If women are truly picky as many seem to believe...

ThorLives · 2025-04-21T20:35:01+00:00

The hope that you'll eventually meet one that isn't. The hope that you'll actually catch a unicorn.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-04-21T20:39:01+00:00

They will talk like they are picky about the tangibles around others out of fear of judgment, but their behaviors prove that the thing they are actually picky about is how preselected the guy is. It makes sense seeing how their preselection senses are their biological safety mechanism.

I just started talking and operating like I already have women at all times even if I don't. My dating life actually improved greatly when I was already past my physical and financial prime just by behaving with less urgency and more outcome independence like a selected guy would.

No-Compote-2127 · 2025-04-21T20:38:10+00:00

You'll be surprised to learn that most women are not as picky as you imagine

Jironasaurus · 2025-04-21T20:57:52+00:00

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Doppelgen · 2025-04-21T21:19:55+00:00

They are not. Usually, only young or quite immature women are picky, especially in terms of appearance. Most women in their late 20s know that having too many requirements is foolish and mostly useless. (And the same applies to men, I’d say.)

I’d be so fucked if they were all picky, lol

Kitchen-Historian371 · 2025-04-21T21:51:29+00:00

Sure women are picky, and some will pick me

Empty-Fly9457 · 2025-04-21T21:34:12+00:00

Well i have baddies once in a while trynna seduce me im just bad at doing my part lol

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-21T22:37:57+00:00

What’s keeping me in the game? Probably just my sex drive. Whenever I have a good rotation there’s no drive for another approach. I think it applies to women, too. People won’t easily cheat or even won’t think about it if their (biological) needs are satisfied.

Yes women are picky, but the real question is “how picky?” Because most of the time you would think they would fall for a prince charming but they end up with a junkie deadbeat. What they say or think they want and what they are actually easily triggered by are often 2 different things. I think Jeff Ross had said something like this decades ago.

Citus- · 2025-04-21T23:12:15+00:00

I don’t think they are as picky as most believe. I think there’s a lot of men that aren’t able to do the bare minimum to attract a women, and make them comfortable.

They are picky on social media, and dating apps. Real life, I think not so much.

lockandlood · 2025-04-22T08:37:20+00:00

Honestly. I'm skeptical that women are that picky. I've seen girls pick absolutely terrible men that I knew I was better than. But the difference is that man put himself out there while I didn't. So this is just me trying to putting myself out there.

Also, I love the idea of people and humans and how we connect, and from a nerdy (pseudo-academic) standpoint, I find it all fascinating.

Worth-Combination306 · 2025-04-21T21:04:40+00:00

Since it’s a numbers game, Game (your behavior with women) improves your number.

BradPdotcom · 2025-04-21T22:55:29+00:00

We used to have a saying in the old days, "She has to fuck SOMEONE."

Existing-Big-3039 · 2025-04-21T23:33:26+00:00

I gave up awhile ago. Serious people don't play games.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-04-22T03:13:42+00:00

I dont think women are very picky. They just have a lack of opportunities which make it seem like they are picky. Not so good for those who are defined as "the lack of opportunity"

NoargFrameston · 2025-04-22T05:48:43+00:00

Picky? not really. Some might be opinionated due to competition with other females, but that has no impact on their emotions and that's what they really go with.

Internal_Holiday_552 · 2025-04-22T16:24:34+00:00

If you wanna see how much a woman loves herself, look at who her partner is.

A woman who loves and respects her self will have a high quality partner, a woman who doesn’t, will settle for much less.

NotPlaneFace · 2025-04-22T23:21:59+00:00

They are picky and when they pick you, you know you are doing something right and that i motivating to do even better.

Only losers give up.

Internal_Holiday_552 · 2025-04-23T02:56:47+00:00

It definitely means different things to different people, but generally someone who's got their own emotional shit in check, knows how to respectfully deal with conflict.

Someone who is honest, even when it is uncomfortable.

Someone who understands how respectfully navigate boundaries, their own and other peoples.

Someone who doesn't try to control or manipulate other people.

They own their mistakes and get curious about them, they don't deflect blame or play victim. They are self aware and accountable for their own shit. They are consciously working on their own baggage and improving.

Someone who truly enjoys their own company and isn't trying into escape it.

Significant-Report16 · 2025-04-23T05:40:14+00:00

Picky is subjective and highly dependent on the individual woman.

For most men - it’s just a numbers game to find one that they are compatible with and reciprocates.

Maybe if you’re average you got about a chance with a few women out of 1000.

But if you’re really unattractive, it may be out of 1000000, then it just becomes highly inefficient - but still not impossible.

Aromatic-serve-4015 · 2025-04-23T10:50:32+00:00

idk.. hormones?

somethinlikeshieva · 2025-04-24T03:29:00+00:00

Because I do have spurts of success, which is great after a dry spell

And also, I do want to settle down and can't just give up

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-04-24T04:55:55+00:00

wrong terrible frame, it should be instead men lack the skill, but anything anyone already figured out you can also learn as well.

Remarkable-North-994 · 2025-04-26T15:05:58+00:00

Cause men are competitive in nature, they want to win the pick. Simple

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-04-22T13:22:57+00:00

They aren't that picky that's a manosphere or colour pill myth.

You only have to get away from your video games and basement to realize all guys of all sizes and attributes have a chance in the dating world.

Title	If women are truly picky as many seem to believe...
Author	Jironasaurus
Upvotes	11
Comments	68
Date	April 21, 2025 8:08 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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