CMV: Men use money to control women

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-01-13T11:16:50+00:00

No rants

MyLastBestChance · 2023-01-13T00:49:20+00:00

No one deserves to be cheated on once a commitment has been made. Period.

A man who leads with money as bait and prioritizes looks over character in a partner shouldn’t be surprised when he catches a woman who is interested in him primarily for his money🤷‍♀️.

Background_Active250 · 2023-01-13T01:11:14+00:00

Or everyone should date someone that they are attracted to physically and emotionally, instead of by their money or attraction "rating."

gobblegoobleoneofus · 2023-01-13T01:22:46+00:00

Maybe this was true in the 60's but women can work now they aren't controlled by money any more.

if you want a hot guy go for the hot guys. women are targeting guys with money just as much as guys with money are targeting hot chicks.

its a match made in heaven

therealcosmicnebula · 2023-01-13T01:42:04+00:00

Men complain about paying for dates.

But then if you keep turning down their offer to pay and insist of paying 50/50 their self esteem starts to take a hit and they think you don't like them. 🤣🤣

Also, they can't use paying as a way to covert contract you into sleeping with them sooner.

No one comes out and says it like that. But that is what it is.

Which is why I believe you never let a man pick you up, never let him pay, etc before you're in an agreed upon exclusive relationship.

Leave his ass in limbo with no chips to hold.

OneComfortable3508 · 2023-01-13T01:54:54+00:00

The money game is for men who have nothing else compelling to bring to the table.

If you can’t gain female interest without money in the picture, you aren’t dating, you’re purchasing.

A broke guy who is capable of eliciting actual feelings is a Greek god compared to a fucking dork with money.

SmoothWaterfalls · 2023-01-13T00:43:36+00:00

This is like women putting so much effort into their looks and being upset with being viewed as sex objects.

People like to be valued as people.

athlete2biz · 2023-01-13T00:58:05+00:00

on the contrary, I see alot of men on here saying "dont lead with your wallet"

but if you are truly wealthy the girl you are seeing will likely find out eventually.

I agree most people would be better off dating someone on their level of physical attractiveness (or close to) the problem seems to be that alot of woman think they are significantly more attractive than they actually are.

anyways, never lead with your wallet boys, discovery trumps disclosure.

chancetolive · 2023-01-13T02:51:48+00:00

I thought you were a troll, turns out you're serious.

Yes women want to be lead and directed by a man they admire, the centre of their world. Usually he will have more resources and autonomy than her so there is a risk of misuse of power.

Parents control their children, Landlords control their tenants, managers control their employees, lawmakers control citizens. The world is heirarchal.

Women advocate for looksmatch or assortative mating because it usually benefits them as the guy comes with value added benefits. He isn't just his looks, unlike in her case which she usually is.

techr0nin · 2023-01-13T01:42:07+00:00

Resources for sex has always been a huge component in human mating behavior, and successful men that date hot women understand this. The only men that get upset about this typical don’t have money to begin with.

That said this doesn’t justify cheating — in a relationship that’d be breaking a social contract and in a marriage a literal contract. I can also say that attractive women that leverage their looks to date successful men shouldn’t be surprised when the men cheat when her looks fade or when they just get bored, but the truth is cheaters cheat, and you can marry and looks-matched person and they can still cheat.

But finally I would say this: multi-millionaires are much rarer than hot women, and most women regardless of whether they consciously seek one or explicitly require one would love to date one. And successful men tend to know how to get good deals that favor them. At the end of the day it’s just supply and demand.

despisedlove2 · 2023-01-13T04:32:17+00:00

Most men wouldn't get upset at a prostitute. She is honest. The same thing happens in many traditional tribal cultures that have practices like a bride price, like in many parts of Africa. A young man pays the father of the girl he wants to marry a certain number of goats or buffalo or whatever.

What bothers men is all that BS about love etc that most Western women try to dress their basic impulses into. Men who get fooled by this are BP.

yoganurse21 · 2023-01-13T05:35:54+00:00

Lots of generalizing going on so I'll pile on.

Women like.... Sniper scope target men of higher wealth. Period. No matter how much she acts otherwise I have never had a woman of higher social class hit on me and if she did and later found out I didn't have more money than her it was over.

If they are manipulated by money than they love manipulation.

suj1290 · 2023-01-13T00:55:19+00:00

No.Women control dating market.They decide to get used for money and most men know that women are using them for money .We know very well when women is using us for money and BTW you are saying men should date women of their own level? You do realise even 4s 5s women want 8s 9s men to date and spend most of their young years sleeping with those guys. It is only after late 20s or 30s these women realise their true level but by that time they have lots of baggage and no guys wants to pay for Chad

Teflon08191 · 2023-01-13T01:02:38+00:00

Men use money to control women who are too lazy to make their own money, which they are fully capable of doing and therefore have no legitimate reason to complain when they allow themselves to be "controlled" by a man's money.

Familiar_Egg8802 · 2023-01-13T01:11:30+00:00

I don't have a problem with beta buxxing at all, I think it's reasonable.

DebateRoyal4525 · 2023-01-13T01:35:18+00:00

I think money does turn women on to a certain extent. Status even more so. I think if a guy just has money and and is absolutely hideous, it can turn into a dead bedroom real easily, but I think a rich 7/10 can reasonably attract 9/10s.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-01-13T02:23:11+00:00

What a horrible view. Physical attractiveness is not the end all be all. Wtf.

I’m far more attractive than hubby, i would never cheat on him.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2023-01-13T02:33:18+00:00

"Men?" No.

"Some men?" Yes.

Most women are working women now. Most women do not need a man's wealth. Most women make their own living and most men cannot control a woman with money.

When the sums of money become bigger than any reasonable person can make, then sure, untrustworthy men control some gullible women.

However it's a dual fuckup. Both parties are fucking cunts. The man for obvious reasons. And the woman for obvious reasons.

Being a controller or a gold digger is despicable on both ends.

Ok_Razzmatazz_1751 · 2023-01-13T04:12:23+00:00

If you only look at your partner as a possession to be bought ,and bartered then yea your relationship depth is like a puddle of water on pavement . Any real difficult situations arises they'll bail out on you. Quickly. Men wonder why particular women bailed on them in hard times. Well it's probably because you all didn't like, or respect each other very much as individuals prior to the situation. Pretty sure men know when they are being utilized for their money and vs versa.

Personally I think the looks match stuff is horse crap. I've seen some really beautiful women date some regular looking Joe's, and be in loving relationships, having babies in such.
Then seen some good looking guys who dated horse faced chicks, but it's okay cause her body was alright.

We all are attracted to different people. We are not walking around with look match numbers on our foreheads. It's not our place to police individuals preferences or attractions. How so many try, but is absurd to.

Arrathall · 2023-01-13T08:17:22+00:00

I mean if she cheats he is also justified to lower her physical attractiveness to a 3 with a very hands on approach

anon-sucks · 2023-01-13T10:58:16+00:00

If you see other human beings as a number between 1-10 you are probably a shitty human being, and will attract other shitty human beings.

If you use money to attract women, it will work, but you will end up with some seriously materialistic women.

shonenhikada · 2023-01-13T00:53:14+00:00

Problem. The 7/10 thinks she is a 9/10 and will only settle for the 7/10 under the following circumstances:

She gets too old and now believes can't snag a 9/10 top male from younger woman.
She becomes a single mom
She is mentally and fucked up in the head from being pump and dumped and now wants a man she can control

The woman who think she is a 7/10 in looks is really a 4-5/10 female. Don't believe me? Look at Kevin samuel show in which some really ugly, women on there were calling themselves a 6/10.

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2023-01-13T01:37:38+00:00

The only way a man can use money to control women is if that woman can be controlled by money. So yeah it happens but only if the woman allows it

dnxudn · 2023-01-13T01:59:41+00:00

Your missing something major in your calculations. When consider sexual market value a 7/10 looking man can absolutely be on the level of a looking 9/10 woman. If a man has money+status his true value could absolutely be 9/10 which matches the woman’s.

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odd_cloud · 2023-01-13T02:56:17+00:00

The title of the post has little in common with the post itself.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2023-01-13T05:18:29+00:00

The problem here is that physical attractiveness has a strong subjective component. Going by how attractive you think someone is is stupid. Men should always go by how a particular woman reacts to him and makes him feel.

A woman who thinks she can do better will treat someone like she can do better. A woman who doesn't, the same.

RRBeachFG2 · 2023-01-13T06:59:16+00:00

We acknowledge it like one acknowledges acne.

BuddUgly · 2023-01-13T09:46:56+00:00

A girl on your level will still cheat.

CombinationUsed7938 · 2023-01-13T10:40:46+00:00

You got a point, yes, as a guy I can tell you guys do that.

But there's a counter-argument:

The girl is attracted to a less attractive man because of his money, and in a society where women are supposedly independent, they shouldn't care about a man's social status, as they supposedly don't need a provider. Which invalidates either that behaviour or the actual values we stand for, despite what we say, trying to be politically correct.

Also, I'll just say it directly: if you commit to someone, there's no excuse or justification for cheating, no matter what. Except you being a piece of shit. If you don't feel attracted to that person anymore, end the relationship. If you still feel attracted to the person but still want to try out and explore, end the relationship as well. No one deserves that shit or to be with a filthy cheater.

Title	CMV: Men use money to control women
Author	yoganurse21
Upvotes	0
Comments	158
Date	January 13, 2023 12:35 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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