Let them have their fantasy

Intro

Hide your effort. Hide your weakness.

Resist the attempts of women to get you to open up. Resist the inclination to spill your journey, your effort, your insecurities, weaknesses or struggle you went through and still go through to be what you are now. They don’t care and don't want to know. Let them think everything you have and are came naturally to you, no work was involved.

Let them have their fantasy.

Body

Those gym muscles? You just go to the gym when you can and just eat what you can. When she asks, "Do you workout?" you don't say “yeh, I lift weights 6 times a week for like 2 hours and go thai boxing twice a week." Even if they can see two forehead veins up close, which never could be from just the occasional workout, you just say “yeh sometimes.” If she prods into your diet asking if you take protein shakes, you just say "not really'.

She doesn’t want to know about the nitty gritty details, in fact, she would rather not. Why? Because she doesnt actually care.

It’s not like she’s going to write it down and use that info to start her own regimen. A guy might...she won’t. She doesn’t care if you actually workout. She can just see it. For them, it’s like a shit test. The guy who starts spilling out his entire workout routine, going on a mini lecture over a simple “do you workout”, is looked at as over invested and written off as someone who doesn’t quite get it.

Or when she asks you in bed “were you always like this”, you don't say no and start telling her of how you weren’t alway like this. How you had been rejected in all kinds of ways, the journey you went on, the trials, the tribulations, the failures you went through or even hint at them, you just say “like what?” And when/if she expands, you just say hug her and say “yeh, I think so”.

Let them have their fantasy.

Women don’t care about your struggle. They don’t care about the effort you went through and still go through to maintain what you are. The more you spell your struggle out, the drier they get. They want a finished product, something that naturally was like this and was not moulded or forged into one. They want to see and experience an alpha, not how understand and see how it was created. They love the former, they despise the latter. To be angry against this or suggest a "real" woman should be able to handle the unveiling is a fruitless endeavour. Nothing turns a woman off more than spelling every small detail of what's in front of them.

They want the fantasy.

The worst thing for a woman is to fuck someone thinking they were a strong, collected alpha, only to later realise they are not. This is why women evolutionarily oppose pua /red pill, they don't want learned alphas, why they shame anyone who tries to learn about women and obfuscate the truth hence “be yourself”. (Even though there is no such thing as a natural alpha, every alpha was once a baby crying like a little bitch without a clue on how to be alpha, only to learn from somewhere either online or in real life from friends or older guys). Be yourself is a code word for "make it easy for me to assess you and put you in the right box."

Insecurities/whining

This is why you can not afford to "open up " about your insecurities or whine to your woman.

You can not be insecure about anything full stop. If you are, maybe it's your height or dick or something, work on it. But however you approach it, do not talk to her about it. You won't solve it by going there.

I mean, what can a woman even do about it? Whip out a magic pill from her cupboard to fix it? No, all she can really do is give some consoling that isn’t even genuine since you encouraged her too. Yeh, they may give you "reassurance" when you bring it up, it may feel good and comforting in that moment, but what you've really done is give her future ammunition to use in the next argument, you've revealed the chink in the armour. So there's really no point especially if the bitch will just end up weaponising it during a heated argument.

Or let’s say you had a bad day at the office, you can not afford to whine to her about it. Because what is she meant to do about it? Is she gonna get up, get in the car and go to your boss and tell him what's up? No. So take this up with someone else, your woman doesn’t want to see you weak or even be given a glimpse of it. You can also just try stfu about it, that works too.

Before all this, she thought you were a strong, secure, unfazed rock. And now here you are opening up and revealing all your weaknesses and whining like a little bitch, showing her you're aren't what she thought you were. It was way better for you to act like you've never had a rough day in the office and let her have her fantasy. She didn't fall in love with you because you "opened" up to her, started whining about your boss or told her of your insecurities and struggle, so why change things now?

When you think about the above examples, they all have one common theme. They all seek a motherly, validating love from women.

"Look how hard I workout mom!"

"Look at how much I've improved mom!"

"Please tell my x y z is ok, mom".

The only motherly love you will get is from your mother. Nobody else... so don't expect it from anyone else.

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But Apollo! Something really bad happened to me! I need to run to my girl and ball my eyes out her!

If you’re going through something bad, deal with it away from your woman. Turn to one of your boys, friends, mentors, family, journal whatever. Just don't turn to her immediately about it. Don’t let her see you weak. At best, she will be neutral about it, but at worst, she will remember it and change her perception of you for the worst. You will never gain from turning to a woman over something tragic. A simple scroll on reddit is enough to see thousands confirming this. Let her have her fantasy.

Conclusion

Do not open up to women spilling out your insecurities, your journey, or the effort you go through to be what you are. Both of you are better off this way.

If you don't believe me, you are more than welcome to try it. Just send me her digits, after I go through preliminary checks, I might send her a DM 👍.

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tldr: No tldr. Stop being lazy and read. This is not a dissertation on differential equations nor a thesis on Nietzsche.