I have absolutely no idea how to attract women. Any ideas?

Ok_Potential359 · 2026-05-02T04:53:40+00:00

Jesus dude get off reddit for starters. Look at your post history, motherfucker get out of the house for starters. What's the point of asking the same variation of the same fucking question if you're not going to apply the advice.

This subreddit has years of content, read.

snowday1129 · 2026-05-02T05:01:12+00:00

Honestly, just start talking to them in a completely non-committal, NSA way. All of them, old, young, attractive, non-attractive. Light friendly jokes and compliments, expecting nothing in return, just try to get a friendly smile. When you do get a smile, don’t “go in for the kill”, just let it go. Women are people too, just different than us men.

This will help you get comfortable just being normal around them. That’s just a starter but it’s good for honing social skills.

Current-Paramedic-50 · 2026-05-02T05:27:10+00:00

Fuck the useless assholes who serve up "just be confident".

If that advice was in any way useful, no man would ever have trouble with women. We would just hit the Confidence Button and get on with our lives.

In real life confidence comes from having a record of success. You need to bootstrap it.

Find and read the short, practical book Double Your Dating.

It gives a solid perspective on why Just Be Confident and other dogshit advice doesn't work. And it gives actionable advice that works.

Women's attraction mechanisms work very differently from mens, and are based on deep evolutionary needs.

You need to develop two things: the technical skills of attraction, and the underlying personality characteristics that supercharge them.

One of those things without the other renders the other useless.

Developing the deeper psychological characteristics is a lifetime of work, but just learning about them and practicing the technical skills can get you laid in weeks or days.

This sub needs a 101 for men seeking advice, and it needs to boot the useless mugs who repeat Just Be Confident and other horseshit.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-05-02T04:43:57+00:00

Confidence

Dress good

Look good

Have good social skills and a good social intuition

AeliosZero · 2026-05-02T05:36:59+00:00

I've met a tall handsome guy who made a ton of money who was still a virgin at 28 and had never been in a relationship before. I also knew an averge looking guy who was average height and dirt poor who always pulled chicks whenever we went clubbing together.

I think people like to focus on looks/money/wealth because they seem out of reach and gives them an excuse for not having any success instead of doing the hard thing and working to improve themselves.

It TAKES TIME. You aren't going to climb Mount Everest in a day or read some secret passcode here that unlocks infinite pussy. But keep working on it and bettering yourself and you'll get there. The only way you'll ever lose is if you never try.

No-Wolverine7793 · 2026-05-02T20:00:13+00:00

Don't listen to just be yourself but be the best version of yourself and learn from every rejection

Life-Ad-8908 · 2026-05-02T20:53:19+00:00

Be sociable and charming, physically , and or dress nice

Zealousideal_Nose437 · 2026-05-02T21:12:31+00:00

Ok wow these replies are very helpful. Ok a few points just to reply to some comments here.

I don’t plan to speak to dozens of women to get progress. My problem is slightly different. I don’t look all that bad. The problem is that sometimes a woman is mildly interested and I’m really not sure what to say to her.

Also my goal isn’t even to be all that seductive. It’s just that some guys seems to usually have something to say, and often I don’t. I’m thinking maybe I should join a gym and also maybe watch more current tv shows.

Fine-Contest2790 · 2026-05-02T22:36:38+00:00

Ask yourself "if I was a woman, what I be attracted by myself?" If no, then work on that

Careless-Bend-9693 · 2026-05-03T15:00:20+00:00

Go to one, talk a little, look for things in common, conversation going well? Ask for a coffee, says no, go to another one, repeat

val_br · 2026-05-02T11:06:42+00:00

Ignore the bullshit "game" answers.
Game is 1. Having money and 2. Being physically attractive.
Once you check those 2 boxes you attract women by default.

barlowaplesand · 2026-05-02T07:50:36+00:00

hit the gym and get better fashion etc. Do all you can to be the guy who she would swipe right on, on tinder

autodidacticasaurus · 2026-05-02T12:38:16+00:00

Talk to them.

Quantum_Mind · 2026-05-02T17:58:31+00:00

To be attractive, just don't be unattractive.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:22:41+00:00

What do you think women like? Ask yourself that. Whatever answer you have abandon it. What do you like? What would the most secure version of yourself look like and be like? Go with that and the rest will follow.

V3X390 · 2026-05-03T13:15:41+00:00

Gym Make friends with guys that go to social events Make friends with girls that go to social events. Gym Get a job that forces you to interact with people Practice talking to girls in a friendly way Practice talking to girls in a flirty way Gym Get off your computer Go outside Socialize Develop a personality that attracts women Make enough money to afford dates Gym Ask girls on dates Don’t let rejection stop you from asking others

Zealousideal_Nose437 · 2026-05-04T12:07:05+00:00

Edited my initial post above

Ok_Mortgage9083 · 2026-05-02T10:10:39+00:00

Same, I have zero social life, and it's way too much effort.

You need to be tall, rich, handsome white dude driving a Ferrari.

Rejection rate is higher for men.

HumanExtent3999 · 2026-05-02T05:36:35+00:00

Go out to places where attractive people go to. Grocery stores, malls, parks, downtown and literally begin to walk up to people you find attractive. "Excuse me, I noticed you and I thought you looked very attractive I want to come and meet you". Your going to get rejected but your also going to get successes. Get better every day and dress well, brush your teeth, get a nice hair cut.

destroyeraf · 2026-05-02T05:40:39+00:00

Just transition atp

Fdc1210 · 2026-05-02T06:07:40+00:00

Be the best version of yourself and they will start trickling in. Be confident but approachable. Smile often. Don’t try…the moment you try it’s already too much

johnny-faux · 2026-05-02T06:24:53+00:00

post pics bro, don’t be shy. can’t help you unless you get uncomfortable. fuck it, if youre too shy dm me. pulled last saturday, and have fucked over 50 girls. been a club promoter and frat boy so got experience

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-02T06:39:41+00:00

I have no idea because I've always had women, right from the day I went into college. First day.

I was awkward and nervous but still had no issues. One thing I did was always be with women.

I've encountered a tonne of women but only slept with a small percentage of them.

I could say be this and be that try this and that but I would be lying.

One thing I do is always talk to strange women every day, always improving my skills. I think it's the energy that you give out to the world that draws women to you.

My question is this. Do you talk to women.

tattooedpanhead · 2026-05-02T09:43:48+00:00

I've said this before. Go to places that you're sure to find lots of women. And talk to as many as you can. Young old pretty and even ugly women. With no expectations what so ever. Your only gole is to get used to talking to women.

Be yourself un-apologeticly tell jokes make up BS stories. And don't get excited if you start to get attention. Or depressed if you don't. Be positive, keep the insecureitys to yourself. Don't talk about how bad things are going for you. Make them laugh and smile. Make them feel good around you then move on. They'll remember you if you leave them in a good mood.

Use false time constants, so you have an excuse to leave. Once you have them laughing and smiling.

Stop caring about what they think or do. And if you embarrass yourself own it. Laugh about it and move on to something else.

The benefits of doing this is you get more comfortable around them. They start to see you as someone fun to be with to be around. And they know other women. So they might start introducing you to their friends.

Get out there and start having fun.

highly-suspicious- · 2026-05-02T10:10:56+00:00

Stop asking it on Reddit

Defiets · 2026-05-02T10:35:23+00:00

Take care of yourself and get into situations where woman are.

lockandlood · 2026-05-02T12:04:23+00:00

Look good (outer game) and be good (inner game).

Melodicmat · 2026-05-02T13:00:09+00:00

you don't DO anything to' attract' them. Either they are attracted to you or they aren't.

But if you have game you can turn that attraction into sex

RedVDeG · 2026-05-03T03:45:59+00:00

I saw this in another post but the point was

Get better at talking in general, be clear and stop with the "like" "uhmm" "uhhhh" in anything you say expand your vocabulary.

Get social, learn to be quick, witty, and funny.

Be the planner of the friend group and Volunteer to be the host of any gathering. Sets the frame as you being the "Leader" and "Alpha" as you are on home turf will help you develop the mindset of a "Leader" and "Alpha" in general easier.

I'm adding learn to fight and workout because you'll develop natural confidence with the "I can take on anyone" state of mind that comes with it.

And read a book, learn a bunch of skills and be passionate about something.

Being smart + Passionate + Competent + Social = Attractive.

Anyone can add anything to this by the way or if I'm wrong correct me. I'm just trynna help

CheesyWalnut · 2026-05-02T04:40:33+00:00

try Google

Carre_Munuts · 2026-05-02T10:52:22+00:00

Just like you want to see some titty. Flash a little scrot or some shaft.

lightsout1889 · 2026-05-02T15:25:18+00:00

Just be yourself

Enid_Sinclair1 · 2026-05-02T20:53:33+00:00

Touch grass. Breath air. Get a personality.

vertascend · 2026-05-02T04:43:53+00:00

Start off by having more confidence; change your style and get in shape… I can tell you lack confidence from the way you phrased the question?, come and ask me what to do when you got that sorted

Joymaster99 · 2026-05-02T05:57:08+00:00

sounds silly but try ignoring them... they love that shit💪🏾🤣

Title	I have absolutely no idea how to attract women. Any ideas?
Author	Zealousideal_Nose437
Upvotes	73
Comments	89
Date	May 2, 2026 4:38 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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