Hey guys, so this past Saturday I finally decided to try something different at the club, and my new method ended up with the girl approaching and grabbing me.

I was with my 2 friends and we decided to have a night out. I was seeing a girl for 5 months that ended up screwing with my emotions pretty good so I really needed the night out. This time I said screw it though, I want to be the one approached by a girl at the club. So, I completely changed up my method at the club, and to my surprise it actually worked.

So, there were me and my 2 friends chilling by the bar getting a couple drinks. We move closer to the dance floor and I see this girl looking over at me. We locked eyes a couple times and I had a feeling she was interested. Usually at this point I would just go and start dancing with her with this kind of eye contact. But no, I stayed back and continued to have a good time with my buddies.

10 minutes later I noticed her friend group got a little closer to mine. So, I went for the light physical contact and placed my hand on her arm and told her that I really liked her tattoo sleeve. She responded well to this and I could tell she was into it. Still, I left and didn’t pursue.

NOW, I’m getting looks like crazy. I’m talking every 15 seconds she’s turning her head over her shoulder looking at me. I could tell it was bothering her that I didn’t take it any further moves after the physical contact and the little compliment I gave her. After another 15 minutes I guess she said enough is enough, came over to me put her hand in between the buttons of my dress shirt and pulled me in to start dancing.

The next thing is what got me even more. Generally I’m the one that has to ask the girl “do you want to go some place a little more quiet?” I decided no, I’m not going to ask this time, I want to remain intriguing to her. Well, within an hour she’s asking me if I’d like to go somewhere else to “talk”. This girl basically did everything that night! She took me back to her hotel and you guys know the rest haha.

Afterwards she told me that she’s never had to pursue a guy at the club, but that the combination of me not being an absolute creep and the fact that I looked like I was having a good time made me out to be extremely attractive to her. She also said it was killing her that I didn’t make the move sooner so she said she had to make it happen herself.

My advice for situations like this, is just look like you’re having a good time with your friends at the club. I always use this analogy that I came up with, in that a club is like a lion’s den, where you have all these dudes swooning over the girl. A girl just wants to feel safe and non threatened when in a club setting, so if you look like you have a good time and don’t look caught up in the pursuit of trying to get a girl, you’ll do infinitely times better at your pickup game in the club.