So here are different interpretations of my personality over the past year or so based on different girls I’ve dated or hung out with.

I’ve been complimented on my texting style. I rarely text and definitely don’t text for no real reason. I don’t really use emojis either and am kinda old school in that I’ll text for logistics, maybe the odd meme and joke if we’re already talking. I’ve been told it’s great, leaves a lot of room for conversation when we actually meet up and also occasionally girls have said it makes them want to know more about me than if I texted more.

I’ve had women say I’m terrible at communication over text and that I’m cold.

I’ve had women say I’m very funny and have good dry banter and that I’m interesting and abstract and easy to get along with. I’ve had some women say I’m a weirdo. I’ve had some women say I have zero banter and am boring. I’ve had some people call me outright autistic.

On nights out I’ve more than once been called “too confident” I’ve also been called dry or quiet.

I’ve been laughed at and called intense for using word phrase “consist of” whilst asking about their job role. I’m not a dork or a square or anything either, I work at a gym and am in good shape and am out going, but still “what’s that consist of then?” Has been met with an almost disgusted look.

I had people love it when I’m in a chill laid back mood. Some people have been attracted to me when I’m just firing off jokes and some people have slept with me after date one when I was tired and barely contributing anything to the conversation.

I’ve been described as everything by girls for acting pretty much the same way from girl to girl, all the way from being nicknamed autistic to being almost a perfect person to be around and really fun.

You cannot engineer it. Some women just want to hang around with a guy who uses single syllable words and agrees with their spotify playlist. Some girls want russell brand, some want a joe rogan style conversation about all existence. Some girls want texting constantly and some will lose all attraction because you text them first twice.

My position is you really just gotta be you because women are all different and will interpret your personality an infinite amount of ways depend in themselves and their social circle a d what they’re used to.