Should I approach girls even if ...

Spinuchi · 2022-02-10T18:05:26+00:00

I still think improving all of these aspects of your life should be your first priority and what you dedicate most of your time too. But yes still approach. I’m a broke as shit starving artist living in my art studio. I shower at the gym, can’t really afford dates, and don’t have nice clothes, yet I can attract women

Rastaman143 · 2022-02-10T17:53:21+00:00

Don’t listen to women to these girls, you just wanna have sex and have fun the women you’re looking for won’t care if you’re “independent”. A 5$ coffee at most you said you got a shitty job or a walk in the park whatever. Believe it or not some women don’t care about money they care about having fun and sex. Go get them

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2022-02-10T21:11:55+00:00

Yes I agree. Dating is it’s own separate field of life. Of course having other stuff put together will possibly make it easier. But the whole point is to take some action. Ask somebody for their phone number. Take a couple photographs and post an online dating profile. Get out of your comfort zone and into a place where dating has a higher probability of happening. If you don’t, there’s no one to blame but yourself

TheLegendofMikeHawk · 2022-02-10T23:18:05+00:00

Always approach. Even if you're not getting the results you want, you might end up in some pretty cool situations that present opportunity. You're also doing this to build a skill, and that only comes with consistent practice.

billoverbeck00 · 2022-02-10T18:09:37+00:00

Exactly.

Most guys here find it hard to believe, but there are girls out there who don't give a fuck about any of those things and will let you date her/fuck her.

It's not gonna be your 10/10 celeb crush or some IG hoe with thousands of followers. But you actually meet some girls that are into some kinky things, and you'll even meet some real sweethearts. You're dealing with individuals.

Plus with porn being so readily available, look at the amount of people doing the freakiest of freaky things for money/pleasure on video. It's a big world out there. Go meet women.

dobbs1997 · 2022-02-10T18:27:47+00:00

Do it, that’s it, don’t think anymore about it, just start doing it

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2022-02-10T19:31:35+00:00

You ask a very important question and other dudes need to ask this as well. Ultimately, what do you want from a relationship with a woman? One night stand? Sex only? Girlfriend, possibly future wife? Before you seduce a woman you must understand and live the truth behind your intent otherwise women will sniff out your agenda (i.e. congruence).

Now ask yourself an even more important question: what would you do if you got her pregnant while in your current situation? Can you afford a child? If you can't afford a place to live then a child will absolutely wreck your future. Perhaps a vasectomy would be the way to go? Think heavily upon these things. There's no harm in practicing pickup, but know where it's headed if it goes well.

Extra-Boysenberry · 2022-02-10T18:23:29+00:00

All I’m gonna say is, it became much easier to get laid when I moved into my own place. I have somewhere take my coffee and ice cream dates after….

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-02-10T18:55:02+00:00

um so are you hooking up with them? I agree money isnt necessary. But why would they pick you if you in the basement. When they can pick your equivalent that's in a nice house with their own shit? you're just playing at a disadvantage

MeanYeti · 2022-02-10T19:05:29+00:00

What am I gonna do when they say yes? Take them out to McDonalds and then to my moms house?

2022-02-11T00:56:16+00:00

It worked for Peter Parker 😊

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2022-02-11T16:30:38+00:00

I'm leveling up(VICIOUSLY) in most Smv Character Stats(looks, muscle, grooming,money,clothes,strength,speed, power,fighting skill, fucking skill, knowledge, etc) atm. You can attract females as long as you're attractive (that means physically and behaviorally)...you don't NEED to be rich, or any of that other shit on that list above, homie. Also, if you still live with mommy, just go to the chick's place, get a room, or just use the car backseat.

Good luck, homie

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-02-10T17:59:00+00:00

When I first saw this title I was going to respond with something like, “why don’t you go field test what you are unsure of and learn from experience instead of asking for advice.”

But, OP pretty much said it all. Go practice, work on your social skills.

originalgainster · 2022-02-11T04:00:35+00:00

Yep I agree. Life is short. It's always better to start early.

incognito3107 · 2022-02-11T06:23:27+00:00

You should approach when you feel confident and good with yourself, don't make it tougher for you by exposing yourself to merciless and picky women.

If you are pretty happy with your life, then take care of the foundation of sexual attraction - go to the gym, buy smart clothes, use perfume, learn to lead an interesting conversation and keep your cool.

eyesopen1111 · 2022-02-12T06:36:11+00:00

Wise up. Most of you guys sound like you’re in your 20’s. Your wives probably aren’t even born yet. That is, if you play your cards right, one day you’ll be 45 years old and fucking a twenty year old chick. You will love it.

Should you spend time cold approaching whilst your life is in the shit? A question only a horny man would ask. Nah, get your life together would be my advice, but the other choice isn’t bad.

2022-02-10T23:19:20+00:00

I am actually going to practice cold approaching very soon. The one hour a day advice will really help me out.

2022-02-10T18:17:50+00:00

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2022-02-11T07:04:45+00:00

You're most likely going to attract women of the same low, raggedy caliber that you are though unless you have a whole lotta game and a mouthpiece. 2s (in terms of looks, social skills & resources) thinking they're entitled to 8s, 9s and 10s is laughable.

RainbowChardonnay · 2022-02-10T17:43:01+00:00

No. Don’t waste women’s time if you’re not independent enough to date.

dametime223 · 2022-02-10T18:56:07+00:00

My friends always say "I don't have money, I won't date now because you need money to buy girl things". I don't know how to respond to this nonsense

AccomplishedReason18 · 2022-02-10T20:17:17+00:00

Amen ! I used to pull more before pandemic when I was broke and had a shitty car

xonbuhg · 2022-02-11T01:58:49+00:00

How about being out of shape even obese?

theosamabahama · 2022-02-11T08:02:20+00:00

your broke, still in college, living with your parents, don't have your shit together, have a low paying job, small or no social circle, not happy, sorta depressed, sorta sick of life

I am all of those things, have been for years, and I've slept with a fair amount of girls. I just never managed to get a girlfriend, because then money starts to matter in a relationship. But for casual dating and hook ups, not so much.

Hmmkey · 2022-02-11T08:50:34+00:00

Worst thing is always to procrastinate. I’ll do it when I am… I’ll do it when I have.. people do it with everything. With girls they think when they have money and when they have money years later they still have to start at the bottom with basic shit and walk into problems they could have walked into and solved years before while they were broke. Just get on the damn road and start driving towards your goals

badman20129928 · 2022-02-11T09:27:59+00:00

Stop lying you are a not a Chad 😂

notLOL · 2022-02-11T09:38:00+00:00

Know that you are improving all parts of your life no matter what level. Keep improving your approach. It's part of your improvement setup. Kids in college are at the same level. No better place to learn

lonelyman9 · 2022-02-11T10:10:55+00:00

Yeah do it. I’ve got my shit together and women still don’t want me but go for guys who are the exact description you use

oreopimp · 2022-02-11T11:24:14+00:00

Always approach
Always be ready to approach (find a look you like, including clothes, cologne, hair cut, etc. Lift weights to get fit, wear shirts or accessories a girl can comment on, yada yada yada). Never leave the house unless you feel comfortable physically and dress wise being able to go up and talk to a girl.

2022-02-11T14:07:49+00:00

Don’t let somebody get into your life if you can’t even control your own. It’s just leading to more pain as nobody will really love you if you don’t love yourself. You don’t need money or shit to get girls but you don’t need girls either if you’re sick of life, there’s other problems. Nothing speaking against ONS but a relationship wouldn’t save your life

2022-02-12T01:35:25+00:00

Yes. Even if you live with your parents you should do it, you can still go on dates potentially outdoors like the park etc. Or even a walk somewhere

ld20r · 2022-02-12T10:38:58+00:00

I think you should because tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone.

You could genuinely die in your sleep tonight or have something else completely outside of your control tragically happen out of nowhere.

I never regret going on dates because it is a Privilege to do so and not everybody gets that opportunity.

Yes it is true as a man you’ll face way more rejection than women but it is only by doing and meeting people you’ll learn what works and what doesn’t and you’ll also learn what type of lady you want in your life.

You can’t learn those skill sets from self improvement and dating resources alone, they should be used as a guide but not a crutch.

The more people you meet, the more you learn and the more you learn the quicker you’ll be able to attract someone of a similar cloth and vibe.

And remember this: even if you do fail or get rejected, your still ahead of the people at home that don’t make that effort to go out and meet people.

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Date	February 10, 2022 5:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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