Quick post

Here are some common PUA negs from men with fragile esteem:

‘Oh WOW really YOU have a degree? I wouldn’t of guessed’

‘Is that your REAL hair colour?’

‘How LONG did you spend on your makeup?’

Short men may also try to imply you’re just SO tall (even if you’re short) & if the guy is some short ripped cocky gym bro he will attempt to neg you on your figure like making out you’re not thick enough for his usual type or something even if you blatantly get a lot of attention for your figure. Basically they will project their insecurity on you & try to find or invent some perceived ‘flaw’ they can make you feel self conscious about or use to discredit you ....bc they are lol. These men’s egos are so fragile they have to knock womens down in order to feel some sense of power.

They may also very deliberately ogle women in front of you like waitresses etc to bait a reaction- this is triangulation to make you feel in competition- take note but don’t respond...don’t give them the reaction and ego boost they’re after. They know it isn’t appropriate to be making it so obvious on dates...that’s why they’re deliberately making it SO obvious you can’t NOT notice them doing it. They WANT you to feel threatened or offended. Do you think a guy would be cool with you ogling the nether regions of every guy that walks past your table on a first date? No.....that’s bc he’s deliberately doing it to try & make you bothered. See it for the weak attempt it is.

Notice the pattern of belittling and TRYING to make you feel self conscious or on edge- this is the behaviour of a very weak man trying to inflate his value & knock you down. Intimidated insecure men are fond of doing this when they turn up to a date & feel out of their depth....realistically they know if they’ve lost her interest/respect in 3 mins but they’ll attempt to get petty & see if they can knock you down to Pickmeisha size bc they’re salty and hate rejection. PUAs really hate FDS types bc we see through them. They will get progressively more rude/aggressive when they’ve clicked you’re not the ideal prey they were bargaining for. It may get to a point where they think ‘fuck it, I’ve lost, might as well do my worst & spite /neg her’ - it’s their way of spitting their dummy out.

Also watch out for them subtly trying to imply you’re ‘old’ or ‘running out of time’ in conversation and assuming (v early in) you must be desperate to tie them down with kids and marriage bc you’re like 28. These men are the dumb redpilled types who believe women are breeder slaves who expire at 30 despite them not wanting to settle down remotely near that age. Women are still very fertile at 35 and beyond ...and you don’t owe them any explanation for why men are so trash across the board and why you didn’t marry any of your lying ass unsuitable ex’s. In their head, men can do no wrong & everything is the fault of ‘superficial women’ & feminism, so if you’re single by choice past 25 it must be because you rode the ‘cock carousel’ & got ‘alpha widowed’ according to these tragically delusional men.

Pay attention if they’re asking any of this awkward nonsense and being condescending on first and second dates....the negs will only escalate bc they have a very fragile ego. Take it as a warning

It’s not by accident bc they’re just so clueless and nervous, believe me, they’re scouting for a Pickmeisha who has low esteem and gets all offended trying to prove themselves. They will have picked that up from PUA blogs. Or they’re just doing it to be petty and get a rise out of you bc they know they’ve lost. They know you’ve seen through them

Either way, if they’re asking questionable/awkward /borderline insulting weird things during their first impression....it’s v likely they’re not coming at you in good faith. They’re trying to test your temperature and they’re doing it deliberately - they’ve already totted up the risk.