Unsolicited rant from ex

jimsmythee · 2026-03-30T17:25:30+00:00

I used to get those all of the time from my exwife. One time I had her on speakerphone and she was saying hurtful things about my new wife. To point that our daughter ran out of the room crying.

A week later she called back and she denied “ever saying that.” I said “I had you on speakerphone.” Her reply? Don’t have me on speakerphone!”

And I said “what about your text messages? Don’t share those too?”

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-03-30T04:03:27+00:00

Use the grey rock method. No need to react or respond to angry texts from her if its undeserved.

Comfortable-Angle660 · 2026-03-29T19:32:19+00:00

Either don’t respond, or tell her to F-off.

Middle-Grapefruit-86 · 2026-03-29T15:29:42+00:00

I went back and counted and she sent me 116 messenges and links to Instagram reels. I did respond 19 times and I did try to keep it simple and to not engage. I just feel sorry for hey at this point. I feel for my adult kids who choose to live with her at her mom's.

I appreciated the words of advice from this group. Her pain is really no longer mine to carry. Now I just got to believe it.

Candidate_Worldly · 2026-03-29T13:34:05+00:00

No kids? Erase her from your life forvever.

Kids? - Only repsond to things directly related to them and notihng else.

Terrible-Mind2633 · 2026-03-29T13:33:20+00:00

At this point I just wouldn’t care, might respond with a “sorry you feel that way” or something passive/deflective. I cared at first in my situation because I was emotionally a mess and scared about the legality/unknowns of my situation which was a wild ride mentally looking back lol. But now if something like that happened I’d just not have the same sense of responsibility or accountability to really care. I also see the entire situation as insane and I don’t mean that in a entirely insulting way but I really do find it insane to make vows to a man, build a life together, and one day be like “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” followed by drama/chaos and burning copious amounts of cash separating just to chase a independent girl boss promiscuous fantasy from their 20s ending with a reality check and regret by 40. Nothing about that seems rational or logical, so frankly it’s like talking to a sick person especially if they’re being overly emotional. There’s a lot of different things that you can do here; you could ignore her, put your foot down and set boundaries, block her, give generic responses, etc. the best option since you guys have kids would probably be to set clear boundaries with her and if she doesn’t respect those boundaries ignore the angry texts or if its bad enough block her and maybe find a third party form of communication like a mutual friend/family member or emails for just in case moments or whatever involves the kids.

upvotersfortruth · 2026-03-29T05:02:31+00:00

do. not. respond.

Vollen595 · 2026-03-29T04:27:23+00:00

I mute all alerts. Then ignore for day and maybe reply if it’s response worthy. I was clear up front I never want to hear from her again outside of business. There is no shame in expecting your ex to leave you alone. Guilt left the chat long ago.

Tvelt17 · 2026-03-29T03:22:20+00:00

"I'm sorry to hear that."

SomeoneInQld · 2026-03-29T02:46:56+00:00

Block them and move on With your life.

curtdogg47 · 2026-03-29T02:25:13+00:00

Now I just let go! And it’s been a year or two since I experienced this. It happened quite a bit at first after the divorce that she wanted. Once I realized it was no longer my problem I just ignored them, unless I was in the mood to amuse myself then I would really set her off lol.

Just remember her issues are no longer your problem!

Jojothereader · 2026-03-29T01:03:33+00:00

This I s better than her wanting to get back together

Waste-Trip7195 · 2026-03-29T00:40:26+00:00

It’s the stream of angry texts they inevitably send when they realize they are about to really be alone forever. Been there myself and I used to hit her with the K until I just bit her on DnD and left her to have a conversation with herself in the text block.

Middle-Grapefruit-86 · 2026-03-29T00:25:39+00:00

I’m assuming you pushed the divorce

Goddofaza · 2026-03-29T00:17:38+00:00

Leave her on read 🤣

Outside-Jicama-8468 · 2026-03-29T00:10:42+00:00

Just don't answer.

If you do, keep it short and bland. Three words or less. No more.

If she sees it gets to you, she wins. Be strong.

Da-Frame-2R · 2026-03-29T00:10:39+00:00

Share them here for laugh.

HotCut100 · 2026-03-29T00:08:03+00:00

Do you have kids together or other ties such as financial? If not, the easiest thing to do is block this person.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2026-03-29T00:07:05+00:00

Easy. Delete

rostoffario · 2026-03-29T00:03:26+00:00

It has ro be difficult, but do not respond. No response is by far, the Best response.

Title	Unsolicited rant from ex
Author	Middle-Grapefruit-86
Upvotes	8
Comments	33
Date	March 29, 2026 12:02 AM UTC (4 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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