I always hear women complaining about the " lack of effort " from modern men in comparaison of old generation. They often brought middle eastern men as a blueprint of how men should spoil women .

There are two alarming problems with their complains . Once is the constant criticisme that discard the "progress " modern men achieved when it comes to emotions . Women don't praise modern men for getting rid of " TOXIC MASCULINITY " , they move on to the next undesirable trait which i call the " dematerialisation of emotions" . Modern men who are in contact with their emotions will refuse to do anything that harm those emotions and will share those emotions instead of translating them as gifts or materials .they hold different believes about dating from red pillers like how constant rejection isn't worth it while old school men think rejection build the man .Even initiating is now a discussion since modern men think initiation will often lead to rejection . The think is they are actually right and I don't know why women are mad of someone who mimic their behaviours . Why should women's emotions be more valuable than men's .

The second one is obviously the audacity to criticise a cycle of events that have no contribution from women ." Men who don't pay are cheap " , " Men who don't buy gifts are cheap " , " Men who don't do this or that are ... " when you don't do nothing of this for men it's basically entitlement and it was built because of the lack of criticisme towards women. We have different words to describe the same actions based on gender " if women like the best looking men it means they are unique and like see the world by the "FEMALE GAZE " , but men are superficial who only care about looks and don't give a f about personality . " If she only post what her bf gives her she's trying to keep it low but if he doesn't post his gf he's hiding their relationship from other women and if he dare to post what she does for him like cooking or anything the comment bash the shit out of him . "It's princess treatment for women but it's " YOU WANT A MOTHER NOT A WIFE " for men ".

There is no bar for men since the whole relationship wouldn't exist if men didn't put their pride a side and make everything by themselves. Married men here , don't share it if you don't want to but would your wife be your wife if you waited and played the passive role?!.