What's the most "controversial", yet effective, advice you've been given?

vertascend · 2026-07-01T18:50:57+00:00

People just don’t “do” anymore; they are too afraid of going out there and making mistakes; they do research and try to find reasons for it to fail instead of trying to succeed; our ancestors fought, starved, cultivated and worked to get us here… and here we are too afraid to talk to a girl to get our genes to multiply; I get that the dynamic have changed but they have always been changing…my advice is to stop looking for reasons to do what you want to do or reasons not to… just do it

norwegiandoggo · 2026-07-01T18:51:20+00:00

I remember back in the day there was this huge push on sex-talk in the seduction community. The advice was to bring up sex as a topic in conversation in various ways, and be quite aggressive with that essentially.

So I was in the bar, and there was this super horny and drunk girl that was very cuddly with like all my friends.

I sat down next to her and she leaned on me too (clingy vibe all over) so I whispered that I was going to take her home to F her brains out. She went home with me and we had terrible sex where I came after about 20 seconds because I was worried my flat-mate was going to come back from the bar soon and hear us. So much for F-ing her brains out 😂

rogueman999 · 2026-07-02T04:56:36+00:00

To be polarizing early. Getting to a "no" is almost as good as getting to a "yes" - it frees your time to do something else. It's also much easier to set up the relationship as romantic early on, than it is to start as friends and then move things to romance.

Jazzlike-Prune-1222 · 2026-07-01T18:26:59+00:00

Don’t stick your dick in crazy. I never listened.

Most-Famous-Wasabi · 2026-07-01T22:03:38+00:00

Day game: Stroll on up with a chill vibe and be super direct.

"Can I ask you a personal question? Are you single?"

The results absolutely blew me away. My conception of what was possible was forever altered.

Key-Proud · 2026-07-01T22:17:34+00:00

Tonality the drops attracts ...

- I had tonality the rises. Had girls think I was gay.

Neat thing is I am studying cold calling and they also say the importance of tonality to get the sell.

MrTerno · 2026-07-01T18:20:12+00:00

Good question bro, I’d say the best advice for me was “there’s no equality in a relationship, act like you’re better than her”
That helped me a lot about leading the interaction and keep being the confident guy she has fallen for

BrainEuphoria · 2026-07-01T18:27:43+00:00

Real world advices are “controversial.”

There’s a reason why people get confused when movie/social media and the real life don’t align.

We seek validation (financial in movies and virtual upvotes on social media), so the actual thing that happens in real life, when it’s just you and her, is different.

saryiahan · 2026-07-01T18:19:39+00:00

Try harder

Love__Train__ · 2026-07-01T18:42:15+00:00

"just make sure you fuck her brains out once given the opportunity, and she's all yours"

vanbrah123 · 2026-07-01T19:30:08+00:00

Judging which women are “easy” versus “harder” to score in bed made my seduction success infinitely higher. I knew where to put in my efforts if I wanted to get laid.

It goes against the whole being “non-judgemental” and “Madonna-whore” syndrome that Reddit is really against.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-07-02T07:49:51+00:00

Lying works. Don’t rly care what people say it does.

Game her dna not her logical mind. Get about 10x the girls if you follow that advice alone

ChrisJ189 · 2026-07-03T21:28:35+00:00

Women LOVE to the point, direct boldness the first time you ever reach out and put yourself out there to them. You’re a salesman, you’re selling yourself. If you’re a car salesman and someone comes up interested in one, and you’re like yeaaa, that cars noo good, uggghhhhh honestly every car here isn’t really, I don’t know why I even work here…btw car buyer, you ever hear the phrase that everybody dies alone, yeah, I beleive that n I’m counting my cards I will one day prolly soon too.. WHAT!!? You will never sell a car EVER, or get a girl, you have to be positive, have stuff going on in your life. If you’re sad and hopeless do not date, you have to make yourself happy inside first before you can bring someone else yours. I always go in on a first date like I’m talking to them like they are my best friend from the jump, are you ever nervous when you’re around your best bro, no! but unlike your best bro be a gentleman to them forever even if they aren’t acting cool you hold your composure , and really just be your best self always. And always be forward within the first couple sentences of meeting that you’re leaving no doubt that you’re interested in them cause if you don’t they’ll just categorize you as their male girlfriend if you wait too long you’re fucked while she is being by Johnny 12 inch while you cry in your beer saying, it should be me. Gross! walk away immediately and don’t look back, unless she reaches out way down the road first saying she just not doing good and it’s cause of her ex she just left, then my friend you’re in a again, don’t blow it this time! 😎 Anyone ever remember in school that the girls you might of really liked seemed to go to the dumbest guys and the dumb guys were real successful and you’re like how!? I offer so much more than him, maybe. But you don’t too. Mr 12 IQ was dumb enough to overcome your overthinking brain that made you freeze up like a deer in headlights when you decided you wanted to ask the girl out you like, but you couldn’t. and he jumped the first and most important hurdle of all, just going out and putting himself out there and being cool and he did it without much thought at all.. That’s the key, dumb your brain down. You can never hit a homerun if you don’t swing the bat. It’s okay to swing and miss, even tho it sucks and can hurt, don’t have those missed swings make youthink you’ll never be able to hit, because you missed over and over cause trust me, if you step up and keep swinging, even if you miss 100 times, eventually one of those swings will connect, and I’ll tell you it’ll be the happiest day of your life when you do! So be bold immediately, and that means be direct with intentions that you think they’re cool, not that you love them, and it’d be cool to talk if they’d like cause you like the vibe/ energy they have and you two have got, and say it with confidence like you’re taking to your best bro who you have no panic/worry being around, maybe you can throw in something like… I like your vibe you’ve got going on. You know I have to admit “insert name”, I bet we’d look soo cute if we went out together, that other couples would look at us and get jealous cause they know they can never touch what we’d have! Don’t you think? :) You say that last shit I just said and shut up right after and look her in the eyes with a smirk and wait for her to respond and you’ll watch a girl melt right there before you… having her in the palm of your hands that quickly and easily. If you approach and do everything before that correctly and you see her light up, you’re in. Just play it cool afterwards in a laidback, and fun but engaging way, and you’re in to escalate quite quickly with her. Just like Mr. 12 IQ was able to do back in school, cause once you figure it out it can be that simple. Something that seemingly dumb, but women LOVE hearing that kind of stuff, and that really sets you apart too from other guys who are dull, and all sound like all the other guys women have to put up with rejecting on a daily basis. You didn’t follow what most dudes do which is be bland with their pickup, but you stood out from the first moment you talked, and you were kind, hopefully made her laugh a lil bit, and said something sweet to her and what you two could possibly be, like the we’d look the cutest thing I said. Not saying you’ll marry her, but honey look you know we’d look so cute if we were to go out together, and that’s a nice warm way to start with a woman, to speak your mind and have the confidence to say it. Will that work on every girl, not 100% but it seriously works wonders, and even if the girl rejects you, Know you put a smile on her facing saying that, and being able to get a girls attention, get them pepped up and get them engaged, and make them truly smile, in a brief encounter is a true superpower, cause think of all the ones who will love to hear that, and bite the bait you casted out to her, and you won’t have to do the work reaching out, she’ll be the one coming to you. With how hard it can be out there in life sometimes and with loneliness being so rampant today, but you being able to manifest your own connections with more ease over time, and being able to spend your time with a cool gal, that makes you happy, and you being around a girl who’s eyes sparkle when she’s right there looking at you cause she feels the same way you do for her, that is literally the definition of heaven on earth. May you all find your own little slice of heaven!

WebNew9978 · 2026-07-01T18:39:25+00:00

Some of us are too ugly, too weird, autistic, etc to ever have seduction work for us or even have a woman romantically and sexually interested in us.

MajesticFerret36 · 2026-07-03T22:53:43+00:00

The most comtraversial but most effective and most well known seduction technique that men have been using for thousands of yrs is literally just lying. Same is true of women, it's also the most effective technique they employ as well.

Any other answer is just wrong.

Jack26918 · 2026-07-04T01:37:47+00:00

Hope is the first step on the path to disappointment.

West-Kaleidoscope438 · 2026-07-05T19:03:19+00:00

You can do everything right and be the best possible partner and care and what not, but be an asshole, and don’t care and just generally be rude and a dick and they’ll keep coming back

mochileirojovem · 2026-07-06T05:46:06+00:00

Você pode não ser o cara mais bonito do mundo, mas se uma mulher em um grupo de mulheres te acha bonito, as outras mulheres do grupo também vão passar a te achar bonito e as vezes até disputar entre elas pela sua atenção...já me ocorreu algumas vezes

Title	What's the most "controversial", yet effective, advice you've been given?
Author	ThroatFinal5732
Upvotes	170
Comments	123
Date	July 1, 2026 6:15 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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