Wife’s 39 weeks pregnant and now wants a divorce.

Exxecutes · 2023-02-21T02:42:41+00:00

My ex and I split up during her 3rd pregnancy together… she cheated on me after our 2nd child. In pure psychopath fashion just treated me like shit until I left. There’s a difference between hormonal and being a cunt. I lived 2 pregnancy’s with her so I knew the difference. Do you? Dna test on the 3rd was mine but there was a reason for her mood shift

AcrobaticStick2432 · 2023-02-21T01:26:36+00:00

Do you suspect of anything. *ahem*, wrong?

Status_Scarcity_6575 · 2023-02-21T01:30:34+00:00

Never posted on Reddit before but need someone to talk to. My wife is 39 weeks pregnant and we 2 kids already. She went off the rails this morning because I forgot to put a vacuum in her car that she had asked me to do via text late at night Thursday. I forgot to do it over the weekend and was scrambling in the morning to get the kids ready and all I said was couldn’t you have asked me on the weekend instead of the morning rush. She flipped out and called me selfish and then sent me 25 text sayings she’s done and wants a divorce. Up until that things were fairly good. Not great but when she loses her shit she loses her shit and often throws out the d word. This time she called a divorce attorney. The highs have always been high and lows very low. And yes I full expect the baby is mine as it was an oops were my pull out game wasn’t on par.

DropoutGamer · 2023-02-21T03:33:43+00:00

She is bipolar or something else. Get her medical attention.

sicrm · 2023-02-21T05:45:59+00:00

definitely get DNA and STD tests.

velesxrxe · 2023-02-21T09:34:20+00:00

Make sure to get a paternity test regardless of the outcome of your negotiations with wifey, buddy boy. Even if you don’t “suspect anything”.

DaikonSubstantial120 · 2023-02-21T04:06:52+00:00

I can say one thing - begging and being emotionally needy will only make her disrespect you more given her current state of mind.

Has she clearly explained why she wants to divorce?

Ding31 · 2023-02-21T12:29:35+00:00

Shit test.

OwnerAndMaster · 2023-02-21T19:52:12+00:00

Look up r/MarriedRedpill

Take it seriously

Good luck brother

henrysmyagent · 2023-02-21T09:23:16+00:00

Give her the divorce papers after she delivers.

Do not sign the birth certificate until after a paternal DNA test proves you are the father.

DNA test the other two kids.

She sounds like a woman who has taken other men out for test drives and now she is ready to trade you in for the new guy.

As you hand her the divorce papers say "You asked for these one time too many."

Large_Cellist · 2023-02-21T02:35:57+00:00

It might be hormones, don't rush

EnvironmentalAd3558 · 2023-02-21T07:13:59+00:00

Has she been checked out by a doctor to see if medication is needed for her mood swings? A possibility.

Otherwise it may be hormonal from the pregnancy but it sounds like it happens even when she is not pregnant. You shouldn’t be in a relationship where you walk on eggshells. You can’t stay when she continues to threaten divorce.

Your marriage is doomed if she does not respect you. Never ever beg. It is a sign of weakness. You have to stay mentally strong for her to respect you. Read No More Mr Nice Guy.

The baby will be born soon and nothing has to be done before that but you should consult with a good divorce lawyer now to see how a divorce will impact you and to learn what steps you can take to protect yourself.

After the baby is born you can reevaluate. But bad behavior especially when it is so over the top as you describe should not be rewarded and should have consequences. You should consider serving her with the petition (you can always dismiss it later). If she apologizes, shows regret and more importantly remorse for her behavior and the hurt it caused you then there may be hope for your marriage. Otherwise divorce seems to be inevitable and it just becomes a matter of timing. Don’t spend 5 to 20 years in such a marriage like many us did before divorcing anyway. Just do it and move on but learn how to be good coparents.

warrior_up · 2023-02-21T15:17:02+00:00

Yea, honestly play it cool man. Do not let her emotions perturb you. Threatening D is essentially the atomic bomb, so I'd make a statement of fact - 1.) "you ever say some shit like that again, you'll never see me again" 2.) "only basic bitches threaten their man with Divorce to get their way, I expect more out of my woman, I didn't marry a basic bitch and this behavior doesn't match who you are - I trust you'll get you behavior figured out"

That's it from there, start planning for the worst though bro. You can search divorce threats in this sub and see that 90% of the time it doesn't end well. Finances, cash savings, and start doing what you like to do again. You be selfish and get back to the man you were post crazy bitch. And dude for the love of god don't go having two more kids like I did thinking it will help - whatever she had, is now shining through from her emotions, this is who she is and how she thinks deep inside her head. Trust me you don't want to know what else is happening

She wants to join the single mom epidemic - go ahead. Ends up being a sad life of cats and boxes of wine

First-Ad-9485 · 2023-02-22T00:01:51+00:00

Speaking from a man that just go divorced after 8 years of marriage and 3 kids I can relate. Based on what you said it sounds more like hormones paired with stress. I would seriously consider your situation carefully before outshining divorce. try and pump the breaks maybe and sleep in the other room and recommend going to therapy.. once you start down the path with divorce with little kids stuff get very messy very fast. Also if it is hormones it will make the divorce 10x worse.. Personally I am liking be a free man to do whatever the fuck I want when I want BUT it defiantly has taken its toll on my mental health and has affected the kids and will forever affect the kids. Also dating is never the same as a single man after divorce.. yes you can hook up with whoever you want but the culture way different that 1 years ago and you now have permanent baggage. Not to say that staying in a hostile marriage won’t hurt them but just wanted to present both sides .. hope it helps.

Also side note. If she does hire a lawyer and actually files do not hesitate to find a aggressive lawyer that represents dads. DO not agree to anything in writing until your talk to your lawyer. If it does go down that route they will do a 360 on you and take advantage of any kindness you might have.

wildflower0078 · 2023-02-21T15:09:24+00:00

Honestly, I got this way pregnant with my 3rd. I was very clingy to my husband sometimes and then would lash out when he wasn’t helping enough and then would blame it on me. I had 2 little ones running around and I was doing absolutely everything. He worked weird hours but literally did nothing else. I would make requests of him such as asking him to run my feet or back at night and he “didn’t feel like it”. Ok whatever. He couldn’t look around and figure out anything that needed to be done, i would have to tell him specific tasks to do or he just wouldn’t do anything. Then even when I would ask him specifically to do something like please wash the dishes so I can get the kids to bed and be able to sit down when I’m done. He’d do them when he was ready such as the next night so if I didn’t do them, I would have to spend an entire day full of dirty dishes because he didn’t feel like doing them when I asked, but if I questioned him about it I was nagging. So I stopped asking. I would ask him to please fill my car with gas so I could do something else and not have to stop in the morning and he would “forget”. I just stopped asking him to help because he was essentially useless.

I felt very alone and overworked and taken for granted.

At 39 weeks I ended up leaking amniotic fluid and had to be induced after an especially active day. I was just doing too fuckin much. I needed help. My partner wasn’t my partner, he was someone else I had to manage and it was exhausting.

Maybe think about the situation and ask yourself how much you’re contributing. You say she asked you to do a task 5 days before needing it done but then you blame her for not asking you again at a convenient time for you.

Grow the fuck up. Be responsible. Help your wife. Be proactive. It’s not that hard.

Title	Wife’s 39 weeks pregnant and now wants a divorce.
Author	Status_Scarcity_6575
Upvotes	18
Comments	70
Date	February 21, 2023 1:24 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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