021-11-23T22:25:16+00:00

Pansexual! Out and proud. But I don’t go out of my way to tell people anymore or make it super obvious. I’m tired of having people either argue with me or fetishize me.

GlitteryMoss · 2021-11-24T15:44:33+00:00

I am lucky no man has tried to pressure me into sex with other women or threesomes or kissing other women. Any woman I've kissed it has been because I wanted to! (Never slept with any women bc I did not get turned on)

I've also been very open around men who brought up the topic of threesomes, always saying "both guys would need to please ME"

Typical_Candle_5627 · 2021-11-24T07:49:07+00:00

hetero, unfortunately

Thesociodark · 2021-11-24T17:55:59+00:00

Very far on the aroace spectrum, but I'm not completely against having a relationship one day with a man or a woman.

Title	What is your sexuality?
Author	Witchy-Woods
Upvotes	83
Comments	43
Date	November 23, 2021 7:03 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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