why do i see average guys with average girls outside and online all the time

Liberated_Asexual · 2022-08-15T14:45:26+00:00

This "go look outside" argument is one of the most intellectually lazy and dishonest arguments out there. We have population level data now showing many significant trends:

male sexlessness has peaked and is growing
male virginity has peaked and is growing
half of all singles aren't even looking for a relationship

IHateNormis · 2022-08-15T07:15:03+00:00

Mostly tall and/or white

alienamongnormies · 2022-08-15T07:06:14+00:00

With all the average NT men I see out there with gfs, sometimes I wonder if my gymcelling and leanmaxxing is actually hurting my dating marketplace value. Like maybe girls who are below my looks level on the dating apps think I'm just a fuckboy and so don't take me very seriously while the girls at my looks level either want Chad or think I'm too autistic and socially awkward/anxious for them. Because I find that the more I gymcel and leanmaxx, the harder it is for me to date. It's ridiculous. I am in the best shape of my life and am finding it harder and harder to attract women. I have been on Grindr to meet TS/CD girls and have got hit on by tons of cismen including Chad, Brad and Tyrone. I know I'm handsome. But women on the apps are just so fucking picky. Men are so fucking horny by a mile. It's not even close.

Search-United · 2022-08-15T06:47:24+00:00

So what you're question

decoy88 · 2022-08-15T14:05:17+00:00

Because most people are average?

2022-08-15T15:22:05+00:00

This doesn't surprise me though because people tend to date someone similar to them in terms of looks and personality.

StephJ___ · 2022-08-15T17:26:36+00:00

Saw a really pretty girl with an ewok, scruffy and slightly chunky guy the other day. They even shared a kiss at their car before leaving the park. Maybe his personality was amazing, lol.

Peacesquad · 2022-08-15T14:11:02+00:00

Comfortable-Unit-897 · 2022-08-15T15:25:11+00:00

Because Chads are either in the gym, shopping for product, or primping for most of their day. Average dudes are out there swooning the ladies. I know a bunch of average guys, that have awesome SO’s. They all worked their asses off to get them.

BumblingBeta · 2022-08-15T19:51:50+00:00

In my experience, Chads mostly go out at night, or to concerts, festivals and so on. I've been to nightclubs occasionally on a Saturday night and they are filled with tall, muscular, good looking men. I have wondered to myself "damn where have all these men been hiding during the day?".

Many Chads spend quite a lot of time in the gym too. I see many Chads in the gym I go to. They need to lift weights to get their good body.

Now with Tinder and dating apps, many of them must be having a lot of sex with random girls. You don't need to be outside for that. It feels like there is a secret world out there where a minority of good looking men are enjoying huge quantities of sex. If the Pareto Principle holds true, the top 1-5% of men must be having a fuckton of sex.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2022-08-16T13:57:56+00:00

Forget couples for a minute and just consider the following question: if you sorted men by women's combined assessment of their attractiveness, then you took a random sample of men walking down the street, what percentage of men would you expect to see who are in the top 20% of attractiveness?

If your answer is, "20%" then okay, that's a hypothesis you could test.

Hypothesis: "20% of men are 'top 20%' so therefore if I sit on a street corner and watch people walk by, 20% of the men I see will be 'top 20%'"

I don't think your hypothesis is correct - I think that attractiveness carries over into other areas of life, and (depending on the street corner and the time of day) I think that the number of people you actually see will vary.

This is called selection bias and it's very important that you guard against it when you do statistical sampling. You've probably heard the story of how pollsters were calling people (landlines - not cell phones) during the daytime to ask their opinions on stuff. Well, it turns out that when you call people during the daytime, you are selecting for people who (a) have phones and (b) don't work so they're at home during the day.

The next thing you have to be careful about is cherry picking. Do you know for sure that the video you linked to is a full list of the people who walked past the camera? Or did the person who made the video filter it to make the point he wanted to make?

The next thing is, you don't actually know if all these people are dating. How many of them are simps taking their """best friend""" out for coffee (and listening to her whine about how chad never calls)?

Next, consider this: TRP doesn't say that chads date - the 80/20 rule is about sex. How many of these "couples" are in """open relationships""" (which means she's banging dudes on the side and he's a cuck)?

Frankly, if the 80/20 rule was true - let's just assume it was true for a moment - I would absolutely expect to still see plenty of normie guys out on the street during the daytime with dumpy-looking girls. I don't think this is an objective slice of human sexuality.

Admirable_Bee_8714 · 2022-08-16T18:29:09+00:00

Most men and women are average.

Title	why do i see average guys with average girls outside and online all the time
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Date	August 15, 2022 6:23 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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