mixed feelings dating single mom's

mrbrown1980 · 2022-08-04T00:08:35+00:00

You’ve reached the age where all the women your age who had a kid at 18-20 now have kids aged 2-8.

If you’re still single in a decade they’ll be the women who have kids age 12-17 that don’t need constant supervision.

traybro · 2022-08-03T23:47:01+00:00

Nothing wrong with not wanting to take on such a big responsibility, and nothing wrong with just being interested in something casual. What exactly is your dilemma?

No-Rub-7252 · 2022-08-03T23:45:44+00:00

It obviously bothers you so you need to say what’s on your mind/where you stand

cheddarbob01 · 2022-08-04T00:32:42+00:00

Don’t do it. You’re 25 and have so much left in you dawg. ONS or something casual with them is okay, but exercise extreme caution when it comes to impregnating them. It might sound harsh or ugly, but you have to look out for your own best interest, unless you’re okay with being a step daddy to another man’s child. Trust me, there is no benefit, there is no upside or bright side to it.

TerminatorReborn · 2022-08-03T23:50:36+00:00

Last time I went clubbing I made out with this woman all night, she was talking about drugs with her friends and if I had any / was on anything. Next day I check her insta and she got like a 5 year old kid.

If you got a small kid why are you clubbing in the first place and you do drugs on top of that?

jsb0299 · 2022-08-04T00:17:54+00:00

22 and single mom? Get out of there you’re young

thebigfishstick17 · 2022-08-04T03:11:28+00:00

I love single moms, they’re the easiest to have casual relationships with. Just have to make sure you wrap it up and pull out every time! Lots of single mothers these days unfortunately. But that’s what you get when they all think they’re independent boss babes but still live at home

TemperatureAlert2370 · 2022-08-04T01:20:03+00:00

Parents should be putting their kids first. If your kids aren’t your priority, then you aren’t a very good parent. If you can’t handle that then don’t date anyone with kids, but also don’t complain when you can’t find anyone to date when you rule out all the single moms

Romantic_Adventurer · 2022-08-03T23:48:53+00:00

That is very interesting. You are saying alot of things in this post.

First) Define what you DO want, in details, and have it WRITTEN on paper. Do not ignore this step or assume the risk of having this pattern going on forever.

Second) Be HONEST. Just say that you have other interests in mind and let the person decide if they agree with you or not. By assuming the scarcity model, you will constantly subject yourself to less-than-optimal circumstances, so just state your ground and make the best decision. Honesty is always appreciated.

lovelylace14 · 2022-08-04T01:10:19+00:00

I think you should take a step back from the dating scene and evaluate what you are truly looking for. If you are looking for just sex then honestly who cares how many kids a woman has, but if you are looking for a long-term relationship maybe you should make it clear to any prospective partners that you do not want to be a step-father. I'm sure you would not be the first guy to tell this woman that you just want to fuck

Enigmaduke · 2022-08-04T00:17:35+00:00

Whatever you do don’t take a single mom seriously. Especially at 25 years old

MembershipPlus2082 · 2022-08-03T23:40:13+00:00

Even if you end up dating a single mom with short term in mind, try not to meet the kids. I heard stories that guys met the kids, and "connected" with the kids emotionally and got hooked into long term relationship because of that.

What do you mean the child doesn't look like her? she adopted one?

litsausage · 2022-08-03T22:51:53+00:00

welcome to the women's empowerment movement, most want a baby from a bull and a cuck to pay the bills. Not all single moms are like that obviously, but do be careful.

No_Magazine_8671 · 2022-08-04T03:23:22+00:00

It’s the type of women you are attracted too. I know beautiful girls and they don’t have kids at all. I personally think women who date with kids are selfish and entitled because they expect you to provide for their children and get rude when you don’t. Plus they put their kids in danger. My friend is a cop and the countless stories of kids being murdered with their mums by mommy’s boyfriend is insanely high.

Bright-Glass3175 · 2022-08-04T03:30:59+00:00

when you say her child looks nothing like her it sounds like you mean mixed race, am i right?

unrelated but don’t date single moms, major cuck move, she made bad decisions but don’t let that bring you down, leave her for the next sucker that doesn’t know better

wany232 · 2022-08-03T23:29:53+00:00

MEN WE NEED TO LIE TO THESE WOMEN!!!!!!, just tell them you're there for the long run and ghost her once you've had your fill. girls do the same so we can too. If her kid's father doesn't care why should you?

mithrinwow · 2022-08-04T00:52:47+00:00

I wouldn't, but then I wouldn't date single dads for that very reason.

ThatRollingStone · 2022-08-04T00:25:38+00:00

I’m right there with you, I don’t have kids, not really looking for any. Definitely not looking to be in any situation where my partner neglects their kid to be with me. I’ve just avoided single moms but even that is hard.

carlos1973633826 · 2022-08-03T23:49:01+00:00

I would not even have a ONS with a single mom.

I won’t even be polite about it, she has a child I’m out

AK1010 · 2022-08-04T00:26:50+00:00

Hoes be hoes

chickenfriedsteakdin · 2022-08-04T03:19:54+00:00

Rule 1: Don’t date women with kids.

klaudiarr · 2022-08-04T01:43:31+00:00

Why do you all act like single moms need you or are desperate to baby trap/relationship trap??

There's plenty of single moms who like their lives and don't want the baggage of a boyfriend/to introduce their kid to random men? And stop grouping all women with one thing in common into a made up stereotype.

And where do you think single mums come from?? Maybe from guys who just fuck and chuck?

Bandaka · 2022-08-04T01:44:54+00:00

Ask yourself, do you really want to play another man’s save file?

CouchSurf29 · 2022-08-04T00:35:13+00:00

You should do what you feel is in your interest. If you feel like you don't want to date them, then don't. Otherwise, you make yourself uncomfortable and have to pretend without being yourself.

If you find out she's a single mom, have your fun (don't get pregnant if you go that far) if it's a small date, but next day just say you appreciated the date but you felt like it didn't work out or say you're just getting out there.

You should have some standards for dating. Otherwise, it won't benefit you in any run. Hope this helps.

Ragnarok992 · 2022-08-04T01:18:39+00:00

Not worth it tbh, dating single moms is hard af and unless you are willing to be 2nd at everything you wont be happy

V-Future · 2022-08-04T02:42:54+00:00

Personally I don't date single moms. Even if she's Kylie Jenner, I lose all attraction. Even if she's a widow (that's acceptable because is not her fault) I stay away from single moms.

The reason is you will never be her priority, her kids are always first and that's perfectly fine. That's what a mother must do. These kids needs her more than you and deserve her more than you.

One day she will return to her ex and you will be left out.

Who sows in foreign land, even the seed loses.

Martinezspeaks · 2022-08-04T01:24:49+00:00

Lol the worst is when you both want to bang and the baby won’t go to sleep. It’s the worst. Ruined a couple situations for me.

aviator122 · 2022-08-04T01:45:46+00:00

https://youtu.be/Wk0f43GOtSk?t=162 👈

grindforthegold · 2022-08-04T02:23:41+00:00

I dated a single mom she was really amazing and is one of my best friends but her kids will imprint on you and it’s a big responsibility. We went our separate ways but I would give it a shot cuz you never know but for me I tried and I know like it’s really hard for me and i’d rather be with someone without kids for the time being as i’m still pretty young

mugatucrazypills · 2022-08-04T02:38:38+00:00

AVOID unless you have kids of your own from somewhere.

iluvreddit · 2022-08-04T00:25:42+00:00

Have your fun with single moms but don't get them pregnant again. Don't make any promises about long term but also don't tell her you are in it just for the casual sex. You're not gonna get these ladies if you tell them their kid is a deal breaker for you long term.

iclap2fap · 2022-08-04T01:27:46+00:00

Smash and dash foo

Majestic_Ad_2885 · 2022-08-04T01:40:59+00:00

As a man, it is in your biological nature to never be content with raising another man’s child. Let’s say you marry this woman and you raise this child until he’s 14. It doesn’t matter how much time and resources you’ve put into her and that kid, she could leave at any moment and you won’t get a say in keeping this kid you’ve grown to love. He’s not your kid, he’s not you’re responsibility, and at the end of the day, not your problem. Also, think about it. The father of the kid is winning. He did what his biological objective is. He passed his genes on. He’s hooking up with other women and enjoying himself. Making money, moving forward and up. While you are raising a child that’s not yours, together with a second class woman. There’s a reason why you feel uncomfortable dating this girl. Because your body and mind don’t want to. Wake up brotha. Women like those aren’t high value. They have no other choice than to be with you because nobody is there to provide for her and the kid. I’d say steer clear because of you have a kid with her, then good luck because it will most likely result in the same result as her previous relationship. You won’t have your kid, “your” other kid, your woman, and a good chance that you’ll lose everything else too. Don’t be content. Keep grinding boss. You deserve better.

gobblegoobleoneofus · 2022-08-04T01:31:35+00:00

for me single moms are ok to date for short term fun but once the ask for favors or commitment i'm gone

masszt3r · 2022-08-04T02:18:59+00:00

If you don't want to be involved with kids then what exactly is the issue? You don't need to feel bad for not doing something you don't want.

masszt3r · 2022-08-04T02:19:09+00:00

If you don't want to be involved with kids then what exactly is the issue? You don't need to feel bad for not doing something you don't want.

rjones416 · 2022-08-04T03:15:13+00:00

single moms are good for easy sex.

Nefertiti2021 · 2022-08-04T02:59:16+00:00

You are black?

Piratewhore1610 · 2022-08-04T03:06:22+00:00

Stick to your standards, you’ll meet someone.

NoMilkYesterday · 2022-08-04T03:09:24+00:00

What’s up with all the down votes in the comment 😂 must be all the crazy single moms

Raven_Crush · 2022-08-04T03:09:34+00:00

There's child free dating groups out there. I'm in a few.

Devilswings5 · 2022-08-04T03:12:41+00:00

nothing wrong with you I feel similar, its almost like a lose lose some times while I understand you need to put your kids first (and I expect them too) I cant help but feel there isn't any room for me. Its hit and miss with women that can see this, if they do take some time and go out of their way to put me first when they can ill be damn sure to put her and the kids first as well.

joculator · 2022-08-04T03:44:24+00:00

Where are these kids fathers? What kind of mother brings some random dude that she met in a club into her child's life after barely knowing the dude. It's sickening how these women act. They see nothing wrong with it.

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-08-04T03:50:02+00:00

Avoid the wrap with kids.

Ask anyone.

It's like feeling ashamed if she turned out to be a man cause you met online.

Why would that be on you? That's her life. It's shouldn't effect you or your future.

If it does, f tinder, I would agree.

SabaTitanscurse · 2022-08-04T09:20:40+00:00

I was chatting up a girl not long ago and tbh I was interested in this girl until she mentioned she had two kids... I was an uncle at 11y, I'm now 36y and I think kids are great. I have 4 sisters, more neice and nephews then I can count who now have there own kids. There are 19 decendants from my mother. I love kids but... I have none. I did not have and easy life, if fact I had a hell of a time. I have mental health and other issues and I ain't gonna take on someone else's kids as I have enough to deal with. If I had kids of my own already I would consider it but I ain't diving into the deepend of being a step father without personal experience of my own. Sorry single mom's.

idk123703 · 2022-08-04T13:32:15+00:00

I did not see the original post but when I was a single mom, I had no interest in dating fellow single parents with young children. It wasn’t for me. I didn’t want additional responsibility nor drama and the men had too much financial obligation to really date in the manner I wanted.

Title	mixed feelings dating single mom's
Author	aviator122
Upvotes	135
Comments	137
Date	August 3, 2022 10:33 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/wfk6sw/mixed_feelings_dating_single_moms/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/mixed-feelings-dating-single-moms.1252884 https://theredarchive.com/post/1252884

Comments