This example is pick-me nonsense. Stop faking it ladies. There is no such thing as “taking too long”. Men expect orgasms regularly, why can’t we? If you had fun, but didn’t get to climax - you can still tell him you didn’t finish, had a good time & would appreciate him doing more in figuring it out.

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millions_ofpeachs4me · 2022-04-03T01:08:54+00:00

There’s absolutely such a thing as taking too long when his technique sucks much harder than he does. Jus sayin.

Normalize telling men what you like, how you like it, and taking action based on their reaction. If he says “thanks for letting me know what you like, how about I show you I’m a good listener,” then we have a winner. If he says “well, my ex liked it that way/that’s a lot of work/I don’t enjoy foreplay,” then we accept the answer and move on.

elainejay82 · 2022-04-03T03:45:46+00:00

That first pic has been me with the worst of my past scrotes. I get pissed though. 😂

Like really frustrated, not nice, piss ant, snarky, rude, mean. I think it's just a natural reaction because it wasn't something I was doing consciously. I just.... wasn't nice to them after that. 🤣 And a part of me always felt bad about being that way afterwards because I thought, "Oh.. it's hard to make women cum, blah blah." But that's not actually true. When I think about it, these guys were giving me half assed effort.

I've since been with a guy who made me hit past the 30 mark in orgasms just by oral. So.... what was the problem with all those other dweebs?? Turns out it wasn't the woman's fault...as usual.

FI-REfox · 2022-04-03T01:33:09+00:00

Everyone now:

If she "takes too long"

He's doing it wrong

thinktwiceorelse · 2022-04-03T08:06:15+00:00

Reminds me of when I orgasmed with my ex for the first and the last time, and he accused me of faking it. Interesting that he didn't notice the other hundred times.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-04-02T23:54:15+00:00

Most women don't "take too long" on our own or with a toy, or even with a female partner. Men just aren't good at sex (foreplay or PIV) and we shouldn't reward a subpar performance.

makeawomancum · 2022-04-02T23:50:13+00:00

To male lurkers: Remember PIV should not need to be considered the main event. Simultaneous orgasms are rare. Make sure she finishes or feels loved too.

Ladies. You don’t have to put up with incompetence or lack of care. You don’t have to be okay with him not doing his best in making you cum. It’s enough reason to leave him. Men want women to suck their dick until they cum, but won’t eat pussy until we orgasm ? I say no. Stop sleeping with low value scrotes, HVM love to please and care more about your pleasure than their own ego.

FuckSakez · 2022-04-03T02:16:08+00:00

Lean in close, gaze seductively in his eyes… loudly boo him.

Just cOmMuNiCaTe !

sofiacarolina · 2022-04-03T04:29:33+00:00

I was JUST having this convo w my mom (were really close obv lol) bc even in my pick me days Ive never ever faked an orgasm whereas she was telling me she would when she was sexually active which seems to be the norm. It frustrates me that women do this, not just for their own lack of satisfaction, but also bc theyre perpetuating in a behavior that encourages male mediocrity, and it fucks us all over (no pun intended) in the long run. enough!

ImpatientMudcrab · 2022-04-03T04:00:00+00:00

HVM will pay attention to your body language in sex and notice when you're not having a good time, provided you're either a terrible actor or (preferably) genuine in your responses. He'll try new things, he'll take note of what you respond positively to, he'll ask questions if he needs to. You don't need to hand him a script or direct him, he will proactively seek an education in your body, he'll try to learn things even you didn't know about you because he is passionate about you. The process won't feel awkward (at least not very often) it'll be sexy, intimate, and exciting.

I will say, as someone who dates men and women, I have met women who struggle with reaching orgasm or enjoying sexual activities at all due to mental health issues, trauma, meds, that sort of thing. I'm probably preaching to the choir here, but don't pressure yourself into having sex you don't really want. Don't let anyone convince you to "try". Don't feel guilty for not reaching climax. Don't tolerate any partner who pouts about it or tries to make you keep going until you do come. Do what you enjoy, know you don't have to reach climax to have a good time. The right person will meet you where you are.

-25T · 2022-04-03T02:13:08+00:00

The end game doesn't need to be an orgasm.

Why the hell not? It is when I fuck myself!

zorua · 2022-04-03T08:37:23+00:00

I've never faked and I never will. My abusive ex used to.complain that i took ages to finish at the end. Ofc im.gonna gind it hard to orgasm if you keep making me cry every day. No thanks

Carneliancat · 2022-04-03T13:37:14+00:00

Sex needs to start with your orgasm. If a man can't make you come first, then that is where sex ends. If I don't get to come, then neither does he. Better luck next time, my dude!

blackmetalbetty · 2022-04-03T01:24:51+00:00

the end game doesn't need to be an orgasm

Yes it does. Otherwise what's the point of having nonprocreational sex? Reason why I'm celibate 💁🏾‍♀️

wonkyeyes8877 · 2022-04-03T16:08:52+00:00

If you're able to reach orgasm from masturbation, but not during any kind of sex, you're not the problem.

Maingurl · 2022-04-03T15:01:02+00:00

I'm not faking shit I need an orgasm period.

thewetdog_ · 2022-04-03T03:11:09+00:00

This is so true 😔😔

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