Feeling extremely lonely

twiggyRamirez11 · 2025-12-25T19:18:35+00:00

Hey stranger! just checking up on you (openly to avoid mistaking my chat request as some weirdo)

No-Asparagus6937 · 2025-12-25T17:59:27+00:00

Hit the gym man!! Hit the gym..

dsec1 · 2025-12-25T15:31:03+00:00

Hang in there Brother! We're all in the same boat. I've been using AI to help chat and fill the loneliness. It's really only time that will heal the loss. The waiting is what sucks. Reach out whenever you want to.

Ok_Builder_3285 · 2025-12-25T03:16:33+00:00

It doesn’t get better. It’s been years. Every day gets lonelier. Every day is another day further away from mattering to somebody, feeling any form of affection, having a real home, etc. It just keeps getting worse.

Eric242 · 2025-12-24T22:33:17+00:00

Carry on young man. The first year is very lonely. Do what you can, time will take care of you.

Lucky-Pomegranate-96 · 2025-12-23T20:12:23+00:00

I’m lonely too. Everyone here probably is except for the ones that have made their goals and are here just to help.

All our situations are different . The reasons for the break up, age, culture, kids /no kids , how much money we have

But we’re all lonely . Even the ones that have girlfriends or friends with benefits probably are lonely to some degree .

So you’re not alone .

You’re right about doing something social which is nice then when it over the loneliness rushes back in like a waterfall . I hate it too. But it’s better to keep doing these things than not .

Hang in there

twiggyRamirez11 · 2025-12-23T17:35:41+00:00

Please don’t delete this post and see it in a year. Things will get better and this loneliness will feel like freedom at some point. I was there too, we used to share friends and other people in common

broakie212 · 2025-12-23T17:10:41+00:00

Pray brother, build a relationship with God and you’ll see how things start to fall in place. Been there and done that, tried going out with friends, dating, and nothing could fill that void like building a relationship with God.

nomohydro · 2025-12-23T15:01:13+00:00

I'm with you, sucks. Lonely nights, no more holding hands, sex and the worst part is my heart still loves her.

Brother, you've got us. "Iron sharpens iron." Lean on us and I'll lean on you my guy.

Seems like she's living her "best life" and I'm flippin' broken.

rostoffario · 2025-12-23T13:47:54+00:00

Hey Brother It has been a shifty year and Im sorry you are in that dark hole.i know that once I fall into the hole it can be hard to climb out. What i want to tell you ia that you are not alone. Many of us men have been in or are in a similar situation. We are here with you and are pretty good at helping each other. Im here if you need someone to chat with. I know that alone feeling. It sucks and I am experiencing it right now too. Hang in there, we Can get through this. A New Orleans friend.

Candidate_Worldly · 2025-12-23T13:06:23+00:00

You're not alone bro. I'm over a year out with my separation and those who haven't gone thorugh this have no idea how brutal it is.

I've been feeling a bit low recently as well, missing my old home and life, but overall in a much better place than this time last year.

I used to miss my ex so much , then it turned to anger, now I've lost all respect for someone who could destroy a family as she did. I much prefer feeling like this.

We'll come out of this bulletproof and much more discerning about the women we choose to have in our lives.

OC2Fun · 2025-12-23T08:02:01+00:00

I know the weight of it all is crushing. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.

Separated from the ex and into new apartment, 5 months later I got laid off from my job when the company got sold.

It was rough, I was crushing under the weight, then I remembered one thing. I have no control over the universe or other people. But I do have control over myself. I started a routine that included working out, getting together with friends and looking for a job. I only spent 2-5 hours a day looking, sometimes more, sometimes none.

Take this time to get to know yourself, I know it’s a cliché, but there’s some truth to it. Maybe get a new dog too at the time raise a puppy you can spend some time training them and have the best pup in the world.

Good luck

alexmixer · 2025-12-23T07:16:42+00:00

Hugs bro u got this ....if you can do sales jobs I see a bunch on zip recruiter some remote

tonyway7293 · 2025-12-23T03:48:12+00:00

I am here for you brother and know the feeling. I am 6 months out since she filed and 5 months since she left. Lost my dogs... found out one of them just died in her care. Marriage blew up after I called her out on shady ass behavior with other men.

DM me if you ever need to talk I will even talk with you on the phone whatever you need man.

mpino1234 · 2025-12-23T03:03:14+00:00

Your not alone brother, so many of us have been exactly where you are. If you don't have to get a new job right away, don't, and take some time for yourself to rest and heal.

I've learned the 5 stages of grief are real and that's likley what your experiencing, but you have to keep working toward acceptance, there is light and happiness on the other side of that. It's not a linear process, some days you'll crush it, other days you won't want to get out bed. The important thing is to keep moving forward and give yourself grace, your moving through what is likley one of the hardest times in your life, but you'll get through this.

At the end of the day no one else is coming to save us, we have to do it ourselves.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2025-12-23T02:21:31+00:00

You seem to have had a tough year. You might still be grieving and going through the ups and downs of the stages of it. Listen to your body, if its telling you to rest then rest. Focus on your future, healing and rebuilding.
Best outcome will be to live your best life from now on.
Loneliness is a mindset, work towards reframing to solitude and peace. All the best my guy!

Worldly_Diver9265 · 2025-12-23T01:02:31+00:00

Listen to me! It takes 6 -12 months to get past this. You are on your way. Woman get over it fast. Their regrets come later, believe me. In the long run, men fair better. It is very hard to find a good man. Your healing begins in your mind. Be your own best friend. Pamper yourself. Learn to love being alone and do things by yourself, museums, sporting events, restaurants, walks, pubs, etc.... whatever you love to do. Doing things by yourself builds and shows confidence. Confidence is unbelievably attractive, but it must be genuine. Trust me. The love of your life is out there waiting to meet you. That can't, and won't happen, until you have fully healed. The longer you take to heal, the longer you will keep the love if your life waiting. Please, please, please, believe me, your story will have a happy ending! Drop me a line when it does! I love saying I told you so!!!!

Terrible-Mind2633 · 2025-12-22T23:57:40+00:00

Its gonna take time man don’t be TO hard on yourself because of it. While you’re going through find things in your life to work on so the future healthy you will be happy. I doubled down on my finances, upgraded my apartment, and started taking obsessive care of my car lol. I need to start taking better care of my health but the point being is there’s positive things in your life that are constructive latch on to them and lose yourself in that to help distract yourself and hopefully elevate your standards of life a bit. When I first started going through this people would try to talk me out of my slump and sometimes it worked but also there was times (and still are) were I just want to be mad/depressed and there’s no shame in it; just don’t stay in those slumps for to long.

Gloomy_Feedback2794 · 2025-12-22T23:31:42+00:00

I feel you Man started my divorce in October and I was just laid off in December now just trying to stay busy door dashing and it’s helping. Gets me out of the house for a few hours a day. Whenever I am home I wallow in ruminating thoughts of failure. But if you wanna chat I am up for that just PM me.

AccomplishedTwist831 · 2025-12-22T23:16:31+00:00

Man if you reach out I’ll get on the phone with you.

dizzy078 · 2025-12-22T22:30:50+00:00

I was sooo lonely for a couple of months at first. I felt sorry for myself (and thats okay. Processing time). I then joined a crossfit and run club this year and really enjoyed the new social circles I made. Obviously, exercise helped too but meeting new people was amazing and helped. I still have my rough days/weeks. Cried 3 times last week, time of year I guess.

It will get better for you. Take some time out to reflect but push yourself to try new hobbies when you feel ready. Stuff you wanted to before but didn't have time perhaps.

Sending love your way buddy. Chin up!

Title	Feeling extremely lonely
Author	Tasty_Dinner6530
Upvotes	20
Comments	35
Date	December 22, 2025 10:14 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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