What do you say when a girls asks you about your previous relationships/experience and your a virgin?

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-08-28T11:46:24+00:00

It don't matter if your body count is 0 or 1000. You never truly answer this question. The answer is always: "a gentleman don't kiss and tell..." with a smile or smirk. You are welcome Playas.

Jay-Ames · 2022-08-28T12:58:17+00:00

You don't answer and you say " I was born a virgin".

The reason is because she is not really asking a question. What she is actually doing is seeing if you jump through her hoops. So don't jump.

AsleepFondant · 2022-08-28T10:57:50+00:00

How old are you? If you are under 20 you can be completely honest about it, but if you are a 30 year old virgin it might be better to just lie.

TheBattler · 2022-08-28T11:52:17+00:00

You joke about it and say 69.

If she keeps pressing you (which she probably won't) you tell her that you don't consider her a number.

Puzzled_Nail_1962 · 2022-08-28T12:34:41+00:00

Really depends on the girl and the situation. If you're looking for a LTR with the girl and she actually likes you, don't lie, it absolutely doesn't matter in that case and will only hurt you long term if she ever finds out. Not because you're a virgin, but because you lied.

If it's more casual, you don't really know her or don't care for the long term, then try not to tell her. Just make something funny up and avoid the question without being too obvious.

neversleeps212 · 2022-08-28T13:31:30+00:00

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Flairtor · 2022-08-28T14:10:29+00:00

From experience, regardless of what everyone will tell you, lie. Bump it up to 2 or 3 or even 1. Because most women either have doubts or lose interest when they find out that you're a virgin but are totally cool with men with little experience as long as there is experience.

Those outliers that people talk about that get more turned on when they find out you're a virgin or are willing to tolerate and help you, that only applies to girls that are extremely attracted to you already, I'm talking head over heels into you, most women will not be that into you.

DarkskinJesus · 2022-08-28T19:09:04+00:00

Whatever you answer, do it with confidence. When I talk to girls either I’m super honest, genuine, and authentic, or I give mostly jokey non answers and direct all the attention back to them.

One works for finding relationships, the other is for getting laid. (In my experience try to get laid before you try to find love because the friendzone is easy to get stuck in)

IneffableLiam · 2022-08-28T18:03:09+00:00

Be vague.

Say something like I don’t have much experience so she doesn’t have high expectations.

JWho1337 · 2022-08-28T14:18:13+00:00

just squirt her with a bottle of hidden valley ranch

AFCSonic · 2022-08-28T17:50:17+00:00

Basically, keep it a mystery (regardless whether you are a virgin or not). You'll have to frame it so they have to really work to win you over in order to find out.

Some phrases to use as a response. Of course, always deliver it with a snarky humor:

Wouldn't you like to know?
Why? Are you already thinking of marrying me?
Damn, you're trying to move too fast with me. At least wine and dine me first.
Sorry, that's something I only talk about with my girlfriends. You're still not close to that.

BloodMuffin · 2022-08-28T17:52:10+00:00

how many women have you slept with? Enough to know saying any number yields bad results.

chameleon-vinyl · 2022-08-28T23:30:19+00:00

As a girl, when I’ve asked guys these questions it’s just to get a rough idea of how he will be because I wouldn’t ask it if I wasn’t interested.

When guys have lied I could tell instantly so I don’t recommended lying at all. Just say you’ve never had a girlfriend and it never felt right for you.

cormacru999 · 2022-08-29T02:30:32+00:00

I have always tried to be as honest as I can to people that I want to respect & be respected by. This obsession men have where they think they have to have sex, lots of sex, to prove their worth is as lame as women being taught that the only thing worthy about them is their looks. We all know this stuff, that those are shitty ways to live, so why do it. If you're a virgin say you're a virgin. I promise, if you try to hide it, you'll be found out & then the woman will think ok, this guy is fragile & afraid to be honest. If you lie, & pretend you have experience & she allows you to have sex with her, you'll get caught again & look stupid AND dishonest.

I lost my virginity at 16, to the first young woman that I'd ever really dated. She had experience already, which I was fine with. That first night we tried, we were drunk & I was so nervous, I couldn't do it. I passed out feeling stupid & slept on the couch. The next morning, I went to the bedroom, got into the bed with her, she asked if I wanted to try again? I did, we did, it was over quickly because it takes time to both learn how to use your own body & learn how to maintain an erection for more than a few mins.

She then let me see her naked & ask questions. I had been adopted at birth & raised by a gay man who NEVER discussed romantic relationships, he despised women in general so I really knew very little. She let me explore her body & she answered questions. I was interested in learning & sure, that first time I felt stupid, but its normal to not be a sex master right away.

Stop telling yourself & others that you should be sneaky, or lie. Stop listening to shitty men who love the feeling of being a guru as they deliberately play on your natural fears & anxieties. But the other thing you can do is contact a professional sex worker, this could be in person or it could be video chat. You don't know her & she doesn't know you, but if you ask for advice & help & pay her fee (like any other schooling), she'll be happy to help. Do it virtually or physically.

I would ask that you try to be aware of that work, that its dangerous in person & follow any instructions she has & if you get the sense that she's in trouble herself, like an active addict or she's being sold or abused, just find a different one. Respect that the job exists & be kind & you can get all the education you want with none of the fear of problems later.

DominatePressure · 2022-08-28T11:25:02+00:00

You lie.

grindforthegold · 2022-08-28T15:52:21+00:00

depends how old you are. i didn’t lie when i was 20 and i dated another virgin. but if you’re older you might just wanna lie a little to not freak them out

the__itis · 2022-08-28T15:47:47+00:00

Be honest. Anything else is a lie

Badfriend1215 · 2022-08-28T22:43:33+00:00

I have been asked about my previous lovers . I always resond the same that they are in the past I live in the present and out of respect for myself and my past lovers I will not discuss it any further. As for the experience / virgin asspect Just be honest if you have experience you could say "yes I have experience " also mention that you will not with who or how many. If you are a virgin be honest and say so. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. The only time you should discuss bodycount is if you are talking to your doctor about sexual transmitted diseases. If someone wants to be persistant in knowing your bodycount simply leave it vague with a answer like " There have been a couple of lovers in the past" or "I have slept with a few people in the past" It is always better than attaching a number which can cause issues.

Iskuss1418 · 2022-08-29T02:19:05+00:00

Definitely don't lie. Own it without feeling ashamed and just be honest.

DarkSun18 · 2022-08-28T11:41:27+00:00

Just be honest. It won't matter if she's really into you. Also, it would be safer, she might ask for your experiences about it in the future.

Far_Marzipan_9542 · 2022-08-28T11:20:23+00:00

Damn. Even after doing so many things right? Is this question going to matter. Be honest about it regardless of age. If she judges you for it or its deal breaker, you should be glad that you avoided immature woman.

notsoslootyman · 2022-08-28T16:15:08+00:00

Virgin slayers exist in both sexes. You are a prize to some. You can be honest if that interests you. If you are not interested then everyone else saying to avoid it is not a bad option. I can be playful but I feel it's disrespectful to outright lie about sex related things. It's a bad habit that can really add unnecessary problems.

DarkSun18 · 2022-08-28T19:49:07+00:00

I would always prefer the truth, and being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. I'd rather date a virgin than a player 100% of the time.

kettlebell_workout · 2022-08-28T22:07:16+00:00

Say the truth.

If you lie to her, it means you are trying to impress her. Which means you are needy.

Those are not my thoughts, but Mark Manson author of "Models". And I agree with him.

2022-08-28T22:10:36+00:00

lol just tell her, if a woman is actually looking for a relationship she won't care, or definitely shouldnt

LoknowsItAll · 2022-08-28T12:49:02+00:00

For millionth time... just tell the truth

IntelligentLeg9290 · 2022-08-28T12:05:22+00:00

I know it’s difficult but the best approach would be to be honest about it BUT not say it in an ashamed way. She’s human too and if she’s a nice girl she will appreciate your confidence and won’t think much about the rest. Plus, if the truth comes out later, you may be considered a liar and there goes her trust out the window. Now, if she’s an unimportant superficial girl that you just want to sleep with then by all means lie to her. However, even in this case I suggest you be a man and own it! Duck that girl, honestly. So you ended up being a virgin at 23. That is only shameful to kids. When you’re 40 you’ll think so little of it. Honestly, there is nothing better in terms of personal development than being completely honest about yourself. Forget the girl, this is about you!

revente · 2022-08-28T12:13:33+00:00

She's being nosy and rude. Don't give in to nosy people.

bertasf · 2022-08-28T17:18:06+00:00

I would say be honest. I know this from personal experience. I lost my virginity when I was 17 or 18. All my friends got laid when they were 16 so I felt compelled to lie thinking I was a late bloomer (when in actuality 17/18 isn't late at all). It backfired horribly on me. Since I had no experience I had no idea what I was doing & came really quick. The girl straight up laughed at me. It was traumatizing for my 1st time. It affected me mentally for a hot minute. I did end up in a relationship with this girl (a very toxic one) but the girl I met after wished I was a virgin & told me straight up she would of found me more attractive if I was one. So my answer is be honest. The only girls who will judge you are the sleazebags who aren't looking for a relationship or are toxic. There's plenty of woman out there who would love a virgin & would want a relationship with one.

Fx150900 · 2022-08-28T18:55:33+00:00

Honestly bro, if somebody asks you about your sexual experiences, all you gotta say is, “wouldn’t you like to know 😉” and that’s it.

2022-08-28T21:17:16+00:00

Ask her if she's a virgin and if she says no, make a disappointed face

NuKidOnThBlokchyn · 2022-08-28T19:27:48+00:00

I've literally never told a single woman my number, despite lots asking.

I don't think about it like that.
Or A gentleman doesn't kiss and tell.

real_mort · 2022-08-28T11:01:14+00:00

Personally I think honesty is important. I would only tell her if she asks about it. And I'd give her an explanation why I don't have any experience at my age.

2022-08-28T12:24:27+00:00

"I have been saving myself for you"

Lord_of_Salisbury · 2022-08-28T18:27:34+00:00

I just reply to late 20s 30s and early 40s women, if it comes up that I've done a few laps and a few rodeos and with a smile leave it at that. I'm jot interested in their body count and if they are adamant to know mine well they can buy the book when I write one......They won't be in it.

inline6throwaway · 2022-08-28T19:20:31+00:00

You could turn it into a joke, say 10000 or something and laugh. There are a lot of good answers here. But whatever you do, don't let this affect your self esteem. I had the same worry when I was 22 and still a virgin. I let that affect me negatively and it was tough living with the thought of "damn if I meet a girl who likes me and finds out I'm a virgin, she's gonna think something is wrong with me." Please keep these types of thoughts out of your head.

RastaPilot737 · 2022-08-28T17:22:09+00:00

Say, yeah I'm sooo virgin that I'm almost a monk, in a jokingly manner, you'll leave her wondering ...

2022-08-28T17:27:46+00:00

too much

AsleepFondant · 2022-08-28T19:27:52+00:00

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ShortStuffV2 · 2022-08-28T20:40:04+00:00

The best thing is to master your anxiety and be honest about it; the first girl I slept with didn't care. It's okay to be up front and manage her expectations by sharing this, if it makes a difference to her enough that it matters then it is probably better that you don't get involved with her

hartfordclub · 2022-08-28T22:00:37+00:00

Whether it's 0 or 20 it's not important - I'll put you first

quadfintryfin · 2022-08-29T01:24:12+00:00

I have fucked 50,000 women. That’s just this year

StrawberryKind2064 · 2022-08-29T04:47:28+00:00

Ok got it

Title	What do you say when a girls asks you about your previous relationships/experience and your a virgin?
Author	AsleepFondant
Upvotes	96
Comments	92
Date	August 28, 2022 10:12 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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