How can I get a date/number in the workplace without getting fired?

Substantial-Bad-4508 · 2025-05-26T14:46:55+00:00

I wouldn't consider the work place as a place to find a date for a few reasons: 1. You can become the subject of gossip 2. If the relationship goes sour you'd have to see each others face daily. 3. If you get rejected, you could become the "creep."

ducking-duck-ducker · 2025-05-26T15:04:35+00:00

Don’t piss in the well you’re drinking from.

dallastelugu · 2025-05-26T16:36:10+00:00

fuck all negative reviews there are atleast 10 couples in my office who got married,

ciscokid12345 · 2025-05-26T15:48:40+00:00

Make friends with the women. Show them how cool and fun you are to be friends with. Then ask your new girlfriends to set you up with their friends. Problem solved! You now have new friends at work and a much bigger pool to date from.

But seriously DO NOT DATE AT WORK!

GarugasRevenge · 2025-05-26T16:14:13+00:00

Damn the advice here is abysmal, just be alone forever OP.

Jk ask them out for drinks on a Friday night or the last day of your shift sprint if that applies, if you don't know them that well then invite other people too. Say it like, "Do you want to get drinks after work? I'm going to [place] later". They may say yes and not show up anyways, that's a good starter conversation for Monday, "Hey why didn't you go we had a lot of fun! Were you tired?". I make plans and get too tired to go many times. If she says no then handle rejection well, it makes you more attractive. Give a smirk and say, "Awww you're no fun, maybe later".

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-05-26T14:47:39+00:00

Bad idea.
Have you talked to these women yet?.

If you are a risk taker wait until a social event happens or arrange a social event yourself and use the opportunity.

COMPEWTER_adminisp · 2025-05-26T14:46:39+00:00

this is the best seduction because at the workplace you will see her, be social talk to everyone and flirt with her a lot until you know she is interested, otherwise I would avoid it, but the conditions are the best because you will see her, its not like some stranger where you need to do # close or else you'd never see again.

Complete_Wave_9315 · 2025-05-26T15:08:31+00:00

Are you all already talking? I would never if you’re not.

If you are talking, you can just ask to keep in touch😃

Western_Secretary284 · 2025-05-26T15:44:46+00:00

Just tell them you're going out some place after work and invite them along. Shoots your shot but leaves room for deniability.

kibbutznik1 · 2025-05-26T16:00:43+00:00

All People saying don’t piss in the well that is rather extreme. I would be more cautious— but you can certainly try asking a women for a coffee after work or for lunch and try gradually to escalate . As we are at work about half our working life and probably most exposure to other people it’s silly to say social contact is impossible. You could say same about neighbors — friends and friends of friends and then who would you meet except thru apps?

MisterMoogle03 · 2025-05-26T17:28:51+00:00

I’ve made a few lady friends at work outside of work.

My number 1 advice would be to keep things casual, and allow them to escalate. Someone that’s interested will bring up doing something after work such as getting drinks or some activity. That should realistically be the only time you escalate to whatever.

Otherwise if done in or around the office, you are opening up yourself to a visit with HR / potential harassment accusations and no piece of ass is worth losing employment over.

The money you make is what will keep higher quality women around for longer periods of time.

Dashermaninidaho · 2025-05-26T17:45:24+00:00

Most job place boy friend girl friend don't work just think if you Work with them you never get a break from them. The usually don't work mine ended in divorce and my new wife ended the same way. So I made sure we worked at different facilities so I would only see her was When some machine was down. I worked maintenance and she worked in the kitchen I would see if I was at her site working in the kitchen. But we took breaks at different times and ate lunch at a different time she started 4 hrs before me and was off 4 to 5 hrs after her.

UniqueUserName2017 · 2025-05-26T19:28:40+00:00

Dont directly ask, peace the road to be asked.. get it?

IamWisdom · 2025-05-26T20:33:21+00:00

Don't bro what? Lmao

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-05-27T05:48:28+00:00

Plenty of people meet this way, but realize you have tons of other places to meet a woman that are not at your job.

3141592652 · 2025-05-26T15:24:08+00:00

This is either a good thing or bad thing TBH. If you get along well with everybody else it might not matter. But there was this one guy at my last job that tried going after every chick and nobody would give him the time of day.

Aromatic-serve-4015 · 2025-05-26T16:16:08+00:00

you talk to your employees and ask if they mind..

Doppelgen · 2025-05-26T16:17:21+00:00

Get a number in the workplace without getting fired? Research the HR files 🤣

Jokes aside, well, work relationships grow over time, so, as far as I've seen, that tends to occur naturally. You'll be talking to these people every day, going to happy hours and sh, so I don't see much of a challenge there.

Avanni24 · 2025-05-26T16:45:10+00:00

start casual gauge interest then ask out casually

deltsnarmsforbiaches · 2025-05-26T17:00:59+00:00

why would you try to get her number when you see her everyday at work? the number should come by itself

naughtyninja411 · 2025-05-26T18:05:37+00:00

Start with building relationships and trusts first, then read body language to see who’s into you then shoot your shot. This is very common

Kylearean · 2025-05-26T19:10:12+00:00

Don't.

red_face01 · 2025-05-26T20:33:50+00:00

Dating a coworker is a recipe for disaster and worse. I've seen crazy things happen from that.

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-05-27T12:55:36+00:00

Don't dip you quill in the company ink.

The workplace is for working. If its not related to the job, do not do it or talk about it.

Puzzleheaded_Back181 · 2025-05-28T07:44:22+00:00

Meh

If it’s a job you can replace easily and you aren’t in a position of power go for it dude.

That being said only shoot your shot if she’s literally begging you to do so, you will be surprised just how many times they will give you their number unsolicited and or basically throw themselves at you.

I would only act if they are literally throwing themselves at you and trust me if you’re even kinda of attractive they will lmao.

Different_Stand_5558 · 2025-05-29T00:57:49+00:00

I gave my number to them. I don’t ask. Here you go if you wanted to talk to someone new on your long assed hour drive home

SixpackDd · 2025-06-01T17:47:12+00:00

You’re 23? Real talk- go for it and who cares u less it’s a legit company and career. Most likely you’re at Insight Global or some other BS first job. Then go for it and who cares. Bang them all And move on. Once you start a real career then the answer is no

DreamShort3109 · 2025-06-02T02:28:34+00:00

That’s the interesting thing, you don’t.

Roshan_kushwaha · 2025-05-26T15:41:10+00:00

Never starts with co workers. A experienced guy.....

Rhino3750ss · 2025-05-26T15:27:37+00:00

Look and behave as attractive as possible, be the handsome coworker that they can't have. Act like the guy that doesn't shit where he eats . Let the women shit where they eat because they don't have to deal with consequences for doing so. 100% of workplace romances and casual situations must be initiated by the woman so you have the gift of plausible deniability. You can behave in a neutral way and have certain demeanor that will have them desiring to initiate, but u can't initiate.

TakeAChillPill99 · 2025-05-26T14:42:26+00:00

Nope

liftingnstuff · 2025-05-26T15:25:30+00:00

Be playful and start more subtle with flirting/teasing. Look for positive IOI's to your light flirting/teasing before ramping up the flirting. If you get neutral/negative responses to your flirting pull back immediately.

Understand what constitutes workplace sexual harassment under your company's HR policy and your country's labour laws. Your flirting should come no where close to violating those rules. They can't fire you for playfully teasing a co-worker unless you're doing it repeatedly and she is clearly reacting negatively to it each time. Which is why you pull back when you don't get positive responses.

If you do get a good response, gradually ramp up the level of flirting. You want to be less polarizing than you would be flirting with a girl outside of work because the risk of being polarizing has external consequences. As you increase the level of flirting, continue to pay attention to her response, and pull back if you aren't continuing to get green lights. Avoid overly sexual flirting.

Be realistic about your "league" so to speak. The workplace harassment vs flirting meme is real. Your risk equation changes dramatically. Don't flirt with people who work under you obviously.

redditors are always super neurotic about the idea of dating people from work but it's still a very common way where couples meet and if you are well calibrated your risk of getting in trouble is very low.

Trip_seize · 2025-05-26T15:42:22+00:00

By handing in your resignation.

creamymangosorbet · 2025-05-26T16:56:31+00:00

If you are a man you have to let her come to you, don’t even risk it

Title	How can I get a date/number in the workplace without getting fired?
Author	Ruckusisbestsupport
Upvotes	1
Comments	34
Date	May 26, 2025 2:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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