Question for women who have dealt with the “20% of men who have options”

Orange_Paisley · 2022-03-13T18:39:12+00:00

I think blaming your partner for what someone else did to you is shitty behavior. Should you be careful of trusting just anyone? Sure. Should you hate all woman because one cheated on you? No, that’s stupid and I would not do it to my male partner either.

ashpr0ulx · 2022-03-13T17:55:54+00:00

i don’t really know what your question is. most everyone who has ever dated or had a crush has been burned in some way. some let it make them bitter, some don’t. i recommend the latter.

ruboyuri · 2022-03-13T18:43:20+00:00

I’ve been molested, assaulted, harassed, falsely accused, nagged, lied to, cheated on, ignored, belittled, sexually used and unsatisfied, disrespected, threatened and verbally abused by plenty of dudes.

Did I then conclude that all men are like this? Guess!

sarkington · 2022-03-13T17:55:28+00:00

I don’t compare myself to titty streamers, Tik tok influencers and Instagram models, or care about the men who thirst over and date such women, so why do you compare yourself to Chad and care about the women he gets?

raccoon_mario_popoff · 2022-03-14T01:44:20+00:00

You need to go outside and get off the internet. This whole "80% of women go for 20% of men" is based on online experiments/surveys.

Let me tell you how the real world works.

- Contrary to popular belief, the vast majority of people do not use Tinder.

- All developed countries have an obesity epidemic in which upwards of 70% of the population is overweight.

- The small % of attractive people date and marry other attractive people. Everyone else who is fat and ugly, dates/marries other people who are fat and ugly.

tiposk · 2022-03-13T18:41:45+00:00

So Chad spends his time fucking unreliable women who are cheating on their partners with him, and now he's bitter and distrusts women he happily banged. He allegedly had options and exercised those in the worst way possible. Why should I care about his experience?

daisydaisydaisy12 · 2022-03-13T18:27:55+00:00

I did what every other woman i know did. Fell in love woth the best guy i could find and got married. Im a 9, hes a 9, our kids are nines. Women i know that were 6s. They married 6s. This has been the way in all of history. And by 9, of course i mean the number considers looks, personality, education, profession and money.

Pola_Lita · 2022-03-13T19:00:10+00:00

But fam something is not adding up. The guys that get bashed online as “chad’s” (aka ME) are never vocal about their experiences when dealing with y’all. and we get painted as guys who have no morals or are wrong for adjusting to the dating market how we see it currently.

Of course all Chads aren't bad people in the same way all WOMEN aren't bad people.

But you believe you came to be part of so many "bad" type relationships that it changed you. It's possible that it was something about your own thinking that allowed you to choose so many "bad" women to start with.

Most men understand what they're getting into in those cases and a lot of them refuse.

I KNOW MY EXPERIENCE IS NOT THE END ALL BE ALL

This is true and a good thing to keep thinking about.

Need_wine · 2022-03-13T19:21:51+00:00

I have dated top 20% of men income wise. They had issues with women trying to lock them down fast and wanting to move in quick. That was about it.

I quickly lost interest with sexy men within a few conversations. Too self absorbed to the point where it was weird. I got the impression they expected me to bend over backwards to please them and got pissed that I wasn’t trying to do that. Here’s what I notice about really good looking people in general, they don’t get their flaws pointed out to them often so they go through life blissfully unaware of their shortcomings.

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-03-13T23:31:43+00:00

You’re not a chad stop it

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-03-13T18:31:46+00:00

If that's your definition of a Chad, then I married one. So I'm not sure what your question is.

RandomAttackHelpMe · 2022-03-13T21:53:48+00:00

He's right you know.

FancyCocktailOlive · 2022-03-14T07:22:33+00:00

Yeah women don’t cheat for purely physical reasons, it’s emotional. I “cheated” on someone because he treated me like shit and ignored me, refused to accept my breaking up with him. In the end I cheated with three different guys and he still wanted to be with me to the point where restraining orders happened and so did charges.

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Guitar-Master9891 · 2022-03-13T21:27:31+00:00

I think that's the downside of banging around a lot, specially if you are a good looking man and get to experience female promiscuity to it's full extent.

Yeah, deep down women are humans, what a shock. Of course they will cheat with you if they have the chance, wouldn't you? No? Then what were you doing having sex with taken women? There are women out there who follow some sort of moral code of course, but lets be honest morality is not the rule for most men and women.

I tell you, because it happened to me, if you keep with this mindset it gonna chase you forever, maybe ignorance is bliss and you wouldn't have wished to know what you know now, but make the best out of this, cool down and be happy that you experienced something most men won't.

Women are "like that", like women. The fact that you are angry at them because they were too easy says more about you than them. It's not their problem pal, it's yours.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2022-03-14T00:48:22+00:00

I do not care at all unless I am committed to him.

projectdissociate · 2022-03-13T19:33:05+00:00

Are you asking why women go to the 20% knowing the guy will mistreat them? From my personal experience I thought they’d learn to trust me over time and get over their issues, if I gave them enough attention, enough space, enough support. But they never reached that point.

Title	Question for women who have dealt with the “20% of men who have options”
Author	Ryosuke44
Upvotes	2
Comments	143
Date	March 13, 2022 5:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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