People with this behavioural complex think, often subconsciously that sex is degrading for women.

They seek a loving relationship in which partner Madonna/BB is loving, caring, respected, virtuous. But since they consider sex degrading for women, men can't degrade their wives, women can't degrade themselves. Leading to vanila sex and dead bedrooms.

They love what they cannot desire.

They desire whores and manwhores (AF) with which they can have that degrading sex. But since they consider sex degrading for women. Men cannot love "dirty" women, and women consider themselves unworty of love.

They desire what they cannot love.

So MWC and AF/BB are the same thing. A behavioural complex due to which people cannot feel love and desire for one single person. They only see people as sluts/mansluts or loving partners.

The difference is that speaking in general men love sex more and women love comitment more.

That's why generaly speaking men do not feel bad about just being used just for sex, if anything they love beeing used for it. And women don't feel bad about being given comitment without sex. They love having orbiters at hand which do not try to make things sexual.

Offcourse this is not always the case. Men can end up feeling frustrated because they are used for sex but are not considered as relationship material. And women can end up feeling frustrated because they are given comfort and commitment but are not considered for sex.

Men feel bad for being BB's, giving commitment while getting vanila sex. Women feel bad for being used just for sex.

I am hoping this post will help you understand each other's side, and maybe even make you a bit empathic for each other's issues.

Posted as debate, because I want people to debate about this. Please mods leave the flair as it is.

P.S. sorry for any spelling/grammar mistakes, I'm typing on my phone... keyboard small, fingers big, starseeker frustrated.